Not Lost Enough to Be Rescued

Being the Opening for Truth As we let go of our lies, we become more open to the truth. But more than that, we experience ourselves as a welcoming openness. When we embody openness, our seeing, hearing, feeling, and listening change, and with these changes, the barriers dissolve between us …

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When I First Came to Town

This chronic exposure causes the body to adjust to a new normal, one in which cortisol does not ebb and flow as it does when we are in a normal, non-threatening environment. Instead, the body and brain are flooded with cortisol, leading to biological changes. These biological changes manifest themselves …

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The Beaten Generation

Learning about her Asperger's syndrome helped Moppy learn to accept herself. She has some additional impairments, such as a hearing impairment and problems with staying focused. She shares a close bond with her two daughters, who support her in many ways. When life is really hard, it is important to …

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A Kernel of Truth

Now you don't believe that I can achieve my annual plan. The sales manager's dissatisfaction and overreaction caused his boss to back down because of fear of further violations. The opportunity for frank discussions about the ever-widening performance gap disappeared. How do you deal with dramatists? Stick to the facts …

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Legitimizing Hierarchy

Rather than bear the grief inside us, we try to change them to make our pain go away. When we try to change them by sharing insights with them, we provoke rage at worst or perplexity at best. We think we are putting out their fire when we are trying …

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High Perceived Dispensability

While avoiding traumatic stimuli can prolong suffering, it is also an intelligent, survival-based response to managing it. Simply asking someone to pay more attention to their traumatic pain--without nuance or guidelines--may invite them into a vortex they can't escape. This was the second trap Margaret fell into. When she noticed …

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The Role of Evaluation

Most people will look diminished. They will likely be pale, their hair might be thin or gone. They will sleep more, eat and drink less. They will move through levels of alertness, might become agitated, and the breathing might become labored and really hard to listen to and eventually turn …

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Face a financial fear

However, if someone refuses their dependence, they will quickly change from being friendly to disgusting. For example: You are like everyone else. I can't count on you! The hidden message behind all their actions is: Don't let me down. In general, they are very self-centered and are forced to meet …

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Stand out from the crowd

It made you find maneuvers with finesse because you are automatically on blast. This was a fun sight; So there were no cell phones back at this time. No instant gratification. There were a few options, you can get new messages, new comments, new friend request, I'm not even sure …

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No matter how hard you try you'll never win

Again, it's about being accepted into a group, and also from the best group. By saying that there is a we and a they, the manipulator is immediately offering the victim the opportunity to choose which group they want to belong to. Their goal now is to achieve absolute obedience …

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You're not qualified

I remember that swing very fondly. If they had let me, I would have spent the whole day there, never even stopping to eat. Additionally, I spent hours watching a spider build a web or eat its catch, studying ant anthropology, lining up my extensive Breyer horse collection, passing grains …

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Keep your mouth shut;

It's just like a dog. My dog Lincoln he barks, and he sits around the house. But guess what he's a dog, and that's my expectation of him. Remember how I stated earlier that you just expect people to be who they are prime examples. So once you understand women …

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I have the right to fulfill my dreams

Every day, the patch doubles in size. Our mind tends to come up with shortcuts not just to allow us to spring to action but sometimes also to help us contextualize certain situations. This ability to quickly form an opinion about our surroundings is known as heuristics. Heuristics play a …

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The Goals of Self-Presentation

But, of course, these were the wrong planes to examine. They were just the ones that made it back. To learn about weaknesses, one would have had to examine all the planes--or, as Abraham Wald, a mathematician at Columbia University, concluded at the time, the scientists should not have looked …

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How Are Memories Formed?

So in the United States and other Western cultures, this means seeing beautiful people as friendly, independent, and assertive. But when researchers gave Korean students pictures of attractive Koreans, they did not see them as having characteristics such as potency, which Americans value (Wheeler & Kim, 1997). Rather, Korean students judged …

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How Do We Remember?

Hold this pose for fifteen seconds while you take slow, deep breaths. Gradually you'll become able to hold the pose longer. The third eye chakra isn't easily opened through yoga poses, but kundalini yoga does have a meditation technique meant to strengthen your intuition and balance the third eye. It …

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The Need to Validate What We Already Believe

In that regard, it is more demanding than just taking a daily pill to ward off the attacks. But the initial therapy is usually relatively brief (12 to 15 weeks), and the pay-off is long-term. It is not surprising that many people seek more natural coping methods, treating, and possibly …

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Is There Just One Culture?

Crystals are especially useful when a person goes through a transition. They can absorb stress and negative energy and release it out of the body. Crystals can't erase problems, but they can influence a person's attitude towards them. They impact the transitions by making them smoother and easier to accept …

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The Essential Role of Social Validation

Chakra healing sessions can support children in consciously being aware of how their thoughts are affecting their energy flow, and work is done to help the child in choosing more positive thoughts. Releasing and Clearing. A chakra healing session supports a safe place for releasing and clearing of emotions, toxins …

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Culture, Cognition, and Perception

But this is exactly what Darley and Batson (1973) found in one intriguing experiment that was designed to provide the strongest test that situational factors can prevent people from acting on their moral values. For their study, the researchers recruited people they thought surely would be the most compassionate folks …

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The Wide-Ranging Palette of Emotions

Why do they have to feel inconvenienced? Why not just answer the question and go about the day? When someone has betrayed a group, and is in a group discussion and the focus is on them in a way that makes them the subject of questions about their integrity, they …

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Death: The End of Self-Improvement

It reminds me that there are people I wish could be here today to experience life with me - and it reminds me that those people aren't able to experience anything anymore. That drives me to do everything in my power and leave a mark in their honour. It drives me …

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How to Be a Better Person to Others and Yourself

We have seen how our evolutionary inheritance and biological systems give each of us a capacity for hostile feelings and aggression, a capacity that we are most likely to engage when something or someone thwarts our needs and desires. It makes sense, then, that researchers who study the situational triggers …

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What's the Point of Self-Improvement Anyway?

What happens when testosterone levels change? One way researchers have addressed this question is by looking at individuals undergoing sex-change operations. Although testosterone level predicts aggression in both sexes (Dabbs & Hargrove, 1997; Sapolsky, 1998), males secrete more testosterone. When women transforming into men take drugs to increase their testosterone, they …

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The Healthiest Approach to Self Improvement

I tended to be the juggler, while she was more single-minded. It also appears that personality preference (which is discussed in later articles) has a modifying effect on some of these characteristics. Here's another issue: Since a man focuses on one thing at a time and a woman can handle …

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Analyze people & recognize manipulation

This means you're more likely to make bad decisions - your willpower has almost been deactivated because you bypassed it. Imagine the person who starts off the day by snoozing the alarm multiple times, putting off when they have to get up. This person is also staying in their pyjamas instead …

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Who says that you have to be like that?

There are lots of individuals who overcame extremely limiting circumstances to become some of the best in the world at what they do. Stephen Hawking is a good example. Here's an absolute genius, one of the smartest minds of our time, who also happened to be diagnosed with ALS at …

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What would it mean to you?

Utilizing the neuroscience perspective, Mina Cikara and colleagues (Cikara et al. Because the MPFC is strongly associated with the capacity to see other people as active agents in the world with their own point of view, this study shows us that sexist men are less likely to recognize sexualized females …

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Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)

In this way, he may have tilted Americans' implicit associations of Blacks in a more positive direction. Indeed, there is some evidence that the election of Obama and exposure to his campaigns helped to reduce people's implicit racial bias, in part by providing a positive example of an African American …

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Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)

Evidence for Aversive Racism White Americans were equally likely to help a Black or a White victim when it was clear that they were the only ones who could help, but less likely to help the Black victim when they believed that others also heard the victim's cry for help …

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Therapists a la carte

Something better can result from such an attempt. However, the efforts will be more effective if you understand the concrete connections. You can achieve this with a behavioral analysis. Many people think that this is very limited but on closer examination, it becomes clear that the questions about the why …

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What proof do you have?

Manipulation is composed of the Latin terms manus (hand) and plere (fill) and has the meaning of handling. The meaning in the sense of handling is still used today. In sociology, politics and psychology, manipulation is understood to mean the concealed exertion of influence. Those who manipulate other people use …

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What would be a worst-case scenario?

With no information, people readily applied their stereotypes, assuming that a woman is more communal than a man and that a man is more agentic than a woman. But this may just result from assumptions about social roles of men and women because occupation completely trumps anatomy: A homemaker is …

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