Do you feel that you trust your intuition enough?

On the other hand, a systems approach to increased exercise proves much more valuable. To see what that might look like, try the reflection exercise that follows. You can do it as a solo writing exercise, but it's best if you do this with a partner or a group so …

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Feeling trapped working for someone else

Back to Joanne In time, as our therapeutic sessions continued, Joanne began to talk about her genuine feelings of sadness related to her oldest daughter's imminent departure for college. I never got the chance to know my mom before she died eight years ago. My mom kept her feelings hidden …

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Shift Your Focus

For example, I forgot my neighbor's name. My difficulty accepting my mistake kept me mired in self-judgment, condemning me to feel bad rather than to change my behavior. It was only when I accepted my inadequacy that I could consider strategies that allowed me to manage it. Eventually, I found …

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Embrace change

And with people about whom I know little -- clerks, streetcar conductors, casual acquaintances -- I feel myself better able to try to see things as they appear to them, though it can hardly be termed adopting their frame of reference as there is little communication in these instances. It does help …

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What if I already was?

I will do that in these specific ways: Keep It Going Life, in Balance You now have the basic training for getting your life under control. The student reacts with some emotion to the experience of being put on his own. A brief statement of this reaction, which would be …

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PART III The Freedom Plan

I feel that what I do contributes to something larger than myself: my organization, my industry, my community, my nation, or humanity. What's Your Contribution? Only about 30 percent of people naturally make it to a Level Three connection. Why do you think so few engage with their jobs in …

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What's important is that you make the leap

Furthermore, because group-centered leadership fosters active participation on the part of group members, interaction among members increases, thus making it likely that they will learn how they affect others and how they function as members of a democratic group. We shall again draw upon some of the statements obtained through …

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Waves of conceptualization

A group will distrust a leader whom they feel is subtly manipulating them to reach his goals. There is also good reason for the leader to be sensitive to resistance to his planning and to be willing to discard his plans should the group decide to reject them. Getting Members …

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What Did You Say to Me?

To increase the frequency of that positive emotion, you need to reorient your thinking and train yourself to focus on times when you feel the spark of being fully invested in or lit up by something. Scan for Interest and Engagement Start with your positive intention. Say to yourself, I …

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Lack of Vision

For example, maybe you lack the energy to clean your house or go grocery shopping, but that doesn't mean you're lazy. Few people are. More likely, if you consider yourself lazy, you just don't have energy reserves to draw on because you're so busy surviving, or you've devoted all your …

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Be more productive

It is seen as a function carried out by a person. It is something invested in one particular group member. Whether or not that member is perceived as being differentiated from the others as regards responsibility, authority, skill, knowledge, status, or power -- the fact is that the differentiation is made …

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Peace of mind with family

And because he holds such values, the group-centered leader is more comfortable adopting a role that seems to him consistent with these values. Group-centered leadership has its origins in the application of principles of client-centered psychotherapy to groups and organizations. Consequently, it is to be expected that the group-centered leader …

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Love is actually special

Together, the first two barriers (not belonging in our own bodies or in the world) undermine our abilities to belong to each other--in partnerships, families, groups, and communities. I experienced this, intimately, in my own family. I vividly remember the day my mother bought my bat mitzvah dress. I awoke …

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Come into My Office

You can instantaneously cut off the sympathetic nervous system by shifting your mind from threat to treat. That doesn't mean, of course, that escapism is a long-term fix. If you're facing a crisis in your job and spend the entire day dreaming about a vacation on the beach, that isn't …

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Did you break up with your partner?

And I'm not very consistent in my relationship to him, because I really don't know, I don't know where to be consistent. I don't know where to give in and where not to give in. I don't know just exactly where my ego should stop and his begin. If I …

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On Creativity

It represents primarily a conflict over my desire for independence and my need for dependence, emotional support, approval, and acceptance. The conflict has come into prominence outstandingly in my marriage -- my husband in many respects has much the same problem as I do. He needs dependence, but he has developed …

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I eat too fast

Leader: Yes. Jane: Does that happen in small groups as well as larger ones -- amongst -- uh, intimate family and social relationships? Betty: With a small group of good friends that I've known for some time, I don't have that feeling, but in a classroom or with my family groups, when …

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The Great Communicators

You begin to feel that, to put it callously, you were married for financial reasons and other reasons. You begin to wonder, especially when I need a good deal of emotional support and I find that I don't get it, due to circumstances. Leader: It's really very disturbing to have …

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Understanding How Other People Think

The telltale emotions that signal you may have fallen into an externalizing trap are anger and frustration. The next time you feel angry and frustrated when confronted with a stressful situation, say the following to yourself: Okay, I am blaming other people or circumstances for this problem right now, and …

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I don't like what she's doing

How many of you would feel at least a little anxious if your significant other confronted you with that same workaholic accusation? Anxiety produces butterflies in the stomach, tingling fingers, cold feet, a dry mouth, and rapid heartbeat. Your thought feed looks something like: This isn't good. Something's got to …

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Body connection

What makes one person bounce back from adversity and another crumble? The answer to that is thinking styles. One of the most important ingredients in resilience is controlling your emotions and behaviors, and that means controlling your thoughts. As we shall see, how we think has a profound influence on …

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Build Arguments Together

Thus, to ask the child whether he cares to come back would be a mockery, unless the referring agent is actually willing for the child to discontinue therapy. Within this framework of compulsion, a nondirective approach is still possible. When the child asks, the therapist can state that he himself …

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I am too stocky

For example, I work well late at night and in silence. So when I'm writing my articles I do this around 8-11 at night. I then schedule easier tasks like emails first thing in the morning or in the evening. Think about your tasks and your energy and how to …

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Let me help you

I asked myself, Why did I want to go with them? Was it because Michael was going? Did I want Ann just because he had her? I told you she said I was a brat, so you know that, don't you? They also know that I have to push myself …

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Capitalize on Catastrophe

Therapist: You mean, talking won't help? Henry: Yes. What good will it do? Therapist: Sometimes people feel better about things after talking them over. The outer octagonal shape represents the progression from one area of your space and your life to another. The middle symbolizes the progression of colors, seasons …

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Afraid of overspending

In fact, they add to the murkiness that hides below the surface of this game. The game begins when someone is financially wronged (or thinks she has been), and believes she can do nothing to set things right. She begins to tell other people about the financial injury and the …

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Building Good Habits

Try this out a few times each week for at least four weeks. At the end of the month, notice if your thought patterns have changed. The Pain Interview Good for: chronic pain, headaches, joint pain, nerve pain, stress relief This exercise is designed as an interview with your pain …

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I love to sleep and to wake up

What goes on just after you take up residence on the Sticky Triangle? Awareness can allow you to take a time-out, breathe, and catch yourself so you don't go there. This is where your belief that there is enough in the universe is severely challenged. Be kind to yourself, then …

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Turning Honesty into Health as a Habit

Are you salivating? This is the biological response to an imaginary thought, and shows you that we can think our way into changing our body. The example of the lemon is from Elmer Green, Ph. He is a firm believer that people have the power to find pain relief by …

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No time to turn at Beauty's glance

How about the feng shui of the offices; Are you making money while playing your role in this organization and its drama? What about the feng shui of your office and your living space; How well preserved is your role in this drama? Each person influences the play. Over time …

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Yes, I do want my baby to go to sleep

The findings of these studies will be briefly reviewed, organized in terms of the test utilized. Since the Rorschach is one of the most widely used personality tests today, the results in terms of the Rorschach may be presented first. Muench (140), in the first attempt to measure objectively the …

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