I am always on a diet or thinking about dieting

That hybrid identity--both girlboy and neither--was closer to who I was than anything else. For a while, as a kid and a preteen with a body relatively unmarked by visible signs of gender, I could flourish in that liminal space. As I moved into puberty, however, my body started to …

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I am too tall

Like many people, your resolutions for healthy eating probably vanish as quickly as that warm slice of apple pie a la mode. You eat unhealthy food--or even just overeat good food--without giving it a second thought. Then you're left feeling bloated, guilty, and more stressed than before. This is called …

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Doing this is fun, and we can't lose

I'd like us to dump the outdated notion that penises and vaginas define gender. Even if you're cisgender, do you really want your gender identity to be reduced to what's between your legs? Let's also dump reliance on suits, skirts, ties, makeup, or voice to determine gender identity. They're just …

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Exaggerated startle response

A minimalist home and lifestyle helps us put our focus on people, instead of on the stuff they have. There is more energy and space for people and relationships to flourish. We do not create connections that are satisfying around possessions but on shared experiences. I'm not saying that possessions …

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I didn't make the rules

The proliferation of the virus demonstrates the truth, and the challenge, of that interconnectedness: we are not safe when those around us are not healthy and safe. Our fates are linked, and we are all as vulnerable as the most vulnerable among us. If the cheap burger I eat comes …

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You don't have to maintain an impeccable credit score

Studies of outcomes are also hindered by the questionable validity of existing children's personality tests. One approach to the problem of evaluation which has not yet been tried is the Vineland Social Maturity Scale (50). This might be employed in an interview with mothers before and after their children's therapy …

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Show Me Light: Cure

In her mind, her body had failed her and no longer deserved any respect or consideration. This disconnected relationship is quite common with chronic pain and is one of the most important things to heal in order to begin the process of recovery. Lying on the table was uncomfortable for …

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College Counseling

That is okay. Take a couple of deep breaths and realize that there is another simple way to separate out the information. You can write out each category on separate sheets of paper. Colored paper works just fine if you already have it close by. Remember to Breathe Breath is …

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Love is supposed to be natural

By consciously working with your breath and becoming aware of how you breathe, you can influence the parasympathetic nervous system and change your HRV. This alters brain wave activities, and changes the chemical structure and even the neural structure of your brain. When you have pain and stress, your breathing …

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Holding the Flashlight

Action Step Before you realize it, you have put on your costume and are engaged in protecting your persona and your place in the play. Once you realize you are engaged, spend some time noticing what was happening just before you engaged. All of these questions are worthy of some …

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Preparation for Launch

When she turned fifty, she found herself wondering who she really was. Penny began to find herself when she started to focus on her main complaint: No one ever listens to me! Now she listens to herself first, without waiting for permission from anyone. Just yesterday she said no, thank …

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Science Fair and Super Homework

Before making a decision, will it provide details based on what it suspects the decision-maker may want to review? Does it have a related research report or polling results, for example? Is the data going to be considered credible? Is it possible to consult the company or a staff member …

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I can't help you with this issue

Remember, emotions that are not experienced become a wave of energy caught in midcycle waiting for completion. Do you freeze your own emotional flow and then remain stuck in your frozen Emotional Current? When you notice repetitive canyon experiences in your life, it's time to pay attention. Cycles of energy …

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Following Our Emotions

Warm and glowing and happy and relaxed. It's a real vascular relaxation. My skin has that characteristic smooth, soft feeling, all over my body, too. Of all things to happen! To drop all the elaborate analysis, think through the simplest problems in human relationships like a small child spelling out …

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Managing Anger in an Intimate Relationship

The person often makes several subtle and unconscious adjustments to maintain equilibrium, respond to changes in light and sound intensity, acclimatize to changes in temperature, etc Thus, the peripheral nervous system relays information to and from the brain relating to the environment. It is responsible for producing sensations and reactions …

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Repairing a Broken Marriage

You've already done it a thousand times, even if you weren't aware of it at times when you did it like all of us. If the anchor was not working, simply retrace the three above steps, identify what was missing, and re-do it. This time do even better The notion …

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Strategies in Seduction Through Manipulation

Language is symbolic. The words on the article are not the thing itself but an agreed-upon representation of the experience. The Rational Current prefers words and mathematical and scientific symbols. Using words and symbols is at least one step, in some instances several steps, away from the experience. Yet using …

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The Role of Reconciliation

Are we together? Is this the direction you are heading? As might be expected, the answer to these questions is sometimes No, sometimes Yes. The counselor is sometimes with the client, at times he may be on ahead, at times he lags behind in his understanding. Such minor deviations from …

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I am in love with my husband

Essentially, critical anchoring includes eliciting a smooth, harmonious perception of the ideal condition, although this is more fully realised at the moment using any notable stimuli (touch, expression, sight). In several ways, repeating the stimuli will associate and reestablish state information. There are refinements and complexity involved in placing anchors …

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Keep Clippin' Along

If you can look at all the horrid possibilities of life with such a clear gaze, maybe I can too? It's not as if my experience were so remote from you that it doesn't affect you at all. It can't be too remote, because you seem to understand it so …

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I am generous with older people

Usually, these people love and know perfectly how to communicate, how to make new friends and how to be the center of attention. You will not hear gossip and rumors from them, but rather you can expect genuine interest and real help. Positive people know what pain and unhappiness is …

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Love is actually beautiful

Or what are the terrible consequences of my mistake? However, instead try and ask yourself questions such as what is the one good thing emerging from this seemingly challenging situation? What is the hidden opportunity in this setback? This will offer you way more options and a solid plan of …

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What is it you need help with?

The most significant risk factor for Alzheimer's and dementia is age. It is commonly found in those over the age of 65, and even more common in 80 years old and over. Younger people can develop early-onset Alzheimer's, and women typically develop the disease at a younger age than men …

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On Goal-Setting

What are some positive points about yourself that you can think about? Imagine someone pointing out your faults. How would you show them that despite your faults, you are an individual with good traits as well? When you start evaluating in such a manner, you might find out that there …

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Settle it and move on

Did you get a positive or negative result? At that point in a third segment, work out the enthusiastic response to I) the procedures/steps and ii) the result. In the last segment, make the last inference in asking yourself: Where did the (passionate) response originate from - the procedure or …

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I eat whatever I want

Gaslighting The tactic used by manipulators aimed at making their victim doubt their own thoughts and feelings is called Gaslighting. This term is often used by mental health professionals to describe the manipulative behavior to convince the victim into thinking their thoughts and feelings are off base and not in …

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I am blessed

Rigidity is also very literal; It's difficult to move within that, and it certainly doesn't feel good. Rigidity opens the door to a lot of dysregulation in the nervous system, because rigid people become dysregulated when things don't go their way. A few of the Rebels had reached the wall …

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Mark of approval

Candy and I continue to take seemingly small steps forward that represent massive breakthroughs for her. During some sessions I touch her brainstem, where her reptilian brain lives; It is incredible to witness her body language begin to shift as Candy becomes more relaxed in and at one with her …

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Removing Obstacles to Discipline Yourself

Being in either the future or the past allows those in the throes of anxiety to stay out of the present moment, which would necessitate them to come into their body. That is why I encouraged Anna to observe. I wanted her to practice being here and now, even if …

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Think of one thing you can taste

For example, when you watch a certain advertisement, you will realize that you will have the desire to purchase the product that is being advertised. It means that you can be easily manipulated using some of these principles. When purchasing these products, you should be sure that you have been …

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Tips for When I Feel Sad

Their main aim is to ensure that they have marketed different products successfully and they may be manipulative so that people may purchase each of the products that they are selling. In such an instance, the manipulative individual will expect you to answer each of their questions immediately. They will …

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Might is right

When it comes to brainwashing, cult leaders are prominently known for repeating various lies as well as distortions until when a member finds it challenging to tell the difference between the actual cult life as well as the reality. When it comes to paranoia, most of the time, there is …

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