And this is often terribly frightening or discouraging for many students. A regression in your practice can create crippling doubt and a lot of emotional setback. Students wonder if they've lost their connection to meditation forever because the honeymoon period felt so invigorating, so true. Breech births can be a more complicated delivery, so typically only a handful of OB/GYNs are able to accommodate them. If your care provider can't or won't perform a vaginal breech birth, it might be worth doing more research and seeing who specializes in these in your area. What can I do? A breech position is very common during the first and second trimesters, since there is lots of amniotic fluid and room in your uterus for your baby to move around, but most babies will flip and settle into a normal presentation by thirty-six weeks. If your baby hasn't flipped by the eighth month, your doctor will probably advise you to put a c-section on the calendar (although many mothers choose not to schedule a c-section before they actually go into labor, to avoid an early breech birth). That said, there are many things you can do to help shift your breech baby into the head-down position, including the following: In both cases, your doctor will attempt to manually, externally rotate your baby into the correct birth position. This procedure can be effective, but be warned: It is painful. You will be closely monitored for possible fetal distress, if this is done in the hospital. Dried mugwort is rolled into a cylinder and burned near the appropriate acupuncture point, warming the skin. Now the refrain sounds loving and sensible, but unconsciously it often means: I never got the love and approval I was looking for, so I want my child to fulfill my dreams. The problem is that we are asking the child to meet expectations that are not his, so he grows up with a misunderstanding of what constitutes happiness. He begins to believe that people, places, and things are the source of his own good; For as the child is brought up, so will he ultimately live. A parent who is conscious of this repetition of upbringing practices has the ability to change these insidious beliefs, and later I will discuss ways to make constructive changes. An ideal home environment for the child is one in which the parents accept absolutely that the child is lovable and capable and is born with the latent ability to handle his own life. The parents must be willing to allow the child to make his own mistakes and to create his own successes.

He should not be put down for his so-called failures, nor criticized for his mistakes. Instead, as early as possible, the child should be encouraged to learn the consequences of his actions, encouraged to take responsibility for his own life, for his own feelings. He must never be given the feeling that, if he doesn't shape up, he's going to be kicked out. The key to learning how to organize one's materials and one's life is to try one strategy and see if it works. If it does, great; But if it fails, if papers are lost, deadlines are missed, and opportunities are lost as a result of flawed strategies, it's vital that the pain of that failure is felt. That pain, whether it's experienced as frustration, disappointment, sadness, or anger, is what prompts change and growth. It's what prompts the formation of a new strategy, and it's what prompts learning. I hate seeing my students or my children upset, but on the other side of that upset is the promise of improvement, one more step toward the day they will be able to successfully manage their lives. Viewed in that light, failure is progress. FOR SOME KIDS, THEIR EDUCATION in executive function can take years (in general, girls tend to get a hold of their executive function earlier in adolescence than boys). I know adults who still struggle with these skills, and for them, calendar alarms and to-do lists are the tools that keep them from losing their jobs and their minds. That's what middle school failures provide, low-stakes testing and experimentation with the tools that will work best the next time around. We then used these tools to destroy enemies to our survival, such as predators, competing tribes, and eventually the weather and food shortages. We turned nature from a feared mystery into a tool for our use. The sea was a barrier until boats were made, animals had to be hunted until we started farming, and coal was a useless lump until it eventually was burned to make power. The wheel was used to move goods, scissors to cut, and lenses to read. Today with cloning, we can even bring back extinct species, like the Pyrenean ibex, a wild mountain goat. Alfred Russel Wallace, who co-originated the theory of evolution with Charles Darwin, seems to agree: From the moment when the first skin was used as a covering, when the first rude spear was formed to assist in the chase, the first seed sown or shoot planted, a grand revolution was effected in nature, a revolution which in all the previous ages of the world's history had had no parallel, for a being had arisen who was no longer necessarily subject to change with the changing universe--a being who was in some degree superior to nature, in as much as he knew how to control and regulate her action. Before that moment, it's safe to say that human actions existed without innovations to affect them, something that is near impossible to find today.

The crucial point, as Wallace's quote highlights, is that human actions and innovations are joined at the hip--unable to be understood separately from each other. Most explanations of humanity and its society fail to recognize the importance of this link. All of today's innovations stretch right back to that first ape ancestor of ours who had that eureka moment when they found that a bone could be used as a weapon to kill prey, as seen in Stanley Kubrick's film, 2001: A Space Odyssey based on Arthur C. The own little world metaphor is actually more accurate than we think. Try to recall the last time you had a conversation with a group of people--say, while having lunch with colleagues or chatting with fellow parents while waiting to pick up your kids. Would you be surprised to learn that the different members of your group were focusing on entirely different things? One may have been so distraught by recent heartbreaking news that it was all she could think about. Another's heart was racing because his crush had just walked in. A third may have had difficulty focusing on anything but the fact that his shoulder was in tremendous pain. And another person may have been having intrusive thoughts about her next day's appointment. In short, it would not be inaccurate to say that, although the several individuals in the group were essentially in the same situation at that moment, each of them was residing in a separate subjective social world. This makes the question of what reality is rather thorny. Your reality is different from my reality and the difference comes from what each of us spends our time selectively focusing on. Your House or Hers, or Both? For a good proportion of single-again men, living together isn't immediately on the radar, even if they are romantically involved. If a man has a life that he likes and interests he wants to pursue, perhaps he doesn't want to sacrifice those priorities to be someone else's soul mate. Most mature men are (or were) homeowners, and to remarry usually obliges either the man or his new partner to sell their home. For some men, moving in to his partner's place or having his partner move into his home boils down to a loss of residential independence and unwanted changes in household habits. Especially among widowers, relocating is an added, unwanted transition many men are just not interested in making. We get on fine together.

But we've each kept our own home. Well, after all, there's children on both sides. It's best to look ahead, all the same. Common symptoms of anxiety include tense muscles, increased heart rate, and quickened respiration. When you come to a segment of the sequence where you experience elevated anxiety, make a mental note of it. After you've imagined the entire scenario, mark each of these points in your narrative with an asterisk. These are stress points. Later, when you visualize the sequence, these will be points where you pause to do special relaxation and coping exercises. Here's a narrative written by Dave, a lawyer specializing in nonprofit governance who had to give a presentation at a workshop for board members of various charities in his region. A senior partner in his firm usually gave this kind of talk, and Dave felt a lot of pressure when asked to speak in the partner's place.Though Dave felt confident in his interactions with individuals, the thought of standing before a group was frightening. To prepare for the presentation, Dave wrote out the sequence of events as he imagined it would go, including two possible conclusions, one negative and one positive. After recording this narrative, he listened to it and visualized the situation from beginning to end. Afterward, he marked all of the stress points with an asterisk. I'll find another sub-personality to walk with. Bertha stood about five feet tall, weighed two hundred pounds. She was in her sixties, and was my worst nightmare in terms of appearance. She had thinning gray hair, which was poorly cut and sticking up in front of her face. She reeked of hair spray and cigarettes. She was wearing a beige muumuu with large, orange polka dots. Wrapped around her shoulders was a beige polyester sweater held together by an old, rusty pin.

Her legs were fat and her stockings were torn. On her feet were badly worn plastic shoes. My eyes darted around, looking for someone to save me from Big Bertha. But change happens, even in our practice. This is a fundamental truth. Everything is always changing because it's alive and dynamic. All of us will reach a very interesting point in our practice when we hit the brick wall. It's inevitable. Change is inevitable with relationships, with careers, with anything. I love to talk to people on the meditation path when they're at the point of the brick wall: they think they're ready to quit, but I feel they're just beginning. If they could work with the unpleasantness, the insult to ego, the lack of certainty, then they're getting closer to the fluid, changing, real nature of life. Hitting the brick wall is just a stage. It means you've reached a point where you're asked to go even further into open acceptance of life as it is, even into the unpleasant feelings of life. A 2001 study found that moxibustion was successful in turning 73 percent of breech babies. Even if your baby isn't breech, these techniques are said to promote an easier birth. Read more at SpinningBabies. Testing, Testing? As we've discussed, not all of the possible prenatal tests are required; Let's look at the testing you may encounter in your ninth month. Nonstress Test If you pass your due date, your doctor or midwife will probably bring up the nonstress test.