Another obstacle to congruity

He wrote things like was not late and did not misuse any words. Over time, he got better at it. Here's one list he sent me: She's kind. I love the way she treats the restaurant staff. It's also important to recognize that it may take some people months or …

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Coping with greed

Release them with gratitude. When you stop insisting they should have been different, you begin to notice the value of their presence. Don't expect them to change. Why should they? They came here for their edification just as you came here for yours. Of course, there are exceptions. But assume …

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Don't expect permission every day

Using what I know as a doctor and have learned on the front lines of this pandemic from Day One, along with principles I've learned from mental-health professionals, I want to show you the ways in which you can accept what you can't control and control what you can. Wishful …

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Standing up for alliance

Now grab your pen and paper and make two columns--one for your healthy habits and the other for the not-so-healthy ones--and write each of your daily habits in one column or the other. Don't judge yourself--we all have issues (me included), but if we don't identify them, we can't address …

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Cultivate partiality

For some, the program showed them immediate results. For others, the software took its time returning the results, with a progress bar that increased over time and a message about how it was searching for flights on this airline, and then this airline, and then that airline. Surprisingly, those in …

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Standing up for affection

Similarly, the majority of those whom I've known personally who've been hospitalized or died from the disease were black, overweight or obese, and/or had underlying conditions. It's a difficult truth to face, but as more time has passed, and living with the virus has become our new way of …

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Is greed worth the effort?

When these people decided to welcome you into their lives, they didn't consent to always agree with you, always support you, always respect you, or even always love you. They agreed to be a spring-board from which you could leap into independence and recognize your autonomy. If it seems that …

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Avoid personal responsibility for worship

Thus began the era of speech. The mouth mutated as a natural outcome of using that part of the face so frequently in order to be understood that, eventually, it opened up from constant usage. This mutation solved the need for better interaction, but it was not a substitute for …

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Limit your options with regards to zeal

Did the answer truly satisfy you? Did your life really shift in the direction you desired? Let me rephrase the question: What if you read in a article that you're going to be stuck in a huge slump for the next three years? What if you went to see an …

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Awareness makes submission possible

If you offer him the freedom to be, do, and love in whatever way he chooses, the communication between the two of you flourishes If your child complains about his inability to withstand peer-pressure, this is your opportunity to assist him. But he doesn't want your high and mighty acumen …

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Make time for noncomformity today

In his 2017 TED Talk, Tashiro notes that Kind partners are awesome. They're generous, they're empathic, and they want to be supportive of you. Kindness and emotional stability also allow us to treat our partner with care and compassion, which research from John and Julie Gottman suggests is the key …

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Is arrangement worth the effort?

We also need to feel safe, but trauma often leaves us feeling anything but. It takes time and practice to learn, possibly for the first time, how to feel safe, especially with other people. We're going to say the quiet part out loud. You won't feel safe with everyone. There …

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Is it time to see devotedness yet?

If he is told he can't, he gets confused. He takes your opinion about everything, even when it comes to your opinion of him. When you require too much too soon, your child starts to worry: What is wrong with me that I can't remember what Mommy thinks is important …

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Standing up for difference

When we're older and thinking about long-term relationships and, eventually, marriage, the process is more like a merger: two complete beings coming together. The older we get, the more set in our ways we are, and the more we crave someone who will easily fit into our lives. We assume …

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Awareness makes worship possible

There's no right or wrong here--there's only what's right for you. TREATING THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION And we can work with our minds and bodies simultaneously. That's the idea behind the therapies that focus on helping the body release trauma while rewiring the brain. Common therapies that treat the mind-body connection …

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Is permission worth the effort?

Your baby has walked into the room of humanness in a happy, joyful mood, glad to be alive, thrilled to be evolving, and ecstatic to be joining you. As he discovers the kind of party he has come to, he forms his first opinions. He knows he is wonderful, and …

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Make time for adjustment today

Or do you B) spend twenty-five minutes scrolling through every single new release, comedy, drama, documentary, and foreign film, as well as all the TV shows, before committing to the absolute best option? If you chose A, you're likely a Satisficer. If you selected B, you're clearly a Maximizer. Maximizers …

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Limit your options with regards to devotedness

The more these ideas resonated with you, the more you've been brainwashed by the principles of Romanticism. When people expect romantic relationships to unfold this way, they develop soul mate beliefs, just like Maya did. They waste years waiting for the one, rejecting anyone who doesn't meet their unrealistic expectations …

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Awareness makes permission possible

Your body, mind, and spirit unite and as you sing, you're completely in the moment. While singing alone is good, singing with others can be even better; Researchers at the University of Gothenburg, Sweden, found that choristers' heartbeats synchronise when they sing together. The study (published in 2013) monitored the …

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Common responses to greed

Dating apps had just come out, and I was spending a lot of time swiping. I saw people all around me were struggling, too. We'd gone from the first iPod (a thousand songs in your pocket) to ubiquitous smartphones with a thousand possible Tinder dates in your pocket. Instead of …

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Make time for sympathy today

And we've been swiping for love for less than a decade. If it feels like we're in the middle of a gigantic cultural experiment, it's because we are. We're no longer limited to the single people we know from work or church or our neighborhood. Now we can swipe through …

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Coping with accession

Count backwards, from seven. Be aware of how you react; Know when to let it go. If you can make an appropriate, kind gesture to the other person, go ahead. But if they reject it or if the person is someone you don't know, walk away. Close to, Louis is …

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Filter out giving in

But whether you are in a heterosexual relationship, a gay relationship, a multiple relationship or in no sexually intimate relationship at all, you are still your own self. The other person, or even a lifestyle that feels 'right', can help in your quest to know and express who I am …

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Turn resignation into a game

Your commute may be the one part of the day when you can disconnect - a perfect time to spend time listening to music, podcasts, and audioarticles. Or perhaps you see it as a stressful waste of your time, particularly when unexpected delays, interruptions, and cancellations occur due to weather, 'technical …

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Common responses to partiality

If you'd love a dog but can't commit 24/7, have a look at www. It connects dog owners with local dog lovers to share the care of a dog. There are also opportunities for volunteers to care for animals at your local rspca. Watch out for wildlife. If you …

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What will acting on worship provide?

Harry told me I had to. But it is not only children who act creatively in the face of their parents' looming anger. Adults too are expert at defending their sacred image of themselves as hate-free, envy-free, frustration-free, rage-free people ('I would never have got drunk if you had been …

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Repair your arrangement

With this comes an almost irresistible sense of being thoroughly alive: not only in the eyes of someone else, but in their own eyes also. A month later, a year later, the Idealised Janet will have disappeared. Will the everyday John then love the everyday Janet? Can the everyday John …

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Cultivate agreement

Abraham: I reckon I could cope. Things have been a bit quiet between the two of us lately. I guess both of us could benefit from some admiration. There's a music specialist who's been coming to school, a really lovely fellow. I might see if he and I can get …

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Is piety worth the effort?

Then bring the hollowed-out block indoors and carve a hole big enough to slide in a small tea light or LED. PADDLE A DRAGON BOAT Dating back more than 2,000 years to ancient China, dragon boat racing has elements of both crew and canoeing. Races usually range from 250 …

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Make time for oppression today

So what other danger restricted me? I suspect it was the danger of taking on what I unconsciously perceived as responsibility for someone else--worse yet, responsibility for their happiness--and being unable to cope with this demand as I experienced it. What I am describing will be familiar to anyone who …

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Standing up for permission

As they get larger, I shrink. And what I need to do is to take up some of that space myself. It feels like this is a much more existential issue than whether I feel I am important or not, or whether people know I am important. It really does …

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Turn approving into a game

We all have our personal preferences, but what you want and what the next person wants regarding sex can vary wildly. And there are so many stifling cultural expectations confusing matters too. Remember in the first article we spoke of nymphomania, because women wanting a lot of sex was deemed …

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Filter out compassion

Endorphins are neurotransmitters that, among other things, suppress pain and induce euphoria, usually at times of great physical stress. It's when your brain realises your body is experiencing significant physical stress and hardship and so pumps you full of endorphins to take the pain away, make you feel good, and …

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Standing up for worship

So, what have we learned about anxiety? It's very common and happens to literally everyone. But in some people, it happens too much, in ways that can't be stopped or curtailed without external help. And this causes problems. It seems to stem from an excess of activity, specifically in the …

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Mastering Your Emotions

This is invariably much more frightening. The unexpected, the novel, enhances the fear response too. And it seems that the stress response in the brain of someone with panic disorder is particularly sensitive to novelty. This could explain why panic attacks are so unpredictable. If they're triggered by novel, unfamiliar …

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I eat when I'm bored

That's clear, but knowing it is not enough to change things. Carl could have the reasons he is acting/over-reacting explained to him, yet go on feeling irritated and tense. This is because his mind, like yours or mine, is capable of knowing many things that his emotions fail to …

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Love is supposed to be suffocating

HOW TO SLAM A TABLE TENNIS SERVE Start with Perfect Grip Hold the paddle as if you're shaking hands--with your fingers wrapped around the handle. Place your slightly bent thumb along the side of the handle that faces your opponent. Lay your index finger across the base of your side …

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Thoughts Become Things: Mental Healing

And this can cause us serious problems. Another word for worries? It's normal, even healthy, for people to worry, to experience anxiety, in response to the challenges and issues they encounter in their lives. But for certain people, this anxiety becomes constant, excessive, illogical, and difficult, even impossible, to control …

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