But if you go from your three o'clock appointment straight into a four o'clock commitment, you have no downtime. And, as we now know, that's going to erode the quality of whatever you're doing after four. Saku Tuominen and Pekka Pohjakallio run 925 Design, a consultancy specializing in helping companies …

She looked for Jesus in the dark--and she found him in the darkness experienced by other people. She found his presence in suffering. Even while in a store, they can use their phones to search for better prices or alternatives before purchasing. Some say they called friends to check on …

Children and teens, in particular, are over-exposed to this kind of bullying purely due to the availability of technology. The majority of teens now do their homework through a computer or even their smartphone. This leads to multitasking, which is detrimental to learning and memorizing. When they are looking at …

Make expectations realistic. Be prepared to say no. Talk about your emotions and worries. Create the right balance between work and leisure. We are complex beings and cannot be neatly categorized into one of two categories. Likewise, the process of building willpower need not be an all or nothing proposition …

For instance, they went along with her insistence on the devil's control over her but told her stories of people freed from demon possession through prayer. Demon possession would be favorable compared to her state, she told them, for it could be remedied. She was a thousand times worse than …

She waited for the end to come. But the end did not come. After three days, still she lay, hidden under the floorboards. They had been cold days, and the chill had sunk into her bones. Her body trembled and ached--from the cold, from the close quarters. Sensation receded from …

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; WINSTON CHURCHILL Many of us consider challenges to be obstacles that keep us from the things we want. Those of us who are optimists tend to see the opportunity in those obstacles. In other words, an optimist will always believe that there …

He described the period to one of his friends as a time of restlessness and faintheartedness. And yet he called this experience school. As horrifying as his psychological state was, as much as he would have preferred death to the doubts and fears attacking his mind, Luther found that the …

What if all this havoc is for naught? All you have unearthed is violence and contention. The thoughts circled him like a hungry dog cornering its prey, eager to sink its teeth fatally through soft flesh. He met them with more ferocious scribbling with his pen. The torment continued. He …

As a matter of fact, these perceptions begin to build right from your childhood. Recent experiences may also impact your immediate sense of self, but such impacts usually give way to the dominant overall feeling and perceptions you have about your self-worth. Keep in mind that the factors I discuss …

I needed the group. I needed a sponsor, and I needed friends. Much of my recovery has come from being willing to talk about the sex abuse in my childhood, from grieving the loss that came with not being able to have children, and from breaking my denial about how …

It was here I would work a lot on how much I was dissociating, not able to stay present. This had been going on for years. It was here I allowed myself to be seen, meaning I was able to share the self-loathing I often felt. And it would be …

It's a simple activity to pre-empt any triggers that may be out there. We drag our arses out of bed, we shower, we groom ourselves to a relatively acceptable level to engage in human interaction. We basically put on a disguise to fool other human beings and to avoid unwanted …

Animals in the wild are constantly scanning their environment to make sure they are safe. Likewise, this exercise is about connecting to where you are and creating awareness of your environment. When people experience a lot of trauma, they tend to either view their environment as a danger or to …

If you are hyposensitive, a lack of awareness may cause you to feel as if the volume is so low you can't even tell there is music playing. Disengaged from the world around you, you may miss important cues that are obvious to others. A very high score may appear …

A few of the braver souls emptied their rifles before dropping them to follow the rest. About seventy yards down the slope, Michael caught sight of Chamberlain. He had his left hand on the trunk of a tree, and in his right, he held the sword, the point of which …

Chamberlain opened the pouch and pulled out a small, folded piece of paper. I wrote this more than two months ago, he said. Passing the paper to Michael, he said, I'm a little foggy on what I actually wrote. I launched myself off the hectic tube car, knocking over several …

I could feel my sanity slipping further away every morning as I looked in the mirror and hated what was reflected back at me. The thing about ignoring something as damaging as mental health problems is that they don't dissipate, they simply get worse and worse. They rot you from …

After reading those words, Michael closed his eyes and tensed his body, preparing for the dizziness he had felt before. This time he was ready. At first, nothing happened, but just as he was about to relax, he opened his eyes to see his fingers literally sliding through the ivory …

Each week, Kathy had a different assignment. For as much as Kathy was making progress, I couldn't push her back into her body, and these sensory items were able to accomplish that in a non-threatening way. I did a lot of work on Kathy's brain stem, which is where fight …

It was obvious that he had a ton of built-up fight energy that needed to be expunged. Especially at the beginning of our sessions, I was very careful to make sure Jake did not re-tell his story because it was so activating and just made the fight energy that much …

Michael, we're all in situations of our own choosing. Even with the things we can't control, we have a choice in how we react. Our thinking creates a path to either success or failure. Ensure that your request is reasonable. For instance, you may want to attend a concert and …

As a child, Amy was not safe, and as an adult, she didn't trust that she had the capacity to be in charge of her own ability to feel safe. It is impossible to heal when we are stuck in the trauma vortex like Amy was. Healing requires getting out …

During this wiring process, the neuropathways babies are utilizing become stronger, while the ones they don't use dwindle. This means that if a baby experiences a chaotic early life, the neurons that are firing to keep them safe will become the strongest and most firmly hooked into the circuit board …

A year later, Emily now comes into my office, takes off her shoes, and jumps up on what I refer to as my touch table. When I ask her if she wants to talk or sit for a few minutes first, Emily's response is always the same: No, I just …

The introvert is also known as the convert. This individual will often use statements such as they cry since other people are stupid. That often makes them sad. When we have unresolved trauma, it becomes locked in our body and impacts our present experience. I'm sure you've been in a …

A psychology professor known as Ingo Zettler has demonstrated how the common denominator applies in the study of dark psychology. Here are a few factors he pointed out towards egoism, moral disengagement, self-interest, spitefulness, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and psychological entitlement. These are some of the important elements he realized that needed …

Once you link the visual images together, the remainder of the passage will be triggered in your memory. Applying the Loci Method As we've seen, the oldest known mnemonic strategy is the loci method. This is another example of the critical interplay between beliefs and behaviours. After all, the brain …

However, there are also things you can do over the course of your life to try to ensure that your memory hums along at peak efficiency. Pay attention. It sounds too simple, but it's true. Companies used to be highly stratified with very clear indicators of status, particularly for senior …

The next time you walk into another room to get something, stop before doing it and repeat to yourself what you are about to do: I'm going into the bedroom to get a flashlight. Just as repeating a person's name out loud helps you remember it, so saying the task …

Fourthly, there is the concept of territoriality where individuals tend to feel like they own and should control their personal areas. We are inclined to defend our personal space. When someone invades this personal space, then the individual will react negatively as it is an invasion of territory without express …

But the past is dead, and there would be no purpose to return. Our need is to move on to discover a new life in a new world. Upheaval is actually a gift of love; Keep the Change More people on the planet are going though more changes more quickly …

Also, try to pay a compliment as soon as possible after someone has done something to earn said compliment. If you've just watched your friend perform on stage, for example, tell him what you liked about the show right away when you see him backstage--that's when he is dying to …

Then you have to leave or get rid of them to protect yourself. When someone comes along that you really like and want to continue to associate with, they leave you. While many have made promises to extricate you from the pain and sorrow of Scare City, each pledge has …

Thoughts and Feelings Thoughts and Feelings Use your list to become aware of the ways you are helping or hurting yourself by dwelling on thoughts in each domain. What pattern do you see about the way you are approaching this situation? What can you do to shift your focus and …

Already Home The most powerful prayer begins with Thank you. Many of us bring God long lists of things we want (and that is fine, as it affirms that we can have what we want and there is a higher power that can deliver it). But there is an even …

Again, Pride and Prejudice offers the best lessons in the world on the importance of nunchi when seeking a potential mate. After all, both pride and prejudice are inhibitors to judgment. The pride of the title refers to the initial snobbery of Mr Darcy, who deems the Bennet family to …

Within a few months, two of the new fire marshals were sacked. Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't volunteer to help your colleagues, but if all the office underperformers gravitate to one activity (party committee, for example), maybe avoid that activity. At work, you are judged by the company …

Sadly, this tendency, as well as the awareness that she could not fit in anywhere, led to an eating disorder in addition to alcohol and drug abuse. She could not sustain friendships because she did not understand why her friends expected her to return calls, to share feelings, or to …

You Will Know Malignant Narcissists by Their Lack of Nunchi You will often have to use your nunchi to spot other people's lack of nunchi. I'm not talking about spotting the average no-nunchi clueless person, who is relatively harmless. But in my experience, people superlatively lacking in nunchi are often …