That hybrid identity--both girlboy and neither--was closer to who I was than anything else. For a while, as a kid and a preteen with a body relatively unmarked by visible signs of gender, I could flourish in that liminal space. As I moved into puberty, however, my body started to …

Like many people, your resolutions for healthy eating probably vanish as quickly as that warm slice of apple pie a la mode. You eat unhealthy food--or even just overeat good food--without giving it a second thought. Then you're left feeling bloated, guilty, and more stressed than before. This is called …

I'd like us to dump the outdated notion that penises and vaginas define gender. Even if you're cisgender, do you really want your gender identity to be reduced to what's between your legs? Let's also dump reliance on suits, skirts, ties, makeup, or voice to determine gender identity. They're just …

The 7 Thinking Traps Personalizing: instinctively blaming yourself when things go wrong Externalizing: instinctively blaming other people or circumstances when things go wrong Maximizing and Minimizing: maximizing the bad and minimizing the good to let the negative take over and define a situation and your outlook Kay: Yes, I know …

A minimalist home and lifestyle helps us put our focus on people, instead of on the stuff they have. There is more energy and space for people and relationships to flourish. We do not create connections that are satisfying around possessions but on shared experiences. I'm not saying that possessions …

The proliferation of the virus demonstrates the truth, and the challenge, of that interconnectedness: we are not safe when those around us are not healthy and safe. Our fates are linked, and we are all as vulnerable as the most vulnerable among us. If the cheap burger I eat comes …

Studies of outcomes are also hindered by the questionable validity of existing children's personality tests. One approach to the problem of evaluation which has not yet been tried is the Vineland Social Maturity Scale (50). This might be employed in an interview with mothers before and after their children's therapy …

That's why you're here to begin with. If you're anything like the thousands of people we've worked with who are anxious, depressed, and frustrated by how they feel on a daily basis, you just want to feel better. You want to stop feeling pulled in ten different directions at once …

In her mind, her body had failed her and no longer deserved any respect or consideration. This disconnected relationship is quite common with chronic pain and is one of the most important things to heal in order to begin the process of recovery. Lying on the table was uncomfortable for …

That is okay. Take a couple of deep breaths and realize that there is another simple way to separate out the information. You can write out each category on separate sheets of paper. Colored paper works just fine if you already have it close by. Remember to Breathe Breath is …

By consciously working with your breath and becoming aware of how you breathe, you can influence the parasympathetic nervous system and change your HRV. This alters brain wave activities, and changes the chemical structure and even the neural structure of your brain. When you have pain and stress, your breathing …

Action Step Before you realize it, you have put on your costume and are engaged in protecting your persona and your place in the play. Once you realize you are engaged, spend some time noticing what was happening just before you engaged. All of these questions are worthy of some …

When she turned fifty, she found herself wondering who she really was. Penny began to find herself when she started to focus on her main complaint: No one ever listens to me! Now she listens to herself first, without waiting for permission from anyone. Just yesterday she said no, thank …

Before making a decision, will it provide details based on what it suspects the decision-maker may want to review? Does it have a related research report or polling results, for example? Is the data going to be considered credible? Is it possible to consult the company or a staff member …

Wednesday A. There's nothing to say about yesterday's interview -- it was flat, lifeless, almost as if I were doing it because I said I would, but we both understood it was a formality -- the business of dying like a gentleman. Hollow and neutral, and you looked neutral too -- like someone …

Remember, emotions that are not experienced become a wave of energy caught in midcycle waiting for completion. Do you freeze your own emotional flow and then remain stuck in your frozen Emotional Current? When you notice repetitive canyon experiences in your life, it's time to pay attention. Cycles of energy …

Warm and glowing and happy and relaxed. It's a real vascular relaxation. My skin has that characteristic smooth, soft feeling, all over my body, too. Of all things to happen! To drop all the elaborate analysis, think through the simplest problems in human relationships like a small child spelling out …

The person often makes several subtle and unconscious adjustments to maintain equilibrium, respond to changes in light and sound intensity, acclimatize to changes in temperature, etc Thus, the peripheral nervous system relays information to and from the brain relating to the environment. It is responsible for producing sensations and reactions …

You've already done it a thousand times, even if you weren't aware of it at times when you did it like all of us. If the anchor was not working, simply retrace the three above steps, identify what was missing, and re-do it. This time do even better The notion …

Language is symbolic. The words on the article are not the thing itself but an agreed-upon representation of the experience. The Rational Current prefers words and mathematical and scientific symbols. Using words and symbols is at least one step, in some instances several steps, away from the experience. Yet using …

Are we together? Is this the direction you are heading? As might be expected, the answer to these questions is sometimes No, sometimes Yes. The counselor is sometimes with the client, at times he may be on ahead, at times he lags behind in his understanding. Such minor deviations from …

Essentially, critical anchoring includes eliciting a smooth, harmonious perception of the ideal condition, although this is more fully realised at the moment using any notable stimuli (touch, expression, sight). In several ways, repeating the stimuli will associate and reestablish state information. There are refinements and complexity involved in placing anchors …

If you can look at all the horrid possibilities of life with such a clear gaze, maybe I can too? It's not as if my experience were so remote from you that it doesn't affect you at all. It can't be too remote, because you seem to understand it so …

Usually, these people love and know perfectly how to communicate, how to make new friends and how to be the center of attention. You will not hear gossip and rumors from them, but rather you can expect genuine interest and real help. Positive people know what pain and unhappiness is …

Or what are the terrible consequences of my mistake? However, instead try and ask yourself questions such as what is the one good thing emerging from this seemingly challenging situation? What is the hidden opportunity in this setback? This will offer you way more options and a solid plan of …

The most significant risk factor for Alzheimer's and dementia is age. It is commonly found in those over the age of 65, and even more common in 80 years old and over. Younger people can develop early-onset Alzheimer's, and women typically develop the disease at a younger age than men …

What are some positive points about yourself that you can think about? Imagine someone pointing out your faults. How would you show them that despite your faults, you are an individual with good traits as well? When you start evaluating in such a manner, you might find out that there …

Did you get a positive or negative result? At that point in a third segment, work out the enthusiastic response to I) the procedures/steps and ii) the result. In the last segment, make the last inference in asking yourself: Where did the (passionate) response originate from - the procedure or …

They say what they mean, and they mean what they say. They know how to use concise language so that the meaning of their words is not mistaken and their intentions are not taken the wrong way. Mentally strong people know how to say no. They know that it's ok …

Gaslighting The tactic used by manipulators aimed at making their victim doubt their own thoughts and feelings is called Gaslighting. This term is often used by mental health professionals to describe the manipulative behavior to convince the victim into thinking their thoughts and feelings are off base and not in …

Rigidity is also very literal; It's difficult to move within that, and it certainly doesn't feel good. Rigidity opens the door to a lot of dysregulation in the nervous system, because rigid people become dysregulated when things don't go their way. A few of the Rebels had reached the wall …

I can't be found to be the boring, tragically unfunny human disaster I think I am. It's all down to fear. The fear of being judged unworthy of another human's company, the fear of embarrassment, the fear of being a disappointment. If I am worried about a task on my …

Candy and I continue to take seemingly small steps forward that represent massive breakthroughs for her. During some sessions I touch her brainstem, where her reptilian brain lives; It is incredible to witness her body language begin to shift as Candy becomes more relaxed in and at one with her …

You know how some people have one defining personality characteristic? Like Jane in Accounts who is obsessed with her cat, Mittens, or Brian from the gym who only ever speaks about the new diet he is on where he has to eat a raw egg every 29 seconds. It's like …

Today, Jeffrey's pain is not gone, but it is better. The neuropathy is not nearly as bad as it was. When I first met Jeffrey, his pain levels were somewhere between an eight or ten on a daily basis. I will seek wisdom. Knowing that wisdom waits to be gathered …

Being in either the future or the past allows those in the throes of anxiety to stay out of the present moment, which would necessitate them to come into their body. That is why I encouraged Anna to observe. I wanted her to practice being here and now, even if …

For example, when you watch a certain advertisement, you will realize that you will have the desire to purchase the product that is being advertised. It means that you can be easily manipulated using some of these principles. When purchasing these products, you should be sure that you have been …

Their main aim is to ensure that they have marketed different products successfully and they may be manipulative so that people may purchase each of the products that they are selling. In such an instance, the manipulative individual will expect you to answer each of their questions immediately. They will …

For centuries, dreams have been used to communicate instruction and direction to people of purpose--great men and women. God used dreams to prepare Joseph for his future as a leader of nations. He gave battle plans to Gideon in a dream. The person who manipulates the team is known to …

When it comes to brainwashing, cult leaders are prominently known for repeating various lies as well as distortions until when a member finds it challenging to tell the difference between the actual cult life as well as the reality. When it comes to paranoia, most of the time, there is …