Give them your affection

They are often grateful for the opportunity to reveal the inner workings of their power, particularly to someone they do not perceive as a threat. Although one mentor at a time is best, it is not always possible to find the perfect one. In such a case, an alternate strategy …

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A nonstop flow of new stuff

Decide how much can realistically be done in an hour, a morning, a day, and so on. Set achievable targets. When you're under a lot of pressure it's easy to set yourself large targets that are unachievable. This can make you feel more overwhelmed because if you don't reach them …

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Getting stuck inside the parenting box

So just because someone might want space, that doesn't mean the person doesn't want to be understood. There is an anthropological theory that supports why we want others to get what we're communicating. In evaluating differences between Neanderthal and Homo sapiens brains, researchers discovered that Neanderthal brains had a larger …

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Physical discomfort at your desk

As the father of Taoism, Lao Tzu, once said, If you want to lead others, you have to learn how to follow. Since individuals alone hold the key to the door to their vast, inner, subjective selves, the only way through the minds of others is to follow their lead …

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Few creative outlets in your life

Then flatten your chest, pushing the air back to the belly while arching your back. This situation deteriorated until Ellen felt compelled to find a place of her own. When that didn't work out due to the expense, the resulting argument ended with Janet striking Ellen. Naturally, she blamed everything …

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Multitasking and lack of focus

The co-dependent feeds on the narcissist's need to be served and adored. First, she continued to put a lot of effort into being good, not bothering others, and fending for herself: efforts that were frequently stressful. Then, whenever she saw anyone in a rage--a customer yelling at a waitress or …

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Dealing with energy vampires

Our hormones can help alert us to these issues and open us up to new insights. Ask yourself, what am I doing? This will help you overcome the habit of rushing through tasks and help you focus on the present. Smile to yourself and say, washing this dish is the …

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Feeling generally annoyed and irritable

Some of the most fun in writing this article is giving you the tools to develop your empathic skills. As you eat fewer sweets and high-glycemic carbs, your body will use up some of that stored sugar in your fat cells, shrinking them. Eventually, you will have more muscle, less …

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Feeling guilty about relaxing

In each case, the choice will have an effect on our long-term future. Emotions can influence us to make decisions that feel good at the moment but that will ultimately affect us adversely in the future. For instance, making a conscious decision to stay in and study instead of going …

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Getting caught up in a major production

On that question, studies show that it's the vulnerable type, with its wide array of resentments and defensiveness, is by far the more aggressive of the two. In the studies, grandiose narcissists, while they tend to exploit other people, are not inclined to be violent or aggressive. On the other …

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Lack of flexibility

It is up to us to take control back and decide to create a better life for ourselves. Science has proven we are on autopilot 85 to 95 percent of the time. Autopilot means that we are not consciously thinking about what we are doing. Autopilot is when you come …

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Modern-world burnout

We think about taking trips all over the world and doing as we please but, in the back of our minds (subconscious) we are telling ourselves we can't afford to do that. It is hard for humans to think big when the right now seems so small. It is hard …

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A lack of fresh air and sunshine

I felt a clarity and focus that was almost unreal. Yeah, I got a little wobbly when I gave that boy a good shake, but when I backed off, I got clear again, and that's when I thought of the fogging'--and that it was the perfect time to use it …

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Stiff, tight, sore muscles

While the list of traits found in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR) is comprehensive, there are other ways of telling whether or not you are dealing with a narcissist simply by the way they interact with you. Listen to Their Stories One of the ways we …

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A ho-hum metabolism

Pick ones that will work for you. Listen to positive podcasts, meditate, journal, exercise. Do what feels good to you. Hobbies are a great way to redirect your mental models. The concentration that it takes on something you love creates a calmness in the brain. Create a plan to improve …

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Slouching isn't good for you

This could include making a mark on the calendar so that you know what days are yours to take out the trash. Next, you would need to honor that there are deeper issues involving you both having a feeling of poor communication and feelings of being unheard and invalidated when …

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Too much blood glucose

She then puts in place a plan to eat right and exercise. The goals will not work unless you act upon the goal. Create a plan to put in place so that you will reach that goal. When Sandy reached a 30-pound weight loss, she celebrated by buying herself a …

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Poor sleep behaviors

These can be practical or more abstract, whichever suits you best. If you imagine this latter statement, the emotion that will come into your mind and body is fear. Say each Positive Affirmation over and over for two minutes each, at some point in the day. It can be done …

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Learning to Recognize Your Own Critical Voice

It seems that stress doesn't just hurt you, it adversely impacts the microorganisms living in your intestines. When you're stressed, you may be killing off the beneficial bacteria that you need to keep healthy. Fortunately, stress reduction via meditative practices may improve your intestinal microbiome and boost your overall health …

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Letting go of judgement

And no matter who you are, there are three self-imposed limitations you have to contend with. Let me tell you about them. The first limitation is procrastination. Procrastination is especially dangerous because of its accumulating nature: When we put off doing some minor task, it doesn't seem to be all …

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Exploring how we present ourselves in the world

You should enjoy as many delicious herbs and spices as possible. Go out to the store and experiment. It's easy and fun to add these nutritional powerhouses to your meals. But, saying I feel joy or I feel fear, we only describe our physical sensations from the changes taking place …

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In our busy and ultracompetitive world

I said, Then you'll have to forget it. There isn't any more time. Where would you find any? Listen, my friend, when the clock strikes midnight, that's it! If, and when, the infant's groan produces no reaction from others in her world, the contractions strengthen, and the discomfort increase causes …

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Understanding the list of ingredients

They don't, and it pisses me off that they all think it's that easy; I enjoy these quiet moments just before the day officially begins. Surgeons, anesthesiologists, and a variety of other doctors walk past the control desk with their stethoscopes and white coats. These physicians, my colleagues, trained at …

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New Year's resolutions and why they don't last

It is a constant loop of negative thoughts that is on autoplay. It indicates you are a good friend, since this class of interaction would not be made with a stranger. If you are a person who goes doing the Fist Bump to anybody, be prepare to receive strange looks …

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What do you need to get done today?

Crucifers include broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, and Brussels sprouts. So she knocked on her neighbor's door, introduced herself, and asked if she could borrow a can opener. She kind of looked a little off-put, so I was backing away, and she stopped me and said No, no--it's fine,' and she gave …

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