The Head That Controls Both Right and Left

This was the troubling bind Gina was in. Her dissociation was helping her endure the tumult she felt inside, but it was also keeping her stuck. She didn't want to dissociate, but didn't yet know how to stay. This was also the reason mindfulness meditation was so perplexing for her …

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You Get What You Give

That craving, the longing, the aching recognition that there is more, and I could have more, and I could be more, and that the sterility of safety is not as soul-satisfying as the danger of connectedness. How much can shift in just one session. The courage to connect. The courage …

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Say It Ain't So, Joe

I frown and try to peer into the question, but I feel blind. She tilts her head, as if she can't decide if I'm being resistant or obtuse. I want to reassure her that for once I am only being obtuse. The benefits of vulnerability? Is this woman for real …

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Power of the People

Also, in some ways it has served to explain the specific skills and abilities I have (eg, poetry and writing). However, my success and achievements, amongst years of distress, abuse, and emotional and physical pain, are not just the result of interventions by others or professional support. They are born …

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Stop! In the Name of Love

In the systems of oppression described in this article, domination plays out in many ways: from wide-scale violence to subtler acts of discrimination. Another manifestation of oppression is cultural appropriation--exploiting aspects of a culture that's not one's own. While mutual acts of cultural sharing take place all the time, cultural …

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Too Late to Cry

Whilst Western medicine sees the liver primarily as an organ of poison detoxification, protein and clotting formation and assisting in digestion, Chinese medicine sees it as an organ of detoxification of Wind, smooth flow of Blood and Qi, and assisting in digestion. The difference is in the details and how …

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Rubber Room

I enjoy being a homebody and am challenging myself to organize my apartment. I'd like to end this by sharing that I've had a couple of health scares, which is to be expected at my age. But I'm in the clear, and I am a pretty healthy senior! In memory …

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Everything Crash

This makes food shopping easier, but you will be required to prepare the meals after delivery. These dinner in a box options can be expensive, but they provide healthier choices than other call-in or order-on-line options like sandwiches or pizza. Eat healthy food any way that is convenient and cost …

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Still Standing

I was overwhelmed and, as a result, not as happy and carefree as the other children. I clearly had capabilities that made family life and interactions with other people difficult for me. On the one hand, I was extraordinarily sensitive, and on the other hand, my thought processes were completely …

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Inside the Keeper's Pantry

Look at the Godfather he was dominant, so it's not about being extravagant or tough dominance is just meaning what you say and being humble enough to state the position where you see yourself in life and stand by it. Being dominant isn't being a thug or being ripped. It's …

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Hierarchy in Social Groups

Parents often overtly express that conflict in the form of frequent loud fighting that fills children with anxiety and even fear that one or both parents may leave them. Other parents express that marital discord behind closed doors. In these cases, the parents may cover up and fail to talk …

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Loosened Inhibitions

They responded, without hesitation, that they had one room available, and that it was the last room in the hotel. I was floored, and of course, incredibly grateful. I should not have been so surprised, as it was a great reminder to me of the importance of lining up my …

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Planning to Be Objective

Beauty and Brains If we go back to the Flat Disc, we remember that it has two sides. The Angmiotic side of the Flat Disc is lined with ectoderm, the outer skin'. <a href='https://www.openlearning.com/u/whaleyear7/blog/OverTheCourseOfThePreliminaryStudy'>This</a> will envelop the other side to …

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Do you need to start having and sharing your opinions?

On the other hand, chronic insomnia is a sleep disruption that occurs three nights every week for up to a three-month duration. Respiratory conditions such as sleep apnea and asthma, pain, anxiety, depression, menopause, urinary incontinence, and acid reflux are some of the underlying causes of chronic insomnia. Some medications …

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What actions will you shift?

Until that centre returned and I realised that time had passed and things had happened, things had been said, things had been done, and I had no awareness of it. The dissociation back then was overwhelming, and complete. It had taken many years to join the dots enough for me …

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What do you need to stop doing?

I direct my question internally, as I've learnt to. Inside I feel suspicion. Is it a trick? This is my Switch part, sensitive, alive, visceral, relational. He feels things deeply. His emotions are always close to the surface, but never shallow. Herman describes it this way: It is very tempting …

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You don't deserve it

Find the ten target words inside the grid. The words might run horizontally, vertically, or diagonally and be either forward or backward. There may also be an overlap between the words. TARGET WORDS Now, without thinking too much about it, jot down the various thoughts and possible solutions that come …

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You're not good enough

And, while it's your vibration we're talking about here, to the extent that you believe someone else's behavior is affecting your vibration, you're not honoring your commitment to making feeling good your highest priority. I know, I know, when someone in your life is making you feel miserable, it's not …

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I have the right to enjoy the world

The psychopath doesn't care for rules and doesn't play by them. They will blatantly flaunt them, just for the fun of getting away with it to show how they are above it all. When they do get caught, they don't care about the consequences of their actions. They literally treat …

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How Do Schemas Work?

For example, you may think you'd like someone who is extraverted, the life of the party, and open to experiences, but when you actually sit down with that person, you may find him or her to be obnoxious or exhausting. Attraction to Those Who Fulfill Needs Beyond having talents, achievements …

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Mood and Social Judgment

So part of the reason we like to be with attractive people is that we know that this will lead others to think better of us. Basking in the Glow of Attractive Others People's impressions of a man were more positive when he was seen in the presence of an …

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Does Culture Illuminate or Obscure Reality?

It is not valid. Although anti-depressant medication effectively suppresses the symptoms of depression, it does not heal the root of the problem. There is much therapy available out there, and cognitive therapy has proven to be effective in treating depression. When it comes to treatment related to the brain, many …

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Implicit and Explicit Attitudes

An example of a contrary Underlying Assumption is, 'If I don't pass these exams, then I will be a failure. Negative Automatic Thoughts will have a direct effect on your behavior. When you have negative thoughts, this will often result in particular feelings. So, for example, if you start thinking …

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Culture and the Natural Environment

You will develop a better sense of self-esteem, confidence, communication, and helping others. The therapist and the patient make a list of things that are happening to the patients. The therapist changes your ideas by actively listening, understanding them, and showing you a sense of empathy. Using cognitive-behavioral therapy will …

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How Cognitions Influence Emotions

When you accept some responsibility for a problem, the other person sees a willingness to cooperate and will probably be much more open to the discussion. The next step is to state positively what behaviors on your part would probably help; As your partner shares with you, be open to …

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How Emotions Affect Cognition

In fact, one of the ways that concepts of deities might help us keep on the moral path is by giving us the sense that someone is always watching what we do, keeping track of when we are naughty or nice (Gervais & Norenzayan, 2012; Norenzayan, 2013). We can also view …

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Learning to think positively

One way is to impress on them the necessity of cooperating with those with whom they are working. When people realize that they need to cooperate with an outgroup person, they can be motivated to be nonbiased in their interactions with the outgroup and even show improved memory for the …

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Meet the challenges

At first I was only working out for half hour - easy, right? But two months later I was hitting the gym four times a week for half hour and feeling pretty great. Four months in my habit was built and I had three to four weekly sessions of almost an …

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Understanding & overcoming fears

A gay 18-year-old student named Tyler Clementi chose to conceal his sexual orientation when he enrolled at Rutgers University. In 2010, Tyler was publicly outed when his dormitory roommate streamed over the Internet a surreptitiously made video of an intimate encounter Tyler had with another man. The trauma of this …

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The Age of Personalization

Researchers also have learned a great deal about the processes that contribute to the deleterious effects of stereotype threat. First, it's important to point out that those who care the most about being successful feel stereotype threat most acutely (Steele, 1997). You have to be invested in doing well to …

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Why would it be a disaster?

Their personalities are formed in a way that supports an adventurous, confident lifestyle and gives them the tools and coping mechanisms needed to walk this kind of path. From a young age, they get in the habit of trying hard, believing in themselves, taking chances, and brushing off any failures …

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Functional analysis

To do this, it is very important to find out the specific characteristics of the mental block. Can you identify with the following points? When you are addressed by someone, the blush rises to your face. If you have to speak in front of other people, you are at a …

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The second wave of explanations

In a Pew survey in 2016, near half of African Americans said that they have had the experience of others treating them as if they are suspicious or unintelligent compared to only about 10% of Whites reporting having had this experience. African Americans were also six times as likely as …

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