The Rising Tide

You can rejuvenate yourself in a few minutes, or you can take as long as you like. Rejuvenation is a wonderful practice to add in your task-focused or deadline-focused anxiety style because it helps you calm, rejuvenate, and reboot yourself so that you can return to your work with a …

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Good Ageing

But at its core, positive thinking is a deeply valenced approach to emotions that lifts the Happiness Family above all the other emotions. That's not a positive thing to do. Notice that I use the word conscious before the word complaining. This practice brings consciousness and a kind of sacredness …

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Why Do We Age?

Is there really something to this cybernetics approach to the autism epidemic? Or is this whole idea just this author's opinion? The answers to these two questions are, first, yes, there really is something to this approach, and secondly, no, the holistic cybernetics approach to the autism epidemic is not …

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What will others think of me?

Your boundary is maintained by your soft anger and your soft guilt/shame. Your soft anger helps you observe and respond to boundary violations that come from outside of you, while soft guilt/shame helps you observe and avoid boundary violations (toward yourself or others) that may come from within …

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I have it and you don't

Don't breathe too deeply (if you're feeling a lot of anxiety, deep breathing may make things worse or cause you to hyperventilate). Just breathe slowly and mindfully. It may help to count to three as you inhale through your nose, and count to five as you slowly exhale through your …

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Lead as a hero

And once you learn them, you can incorporate them into a daily practice or use them as the need arises, whichever works best for you. You'll find that some of these practices are very easy for you and that you don't really need to do them. That's great; You may …

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Lead as a host

Gregory Bateson One of the key foundations for understanding the processes of mind and consciousness lies within the work of Gregory Bateson. Bateson's use of cybernetics methodologies to map out consciousness and neurological systems created a start point for later cyberneticists to build upon in order to create a functional …

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Success-based inquiry

So, to simplify, cybernetics uses feedback loops as a methodology of control of whole systems. Another important component of the cybernetic approach to understand is the concept of homeostasis, especially as it relates to biological systems. Two of the key proponents for the concept of homeostasis were senior executive of …

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Uses power over others to win

Because of this, it's important to cultivate numerous self-care and mindfulness practices that can help you work with your anxiety (and your other emotions) intentionally and manage your reactions skillfully. I developed these six Empathic Mindfulness practices over several decades of working directly with my emotions and helping my readers …

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Hoarding Collecting

In animal hoarding cases, scores to hundreds of animals are kept in overcrowded and unsanitary environments and are in poor health, showing evidence of disease, starvation, and sometimes death. It is not merely the number of animals that determines whether animal hoarding is present. Certainly, animal breeders and trainers may …

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Look back to understand the present and future

He went up into Athens and sat down in a articleseller's shop, being then a man of thirty. As he went on reading the second article of Xenophon's Memorabilia, he was so pleased that he inquired where men like Socrates were to be found. Crates passed by in the nick …

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Prove it to me

Although it is entirely possible that these two disorders are both present and are not related to each other, clinicians who listen carefully during a clinical interview can determine which one started first. If the symptoms of hoarding began before the symptoms of depression, the person is likely to meet …

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How can I get others aligned with me?

In article 7 we examine various treatments for HD, including medications and especially cognitive and behavioral methods. In article 9 we turn to community-based efforts to resolve complex and severe hoarding problems that affect those living in the home, neighbors, and others. Finally, article 10 raises questions that are not …

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How can this be excellent?

This means that 1 in every 40 adults suffers from problematic hoarding, with an even higher frequency among older adults. This remarkably high prevalence rate raises the question of why HD is so common and whether Western consumerism and marketing might play a role in excessive accumulation of objects and …

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How can I do this right?

People, who had the biggest influence on your life while growing up, are called parental figures. The messages they imparted on you were stored in your subconscious mind. They now dictate your behavior; These behaviors you repeat, some of them negative, are then also imprinted on your children in certain …

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How can I order this chaos?

The smell of the sty is the stimulus causing your subconscious mind to recall and replay the happy and enjoyable emotions you experienced as child when you spent time with your pig at the sty. The opposite might be true as well. Let's look at the same scenario with a …

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Where is the common ground?

We don't want injured ankles and neck braces to make an appearance. Keep your body firm and taut throughout. Make sure you control the movement and direction of every little appendage. Now pay close attention to what I'm about to say. Just because interval or circuit training gives you fantastic …

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The glass is always half full

In the process, you handle your everyday stress too. When you go through the programme, go slow. If you're just starting out, learn each exercise bit by bit. Maybe do one or two exercises in each category. Pay attention to form, feel every exercise that you perform. The mind-muscle connection …

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Follow your energy

You will appear more confident, reducing your chance of becoming a victim. HOW TO BECOME MORE AWARE What do you do if you have a hard time staying plugged in? Is there a way to exercise your mind and train it to be more aware? Luckily, there is. PLAY MEMORY …

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Speak up to be heard

Add a deadbolt to the door. Mount hinges (with non-removable pins) on the outside, so the door swings out instead of in. This will make it more difficult to kick in. And don't forget the peephole! Whatever room you choose, the goal is to put as many barricades as possible …

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Reset Your Goals

When anxiety is beginning to creep into your mind, unsettling your body, take a few minutes to pay attention to your body using the tips shared with you in this article. Similarly, if you are in a car or waiting to pick up your child from school, you could use …

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Who's stopping you?

What you truly are is continually connected, engaged, united, and complete--without the temporal. People will say they are afraid of certain things. That helps us understand that, for that moment only, they innocently believe that the external, temporary, and material world is the Truth. That fear--which ultimately ends with the …

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Your core emotions

This realization is why mindfulness and meditation are a powerful combination. What you are mindful of ultimately becomes what you meditate on. This is a perfect way of combating anxiety and worry. The primary objective is to make mindfulness meditation a consistent part of your life. Now that you know …

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The frustrated

Inhale through your nose slowly for 2 counts. Purse your lips. Exhale by blowing the air through your pursed lips for a count of 4. Repeat a few times until you feel calm. Resonant or Coherent Breathing This method is practiced by breathing at a rate of five full breaths …

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Did you frequently hear them arguing?

When you maximize the reactive and reflective approach, it becomes easy to understand why mindfulness and anxiety are two ideas that are considered together. This is because one reduces the impact that the other has on a person's mind. While anxiety compels your thoughts to focus on the future and …

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May I be well

He thought, What do you mean I'm ready to go? The guy who had been able to lift 300 pounds couldn't even lift a 3-pound weight. His father had to move to Tulsa from Georgia to take care of him. As Emeka adjusted to his new life, he spent a …

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Like you're invisible, not emotionally seen or heard

Allowing the conflict resolution process to unfold in a logical and incremental way means moving from contentious and tightly held positions to a process with more give-and-take between the parties. An intrinsic aspect of genuine give-and-take is gradually taking more risk to show all the elements of one's position and …

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I'll always be in debt

What do you see when you look at me? I see a woman who is trying to do too much. I see a woman who is not happy but is doing her best not to complain about it. I look at you and I feel guilty that I can't make …

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Don't expect a splitter to be reasonable

But recent outbreaks of pandemic shaming also expose the limitations. There is a tension between appropriate enforcement of acceptable behaviours to the trashing of individual dignity with no paths to forgiveness. This has been especially pronounced in the past decade through online shaming, where a host of figures both prominent …

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