So if programming has to be it, it has to be awesome. So DHH built a layer on top of Ruby to automate all the repetitive tasks and arbitrary decisions he didn't want taking up his time. He called it Ruby on Rails. Rails helped DHH build his project--which 37signals named Basecamp--faster than he could have otherwise. Lauren: That's funny thinking of Libby getting upset. Look at her now - she's so ultra brave! Going back to the SAFE Chain of Resilience which will be elaborated on in article 6: Action, previous to this conversation, Mum took a step back to reflect on whether her own shark music was activated and whether she was calm enough to make her daughter feel safe [Self-care]. In being an emotional anchor, Mum helps Lauren make sense of her anxious feelings by calming her body down and using her body language and voice to make her daughter feel safe [Anchoring]. Mum plays the role of emotion detective by unpacking Lauren's worry and reflecting her feelings back in a way in which Lauren felt heard and understood [Feeling felt]. Once Mum ensures Lauren feels calm and contained in the moment and meets her needs for safety and love, they come up with a brilliant solution together [Empowerment]. This example may be a milder version of what you encounter, but it gives you a flavour of how naming a scary thing and unpacking it can help a child feel safer. Unpacking also helps to counteract black and white thinking, which is the belief that something or someone can be only good or bad, right or wrong, rather than anything in between or shades of grey, so common in children with anxiety. Using extreme words (It's all bad') leads children to magnify events through a distorted lens, which ends up making them feel more anxious. <a href=''>Unpacking</a> a worry helped Lauren to see that there were shades of grey in her perception of the situation, and that the worry wasn't too big when broken down. <a href=''>To</a> be brilliant, we have to see failure not as a dirty word but rather as an invitation to courage and an opportunity to learn how to become more. <a href=''>We</a> have to be willing to fail -- because this is bravery, this is courage, this is determination, this is a willingness to try and change things. <a href=''>Part</a> of managing our mindset and becoming brilliant is an ability to acknowledge the fear and see this as an invitation to do it anyway. <a href=''>This</a> fear of failure has been fuelled by what we learn at school, work and in the media. <a href=''>We're</a> taught that failure is wrong, and that taking risk is dangerous. <a href=''>It</a> has a crippling effect for many of us on a daily basis. <br /><br /><a href=''>At</a> school, everything is either right or wrong: pass or fail. <a href=''>At</a> work, performance reviews focus on our weaknesses and 360-degree reviews allow others to critique our behaviours. <a href=',referenz,734417&url='>Media</a> spotlights individuals' weak spots or negative stories -- and, at worst, even when they are successfully achieving, they are slammed in an effort to dig up dirt and create headlines to knock them down a peg or two. <a href=''>It</a> becomes easier tostay safe' rather than putting ourselves out there where we risk looking stupid or being vilified. According to Compendium of Materia Medica, an ancient Chinese medical classic, the platycladi seed can help nourish the heart, moisten the kidney, tranquilize the spirit, and calm the mind. Since there are many traditional Chinese medical herbs that can calm the heart and tranquilize the mind, why do I specifically mention the platycladi seed? First, the platycladi seed is mild in nature and will not hurt the body even if taken over a long period of time. This is also why it is considered as a top-grade medicine in the Materia Medica of Shennong. Further, because the cypress seed contains volatile oil, a pillow filled with it gives out fragrance and invigorates the mind. This method is particularly effective to mental workers and overanxious people. You can also use it if you are under a great deal of pressure or lack sobriety. If you cannot find cypress seeds near your home, you can buy some in a TCM pharmacy to make this sort of pillow. Similarly, many people, when they feel depressed, like to take a walk along a riverbank lined on both sides with willows, which will immediately cheer them up. This is because the willow can clear away heat and ease pain. Some of the SVT scripts accompanying this article will prompt you to revisit memories as if you're pressing the play button. If you find any negative experiences there, I'll help you let go of them. By doing so, it's like you're pressing record to tape over the distressing memories, or as though you are editing a film where you could turn down the volume and alter the image size to make it small, or blurry, or change it from color to black and white. Thus, this step has two potential goals. First, in pressing your play button, you gain insight by understanding the way your past affects the person you are today. This will help you to understand the root of your pitfall thought patterns and negative mantra.

Consider someone who struggles with the pitfall thought patterns personalization, pessimism, and paralysis by analysis--and a negative mantra that says, I'm not good enough. This person may recall the first time these feelings arose, revealing how and why this early experience became pitfall thought patterns and a negative mantra. If you find anything unpleasant in your past, then you can also benefit from the second goal of this step: reprocessing negative memories using your delete and record buttons, which are optimized by those theta brain waves. Your subconscious brain can either reframe any negative memories or make them feel less powerful. SLEEP, AGEING AND GENDER Why do we say that if we've had a good night's sleep we've slept like a baby? What is it about women that makes them more prone to complain about the quality of their sleep? And why is it that men are more often accused of snoring? Although we all sleep, the nature of our sleep changes over the course of our lives and shows different, traceable characteristics according to our gender. In this article I'll answer not only the questions above, but also look at the sleep of teens and adolescents and of the older generation. I'll reveal what it is about menstruation, pregnancy and menopause that can affect a woman's sleep, as well as how a man's sleep is affected by his levels of testosterone. And I'll offer guidance on how to work with your age and gender traits to help you to achieve the best-quality sleep possible. SLEEPING BABIES, RESTED CHILDREN During the early months after birth, a baby's rate of learning is faster than at any other time in his or her life. Not needed on voyage. What's your intention, as Oprah would say? I think what most of us require from our bedrooms is that they are somewhere we can be our most unguarded and vulnerable selves, where we can relax completely, sleep deeply and, in the morning, prepare ourselves calmly for the day ahead. This is why good hotel bedrooms are so calming (see here): they contain the minimum required for civilised existence. Grab your decluttering journal and write down what your intention is for your bedroom. For once, I think this should be a very short list: sleeping, recharging (however that manifests itself for you) and dressing.

You're not going to have the sort of sleep that really `knits up the ravell'd sleeve of care' in a muddle. Your room doesn't have to look like something from Pinterest - in fact, I think the very idea of aiming for someone else's highly stylised aesthetic puts undue pressure on you and is a waste of time. Order has its own beauty. A clean, aired, well-organized bedroom with clear surfaces and a freshly made bed is one of the most soul-pleasing and nurturing places on the planet. Always see work as play A forever being would never worry about the future, Unless they forgot they're forever. Upon hearing criticism, the beginner scorns it. The careful student weighs it. And the master says, But, of course! Never has a word been uttered Offering criticism belies a longing for None of which, however, can be obtained Thinking that the death of a loved one is unfortunate, Illuminated emancipation, freedom, unalloyed and untainted bliss await you, but you must choose to embark on the Inward Journey to discover it. It is said that all hope, wisdom, clarity, knowledge is inherent in man. No knowledge comes from the outside. Man should not seek something new but discover or unveil what is already inside. The great Swami Vivekananda once gave the example of Isaac Newton. Vivekananda says that Newton discovered the law of gravitation.

He asks if the law of gravitation was sitting in some corner waiting to be found? Or, was the knowledge already in his own mind? The falling of an apple gave the suggestion to Newton, and he studied his own mind. The secrets say Vivekananda, are already ours. When receiving a phone call, and When asked for help or asked a question. Answer the questions: If you perceived your time as the most valuable resource in the world, how would you act differently in your daily life? What three things can you do to reclaim control over your day? Limiting interruption To focus better on the task at hand, it is important for you to limit interruptions as much as possible. Let's review two things you can do in this regard. Schedule uninterrupted blocks of time. Schedule periods during which you will not be interrupted. Jamie, no matter how bad things got, always cheered other people on, to the point where they rolled their eyes and said she was denying reality. The shadow attribute characteristically shows up when a talent is rough, excessive, or displayed in an unconstructive way. fact, once Jamie recognized this as a shadow attribute of optimism, she learned the best time and way for the talent to shine. is a very different outcome than if she had just thought of the opposite of optimism, which is pessimism. value of recognizing the shadow attribute is that it can lead you to the hidden thinking talent that waits to be identified and developed. a marketing executive, also used the shadow attributes to uncover a thinking talent.