Who feels calm?

DID is classified as a diagnosable mental disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV). When something is diagnosable according to DSM-IV standards, it means that a pattern of behavior or other criteria are present the majority of the time for the diagnosis being considered. Some argue …

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Slowing Down

Although the conscious desire may be to live, such a person can hold on to suicide as an option in case life becomes too intolerable. Sometimes when a person believes she has a way out, she feels less trapped and better equipped to face life. I certainly do not advocate …

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Watch your resistance but do it anyway

Life sometimes forces you to live in limbo, not knowing if you will experience loss or not. You may have to wait several hours to hear if your loved one's surgery went well, or days until a loved one is out of a coma. You may wait in limbo for …

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Believe in Miracles

The generation that grew up amidst the Great Depression, went to fight in the Second World War, and then came home and went to work without complaint, without talking about their feelings or feeling as though life isn't fair. My old man said, Men used to expect life to be …

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Beware the Tiger Mom and the Potpourri Parent

I wish to thank all of the teachers, students, and clients who have helped me to develop this work and allowed me to become who I am in this world. I am always grateful to be of service to those who are willing and ready to look within. About My …

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How to Turn Away From Anger in Negative Situations?

I would like to illustrate the example of exchanging greetings cross different cultures. The normal way of greeting a person in the United States is to offer a handshake and tell your name. When you are attending a global conference, you will get an opportunity to interact with people from …

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The I Can Always

In turn, you'll become a better partner, neighbor, and friend. It will enable you to be released from the nightmares that often haunt you, and permit you to receive love, give love, and be part of collectively changing the future of our world. Maybe all that sounds a little grandiose …

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I'm NOT My Feelings

You will feel depressed, seemingly without cause. The truth is that the imprint has triggered your feeling. You or those around you may not understand what suddenly went wrong; This is the primary reason why our moods fluctuate several times throughout the day. Various images, words and things trigger our …

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I'm always anxious and afraid

Some of us are night owls who are most productive at 2:00 am, some of us work extreme hours and don't even take the time to stop for lunch or dinner, and some of us don't work at all. We structure our lives around our own unique kind of …

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Afraid of being destitute

After listening to my story and sitting with me in ceremonies, Juan told me my problem was that I was full of garbage. To do this, I would use natem, too. Juan made clear that he would not want to share natem with hippies who like drugs, because this is …

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The Psychology Behind Empaths

I am now blessed to say that twenty-five years into my journey, I can go days without hearing whispers of revulsion when I look in the mirror. Sometimes I go weeks between thoughts of needing to lose weight and I rarely feel guilty for eating foods that our culture deems …

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Act your age

When you hear of relationship goals by standard what comes to mind. Traditionally life is set up by a pattern. Some agree, some disagree but we have all heard of the picket white fence mentality or formula. You know the one; That is the ideology of success for a lot …

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Remaining in a Relationship

How worthless, how weak, how vanquished, how hollow it is to have a parent who exists but cannot reach, who says but will not be, who thinks but doesn't dare, who plays and plays and plays, but only, always, forever in the minor key. We sing the song of parenthood …

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Seeking Healthier Alternatives

You get something in your head, read a few articles on conquering fear, get your act together and decide to pursue it. You took action. But half way through, you realize you don't even want the thing you're chasing. But despite that realization, you put your head in the sand …

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What's the Buzz All About?

And yet, just because your parents want it for you, you give in. It's the same thing with intimate relationships, which play a big role on the path to our freedom. When a girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, or spouse expects certain things from us, we often give in. We do things …

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Playing to Improve Your Mood

Talk to yourself from I rather than you. What do you notice? The goal is to remain below this maximum -- the lower, the better. Users may rely on timers or alarms to track how long they have spent online to ensure this objective is met. For instance, if an Internet …

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Putting It All Together

Be prepared and expect the best, but prepare for the worst. Visualizing the outcome of a situation helps you achieve a desired result. You will have the prospect of finding a new, more healthy relationship, and at the very least, you have gotten something out of your life that was …

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Write Your Obituary

We've all been there. A disagreement turns personal and before we know it we are five names deep into a slagging match. Use if-then statements. Find a chill-out spot. Have a place where you can go to get your mind off things. You can even ask your teacher to help …

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Making Amends: Giving or Volunteering

Taking notes demonstrates a higher level of listening and your actions say What you say is important and I don't want to forget it. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. It takes you a little while to get them untangled, and in …

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Mastering the way you help is not an accident

Prebiotics are often overlooked but are necessary for probiotics to work. There is lots of evidence around both prebiotic and probiotic use in improving gut microbiome and this is having a positive impact on digestion, inflammatory bowel disease and immune health in athletes, but with regard to brain function it …

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How to help without breaking a sweat

Why are you willing to suffer and yet you can't stand it when others feel even the smallest disappointment? Do you have only a few or a great many caretaking behaviors? This research aimed to compare individuals with alcohol use disorder (AUD) and safe interoceptive sensitivity and accuracy controls. METHODS …

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Make the apology

With a finely cultivated ability to tolerate discomfort and forego pleasure. No, you are not being a masochist. You were on a pedestal at the beginning of the relationship. You were wonderful and perfect, and the narcissist was thrilled to have won you as a mate. Now that the narcissist …

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What Comes Next?

Finishing Strong in life, sport, or business does not always involve overcoming a challenge in a moment in time. When you live the attitude, it becomes part of you and part of your life. A word of caution: Any school Trauma First Aid team must be aware of how their …

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Do What Works for You

A great deal of my selling efforts involved prospecting for leads over the phone. No matter how good you are at selling over the phone, it can be challenging to push yourself to make one more call, and a key to success in selling is making one more call. Your …

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A Nervous Situation

God Made the Elephant Gray When my friend Mary was in junior high school, her home economics teacher instructed the all-female class about buying fabric for a dress they would be making in class. While it can be difficult being on the receiving end of criticism, it can sometimes be …

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