Create stronger relationships with others

Conversely, characters who face limitations and personal challenges such as physical disabilities or mental illness are almost always portrayed as villains or comical side characters deserving of pity but not respect. John Wick has become an iconic action film character because he defeats throngs of enemies almost entirely on his …

more ...

I always clean my plate no matter what

He had struggled intermittently with ideation of suicide for at least ten years and chose the least violent, least dramatic means that he could conceive. As a result, many of us live in a constant state of stress about our financial and professional futures--which means feeling a ton of anxiety …

more ...

You need to learn to be responsible

Once we set down this path of boundary work, the inner resistance can present itself in these multiple persuasive and self-doubting thoughts: Am I being selfish? These thoughts put into question why we're bothering to change and undermine our confidence and self-worth all at the same time. The important factor …

more ...

To replace bad with good

Yes, that was a dark time, Greg said, adjusting his jacket. It was the Cold War. When we compare the highlights reel of the people in our feeds (because that's pretty much what social media is) to our reality, it's skewed well out of our favor. The comparison between carefully …

more ...

What can I do about these?

I'd pretend not to notice the circles of kids playing handball, or running through the sprinklers. I would pedal past them quickly, wearing a determined look across my face, hoping somehow to make others think that in fact I had somewhere to go. She was working in animation, just not …

more ...





Emotional eating

Anyway, besides luminaries like Gore and Blair, at the Boston-based Founders Live event I also found myself sitting next to average-looking people who were doing extraordinary things. I met a college student who was working on her second start-up, aimed at transforming the way food is packaged. To counteract this …

more ...


Constructive Thinking

Honestly, that doesn't sound bad, but it might freak out my husband, Patrick. I paused here to explain that defining the future requires incredible attention to detail. Distribute your weight evenly between your two feet. Now shift your weight alternately on your left and then on your right foot, so …

more ...

How would you explain who you are?

You need to treat yourself with love, and when you treat yourself with love, you will not beat yourself up for the mistakes you make in life. Mostly, People who are harsh on themselves lack love for themselves. Law of Attraction This law states that whatever you think and focus …

more ...

I can't trust myself with food

They're a fool's game. One of my favorite quotes about predicting the future comes from Isaac Asimov, the sci-fi master known for his robot stories, which I absolutely love. But in his lifetime, Asimov was also known as the great explainer. He wrote far more articles about science fact than …

more ...


Environmental Assistance

It doesn't matter if I trust him, I trust myself. If I have a feeling, an intuition, or something doesn't feel right, today I make sure I say it. Before, it was about not trusting me, not just him. I would be too quiet. It's not okay now not to …

more ...

I Am Unique!

In the recovery process this partner learns to take more ownership of her sexual desires and needs, and the addict has the opportunity to share rather than to control the experience, creating intimacy. In the past, addiction overshadowed any healthy sexual experiences, and you were likely responding to the socialization …

more ...

Anger Management

I don't feel ashamed or weird about it, because that's what I want to do. This is what's important to my life. Determining Your Goals - Your F6 Goals In order to be less apathetic about our lives and other people, we first need to know what we actually care about …

more ...

Self-control

Phytonutrients are also antioxidants. You may recall that oxidation occurs with prolonged distress and triggers free radicals that are cancer promoting and increase inflammation. The antioxidant effect of phytonutrients, then, is to decrease inflammation. Phytonutrients can be broken down into important components, such as carotenoids, flavonoids, resveratrol, and phytoestrogens. The …

more ...


The Alchemical Quest

She feels that she has to be as close to perfect as possible because she doesn't want to get sick again. Can others who don't have a chronic illness still have some flexibility? Consider that heart disease is insidious. One-third of people with heart disease who die suddenly had no …

more ...

Tell about a time where the mirror influenced you

The host mice were delivered by cesarean section, were fed sterile milk, and were raised in a sterile environment to ensure they had no microbiota. Without a microbiota, the mice experienced significantly more anxiety-related behavior, repetitive movements, and decreased memory. Biochemical and molecular changes were also noted, such as in …

more ...

Yes, I do feel very frustrated

It is not unusual to want some degree of separation to sort out your thoughts and feelings. Best facilitated by a therapist or counselor, together you and your partner agree to a separation for a specific amount of time. Then you will come back together to renegotiate the terms of …

more ...

I feel love for my boss

Too much stress can be toxic and inflammatory. Stress can be Learn to identify your eustress from your distress. Think about saying no to more requests during the week to allow time to relax and recover on weekends. Schedule fewer activities for yourself and your family to allow for more …

more ...




How could you find out more about these?

The combination of coaching and technology can help you in (1) identifying the error and physiological changes, (2) knowing what to do about it, and (3) recognizing if your adjustment actually fixes the dysfunction. It could be as easy as just slowing down! You can also use a heart rate …

more ...

Choosing the Outcome

A natural consequence of being raised in a shame-based family, very often an abusive or addictive family, is that the child grows up to be an ideal partner for an addict, one whose trauma and childhood survivor traits enable him to act out his addiction with little disruption. I look …

more ...



Gladness and success

He doesn't train for it but just jumps right in, literally. Doug makes sure he keeps a sustainable pace and keeps his form perfect, and it takes him about four hours. The experience isn't fun, per se, but he gets a great sense of satisfaction once he's done. If you …

more ...

Parent-Teacher-Student Teamwork

Because the monkeys refuse to let go of the fruit, the tribesman can easily capture the monkeys. The monkeys have, in essence, trapped themselves by holding on too tight. You won't let go of control, and so you become imprisoned mistaking control for security. Image Management Projecting to the world …

more ...

Defending My Ideas

As I listened it was like he was brainwashing me. Then he told me he had had sex with a coworker and how it was okay because she really wanted to do it for him; He continued to drone on like a hypnotist, continuing to try to convince me that …

more ...

The courage to get through the day

Rather than making me become semiconscious, as listening to music does, it actually heightens my awareness and engagement with the task at hand. Anytime you can use technology to improve your connection to yourself and your surroundings, do it. The Equipment Compromise The equipment we rely on every time we …

more ...


On the Power of Concentrated Thoughts

You have been deceived, time and time again, and that is traumatic to your very being. And while you are addressing the lies and secrecy that come with deception, the impact of the trauma needs to be validated and articulated. The words trauma and betrayal afford that, therefore, in this …

more ...

How much do you appreciate your strengths?

Take a deep, slow breath in from your diaphragm, which means your belly should expand more than your chest. Then take even more time on the exhale, letting yourself deflate like a balloon, as my friend, colleague, and breathing guru Wim Hof says. Take at least fifteen breaths like this …

more ...

Understanding How You Think

Back in our little kayak together, talking about our lives, he asks about who Anne and Isaac and I are to one another. He hasn't understood that we're a family. I can feel him trying to figure us out--especially me. He asks questions and I don't mind. We're engaging with …

more ...

We grieve relationships

It helped me stay with emotions that would previously have led to food binges or alcohol or drug abuse. There are many forms of meditation, but the type I find most helpful as a regular practice is just sitting quietly and being mindful of my breath. Contrary to some popular …

more ...