Love is supposed to be unconditional

These studies, as well as our experiences, have led us to expect that standards, values, and decisions arrived at by group members themselves will be accepted to a greater degree by the group members than those that are not arrived at in this way. Lewin and Grabbe have stated this …

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Love is actually my life purpose

Assuming they had reached Asia, they referred to the inhabitants they encountered as Indians. I chose to use Native Americans as it appears to be the term most commonly accepted among Indigenous people, though I recognize that it is not uniformly accepted. Jim Crow laws were laws that enforced racial …

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Conflict Resolution and Collaboration

When used exclusively, and during the early stages of the group's development, group-oriented reflections frequently arouse considerable resistance. This may be due to the fact that frequently not all group members perceive the same group dynamics as does the leader. Conveying Acceptance The extent to which the leader can convey …

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Afraid of the financial implications of getting a divorce

Like negative emotions, positive emotions each come with telltale physical signs to help you recognize them. When we experience negative emotions, it's easy to feel the full impact on our bodies, minds, and behaviors. We can identify the familiar weight of sadness bearing down or the tears stinging the back …

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Discipline Over Motivation

Which path you choose depends on the usefulness of the iceberg. EMBRACE THE ICEBERG (WHILE SHAVING OFF THE TROUBLE SPOTS) Some icebergs reflect what we like about ourselves and want to keep, like I should always be there for the people I love. Those core values are worth keeping. It …

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Things every mother should tell her daughter

That is, how successfully a group adjusts to an internal disruptive force depends upon its employing direct and appropriate methods of attack on the problem. This principle has its counterpart in individual behavior. A person finds himself in a conflict-producing situation which upsets his own equilibrium. He becomes tense and …

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Homework Helper

Look over your list from the previous step, and place a total ban on the places you multitask eat: on the couch, in the car, in bed. As of today, declare no more food allowed in those spots. Identify the activities and ban eating during those, too: watching TV, driving …

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How much time did you spend in the car?

It can also show up in an array of behaviors and disorders that help us adapt to difficult situations but don't serve us well in more favorable circumstances, including hypervigilance, heightened anxiety and suspicion, attention deficit disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, substance abuse, and eating disorders. It …

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What could you do to disengage further?

She sees me and does a double take. If the two of us are heading into the same bathroom, clearly, one of us is getting it wrong. She looks for the signage, confirming that she really did see a stick figure with a skirt. Yes, she is in the right …

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Treasuring Darkness

There is always more to everything than it appears. That is why you need to look slightly out of the box to see the big picture. This will help you view things in a different way. Repetition makes things clear and they stick to the mind. This, after all, is …

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Does your chest release or tighten?

But the good news is that this complex relationship between the mind and the body also allows you to intervene in a positive way to impact your health and resilience. Negative thoughts and emotions can keep your brain from producing the chemicals that help heal your body. This doesn't mean …

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The Spiritual Purpose of Empaths

But that's beside the point. Am I jealous? I don't think so. If it was jealousy, there'd be some feeling of anger or hate, but there isn't. As I read these stories they seemed to have one thing in common. They all had a sense of patience. For example, I …

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How could you let them go?

Supported Bridge Pose Good for: chronic pain, releasing tension This supported back extension helps open the chest for better breathing and relieve the hunched posture that can come from sitting too long. The supportive nature of this exercise comes from the head and neck being lower than the heart, which …

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Limits to Success

The differing approach of Melanie Klein (103) was independently developed at about the same period, and it, too, derived from the fundamental theories of Sigmund Freud. Klein assumed that the child's play activities, including his accompanying verbalizations, were quite as motivationally determined as the free associations of adults. Hence, they …

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We'll get through this together

And, thirdly, that therapeutic interaction at this emotional level, rather than interaction at an intellectual cognitive level, regardless of the content concerned, is the effective ingredient in therapeutic growth. These, I recognize, are bald assertions. It seems to me at the present that they are statements which can be proved …

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What new challenge are you ready for?

In the past century, however, this compartmentalization has started to change. Researchers began to study the MBC and demonstrate the scientific links between the body and mind. While working as an army medic in World War II, anesthesiologist and ethicist Henry Beecher witnessed the power of placebo. When the supply …

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Who feels sick?

And so I'd stop whatever I was doing and drag down at twelve with the group. Well, now I say, occasionally, Well, that isn't convenient for me. I'd rather eat later, or I'd rather eat earlier. Well, ah, before it was easier for me to say, O. And then another …

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Turning Awareness into Presence as a Habit

Heading upstream without a paddle is a common phrase for a good reason. It is a very real experience for many people and is often revealed in very public statements, repeated with a lot of energy and a sense of satisfaction or even righteousness. Commitment is simply bringing together and …

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Of waking up throughout the night

This whole matter deserves more careful attention. The next painful paragraphs were written later that Friday evening, the day of the fifth interview. I've been wandering around like a ghost all evening, trying to find the answer, telling myself it isn't so, I just can't be as miserable as all …

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Afraid of having too much

Think of your life's anchors: alarm clocks, photos of your friends and loved ones, the look from your wife, etc There are many cases in which we have anchors our lives, yet in our favor, we are still not using these powerful techniques. Imagine the following scene: Guy, in a …

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You are smart

The feeling that a pure mirror image in the counselor is not sufficient for therapeutic movement is worth careful thought. The fascinating description of discovering that the counselor sees one as a separate person may be a unique experience or may be more general. With our present knowledge it is …

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Love is actually perfect

Now begin to use it and work with it. Notice your body sensations and emotions. Now see yourself in your everyday life experiencing and enjoying it. Hold it close to you. When you are ready, see yourself walk back up the stairs. Now notice you are sitting in your seat …

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What does that mean?

You imagine and picture it with your Creative Current; Enhancing the Flow Enhancing the flow of this current means stimulating your senses--your eyes, ears, skin, tongue, and nose. Looking at a sky full of moving clouds or art at a museum or gallery, watching the movement of traffic as it …

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Establish Your Core Values

Sometimes people think that the way to discover where their emotions lodge is to pay close attention to all of their body sensations all of the time. This is doable, but it will take a lot of energy to be constantly on red alert. Checking in with yourself five times …

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Be consistent

A healthy body is a body in balance: the balance between eustress and distress, the balance between the sympathetic fight-or-flight and parasympathetic rest-and-recharge systems, and the balance between resource depletion and replenishment. We must maintain that balance to be healthy--to achieve homeostasis. While stress is a normal part of life …

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Finders keepers, losers weepers

Happiness Tip # : Be Accountable Take charge of your life. It is more rewarding than simply letting things take their own course. When you feel accountable for your actions, you begin to plan them out better. You are less likely to believe that you can't do anything about your goals and …

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Attraction to dangerous situations

Distribution of fat around the waist (leading to an apple shape) is more concerning because it is composed of both visceral and subcutaneous fat (See figure 8. Other proteins secreted by these fat cells directly result in insulin resistance, elevated blood pressure, altered clotting, and alterations in fatty acid metabolism …

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She is so mean

High-impact exercises can build bone while low-impact exercises can keep bones strong as well. Cancer Prevention Regular physical exercise has been scientifically proven to help prevent certain cancers. Extensive studies have been conducted regarding breast and colorectal cancers, showing that the more we exercise, the lower our cancer risk. Even …

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I have a hard time sticking to a diet

If you begin to get negative thoughts, try to get rid of them immediately with a positive thought, even if it is something silly. Also, act in a positive way. People will see that you are happy and positive and they respond very well to that. If you smile more …

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On Taking Risks

Studies have even shown that death from all causes can be delayed by regular physical activity. How Much Exercise Is the Right Amount? In 2007, the American Heart Association and the American College of Sports Medicine released guidelines to help both physicians and patients decide which activities people should undertake …

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Yes, all of these things are happening

When I feel misunderstood or threatened, I go from neutral to an immediate fight-or-flight response. If we have a really heated argument, or worse, a disagreement that never gets expressed, my mind will quickly jump to thoughts of leaving and finding a more peaceful life. But I recognize that is …

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