Render Tender Points Painless

You have permission to grieve your old life, for as long as you like. Bob Marley's quote, `One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain', was so true. Joe came out of his reverie only when the singing stopped. But if ya need one, call …

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Practicing Stoicism Everyday

Our beliefs are formed by, and simultaneously sum up, our unique sense of reality, and since this dictates how we interact with the world, the effect is a constant reinforcing of the beliefs that we acquired early in our lives. Long before we have an opinion about politics or football …

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Developing Healthy Boundaries

Go out of your way to create a sensory experience if you need to so that you can complete the process all the way to the end. As you do, mentally describe the sensory experience you are having. For example, say to yourself I see a yellow bus, I smell …

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Rub a Dub Dub

Emotionally and mentally, a strong EQ means that you will experience a greater level of self-confidence and self-esteem, you will value yourself more, and you will stand up for yourself more. People with a strong EQ tend to find themselves thriving in social settings because they have compassion and grace …

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Can you hear the early-warning signal?

Midwife Brittany-Lyne Carriere says, I don't regularly weigh my pregnant clients because I know it can be triggering. It also does not offer me a lot of insight to their wellbeing. Weight isn't a good indicator of a healthy pregnancy. I rather discuss their relationship with food and movement if …

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How To Succeed When Nobody Else Will

And perception is just one of virtually countless tasks it's tackling simultaneously. To generate a working version of reality it has to transduce incoming signals from our ears, eyes, nose and other sensory organs to charged sodium and potassium ions, and pump them in and out of nerve cells. It …

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The Ninja Guide To How To Succeed Better

There are other reasons that sexual play may be limited during the postpartum period. The most obvious is that if a parent has given birth, their genitals are off limits for a few weeks to a few months while they recover (whether they gave birth surgically or vaginally). If there …

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How to not bring your awful day home with you

Because so much of household and parent work is culturally invisible, it's critical that each parent recognize it as work and appreciate how they and their children benefit from the work that their partner does. Don't assume your partner knows you are thankful for all that they do -- find ways …

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The Role of Music

There will be inconveniences in life, and you will be setting yourself up for a very difficult life if there is never anybody you can call to help you out. If we do not talk about an issue, it will continue to fester inside of us and influence what we …

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The Anxiety Mystery

It is a completely unproductive investment of time. It creates clutter in your mind that does have to be there. However, we all do it. When you go through the things you are worried, you will likely find that most of these things are either beyond or control, impossible to …

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I choose to accept myself

Pretend that the air in your chest and belly is your fuel tank. Make sure you fill it up before soaring beyond the clouds and into space! Widen stance by positioning feet approximately shoulder-width apart. Bring arms out to your sides (while exhaling) and in one flowing motion, bring hands …

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Adopting Adaptive Schemas

In fact, you are passing their request off to someone who does have the time and means to do it. People who cannot say no will often find themselves having to explain why they could not get done what you promised that you would. This is an embarrassing and uncomfortable …

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Here's How To Succeed Like A Professional

The fact is, though, that meaningful improvement for society as a whole will come by tweaking the public environment - we will return to this when we look at how the insights of neuroscience can be applied to bring about changes in diet and food choice at population level. This might …

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You, Me And Anxiety: The Truth

Feeling torn in this way can be terrifying and can cause vicarious trauma for midwives, nurses, and doctors. There's also legal confusion about whose life takes priority: the birther or the baby? And who gets to make that choice? The medical staff? The birther? The partner? This becomes even more …

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Want An Easy Fix For Your Anxiety?

On the flip side, Sanci explains, pronatalism also seems to deem some people more socially acceptable for parenting than others. Financially independent, partnered, straight, cisgender, married, and able-bodied people are expected and pressured to become parents, while low-income, young, old, queer, or people with (dis)abilities4 are often questioned about …

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Allowing Improved Relationships

This approach relies on representing every player in the system so the situation will be presented in a broader perspective. The stakeholders will feel safe in expressing their genuine opinion, so the outcome may be more creative and systemic. Whenever stakeholders try to define a problem or find solutions, their …

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Singing Through the Threshold

You will enjoy many more great nights of sleep when you conduct your life in a manner where you show personal integrity, are not dishonest, and keep your word. This will limit the amount of stress in your life. You will not be living your life constantly trying to figure …

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Common Boundary Myths

How can we trust our model if we add all the broad estimates of variables that are not so easy to measure? This indeed is a tricky question for system dynamics modelers and decision-makers alike. When we talk about finances or business, a miscalculation of a few percentiles can lead …

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The Bubble That Just Won't Burst

They might come through clearly or they might be really tough to pin down. This practice of self-talk isn't a sign of mental health problems, despite some associations you might have with the idea of voices in your head. We all have these voices. Talking to ourselves is perfectly normal …

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Why don't I belong?

This way, you will train your brain to get used to doing this, and it will become natural for you. When you find yourself in a difficult circumstance, take a moment and find something positive about what is going on, this is not easy to do at first, but when …

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Are You Embarrassed By Your Anxiety?

If I were willing to let people hear the music inside of me-- If I were willing to show people who I am-- As I learn to simply be myself-- Thus, self-esteem is served by living benevolently. If I deal with other people with respect and benevolence-- If I give …

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Maintaining Objectivity

I only want to be close to you. I want us to be able to talk and be happy. Andrew fills the silent room with his fury. Anita shakes her head. Am I crazy? Anita doesn't understand what happened. Andrew started out feeling warm and close to Anita, but then …

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Could This Be You?

Massage of the Sea points of the TaiYin channel (Yin Ling Quan SP-9 and Chi Ze LU-5) helped the Qi to move in the right direction and almost completely cured this pain too. The patient was very happy and left with antibiotics to help clear the infection. Even though the …

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Someone Else Is Dying!

In Chinese medicine the Liver also controls the emotional aspects of maintaining appropriate boundaries and anger; Histamine doesn't only make you feel irritable but also makes the body irritable against bugs and parasites. It marks out your own physical boundaries. It should be no surprise then, to students of Chinese …

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Fear? Not If You Use Anxiety The Right Way!

This conduction is direction-able so that they act a like a mesh of nano-sized insulated wires. The consequence of this thick matted matrix is that the heart is surrounded by both a physical and an electrical shield. Each collagen fibre will hold its own electrical charge and create electrical charge …

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How Do You Get Over A Bad Day?

Much stuff done in hospitals is done because lawyers' retrospectovision' is always 20-20 - a lawyer always seems to know what was going to happen after it happened. <a href='http://www.biagiodanielloflash.com/home/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=user&id=334647'>To</a> be fair, doctors rarely …

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I am in love with who I am

In fact, the spleen is the most important organ for platelets in the body: it houses up to a third of the platelets, and removes the abnormal ones from circulation. When disorders of platelets are present the spleen is invariably involved; If the spleen cleans the blood of platelets, and …

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Pressure Points to Take the Ache Out

How and if the electromagnetic structure of the pericardium protects our heart and allows us to love our life and stay out of emotional mischief is a mystery, but it is getting awfully close to the meaning of life. Whilst the pericardium can be seen to shield the heart from …

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The Concept of Not-Doing

At its other end it wraps tightly around the aorta (heart) and inserts into the vertebra of the back. This invisible ligament is why the Chinese have a connection between Small Intestine and Heart. Spleen Yang - The Pancreas The broth that comes out under the direction of the invisible ligament …

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Tuning Up Your Vibration

Patients with jaundice often become so yellow that it would be comical if not so tragic, whereas the sallowness created by pancreas deficiency is subtle. These are people who do not have an overactive spleen creating excess bilirubin, but instead an underactive pancreas allowing accumulation of toxins and hence fluid …

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Why There Is No Such Thing As A Bad Day

If any further proof is needed, then it is that extra spleens are sometimes found within the pancreas, for this is the line which it grows out from! Linking spleen and pancreas is not just a matter of convenience; In Chinese medicine they are Spleen Yin and Spleen Yang. They …

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Gratitude and Thanks

How is self-hatred helping me? As I realise that it's a genuine question, unmarred by cynicism, it surprises me. How could self-hatred be helping me? She's serious. She's not telling me off for hating myself. She's not even asking me to stop it, to change. She's asking me to notice …

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Deep in the Woods

It is probably worse to lose your large intestine and have chronic diarrhoea, or your small intestine and suffer bodily wasting, than to lose your stomach. When the Chinese described the Stomach as the origin of fluids they cannot mean the stomach of Western medicine - either that or they are …

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Everything's Tuesday

INCREASING ENERGY I had a friend with a stutter and he always needed a long time to express himself. One day, while we were in a group together, he had to explain something in detail, and I knew that it would take some time. I went into G4 and said …

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A Heart Disease Called Love

There's no way I'm going to show her what's really going on, inside my mind, in my guts. I imagine her ten feet away, grappling to reach me, and I savour the safety of that space between us. It feels comforting. It feels a relief. The thought of her coming …

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Don't Let Go

This is a universal, submissive greeting. Gestures usually represent the state of the person, making the gesture. Relaxed hands indicate self-confidence and self-confidence, while clasped indicators may be interpreted as signs of stress or anger. If a person is twisting their hands, it means you are feeling nervous and anxious …

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