Always consider the source

One of the most satisfying aspects of group therapy is in helping such shy avoiders re-orient themselves towards affiliation. The challenge is usually getting them to attend. I have had patients who hid in their vehicles in the car park for the length of the session but, with further encouragement …

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Stay confident and refuse to play the victim

Jacinda Ardern has been vocal in saying that New Zealand will incorporate a wellbeing budget with greater spending on mental health, poverty and homelessness in parallel with GDP measurements. Happiness studies and the hedonic treadmill was taken up with gusto within branches of economics, most notably by the economist Richard …

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Is this relationship no fun because it lacks spontaneity?

This was one of the new implications of the internet, its ability to normalise otherwise pathological behaviours. Even paedophiles, terrorists and Satan worshippers had forums to help them organise and feel validated. Sarah also posted regularly on social media, primarily Instagram and Facearticle, although the latter was becoming a no-go …

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Appreciating Our World

Mindfulness is just having the scene as it would be. That is where you allow emotions and opinions to come, and then you have to let them go, to find out what they assume. Caution will take time to become used to. You will typically notice that your mind wanders …

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Self-Acceptance

The blueprint takes you through the progressive journey of self-discovery so that you know your beginning, where you are today, and where you will be tomorrow as you Root, Rebound and Rise from your pseudo-self to your Ideal Self. This blueprint is a prelude to being a healer where you …

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Think Creatively

I was amazed, and ashamed at how I had previously gotten away with scraping the bottom of my bucket, slaving away as a healer. Now I could not get away with it, as this client's needs for healing required me to model what I taught - and knew - to be her …

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Others say they take the road,

Another technique that people sometimes use to get themselves to save money is to start afresh. Ignore past mistakes, don't fret that you've been hopeless about saving up to now, just think about the future, set yourself some new goals, and strive towards those. It sounds like good advice. There's …

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Seven Insights Into True Silence

It's kind of exciting to buy some chocolate, but it is only a circumstantial fix to my existential crisis. I'd gone away thinking I was going to change the world. Back in London, nobody knows what I've done or understands its value. My parents aren't sure how to engage with …

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No more force feeding

It hadn't been a complete waste of time; I netted a wonderful penpal relationship with a Minnesota mom who'd answered my call for advice. Pam was an aspiring writer and mother of ten. She was responsible for a piece of advice I would follow for the next sixteen years. Pam …

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No more posting half-nude selfies on the internet

Some theories say that psychopathic behavior is innate--heredity and genetics are primary causes--and sociopathic behavior is learned--sociological factors and childhood trauma or abuse are the primary causes. Neither of these theories has been proven. Some experts theorize that both conditions are innate. Traits and behaviors common to both sociopaths and …

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I'm starting with what I've got

She used every opportunity to tell Abigail how stupid and worthless she was. Depressed and beaten down after years of abuse, Abigail found it hard to hold down a job. Without a job, she had no hope of gaining her independence. Abigail told me that her grandmother was a churchgoing …

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Avoid blaming and accusing.

Draw upon your family history and what your family has traditionally done in the past when a loved one has died. This may or may not be helpful, but it is a starting point. Talk with other survivors and survivor groups for ideas. Some suggestions include One family whose daughter …

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How will I cope if I get lost on the way and arrive late?

B12 shots (tiny needles, like insulin syringes) in the form of hydroxocobalamin, given in 3,000-microgram (3-milligram) doses a few times a week, can result in dramatic improvement for a significant number of people. After fifteen doses, sometimes just giving yourself the injection once a month is enough to maintain …

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The Energy Body

If ten people tell you you're a horse, then maybe it's time to buy a saddle. In other words, if you continue to get the same feedback again and again, there is probably some truth in it. So why resist it? But I'll backtrack a little first. After completing the …

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What Is Healing?

I thought, I should really go up and talk to her about working in her shop. But what if she doesn't like me; Then I stopped myself. I remembered, Act As If. I knew this was a time I had to try it. I closed my eyes and pretended that …

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What This article Is Not

The server was focused on the broth containing no lactose; After just two spoonfuls, the boy pulled off his oxygen tube and began clawing and scratching at his chest. He had obvious difficulty breathing, his facial skin turned blue, his heart rate became bradycardic (dropped to less than fifty beats …

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Being of service to others

Various members of my family go by the English version of their names, despite what's on their birth certificates, because they noticed they were treated better by others when they made the switch--especially if they were on the phone and no one could see them. Among the full-blooded, more noticeably …

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Self-efficacious

aka implicit bias This kind of theory has helped me to understand why I was beaten and harassed all throughout my school years. I didn't fit gender norms, and therefore I couldn't be safely categorized (decades later, I still can't seem to categorize my gender identity myself). Faced with someone …

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You don't know me yet (Wait and see what I can do)

She was highly manipulative, spoke in ways that could make a sailor blush, and was prone to physical aggression. At such a young age, she was already possessed of an uncanny ability to read people for their weak spots. Once, during a court-mandated supervised visitation (often a humiliating experience for …

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Hopeful or optimistic?

While the specific techniques of meditation are extremely varied, there exists a denominator common to all of them, and that is the sitting posture itself. It would be very difficult for an observer, even someone who was familiar with the process of meditation, to discern which particular technique a meditator …

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Flip the Switch and just do it

What role does music play in your life? Are you a not-so-secret singer in the shower, an air guitar player extraordinaire or someone who likes to sing along to all your favourite songs safe in the soundproof vault of your car? Which feel-good tracks do you choose to sand blast …

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The more emotions and mindsets you circle

You're also building muscle. There are three main groups of muscles involved in the act of breathing, and due to our pervasive tendency to forget to breathe, these muscles wither. As you build them back up, you'll naturally begin breathing more deeply throughout the day. You'll also remember to take …

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Action, Action, Action!

I had to scrape together tips from old paperbacks or counselors at sleepaway camp. Magazines became my mentors. Later, when I dreamed of being a writer, I learned more from Pat Conroy, who wrote about the off-the-beaten-path part of the world I was from, than anybody I knew. Today, anyone …

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Tap into the Power of People

They are only anomalies if we assume matter is primary (materialism). And recall from this article's preface that the current paradigm of materialism (Figure A) is an unprovable belief system. Einstein even called it a religion. Philosopher Rupert Spira summarizes the conundrum: No one has ever found, or ever could …

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Love of the simple is all that I need

Today we take control of the information that you're exposed to by creating some simple but important filters in your world. We start with the information pollution we're exposed to every day. It makes no sense to sit there senselessly as you get bombarded with commercials and programming you don't …

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I shall wait till the morning

I was a bit apprehensive that she would find me an unwilling student and give up on me. Your fatalistic attitude will not serve you well. By concentrating your attention of what you do not have as opposed to what you do have, you are feeding negative thoughts and fear …

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Now I can't go to sleep

It is frequently easier to give in to our cravings and eat foods that endanger our bodies. But, it is also human to reverse bad patterns. It can be done. And chocolate wasn't the only culprit. There were many foods that I categorised as bad: cakes, crisps, biscuits, bread, puddings …

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Ease my troubles, that's what you do

EI is important in getting hired for that position you desire, and studies suggest that EI skills may also be important in getting the salary that you want (and deserve). Good emotional intelligence skills allow you to interact better with the people around you, forming a deep connection with them …

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Fill my heart with gladness

While all this was going on, Lauren's brain tumor came back. So we're doing kids with cancer for the second time, Ann said. Lauren's surgery was scheduled for the same time as Brent's transplant. I hope to teach you to navigate the dichotomy of your past and what promises to …

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I'll spend my days in endless roving

The arrow of progress, the conveyor belt of life. Up by your bootstraps, rags to riches, Forward, forward let us range, in Tennyson's phrase. In this climate, it was no surprise that the new field of human psychology adopted similar language. I sunk my head into my hands and rubbed …

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The snow comes tumbling from the sky

And there are times when frustration or loneliness or fatigue still lead me to the chocolate in the cupboard. I make a choice. Most of the time, I choose to acknowledge what I am feeling and allow myself to go ahead and feel whatever is bothering me. Every pastor is …

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Magic in my life

Superficially he has bought' what happened to him. <a href='http://www.dicodunet.com/out.php?url=http://futurecomms.co.uk'>He</a> knows where he is - a hospital - without knowing the town or country. <a href='http://joomfans.com/?o=futurecomms.co.uk'>He</a> knows what month and …

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