Progressive exposure

Another subtle culprit: margarine. Stick to real butter, as margarine is high in unhealthy trans-fatty acids, along with coloring additives and emulsifiers. Refined sugars. Avoid foods high in refined sugar, like cookies, most juices, and of course candy. The trouble is they have a detrimental effect on your blood sugar …

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Reduce negative influences

If you sit down expecting grinding drudgery, that is probably what will occur. So set up a daily pattern that you can live with. Make it reasonable. Make it fit with the rest of your life. And if it starts to feel like you're on an uphill treadmill toward liberation …

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Trauma and tragedy

One Russian commander reported that when the soldiers stopped shaving, they stopped caring, they became sloppy and complacent, and more of them were killed. Superiors don't make soldiers shave, iron their uniforms, make their beds right, and keep their rooms spotless because it's fun. It's because they need soldiers to …

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Sample a complaint sandwich

Sometimes, though, we need an even more explicit way to signal our request for interruption-free time, particularly when we're working from home. Using the same principles to block unwanted external triggers, my wife bought a hard-to-miss headpiece on Amazon for just a few dollars. She calls it the "concentration crown …

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How much stress is healthy?

Have more targets than you think you can hit. Be a little more ambitious than you usually are. Seek to accomplish more than you think you can. Les Brown says, Most people fail in life not because they aim too high and miss, but because they aim too low and …

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Nervous? you're not alone

A phrase I often use to point out the five main mischief-makers in our culture's diet is "devitalized food." By this, I am talking about food that has had virtually every good or "vital" thing stripped or removed from it. You'll notice that most of the elements I mention above …

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Avoid personal responsibility

The right to choose is both a burden and privilege and it all started at a very young age. At first it's nothing more than, "Do I eat my peas and carrots?" All too soon, it becomes so very much more. As you get older, bigger, stronger, and "smarter," the …

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Showing emotional support

SMART goals mean that: (S) you should know exactly what it is you want to achieve; (M) you should be able to measure your progress; (A) it should be possible for you to achieve it, though not too easy; (R) it should relate to your wider goals; and (T) you …

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Use your support systems

It's focusing on what you're giving to that person (which instantly brings you happiness as well as bringing the other person happiness) and allows the relationship to prosper. However, most people don't do this. They focus on what they're getting instead. Take my good friend Sarah and her husband Tom …

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Not feeling heard or understood

Duh! But it was a triumphant moment when the light dawned and I figured out the solution to the problem, after finally realizing that it was a problem. I don't think people without ADD realize what life is like for us. This next example is a little complicated. I have …

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A life in such perfect conflict

In a separate study, subjects read a fake news article that either described the benefits of happiness or did not mention it. Participants then watched a happy or sad film clip. Those who were prompted to value happiness reported feeling worse after watching the happy film than those who did …

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Bring on more face to face

As we have already seen, if someone tries to persuade you that you are a thief, they can't get to you, because factually, you know you're not a thief. By contrast, if they challenge something more abstract and subjective--your intelligence, your likeability, your sensitivity, worth, talent, or character--your ears perk …

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Understand everything is a process and takes time

This often occurs when the tasks that you are doing are very simple in nature, like getting rid of things that you know have little value, such as expired coupons and unsolicited junk mail. This is because after you've used the method numerous times, you won't need to think to …

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Looking out for future you

Then, according to which box we stick it in, we perceive with a set of fixed habitual mental responses. If a particular perception has been labeled "good," then we try to freeze time right there. We grab onto that particular thought, fondle it, hold it, and we try to keep …

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Developing the willingness to change

We need more time to sort through the data from an increasing number of countries and states to know which substances can be relatively safely and effectively legalized, and for what ages and with what regulatory controls. But this is not to say that we should continue the romance with …

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Don't expect balance every day

That is a double bad deal. Left is taking you where you don't need to go, but just as importantly, it is also keeping you from going in the right direction. If you travel ten miles left when you should have gone ten miles right, you've made a thirty-mile mistake …

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Eat more foods rich in protein

In a queue, let people merge in. Hold the door open for someone and smile at them as you do. Buy someone a coffee and cake or some fresh fruit - summer strawberries or raspberries. It could be your colleagues, neighbours, family or friends; whoever you choose, surprise them. Don't leave …

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Tips for when you have difficulty enjoying

New studies show that drinking lemonade can improve performance, but not for the reason Baumeister believed. The bump in performance had nothing to do with the sugar in the drink and everything to do with the thoughts in our heads. In a study conducted by the Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck …

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Go and have a little fun

They aim to improve sleep by changing your body clock and/or your sleep drive. Do regular daytime activitiesStay active during the day and include some activities that increase your heart rate (aerobic exercise). Eat meals at the same time each day. Leave the house, socialize and engage in hobbies …

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Dumping the unfriendly traits

Maintaining constant connection is like being hooked to an IV delivering a steady drip of mood-altering drugs. The more connected you are, the more attention you steal from other important things in your life, like performing well at work, driving safely, interacting with friends and family, or completing an important …

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Change your body, change your mind

This sense of isolation makes depressed people feel as if an invisible wall is preventing them from experiencing any kind of relief. And this wall often seems impossible to overcome. Not only do people who are depressed have difficulty describing what they are feeling to others but it can also …

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Incorporate more natural beauty products

Discernment is a third component of a present-moment orientation. It may be viewed as the capacity to hold all experience with kindness and compassion, supporting skillful choice around how we respond even though we may be experiencing reactivity. This is cultivated within mindfulness meditation practice, which is then generalized to …

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Your body is surprisingly gullible

No doubt that the idea of a little extra cash is motivating! Then you start brainstorming. "How can I best reach that goal?" That's when the creative juices start flowing. You outline a schedule that allows you to maximize your time and begin your day by establishing the right tone …

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Building your self-esteem and confidence

The good news is that as a result, mindfulness is reaching a broad constituency. The bad news? These applications of mindfulness may well be missing something vital, a connection to its historical roots with the risk of being diluted, open to misinterpretation, or stripped of its ethical foundations. The contemporizing …

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Divorce can be contagious

Every two hours or so, sit down and write about what you're thinking at that very moment. Just don't get scared of yourself. Most of our thoughts make no sense at all. We're conflicted as a species. Descartes also reviewed his own thoughts and found many contradictions. His most important …

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