Enlightenment, wisdom, insight, and profound peace

She referred to this behavior as her guilty pleasure. In session, Sandi described spending hours of her day lying in bed, examining with great intensity the social-media profiles of her friends, her friends of friends, and even people she didn't know, all the while binge eating on sugary foods like …

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Are You an Empath?

I gamble because I'm bored. I'm having an affair because I'm bored. I overexercise because I'm bored. I watch pornography because I'm bored. In early human societies, physical prowess was a survival tool. Our ancestors needed to be able to fend off and outrun predators and hunt and kill their …

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I feel my well-being is kept in mind

She is able to observe him for what he is, not simply through a screen of defensive reactions. Doing so, she perceives that he is an interesting person, with bad features, but also good ones, toward whom she feels at times hostile, but toward whom she also feels at times …

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Charity Starts in the Home

Had some adult showed compassion as I struggled at modeling school, my trauma might have been lessened. Instead, knowing my parents felt ashamed of me cemented my feelings of failure and inadequacy. I was too humiliated to reach out to my brother or friends, who might have been understanding and …

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What if they are put off by the way I say hello?

The tension and panic I feel are not unlike the tension of the person who finds that I am doing things which are not myself, which I cannot control. The therapy is likewise similar. If I am aware of, and willing to accept all my sensory experiences, I sense the …

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Amnesia and forgetfulness

I had a powerful experience in my early twenties that helped me understand the power of owning my identity. It was my first year of college and I still didn't even have language that would help me understand my gender identity or sexual orientation. I became fascinated with a woman …

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The Ones Who Leave the Jungle

Furthermore, this policy simply evades the difficult and controversial question as to whether students should be given training in therapy as part of a master's degree program. Without taking sides on this issue, it appears to the faculty involved in this program that it is more crucial at the present …

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When do you let others help you?

They are willing to help me in any way. I feel understood and affirmed by them. Based on decades of my clinical experience and training, it's not just having people in our lives that supports our emotional and physical health. In fact, many people who are already in relationships enter …

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You listen to your body and accept the passage of time

For example, Jessie's father had multiple affairs when she was growing up. And she was willing to examine the factors from her present life as well that were also contributing to her carrying on an emotional affair with Steve, like the stressors of being a stay-at-home wife and mother and …

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How to Handle Yourself When Other People Challenge You

Our experience has corroborated the theoretical principle that self-evaluation is the most desirable mode of appraisal in a student-centered course. The greater the freedom to use self-evaluation in such a situation, the more obviously favorable have been the results. Students experience the task of self-appraisal as one more opportunity for …

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Your Legacy

They just seem completely bogged down by their environmental situations sometimes. Mr J: Miss E, it seems that in all our discussions you seem to feel pressed to manipulate the counseling situation. You really resist the point of view that so many of us have that the client really has …

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What Do Your Kids Need from You ?

I'm not sure I understand what -- Bill: That much of the operation of women in these social groups is not a function of choice on their part. It's not satisfying their personal needs. It is a function of the role that society kinda forces them into. Please show yourself some …

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The Audience and You

For example: My Good Stuff Read through your Good Stuff list and really take a moment to absorb how those events make you feel. It's an instant lift, isn't it? They feel they are not being judged or evaluated. They feel they are being understood -- the therapist is listening carefully …

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What are we missing?

If someone turns you down for a social event, you leap to the interpretation that they don't like you, not even considering that they may have had previous plans. You may be easily triggered, reacting in ways that seem inappropriate or out of proportion. You may get lost in ruminations …

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I sometimes feel guilty after eating

My friends who are wheelchair users know this all too well. They need to advocate for special accommodation when the reality is that the world around them is specifically disregarding their needs and limiting their ability to participate. A few months later, at the same gym, for amped-up reasons, I …

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Intellectual clearness, joy, invincible confidence

Depression, anxiety, anger, reactivity, hypervigilance, distrust, and substance abuse are just normal adaptive and self-protective strategies. How we act is a response to the crap we deal with. Although social injustice contributes to allostatic load, this does not mean that individuals with more privileged circumstances never experience a high allostatic …

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Choosing the people you see

Your Future Action Plan The more you can arm yourself in advance, the better. It's very useful to identify not only which thinking trap you fall into most but also the situations in which you are most vulnerable to it. Is it when something goes wrong at work, during a …

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Hooked at the Hip

Perhaps all this freedom of expression is no service to the child, and even less so to his parents. There are several possible explanations of why dangerous acting out is unlikely to be a problem in this kind of therapy. First of all, the therapist has carefully refrained from praising …

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What else is possible?

And that changes everything. In just 14 days, we'll teach you a new way to respond and, in turn, a new way to live. It's nearly impossible to avoid traffic jams, demanding bosses, willful teenagers, financial pressures, health glitches, and other challenges that make up the multistranded stress web of …

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By talking it all the way through and by listening

Again, a thirteen-year-old boy is referred for his explosive outbursts of aggression, and for his long-standing torturing (unspecified) of a girl in his class. He inquires about the therapist's first name, which just happens to be the same as that of the tortured girl classmate. From then on, he calls …

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Love is supposed to be beautiful

Now, what options for creating an abundant future do you have at your place of work? Do any of them include matching funds? That is like free money. Begin to claim your share! Your mind will wander during this exercise, but just bring your attention back to the positive feeling …

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The short answer is no

They assist in setting up a vibrational energy field around you; Most important, they remind you of who you are, your truest self. Affirmations are something you work with. They also work on and with you, your thoughts, emotions, and consciousness. This basic rest pose is a simple restorative pose …

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Love is supposed to be conditional

The change is modest but important. Would other therapies show a greater degree of personality change? Unfortunately, this question cannot be answered at the present time because thus far only client-centered therapists have exposed their work to objective study of outcomes. It is probable, however, that with any therapy it …

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Stop feeling like an impostor

If you've ever broken a bone, you know how much pain it can cause. But if you've got a cast on that broken bone, often that pain goes away, or is not as severe when the limb is supported. This is a type of inflammatory tissue pain. In the inflammatory …

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By believing we are all worthy of hard, true, big, right love

All of this happened with a single thought. Your nervous system does this automatically when you're in danger, because you are always instinctively scanning your environment in order to survive. The autonomic nervous system is made up of both the sympathetic system--which triggers the fight-or-flight response--and the parasympathetic system, which …

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Putting Myself in Their Shoes

I guess I expected change to be registered in a series of Aha's! I get along quite happily with Mother, and manage to do some sort of justice to both of us without feeling abused or dominated. I file things with scarcely a whimper [a task at which she had …

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Let Your Senses Be Your Guide

They can be so worried about avoiding unwanted things, though, that they have no clear idea of what they want to do. We can sound like whingers-always moaning about something in their lives or jobs that aren't perfect. The best way to influence or acquire an' away from' person's cooperation …

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