Letting the joy back in

In contrast, when a dog starts with weeds he ends up with weeds. The reason? He's just a dog. He doesn't have the ability to create. Ben slid his arm to his lap so she couldn't see the ink and snapped, That's not your business. Kyra straightened her spine and …

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Additives - how safe are they?

Most of the associations are created at a subconscious level and are therefore almost impossible to resist since we may not even be aware that the association is happening. There will be times, of course, where that new world is rocked by unforeseen circumstances and events, but you will be …

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The healthiest way to lose weight

However, when a narcissist becomes a bit too physical and performs the murder, the rape, or some other crimes with cold blood, that person can already be categorized as a malignant or aggressive narcissist. After spending 10 minutes with Todd, she was convinced that he was her soul mate. They …

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Snacking - making it healthy

The Universe, God, Buddha, was helping you get what you needed. It is interesting and notorious that, just as a smile, even if forced, leaves a positive emotional imprint, crossing arms, even if it is done for cold or comfort, transmits a negative emotion. For example: you may be talking …

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Fermented foods

The unique perspective from each individual in the group will bring new light to the problem. In a conversation is much more important the body language than the verbal, since there are many information we don't say and rarely watch. This microexpression is difficult to pretend. It characterizes by low …

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Probiotics and your microbiome

They talked for thirty minutes. Not, in a wrong way but, in a way that would help their vision and help the planet at the same time. Small pieces that fit together to make the big picture. This is how system thinking works. Mental models are a massive part of …

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It's time to shift gears and break out of old routines

She loved her work but often found herself drained by the sad stories and difficult situations she encountered. Home is such a potent theme for people trying to create a new home, likely their last, in late life, while trying to hold tight to memories of the homes that shaped …

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What did you do that worked well today?

The first step is to learn what a closed question feels like, and when it is useful. Closed questions have one or two answers at the most: This one or that one? They are very useful when trying to encourage someone to make a task-based choice, like getting dressed or …

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Monitor Responses to Medication

Over time, the process of making self-evaluations for our own survival became directed to others, for the intent of helping them survive and develop, too. Parents inevitably realized that by providing evaluative information to their children, perhaps about their hunting skills or their grooming habits, gave them an edge. The …

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Self-Soothing Strategies

Hundreds of studies in cognitive psychology and cognitive therapy confirm that your thinking directly influences your feelings. In the case of your distorted thoughts, which typically occur in stressful situations and encounters, these feelings are apt to be anxiety, anger, and fear, and they're very upsetting. Instead of letting yourself …

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Coping with Outside Pressures

You may not be surprised to hear that the fear of speaking publicly constitutes one of the most common fears and, like many common fears, focuses on the fear of becoming stupid. Lack of trust is closely linked to being shy and self-conscious-however, it doesn't have to be lasting. At …

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The Role of Temperament

Remember, your safe person has heard you take the initiative to ask for the truth. There exists no concrete wall of denial to break through. The more rigorous you are with your own self-examination, the better it goes for you. And the converse is true: the more you minimize your …

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How to Recognize Anxiety

The farmer's kind neighbours came to visit him and expressed their sadness that the farmer didn't have the horse to help with his farm work. This is how the Clot feels, but it's not how the Clot acts. Instead, embracing the victim role, Clots corner those few remaining allies who …

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Right Carbs, Right Times

Now clean it up, so the pole is smooth and perfectly prepared. 15 each person's concept of me is their most contemporary, up-to-date record of everything they've been through and everything that's been done to them. It's their reaction to all the people who hurt, scared, loved, and cared for …

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What Triggers Anxiety?

The General's men came around the villages to conscript all the able-bodied men. This results in the dreaded sense that wrongs need to be righted, often at great personal and interpersonal expense. Resentment over having to do this heavy lifting is a gift that keeps on giving. Not only do …

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Improve Hormone Balance, Hour after Hour

To hear what this source wisdom is saying is one thing, to put it into practice is quite another. That is very bad news, because there's nothing we can do about the problem if it's not us. Sometimes owning up to our dissociated and denied self-experience obstructs how we need …

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Stop the Stress Response

The next faculty of the mind, the Buddhi or the Intellect, shines brightly with the light of intelligence. He stated: Because of the unknown quantity in me which reminded Dora of Herr K. , she took her revenge on me as she wanted to take her revenge on him - Thus she …

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Dealing with the empty bed problem.

While our ordinary experience may be one of limitation, throughout time all the wisdom traditions tell us that the limits we feel are imagined and superimposed on that limitless universal self. We all carry around more than our fair share of unexpressed anger. Yet acting like a Clot makes you …

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Maximize Fat Loss and Energy Automatically

They may not realize how meaningful the Sanskrit words are. The downside of this advice is that persistently anticipating these types of people, and rigorously protecting ourselves from their notorious behavior, leads to a state of constant anxiety. This may trigger our own Clotish behavior, as we preemptively overprotect ourselves …

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Start by disclosing what you find difficult

For example, all their friends have an iPhone 10. Of course, we all understand the appeal of gossip. It's human to enjoy the surprise at a sudden disclosure, the impact of a scandalous revelation. But as forcefully as I can, I'm telling you: gossip has absolutely no place among friends …

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Your Meta-Stat's Master Regulators

It is the confidence you experience when you are awake and aware of your own potential and strength. My professional acquaintance with a twelve-step recovery program began in the late 1980s, when I took my adolescent psychiatric clients to A. A. meetings in Newport Beach, California. There, I noticed that …

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An unconscious loyalty toward your parents

To do this, picture yourself in the situation, observe yourself there, see what you are wearing and how you are standing or sitting. Then slowly think through what you are doing and saying, what you are thinking and feeling, what skills and qualities you have, what is important to you …

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Try to control things perfectly or near-perfectly

Up the ladder went Seth. Up the ladder with a very small bucket of paint balanced on one arm and a two-inch trim brush in the other--bounding to the top rung like the overwrought lunatic that he was. I, standing at the base, held the ladder steady and shouted up …

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Maintain a healthy self-image

If you have the mobiliser style, listen to their ideas and avoid criticising them. Energisers, with the informing and initiating preferences, like to involve others in discussion and explain and explore their ideas. They can be stressed when others aren't willing to engage with them. Take some time to listen …

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Knocking on the temple door

When we feel threatened, the unconscious reacts more quickly than our conscious, sometimes leading us to react in ways that we later wish we hadn't. We respond emotionally before our conscious mind can decide on a more emotionally intelligent reaction. Knowing about our style makes us more aware of our …

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Starving for intimacy

Once I realized that listening to my inner voice had the ability to propel me just as much as it had the power to restrict me, I started taking notes. Literally, I started writing down my negative thoughts. Putting them on paper made me recognize how much I was listening …

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My anxious spirit

Observe how you are doing the act itself. Now, slow it down. Breathe in that air a bit deeper, and use your full lung capacity like it's meant to be used. Become aware of the correlation between your breath and your mind. Notice how when your breaths are slow and …

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You're making me crazy

Objectively reviewing accusations made about us during an encounter is another path for self-discovery. The older adults used both left and right hippocampi in the tasks, whereas the younger adults used primarily their left. These findings are consistent with those from studies of other brain regions showing greater use of …

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The journey of recovery

But to be honest, at some stage in my life I lost touch a little with the real value of these rituals. Although I could always appreciate the beauty of lighting candles on a Friday night, standing next to my mum as she marked the beginning of the Sabbath with …

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