Conversational scenarios

We miss reality. We enter a world of fantasy. Here is another example: You are sitting in meditation and a sound strikes your ear. It is just an indistinct noise, sort of a muffled crunch; it could be anything. What happens next will probably be something like this. "What was …

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Why do i feel so tired?

They can be an ego trap, luring you right off the track. Your best approach is not to place any emphasis on these phenomena. If they come up, that's fine. If they don't, that's fine, too. There is a point in the meditator's career where he or she may practice …

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Dealing with stress

Do you absolutely have to share crude and tasteless humor and jokes on your newsfeed? Do you absolutely have to rant, rave, complain, and vent to your social media "friends"? Do you absolutely have put others down because of their political affiliations? Do you absolutely have to share your negative …

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How to develop emotional intelligense

So, for psychotherapy to be a successful, you have to crave change, possess a curiosity of your inner world and an interest in understanding what motivates you, and tolerate a moderate degree of frustration. This is where the myth that only crazy people--or weak-minded individuals--go to therapy gets the boot …

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Say more without speaking

Of course, there are exceptions, but as Burton Malkiel notes, there is no scientific evidence to indicate that the performance of professionally managed portfolios, as a group, is any better than a randomly selected group of stocks.27 What about those few individuals who have attained considerable fame for predicting …

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How to listen to other people

Sitting through restlessness is a little breakthrough in your meditation career. It will teach you a lot. You will find that agitation is actually rather a superficial mental state. It is inherently ephemeral. It comes and it goes. It has no real grip on you at all. By looking closely …

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Practice coping thoughts every day

And I also know that hardening my heart and approaching all relationships with skepticism and distrust is not in my nature, nor do I ever want to live that closed-off kind of life. Additionally, if I hadn't worked on tapping into my deep beauty and inner worth and, most importantly …

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Active listening

Do not get hung up in the estimate. When your mind is wild and agitated, you can often reestablish mindfulness with a few quick deep breaths. Pull the air in strongly and let it out the same way. This increases the sensation inside the nostrils and makes it easier to …

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Avoiding cliches

Increasing your activity level for one day is a great start, but the most powerful benefits will come from consistency. Once you get moving, how do you keep moving, day after day, week after week? Here are five ways to reap the long-term benefits of a more active lifestyle: Keep …

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What can i do about sleep problems?

You may spend kind money: think about where and for whom an additional ten pounds may bring most happiness. You may show healthy kindness: do a run for a good cause. Offer someone a night of freedom by helping them out with babysitting or by cooking meals they can put …

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Chaos and clutter

Ironically enough, even positive stressful events such as the birth of a new baby or a wedding can have the same effect on the body's cortisol levels. As you can see in the section on postpartum depression, new mothers can be particularly vulnerable to symptoms of depression though, in most …

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When dreams come crashing down

Thirty-nine states, including my own state of New York, have adopted PDMPs. The data collected can help states to fashion targeted education programs as well as to identify and intervene with doctors whose prescribing patterns suggest that they are "pill mills," conveying to too many patients, collectively, massive doses of …

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Don't trust apps to find you love

Every evil deed, every example of heartlessness in the world, stems directly from this false sense of "me" as distinct from everything else. If you explode the illusion of that one concept, your whole universe changes. Don't expect to be able to do this overnight, though. You spent your whole …

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I'm not good enough

This does not mean that you are giving up on a great idea. It means that you're not limiting your chance of success by focusing on just one way to accomplish it. Do you see a vision of a new healthier you yet? What do you see? Do you have …

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Try not to "compare and despair"

To enjoy and reap its benefits, individuals don't have to be athletes--just physically active people. In short, Sarah has entered a cycle of avoidance that perpetuates and exacerbates (meaning worsens) the symptoms of panic and anxiety over time. At each stage of this cycle, she tried to avoid the possibility …

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When someone asks you for something

Don't sit there looking for things to be mindful of. Keep your mindfulness on the breath until something else steps in and pulls your attention away. When you feel that happening, don't fight it. Let your attention flow naturally over to the distraction, and keep it there until the distraction …

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Mind your language

Good health starts in the gut. Yes, your gut is the CEO of your entire body. Your gut gets pissed off when you don't feed it the proper nutrients; eat foods that you are allergic to or can't tolerate well; and unknowingly or knowingly feed it foods that are laced …

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Reward yourself

Once you've taken care of your responsibilities, there's no reason why you shouldn't enjoy yourself. I am in charge of inspiring and empowering my team at work, and I accept the challenge. I need to give myself permission to celebrate my success and embrace the joy. A vacation is not …

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The generosity of spirit

One of the largest professional groups that attempt to forecast the future are investment advisers. There are about two hundred thousand investment advisers, and nearly half are stockbrokers. Most all of them are involved in the $71 billion industry that attempts to predict the future movements of investments.16 Stock …

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Keep an open mind

Too hard can induce pain. The clothes you wear for meditation should be loose and soft. If they restrict blood flow or put pressure on nerves, the result will be pain and/or that tingling numbness that we normally refer to as our "legs going to sleep." If you are …

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Never ever and always

The truth is that all humans are "hardwired" to feel unhappy when there is pain. Pain signals literally travel to the parts of the brain that handle emotions: the limbic system and the frontal lobe. This is part of the survival system, because pain is there to alert you to …

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Dealing with demands or requests

Ask yourself, for example, what you would do if there was nothing to stop you - you didn't have to think about money or other people. Think, too, about what has and hasn't worked in the past in relation to what it is you want to achieve. If, for example, your …

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There's a science to likability

We may feel fear, worry, restlessness, or boredom. These reactions are also universal. We should simply note them and then generalize. We should realize that these reactions are normal human responses, and can arise in anybody. The practice of this style of comparison may feel forced and artificial at first …

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Striving to make the other happy while together in company

While early contradictory evidence may blur our understanding, later work often brings the picture into sharper focus. When programs to help disadvantaged children, such as Head Start, were first studied, we saw headlines like "Early Intervention Raises IQs by Thirty Points," along with "Head Start a Failure." What are we …

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Was theactivity consistent with my values?

Its effects have in recent studies been likened to those of smoking and obesity combined. Centenarians living in Blue Zones' around the world, those living happily and healthily into old age, are invariably living in community. <a href='http://major.majz.com/t10-Aim-for-a-voice-and-tone-for-your-website-that-s-conversational-friendly-and-respectful.htm#p12'>(Blue Zones' are areas around …

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Physical activity and pain

In that situation, I'm like a scared cat getting dipped in ice water - I'm not having that shit. But wrong in the sense that he failed to recognize my stubbornness would take me extremely far if I pointed it in the right direction and stayed consistently persistent. Calvin Coolidge said …

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When is it time to monitor?

In addition to the risks during surgery, there are also lasting side effects after the procedure, such as an inability to absorb certain vitamins and minerals and an intolerance to specific foods. Finally, the surgeries are not a guarantee against future weight gain. Research from McGill University in Canada suggests …

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Do you feel shy in social situations?

These positive emotions in turn orient us to keep behaving in ways that promote our continued experience of these positive emotional states. And even when it seems like luck is not on our side and we can't catch a break, we can always stand behind our choice to do our …

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Stay up late instead of going to bed on time

When you put things down in print before you, they somehow become undeniable. If you want to move from the place you're currently at and into a better place, you'll need to have a clear awareness of the present spot first. A lack of action in either constitutes action for …

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How widespread is depression?

A variant, also ineffective, is having uniformed policemen come to schools and warn students about the laws against drug use and the misery of prison. They may feel good for the moment, especially for educators desperate to help, but these warnings also don't work. Rattling on about consequences is akin …

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The sense that your life has meaning and purpose

We are never going to get anywhere unless we expect more of ourselves, the educational system, our government, and employers (who in turn need to expect more of their employees). Higher expectations across the board are what will inspire the creativity, imagination, and the can-do attitude we need to solve …

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