You go on by being generous

The secret of that final dying word, 'Rosebud', remains undiscovered by the reporter. When his estate is being sold, some items are discarded and destroyed. As the heat disintegrates the aged layers of dust, dirt and paint the word 'Rosebud', the name of his childhood sled, is revealed to the …

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Financial independence

It might seem counterintuitive, but pretending a person was perfect at his or her funeral often makes the family feel worse, not better--as if the funeral were a kind of theater piece that they were knowingly a part of. Of course, this truth-telling has to be done artfully in the …

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The courage to honor a commitment

That solitary silence has followed me like a shadow in the five decades since, a theme relevant both here and later when we drill into the perception of relationship value. My father, a naval veteran for 20-plus years, was frequently transferred base-to-base or away at sea for months at a …

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On Believing And Focusing On The Good

It's not easy to sit back and watch our loved ones encounter struggles or experience pain. When things get really bad, there are always ways out. Sometimes people are in abusive relationships and have a strong fear that if they leave, they will be harmed. I'm mostly referring to choices …

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Driving on the Wrong Side of the Road

If we look out for the dictionary meaning of the word consistent, it says, The ability to remain the same in behaviors, attitude, or qualities. or acting or done in the same way over time, especially so as to be fair or accurate. If we talk in simple terms, we …

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The courage to love and to create

I supposed maybe my mother wasn't so wrong for not showing me the validation I craved so much. I couldn't fit in, not even with kids who had never met me before. The disease of invisibility was beginning to take me over. My father was the one who told us …

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I receive daily kindnesses

Dealing with disagreements when they arise provides everyone with the opportunity to convey their needs and for expectations to be renegotiated with clarity and compassion and a shared willingness to listen and to hear, not just awaiting a turn to speak. He would say things like, Why don't you kids …

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From voicing your needs?

This is bonkers, she said finally, looking up. I think you can do it, I replied. When we're driving in the car and the questions are competing with tunes on the radio, and we can't think for the sound around us, we can offer an option: Music or questions? Perhaps …

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Cultivating a Foundation for Peace

Encourage Decision-Making from an Early Age So much of a child's life is made up of a routine they've had no say in. My step-grandmother Elizabeth married my grandfather after the suicide. My grandfather was in danger of losing his four children to child services due to his neglect of …

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Feeling Embarrassed

We might have a grasp on who we are, who we'd like to be, what we'd like to do, and a list of things we wish we either did or didn't do. It feels simple enough, doesn't it? Not every engineer is Isambard Kingdom Brunel, but even if their abilities …

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Personal Trainer and Coach

I'd met Tara at a town hall I had participated in that explored the future of technology and the American dream. The event had been held on the campus of Iowa State University in Ames, Iowa. Some are inconsequential, but others have the ability to shift our life path and …

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Put differences aside

Meditation in the classic sense is therefore rather unsuitable for children who, on the one hand, do not have this ability and, on the other hand, do not even feel the inner need for change and inner peace. But as you have learned earlier in this article, there are many …

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The Checkered History of Parenting Advice

Let me show you what I mean, starting with the second point; When you were younger, you might have bought a doughnut there every day, but maybe now you're trying to cut down for whatever reason. On TV they look polished and professional, but when you're walked out onto a …

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Disruption of current life

If you still have fears around being assertive, start small, where it is easiest; The next key skill is learning. That's right, Susan agreed. At first, it was scary to even contemplate a different kind of future, because the corporate salary has given us everything. Everything but purpose, that is …

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Hobby Sharing

But it will be worth it. So many people have said they can already see a huge difference in me. The most common questions from beginners As a rule, newcomers to meditation have a lot of questions. It is natural and also desirable that one is curious when dealing with …

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What if toys had feelings?

I am trying my best, but the people, the government, and the situation do not allow me to be successful in life. These kinds of people eventually blame their fate by saying I cannot be successful because I have bad luck. Being this type of person is you cannot use …

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Love is supposed to be fulfilling

Those who settle for lackluster will bring you down to their level, if you let them. Good bosses will always hire people of excellence. Excellence is so rare. I'm really coming in hot with all of these great quotes, but Steve Jobs plainly states that, Some people just aren't used …

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Ask yourself: What am I doing?

If it's to the point where you just HAVE to do it, you're probably ready. On top of that, I didn't fall for the mistake I made with tennis. With tennis, I always had these giant visions of myself playing at Wimbledon and creating a money-making career out of the …

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The Daily Dinner Meeting

Canned beans are very useful in a busy household, however. Canned foods do have salt in them as a preservative, which is the negative. Salt restriction is most important for people with heart failure, and some restriction is necessary if they have high blood pressure. Most people, though, can tolerate …

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I want you to find your own magic within

Developing boundaries means knowing your physical and psychological comfort zone--your safety zone--and knowing what you like and don't like. It is having a sense of your own self, separate from others. It defines you as a separate human being, not someone else's possession. Your ability to protect yourself psychologically and …

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Love is supposed to be judgmental

Reading a article like this should give you inspiration to change. I mean, heck, you made it this far in the article. You're obviously liking it for some reason. This article has likely caused you to think about what you could do to improve your life or show more care …

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You have to give it all you've got

My stepmom went crazy. She shouldn't have been so angry in front of us. More resources like reading material about sex addiction. Questions should be accepted, even welcomed, so the family unit can face the problem in its entirety. A qualified therapist present would make the disclosure much easier. A …

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Acting Like a Stoic

Do you see the value of it for your partner? What Do You Tell Your Children? My kids are asking: Did I do something wrong? Do you still love each other? What's wrong with Dad? Talking with your children about sexually addictive behavior is undoubtedly a situation that no parent …

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What do my kids need most from me?

The goal is to become wise, correct? Right now, we're acknowledging some stereotypical definitions of foolish activity. But, let's think a little more real world by examining some circumstances that don't seem foolish, but also don't inspire wisdom. How about the couple that never goes out on date nights, because …

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Declutter Your Brain

Lots of people work hard. Lots of people slave day-in and day-out at their jobs and never seem to advance to better opportunities. Andrew Carnegie treasured his education and continued to build up the bottomless chest of wisdom. This is also important when trying to save the world. He started …

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How to Practice Stoicism

His behavior is an endless vicious cycle that has nothing to do with you. Multiple Manifestations of Addiction Addicted people often have histories of trauma, and the more profoundly they have been abused, the more likely they will have multiple addictive disorders. Some people have several forms of addiction operating …

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Deconstruct Pleasure

Our trust keeps the world in order. But here's the problem. Only 1/3rd of Americans trust each other. In a study done by the General Social Survey, that spans over 40 years, they've found that trust in our fellow man has slowly declined. Back in 1972, half of all …

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Low energy and easily fatigued/unmotivated

You may think of acts of war or terrorism or shootings in your community. You may think of a natural disaster such as floods, hurricanes, fires, and tornadoes that occur throughout the year. Yet the majority of people who experience a trauma are more apt to experience something more chronic …

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Returning to the Jungle

What if I wanted to be a New York Times best-selling author? You get onto this list by selling 9,000 copies in the 1st week of the release. Based on 9,000 people buying this article, how many of those 1st week buyers would actually stick to anything in …

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Do you badly want to be free?

Wait for your smart water bottle to tell you when to drink. Can't decide if you're just a bit sore or too fatigued to train? Let your heart rate monitor make the call. Let's look at just how far the senses versus sensors seesaw has tipped toward technology, and what …

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From sharing your feelings?

I agreed to, participated in, and endured this to keep him from getting angry. I convinced myself that our sexual life was normal and healthy. Buried in the tornado of thoughts, an occasional thought that something was wrong would rise to the surface and just as quickly, like a leaf …

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What old ways do you find yourself battling?

We do this with extreme sports, too, liking or retweeting a video of Jeremy Jones carving his way down an impossibly steep mountainside, Paige Alms escaping from the curl of a giant wave just before it swallows her, or Danny MacAskill doing flips over centuries-old stone walls in the Scottish …

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All the great things that your body can be!

It's not just the use of wearables in people's private lives that faces scrutiny. An increasing number of companies are encouraging their employees to use a device at work and outside it as part of their corporate wellness initiatives. This is a big win for fitness device manufacturers, one of …

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