Release them with gratitude. When you stop insisting they should have been different, you begin to notice the value of their presence. Don't expect them to change. Why should they? They came here for their edification just as you came here for yours. Of course, there are exceptions. But assume …
more ...For some, the program showed them immediate results. For others, the software took its time returning the results, with a progress bar that increased over time and a message about how it was searching for flights on this airline, and then this airline, and then that airline. Surprisingly, those in …
more ...Similarly, the majority of those whom I've known personally who've been hospitalized or died from the disease were black, overweight or obese, and/or had underlying conditions. It's a difficult truth to face, but as more time has passed, and living with the virus has become our new way of …
more ...When these people decided to welcome you into their lives, they didn't consent to always agree with you, always support you, always respect you, or even always love you. They agreed to be a spring-board from which you could leap into independence and recognize your autonomy. If it seems that …
more ...In his 2017 TED Talk, Tashiro notes that Kind partners are awesome. They're generous, they're empathic, and they want to be supportive of you. Kindness and emotional stability also allow us to treat our partner with care and compassion, which research from John and Julie Gottman suggests is the key …
more ...There's no right or wrong here--there's only what's right for you. TREATING THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION And we can work with our minds and bodies simultaneously. That's the idea behind the therapies that focus on helping the body release trauma while rewiring the brain. Common therapies that treat the mind-body connection …
more ...Or do you B) spend twenty-five minutes scrolling through every single new release, comedy, drama, documentary, and foreign film, as well as all the TV shows, before committing to the absolute best option? If you chose A, you're likely a Satisficer. If you selected B, you're clearly a Maximizer. Maximizers …
more ...The more these ideas resonated with you, the more you've been brainwashed by the principles of Romanticism. When people expect romantic relationships to unfold this way, they develop soul mate beliefs, just like Maya did. They waste years waiting for the one, rejecting anyone who doesn't meet their unrealistic expectations …
more ...Your body, mind, and spirit unite and as you sing, you're completely in the moment. While singing alone is good, singing with others can be even better; Researchers at the University of Gothenburg, Sweden, found that choristers' heartbeats synchronise when they sing together. The study (published in 2013) monitored the …
more ...Your commute may be the one part of the day when you can disconnect - a perfect time to spend time listening to music, podcasts, and audioarticles. Or perhaps you see it as a stressful waste of your time, particularly when unexpected delays, interruptions, and cancellations occur due to weather, 'technical …
more ...Harry told me I had to. But it is not only children who act creatively in the face of their parents' looming anger. Adults too are expert at defending their sacred image of themselves as hate-free, envy-free, frustration-free, rage-free people ('I would never have got drunk if you had been …
more ...So what other danger restricted me? I suspect it was the danger of taking on what I unconsciously perceived as responsibility for someone else--worse yet, responsibility for their happiness--and being unable to cope with this demand as I experienced it. What I am describing will be familiar to anyone who …
more ...We all have our personal preferences, but what you want and what the next person wants regarding sex can vary wildly. And there are so many stifling cultural expectations confusing matters too. Remember in the first article we spoke of nymphomania, because women wanting a lot of sex was deemed …
more ...Endorphins are neurotransmitters that, among other things, suppress pain and induce euphoria, usually at times of great physical stress. It's when your brain realises your body is experiencing significant physical stress and hardship and so pumps you full of endorphins to take the pain away, make you feel good, and …
more ...So, what have we learned about anxiety? It's very common and happens to literally everyone. But in some people, it happens too much, in ways that can't be stopped or curtailed without external help. And this causes problems. It seems to stem from an excess of activity, specifically in the …
more ...This is invariably much more frightening. The unexpected, the novel, enhances the fear response too. And it seems that the stress response in the brain of someone with panic disorder is particularly sensitive to novelty. This could explain why panic attacks are so unpredictable. If they're triggered by novel, unfamiliar …
more ...MILLER PARK, MILWAUKEE Cheese Curds (fried chunks of cheese) CELLULAR FIELD, CHICAGO Mexican-Style Elote Corn (corn tossed with butter, lime, chili powder, mayo, and cheese) AT&T PARK, SAN FRANCISCO If we're worrying about things that haven't happened, when do we stop worrying? How can a threat be recognised as …
more ...And this can cause us serious problems. Another word for worries? It's normal, even healthy, for people to worry, to experience anxiety, in response to the challenges and issues they encounter in their lives. But for certain people, this anxiety becomes constant, excessive, illogical, and difficult, even impossible, to control …
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