Do you need to admit when you don't know something?

After we stop fantasizing about imaginary feelings and desires in people, we accept the feelings that we believed were outside but that were actually inside, within ourselves. Life triggers our disavowed feelings, and anxiety is its messenger. Anxiety is the sound of those feelings knocking on our heart's door: a …

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Do you need to receive compliments with grace and ease?

Eggs, however, are the archetype of Yin: they are immobile and fat (an egg is thousands of times bigger than sperm), packed with nutrients, but allow themselves to be wafted through life. They are so passive that they just lie there waiting for a sperm to penetrate them, completely incapable …

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Do you need to stop procrastinating?

Imagine, for example, that you're worrying about the state of your bank balance. Continuing to focus on the amount of the balance and your bills will only serve to perpetuate the feeling and the reality of lack. As the subject comes up, try to say to yourself, I've done the …

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Do you need to update your image?

Approximately 25% of Americans have insomnia, but according to the most recent research, only about 75% of them recover without feeling the effects of inadequate sleep patterns or chronic insomnia. Worldwide studies indicate that one in every five people has insomnia as well. Insomnia is easily the world's most common …

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Don't bother anyone with your needs

Any of the tender points can be pressed with slow, gradual pressure while breathing deeply for one to two minutes. Relieving tender points. Feel around for a sore spot at the end of your clavicle or collarbone, LU-1 (Central Residence). With your fingers in a loose fist resting against your …

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No one cares what you have to say

Imagine a balloon filled with sand--a large, oblong balloon, maybe the size of a medium pumpkin. At the bottom there's a tie: the first lock. Halfway up the balloon there's a cinch, like a belt; At the top, there's a seesaw lever that when pressed down in front lifts up …

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The Need for Accuracy

James, 1890; Leary et al. Another reason is that we expect someone who likes us to treat us well, so the anticipation of rewards enhances our liking for that person (Montoya & Insko, 2008). You might also suspect that we like those who compliment us, even to the point of flattery …

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Cultural Sources of Knowledge

Fortunately, research now suggests that relationships formed online can provide some of the same psychological benefits as social support in in-person contexts (Kwan & Bodford, 2015). The power of proximity. In many contexts, such as apartment complexes, you are randomly placed near some people and far from others. Nevertheless, physical location …

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Mass Media Biases

Write Down Your Negative Thoughts Write your negative thoughts down! It can be scary at first because, until now, they've just been buzzing around your head and seeping into your consciousness. But it is an excellent way to expose your negative thoughts. When you have written a few down, take …

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Fitting In and Sticking Out

In fact, the injuries to the physical body reflect on the health of the energy body and vice versa. While you may have heard about the seven chakras, you may not be completely aware of their accurate meaning. There are a lot of ways to interpret the meaning of the …

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The Protective Shield of Cultural Beliefs

By doing so, a person can forbid the thoughts and emotions that bring about these symptoms. Several sessions with the psychologist will allow the person to perform this analysis themselves and stop anxiety and panic attack from coming on in the first place. Two types of approaches are used in …

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How to Improve Your Self-Improvement

We've already talked about it. Alice would say, No, we haven't. And then we would argue over whether we had or not. This went on for years, until one day I heard her say, Could it be that you rehearse conversations in your mind and then think we've already talked …

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Great temptation and lurking dangers

He bent the rules and used some controversial tactics to stifle Tyson and take the win. In the rematch, he opened up in the same way. Tyson quickly became frustrated and responded by biting off a piece of Holyfield's ear. This got him disqualified and banned from boxing. Years later …

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Set everything to restart with release

Her nine-year-old classmates began calling her Loser Muslim after her teacher said that she should be transferred to another classroom. Soon her younger siblings were targeted by bullying, too. Eventually even her best friend turned her back on her. This heart-wrenching story reveals how prejudice can flare up when people …

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The Collateral Damage of Doom and Gloom

Lewis et al. Troxel et al. Although perceiving frequent discrimination predicts poorer well-being, this correlation also implies that those who do not perceive frequent experiences of prejudice fare much better psychologically. Later, we will discuss how particular ways of perceiving and reacting to discrimination can sometimes buffer people from the …

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The Strength of Empathy, Kindness, and Compassion

Silence can communicate a multitude of things: happiness, satisfaction, a sense of contentment and wellbeing. But more often than not it communicates dissatisfaction, contempt, anger, pouting, sulking and attitudes that say, Who gives a darn? When silence prevails, there is little opportunity to resolve issues and move forward in a …

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Are there exceptions?

Coping with Stereotyping, Prejudice, and Discrimination Reducing Prejudice History is littered with examples of the physical, psychological, and economic harm that prejudice can cause to people. This harm has often been obvious and severe, as in atrocities such as genocide, enslavement, and colonization. And these atrocities often continue to affect …

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Cognitive therapy

How does someone develop this personality profile? Adorno's idea was that children raised by strict and authoritarian parents learn to stifle any impulses that fall outside social conventions. They then expect the same strict adherence to authority and convention from others and are willing to punish those who deviate from …

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Talking like a therapist

We don't expect this to really happen to us--it only happens to others. But sickness and death do happen to us, even though we resist its presence. Joyce and I were married for 48 years, and after struggling with cancerous brain tumors for four years, she died and went into …

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Destructive thinking

This means their behavior is more stable across situations. In fact, low self-monitors are more likely to choose situations where they can just be themselves. Audience-Monitoring Errors Does careful self-monitoring ensure that people accurately understand the impression their audience is forming of them? Unfortunately, people often have difficulty getting beyond …

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State the facts

I don't know if we're going to get a tomorrow. I always say I could die in a car accident on the way to my treatment. Yeah you need to live a Front Row life, because this is the only one. QUESTIONS MAKE THE MOMENT One way to cultivate a …

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Discover your potential

For this to occur, the devotee must gain perfection in Sila or the principles of human behavior that promote an orderly and peaceful existence in any community. As a yogi or yogini, you must learn to quiet your thoughts (Samadhi) as this is the only way to attain knowledge (Prajna …

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Reframing: Cleverness or denial of reality?

Ramanujacharya, the father of Vishishtadvaita Vedanta, teaches that divine bliss only comes about by divine grace, which is attained by the total surrender of one's will and ego to the divine. The word thought originates from the old English word boht or geboht, both of which mean conceived in mind …

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Engaging in impudent behavior

Although research on BIRGing shows that people sometimes gain self-esteem by affiliating with very successful others, other evidence suggests that people could lose self-esteem by comparing themselves with more successful others. How can other people's successes trigger opposite effects? Abe Tesser's (1988) self-evaluation maintenance model proposes that people adjust how …

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Forming an Alliance

Attaining samadhi is not something one can do on a whim. One cannot choose to practice dharana. Certain steps must be simultaneously taken for one to master each limb of yoga, and the same goes for samadhi. The mind must be still, free from external chatter to enter into dharana …

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Our interaction with friends as a couple

In this article, we will explore the potential roadblocks you may encounter as you implement your roadmap to living your destiny. I hope your roadmap makes you feel energized and inspired to wake up each morning and live your purpose with passion and courage. Anytime we commit to making positive …

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Quality of free time together

I never got a chance to be a better friend! One problem is that the goal still is a broad vision, and you haven't yet specified how you will implement it. Gollwitzer claims that we'll be more successful if we create implementation intentions, mental rules that link particular situational cues …

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The level of our financial security

An image shows Brehm's free choice paradigm in which left side box is titled as Initial item ranking, followed by a downward bullet list, read as toaster, blender, mixer, waffle iron, tea pot, food dehydrator, mug warmer, meat thermometer, egg peeler, and knife sharpener. This box is further divided into …

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Amount of free time together

And how a science-based goal-setting approach is a better alternative for producing positive habits and behavioral changes that are aligned with our purpose and vision. Most of us have probably tried the ritual of New Year's resolutions, where we state our intentions for the coming year, such as losing weight …

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