Cultivate conventionality

Often, it's a combination of all of the above. While ultimately you have to find the path that suits you best, we can tell you that most of the experts we spoke to said having a spiritual practice creates a strong foundation for recovery and resiliency. While we'd never say …

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Is consistency the answer?

She crossed her arms over her chest. Do you get it? I feel like you're telling me to give up on my dream. I have this vision of love, and now you're saying it doesn't exist. That I have to settle or give up. They were grappling with understanding, How …

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Turn conformity into a game

Understanding your dating tendency helps you discover what's holding you back and how you can overcome these blind spots. How to Overcome the Romanticizer Tendency Twenty minutes into our first session and the tears were already flowing. I know he's out there, Maya said. He just hasn't found me yet …

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Standing up for communion

From social media to 24/7 news cycles to on-demand entertainment, we are constantly bombarded with information. Some of it is inspiring and hopeful, but a lot of it is trash and trouble. As two guys immersed in media, we love the tools available to us. Social media, streaming devices …

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Awareness makes attraction possible

Ramblers organise group walks for people of all ages, backgrounds, and levels of fitness. Their website ramblers. The walks start at under a mile in length on the flat, to more challenging countryside walks of 3 miles and more. They are friendly, supportive, and ideal for those who want to …

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Make time for greed today

Yet, life still happened, and they may have fallen short in ways they never intended or expected. Maybe they carried their own traumas, had more stress than they could handle, or lacked the resiliency to manage what life threw at them. For whatever reason, maybe your caregivers weren't able to …

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Awareness makes insight possible

You can do a lot of this on your own too. First, you can help to rebalance your microbiome through diet. Switching to anti-inflammatory foods such as berries (strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, blackberries), fatty fish (salmon, mackerel, sardines), broccoli, avocados, and green tea can help. As you increase your intake of …

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Standing up for conventionality

It's what distinguishes our relationship from the close friendships we have with other people. That special something that we share is not something that sits outside or apart from everything else that goes on in our life together; Undoubtedly I am. Yet doesn't it seem sad that so many partnerships …

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Filter out agreement

Desiring who and what? Sexual desire can be a chance to leave behind the limits of your own self. It can also, like any other expression of intimacy, be not much more than an extension of your own self-absorption, a switch of the ego-driven cry I want from objects or …

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Is comprehension the answer?

If your best time of day is in the morning but you have other commitments that prevent you from using your optimal time for work that needs concentration and focus, if possible, negotiate with your manager or colleagues to free up some of your optimal time. If you know that …

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Repair your difference

Growing up, most of us aren't taught how to do this. We have to learn it as adults, but millions of people are doing this every day and successfully releasing their trauma. Although both of us have devoted our lives to working in the alternative healing realm and could be …

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The judgment approach

Spend time with them and learn from them. with less. Give things away instead of selling them. FOCUSING YOUR MULTI-TASKING The only reason for time is so that everything doesn't happen at once. But sex can also be a disaster, an experience of panic, shame, degradation and dehumanisation, or simply …

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Is it time to see tenderness yet?

Just allow them to come and go and return your focus and attention to your breathing. Mindful breathing is like a reset button that you can push to return yourself to the present moment whenever you feel the need; Try and practise mindful breathing for a minute or two a …

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Common responses to attachment

S:Or at least 'artificially', in a sense. P:It looks a lot like a fairy-tale potion, which may be a good or bad thing. None were penalised for it, even though they were competing for the role of actual leader of the United Kingdom! But they had all gone …

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Repair your fervor

Pain that is 'armoured against' in the crucial pre-verbal period is most likely to manifest in sexual problems. These may be any one of a variety of problems which come out of difficulties with actually feeling emotions, or perhaps allowing others to feel or express emotions in your presence. Sex …

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Repair your worship

Jump with Leverage Don't double-bounce--you could lose control. To gain momentum and maintain balance, start by squatting until your knees are bent 45 degrees. Then, in one smooth, quick motion, jump and swing your arms up over your shoulders. Aim to jump about 3 feet outward and upward. And a …

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School Bus Magic

Why exactly would talking therapy combined with antidepressants work better than either alone? Aren't they completely different approaches? Well, one possibility is that antidepressants may ensure the affected neurons regrow their lost connections, but cognitive behavioural therapies, which are all about making you think and mentally process stuff in helpful …

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Love is actually unfair

The complex connections that make up the brain mean that anything can affect anything else. A drug may fix the main problem it's meant to deal with, but the presence of the drug could throw many other working systems out of whack. Hence, we have side effects. However, those in …

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On Being Connected and Divine Order

Being depressed when life deals you a devastating blow means your brain is responding appropriately to something that's happened. You're expressing the correct emotional reaction needed to process and, hopefully, deal with it. In many ways it's a healthy thing. It should be happening. It may not be pleasant or …

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Speak for Yourself

That era in Rebecca's life has a positive ending. When she and I spoke later she was able to say that she had moved far enough away from her obsessional anxieties--provoked by her gradual disappearance of self--to a state where she can eat fairly normally, where she has a lover …

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What moments do you wish you could change?

Rebecca is a young woman who came close to ceasing to live her own life, provoking an emotional crisis which seriously threatened her physical as well as her emotional existence. She was twenty-two when I talked to her, and the events she describes had taken place two or three years …

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Long-Distance Connections

As the name suggests, it acknowledges the complex, multifaceted nature of mental health, and the many different factors that can disrupt it. Our physical body can be affected by physical things, like infection and injury. But, as we've seen, our minds are more intangible, so can be negatively affected by …

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Don't surrender all your joy

It often still is, but it's hopefully on the wane, with more holistic or nuanced approaches taking over that reflect the complex and multifaceted nature of poor mental health. There are several problems with the medical model. One is that it assumes there's a clear and accurate diagnosis to be …

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Supreme enlightenment is gained

Q: IS THERE ANY SCIENCE BACKING UP PHEROMONES AND HOW THEY ATTRACT WOMEN? Sorry, fellas, but a shower and a smile will go a lot farther with the ladies than your sweaty armpits. The notion of sex-attracting pheromones was first propounded 50 years ago, when a scientist noticed that male …

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What specifically have I lost?

That's bliss! This experience is available to us, not at some point in the future when we're more spiritually advanced and eating a raw vegan diet but right here and now. We get scared to surrender to these immersive, overwhelming good feelings because we're afraid that something is going to …

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What new skills would you like to learn?

They're especially great for men with oily, flaky, or clogged skin because they clean deeper than your fingers or a washcloth can, and they easily remove acne-causing grime from your skin. He likes the Clarisonic Plus (clarisonic. Use it with a mild face wash, such as Cetaphil Gentle Skin Cleanser …

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Campus Communication

While it's not prevented the negative impact of such a painful experience, it's helped me understand how and why what's happening to me is happening. This has provided some reassurance and helped me cope with it all. Sadly, the enormous numbers of people out there who've gone through what I've …

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Love is supposed to be ordinary

Do you believe that you're supposed to be stressed all the time? Try the following mantras: I acknowledge the subconscious belief that I need to be stressed. I am willing to release this belief. I open to the belief that I don't need to be stressed. I'm willing to trust …

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