Explain your personal concept of the heart

The musical comedian Bo Burnham (whose career started on YouTube) describes this phenomenon very well: Don't take advice from guys like me who've gotten very lucky. Taylor Swift telling you to follow your dreams is like a lottery winner saying 'Liquidize your assets! A trip to his village 25 kilometres …

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On Challenging Times

We've had to trade our health for our financial or professional well-being, choosing between getting adequate time for rest, exercise, and socializing and logging enough hours to get by. Tragically, many of us do this not out of paranoia but because we know just how economically vulnerable we really are …

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On Guidance

When we say someone is lazy, we're saying they're incapable of completing a task due to (physical or mental) weakness, but we're also claiming that their lack of ability somehow makes them morally corrupt. It's not that they're tired or even dispirited in some way we might sympathize with; The …

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Afraid of having to live hand-to-mouth

If it's not forthcoming the first time, ask for it again. It's horrible being in a position of needing help, but we've all been there. It feels vulnerable, weak, and hopeless, but asking for help is an act of hope, courage, and strength because it takes us from that disempowered …

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Kitchen (and Laundry) Duty

The man stared coldly toward the stage as an audience runner made his way to him with a microphone. Social media gives us a gateway to hate and division, but it also provides access to people, just like you and me, who are banging the drum, marching to their own …

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Final Thoughts: There's Always A Way Out

My mother was a tense woman, and cleaned in what most would consider a neurotic fashion. I was little, maybe ten, and she'd ask me to clean, or vacuum. She'd inevitably grow frustrated with my attempt at cleaning, and lash out in anger, making me feel wrong for even trying …

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Love is actually for everyone

Aunt Jane did that a lot when she got nervous. Jane, take the pot roast out at five o'clock. He didn't listen. Six months later he quit his job, broke his lease, and hightailed it back to Boston. The moral of the story? If you love something--sports, music, hiking, theater …

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The Physiology of Anger

I am washed. I am made anew, and it is my deepest desire to help others get clean too. Listen to the words and take action from there. So how can I help? That's a good question, she answered. How can you help? Dad says you help big companies and …

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Modern-Day Alchemy

The old rule of thumb was that your housing costs should be roughly 30 percent of your household's monthly budget. However, that ignores transportation costs, which can be significant if you have a long commute to work. I'd feel so worried that I'd done that enough times that I appeared …

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Points and Portals

How to Play Wants and Don't Wants is a game that helps us get a clearer view of our desires through first highlighting what we do NOT want in our lives. It did sound like a slogan. But just because a phrase is catchy doesn't mean it can't also be …

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About The Author

Smartphones are designed to look streamlined and cool and, above all, effortless to use. The designers don't want you to think about the tens of thousands of hours it took people to make it. If you like music better and find it easier, then you should definitely use the music …

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Being in the moment is healing

Your focus is on feeling the air rush through your nose as you breath. This feeling represents your meditation object in the context of this meditation exercise. This is only a half-truth. Acceptance or rejection isn't just a matter of what you can provide, but also a matter of what …

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The Alchemical Medicine Cabinet

You can also focus on feeling the breeze in your nostrils. Focus quite deliberately on your face. When you feel secure in yourself, it becomes easier to find happiness on your own terms. Don't trivialize the help. Don't apologize for it, don't say it's only a small thing. You matter …

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Strategies to Build Unbreakable Self-Discipline

A quick note before we jump in: Though I'm not a doctor, I afford everyone I talk with a doctor-patient privilege similar to that of a trained therapist or physician. Out of respect for people's privacy and their trust in me, I've changed the names, and some telling biographical details …

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Stop acting like a baby

But so is excitement. Step Eight: Visualize the Steps Visualizing yourself doing the steps it takes to reach your vision makes you more likely to succeed. Interestingly, research shows that people who visualized themselves studying get better scores than those who simply just visualized getting a positive grade. You can …

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Boost the feel good center in our brain

Think about the following aspects of forgiveness. When you forgive, you no longer build an identity around something that happened to you. You realize that there is more to you than your history with your partner. The past is put into its proper perspective as one part of who you …

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Does This Work?

Yes, but I have transportation problems. Or Yes, but I am very well known and visible in my community and couldn't possibly expose myself like that. Take a deep breath. Prioritize your well-being, as it affects every aspect of your life. I know you don't want to keep living with …

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How Emotions Affect Your Life

And, don't worry, this calendar didn't look like this at 5am when I planned my day (see Daily Planning as an event at 4:30 am). On November 13th, I had one client cancel their meeting and I added five action items throughout the day. There were also some action …

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I overeat fried food

Please, read article 6 again to get a thorough reminder of this. It Sounds Too Intense and Anal. Just go ahead and read article 5 again, and you'll be reminded that the people who truly make things happen sound too intense. They sound like the anal, detail-oriented kid that makes …

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Are You Nervous?

Many are fun, pleasurable, and most are free or inexpensive. They are not meant to be used once or twice, but are to be regular practices you integrate into your life. Common forms of grounding include: Given what has been occurring in your life I can only imagine what you …

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How did they get so cute and so smart?

Your city may have local classes you can pay to join and get started learning Italian. If you need a classroom setting to learn better, then this will be your best bet. If there isn't one currently, who's to say you can't start your own? What if you connected with …

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Let Ur Fingers Do the Talking

Other boundaries you may make are ones such as: Nonnegotiable Boundaries It is also common to have what are referred to as nonnegotiable boundaries. This is a boundary involving something you must have or something you can't tolerate in order to stay in a relationship. They are relationship deal breakers …

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On Trusting the Process

Avoid food triggers that create a leaky gut. A strong gut makes a strong body. Move toward an unprocessed whole-food, plant-based diet. Heal Thy Gut The role of elimination CASE 1: Jane S is a 62-year-old female who arrived at the office with shortness of breath during exertion. She was …

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Love will actually free me from pain

Marita is receiving 50-60% more schooling than her old friends in the public school system. Marita will likely advance to a private school in New York City, instead of falling back to the public school system in the South Bronx. Marita will likely attend college and graduate, because most college …

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Did you find wasted or unused time?

Let's also think about what kind of person Mark is. Mark is like most people. He doesn't have a lot of genuine trust or faith in the goodness of humanity, as discussed in article 3. Mark would like to trust people more, but he's had bad experiences, and can't even …

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How The Universe Orchestrates Your Dreams

That creates an acute heart attack and often results in death or heart failure. These are the heart attacks where patients are rushed urgently into our procedure labs and need to have a blood vessel opened quickly, usually with a stent. The late actors James Gandolfini and Carrie Fisher died …

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Taking criticism on the chin

I was a sex toy for him. By late adolescence, I felt so degraded and worthless I set out to prove I was of value. I'd go to bars, flirt, drink, and see how many guys I could attract. It was a vicious cycle because in the moment I would …

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Planning Is Everything

When I work with skiers, I tell them to focus on the feeling of speed and fluidity, not a specific metric. If I'm stopping to look at what my heart rate monitor is telling me, it's not doing me any good. Now, if I'm recording my heart rate over the …

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