After we stop fantasizing about imaginary feelings and desires in people, we accept the feelings that we believed were outside but that were actually inside, within ourselves. Life triggers our disavowed feelings, and anxiety is its messenger. Anxiety is the sound of those feelings knocking on our heart's door: a …

Eggs, however, are the archetype of Yin: they are immobile and fat (an egg is thousands of times bigger than sperm), packed with nutrients, but allow themselves to be wafted through life. They are so passive that they just lie there waiting for a sperm to penetrate them, completely incapable …

Imagine, for example, that you're worrying about the state of your bank balance. Continuing to focus on the amount of the balance and your bills will only serve to perpetuate the feeling and the reality of lack. As the subject comes up, try to say to yourself, I've done the …

Approximately 25% of Americans have insomnia, but according to the most recent research, only about 75% of them recover without feeling the effects of inadequate sleep patterns or chronic insomnia. Worldwide studies indicate that one in every five people has insomnia as well. Insomnia is easily the world's most common …

In the following list, we explore some of the more common messages parents use to invalidate their children's emotions and describe how these messages affect the children's feelings: You shouldn't feel that way. Parents send messages like this one when their kids have been hurt or upset. Parents may feel …

Any of the tender points can be pressed with slow, gradual pressure while breathing deeply for one to two minutes. Relieving tender points. Feel around for a sore spot at the end of your clavicle or collarbone, LU-1 (Central Residence). With your fingers in a loose fist resting against your …

So long as I was thinking about how rotten I was, another part of me was always feeling defensive and self-protective. When I let go of that, for the first time I could see their side of things in realistic terms. Now, whatever I can do for them, I am …

Imagine a balloon filled with sand--a large, oblong balloon, maybe the size of a medium pumpkin. At the bottom there's a tie: the first lock. Halfway up the balloon there's a cinch, like a belt; At the top, there's a seesaw lever that when pressed down in front lifts up …

Gently close your eyes and release all the tension from your muscles. Release the tension in your arms, then your legs. Let go of the tension in your chest and in your back. All of the muscles in your body begin to feel looser and looser and your body is …

Is there something you need to address? Now is the time to do something about it! Now is the time to be empowered. Recognize the amazing journey you are on and enjoy the scenery! There is so much beauty in this world, but if you are out of balance, chances …

The world is a dangerous and eccentric spot. No issue how hard I plan; It's a failure when things don't go to happen. If I stress something, enough a result may come. Without the fundamental mental apparatuses, it is impossible that these intellectual structures would have been adequately tested. New …

James, 1890; Leary et al. Another reason is that we expect someone who likes us to treat us well, so the anticipation of rewards enhances our liking for that person (Montoya & Insko, 2008). You might also suspect that we like those who compliment us, even to the point of flattery …

Fortunately, research now suggests that relationships formed online can provide some of the same psychological benefits as social support in in-person contexts (Kwan & Bodford, 2015). The power of proximity. In many contexts, such as apartment complexes, you are randomly placed near some people and far from others. Nevertheless, physical location …

Write Down Your Negative Thoughts Write your negative thoughts down! It can be scary at first because, until now, they've just been buzzing around your head and seeping into your consciousness. But it is an excellent way to expose your negative thoughts. When you have written a few down, take …

In fact, the injuries to the physical body reflect on the health of the energy body and vice versa. While you may have heard about the seven chakras, you may not be completely aware of their accurate meaning. There are a lot of ways to interpret the meaning of the …

By doing so, a person can forbid the thoughts and emotions that bring about these symptoms. Several sessions with the psychologist will allow the person to perform this analysis themselves and stop anxiety and panic attack from coming on in the first place. Two types of approaches are used in …

We've already talked about it. Alice would say, No, we haven't. And then we would argue over whether we had or not. This went on for years, until one day I heard her say, Could it be that you rehearse conversations in your mind and then think we've already talked …

Harm-seeking done to another person that is elicited in response to some negative emotion. Instrumental aggression Harm-seeking done to another person that serves some other goal. Although instrumental aggression certainly is important, most of the theory and research we will discuss deals with the hot, affective type of aggression because …

When we finished, the C. A few of his early questions really drove home how important it is to focus on strengths and weaknesses, then gear your plan according to those. Why did you have these tiny women carrying the same amount of equipment as the big 6'4 tanks? Why …

As the Eagles and Rattlers collaborated on this and other such challenges, their hostilities disintegrated. They were no longer two groups warring with each other but rather one united group working together. Successfully achieving common goals effectively reduced their prejudice. In the Robbers Cave study, two groups of boys competing …

He bent the rules and used some controversial tactics to stifle Tyson and take the win. In the rematch, he opened up in the same way. Tyson quickly became frustrated and responded by biting off a piece of Holyfield's ear. This got him disqualified and banned from boxing. Years later …

If I pretend I saw it all, understood it all, recall it all, there will be many times when I will argue in vain or cause intense pain in relationship with my inability to hear the other person whose point of view is equally good, although probably as partial as …

Anyone who wants to play on the team will have to work hard. Still, the players struggle to get past their mistrust of one another. Seeing how his team continues to default to self-segregation by race, Coach Boone intervenes. When the team heads off to a training camp in two …

Her nine-year-old classmates began calling her Loser Muslim after her teacher said that she should be transferred to another classroom. Soon her younger siblings were targeted by bullying, too. Eventually even her best friend turned her back on her. This heart-wrenching story reveals how prejudice can flare up when people …

Lewis et al. Troxel et al. Although perceiving frequent discrimination predicts poorer well-being, this correlation also implies that those who do not perceive frequent experiences of prejudice fare much better psychologically. Later, we will discuss how particular ways of perceiving and reacting to discrimination can sometimes buffer people from the …

Silence can communicate a multitude of things: happiness, satisfaction, a sense of contentment and wellbeing. But more often than not it communicates dissatisfaction, contempt, anger, pouting, sulking and attitudes that say, Who gives a darn? When silence prevails, there is little opportunity to resolve issues and move forward in a …

Coping with Stereotyping, Prejudice, and Discrimination Reducing Prejudice History is littered with examples of the physical, psychological, and economic harm that prejudice can cause to people. This harm has often been obvious and severe, as in atrocities such as genocide, enslavement, and colonization. And these atrocities often continue to affect …

How does someone develop this personality profile? Adorno's idea was that children raised by strict and authoritarian parents learn to stifle any impulses that fall outside social conventions. They then expect the same strict adherence to authority and convention from others and are willing to punish those who deviate from …

We don't expect this to really happen to us--it only happens to others. But sickness and death do happen to us, even though we resist its presence. Joyce and I were married for 48 years, and after struggling with cancerous brain tumors for four years, she died and went into …

This means their behavior is more stable across situations. In fact, low self-monitors are more likely to choose situations where they can just be themselves. Audience-Monitoring Errors Does careful self-monitoring ensure that people accurately understand the impression their audience is forming of them? Unfortunately, people often have difficulty getting beyond …

I don't know if we're going to get a tomorrow. I always say I could die in a car accident on the way to my treatment. Yeah you need to live a Front Row life, because this is the only one. QUESTIONS MAKE THE MOMENT One way to cultivate a …

For this to occur, the devotee must gain perfection in Sila or the principles of human behavior that promote an orderly and peaceful existence in any community. As a yogi or yogini, you must learn to quiet your thoughts (Samadhi) as this is the only way to attain knowledge (Prajna …

Ramanujacharya, the father of Vishishtadvaita Vedanta, teaches that divine bliss only comes about by divine grace, which is attained by the total surrender of one's will and ego to the divine. The word thought originates from the old English word boht or geboht, both of which mean conceived in mind …

Although research on BIRGing shows that people sometimes gain self-esteem by affiliating with very successful others, other evidence suggests that people could lose self-esteem by comparing themselves with more successful others. How can other people's successes trigger opposite effects? Abe Tesser's (1988) self-evaluation maintenance model proposes that people adjust how …

Attaining samadhi is not something one can do on a whim. One cannot choose to practice dharana. Certain steps must be simultaneously taken for one to master each limb of yoga, and the same goes for samadhi. The mind must be still, free from external chatter to enter into dharana …

Kantola et al. Stone & Fernandez, 2008). THINK ABOUT Assuming you could call people in their homes, how would you try to use induced hypocrisy to reduce their water usage in the coming months? Effort Justification: Loving What We Suffer For One implication Festinger drew from dissonance theory is that people …

In this article, we will explore the potential roadblocks you may encounter as you implement your roadmap to living your destiny. I hope your roadmap makes you feel energized and inspired to wake up each morning and live your purpose with passion and courage. Anytime we commit to making positive …

I never got a chance to be a better friend! One problem is that the goal still is a broad vision, and you haven't yet specified how you will implement it. Gollwitzer claims that we'll be more successful if we create implementation intentions, mental rules that link particular situational cues …

An image shows Brehm's free choice paradigm in which left side box is titled as Initial item ranking, followed by a downward bullet list, read as toaster, blender, mixer, waffle iron, tea pot, food dehydrator, mug warmer, meat thermometer, egg peeler, and knife sharpener. This box is further divided into …

And how a science-based goal-setting approach is a better alternative for producing positive habits and behavioral changes that are aligned with our purpose and vision. Most of us have probably tried the ritual of New Year's resolutions, where we state our intentions for the coming year, such as losing weight …