Building Face-to-Face Social Skills

Thus, their apparent strengths were accompanied by select areas of vulnerability. Recent reviews of the burgeoning literature on resilience in childhood and adolescence (Glantz & Sloboda, 1999 Luthar, Cicchetti, & Becker, 2000 Masten, 1999) underscore the need for greater operational precision and consistency in defining resilience as well as in specifying protective …

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Stay Calm in an Uptight World

Frequency is how often you practice. This state is referred to as the depressive position. If we can reach this position in which we accept gray areas in our lives, each other, and ourselves, we can think differently about our hostility. For example, if being a Clot is your way …

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Check there is no risk or offence for this technique

As one phase undergoes dissolution, it leaves the space for something new to arise: a new awareness, a new consciousness, a new foundation. I once struggled to not blow up a much-cherished, multi-year project with colleagues I cared for deeply (and still do! . ) Since I didn't want to lose their …

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Above the horizon

If you have a moment right now, read the poem over several times. Maybe read it aloud once or twice. Can you feel it? But I ask you, who is Thee in the poem--the Thee in whom Emily wishes to moor? Is Emily talking about a parent, or a lover …

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Create a creed

Navigators tend to experience stress when they don't know what is likely to happen (when Mobilisers appear to be rushing ahead with no plan, and Synthesisers and Energisers throw in too many options and ideas). So, if you have one of the other styles, be aware of how your behaviour …

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Spirituality and anxiety

She kept her eyes opened, watching above the sea of heads, to see what the master was doing. Suddenly the Master looked directly at her and pointed to the location of the third eye between his eyebrows, a very clear instruction for her to close her eyes and focus there …

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Have no anxiety

When was the last time you had a really good night's sleep? And how did you feel in the morning? A super-simple tip to get you started with evening rituals is to use a smudging tool when you've decided to bring your working day to an end. As soon as …

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Pick your battles

Situations don't care at all. Breathing in and out through the nose, do a minute or so of kapalabhati pranayama. This means breathing sharp, rapid breaths using your abdominal muscles, focusing on the exhales, and allowing the inhales to be passive or reflexive. Follow this exercise with one or two …

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You do not have to justify yourself to others

You spend ninety minutes in what should have been a forty-five-minute meeting and leave with your energy flagging and frustrated. The next time you attend a staff or committee meeting, request the opportunity to lead an exercise aimed at making meetings more productive and less draining. Tell the group you …

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Compare less - appreciate more

Simply plunk down and unwind with some tea or coffee. In the struggle for survival, nearly every form of life has its mimics--right down to some of the most primitive pathogens. By adopting certain critical features of useful hormones or nutrients, these clever bacteria and viruses can gain entry into …

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Don't counterattack or respond to provocation

As a bonus, the fibers are very beneficial to prevent constipation, which can round your belly. There is a scientific explanation for the popularity of low-carbohydrate diets: large amounts of carbohydrate from white flour and added sugar can wreak havoc on your blood sugar level (the amount of sugar in …

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Do you take ownership of your stress?

Now he's trying to find a direction. The second quality that consolations will always point toward is intimacy. Research in positive psychology points out that happy, peaceful people work hard to make their relationships as strong and healthy as they reasonably can (Seligman, 2004). Our Catholic tradition agrees that strong …

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Keep your life balanced

At least I didn't have to call my wife for help. It's always a moral victory and a personal triumph when I can find something without needing my wife's help. Premature Invalidators can be protective in nature, keeping you from trying new things so you won't be disappointed. On the …

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Setting a consequence

It's not so difficult, but it is required. It's okay if you're skeptical. Consider opening up your mental door of possibilities. This is your journey into the workings of your inner self. The journey that will enable you to start understanding you and what it takes to make changes that …

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Creativity and follow through

For them, a good relationship is one where people leave each other alone. Unfortunately, that's not the whole picture. Life would be much simpler if you only had to deal with only the "I cans." Have you ever heard voices that say the exact opposite and talk you out of …

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Pick a good time

We sometimes hear about near-death experiences from the news or even from someone we know and trust. These mysterious and powerful experiences usually involve a person being pronounced clinically dead for a few minutes but who is then brought back to life. It is fascinating, and for many of us …

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Giving and receiving criticism

Nevertheless, your choice of the first guiding virtue to work on will depend on what type of perfectionist you are. For example, if you are an achievement perfectionist, then adopting and working on unconditional self-acceptance as your guiding virtue can help you overcome the self-destructive tendency to belittle yourself when …

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What are your communication challenges?

This respect avoids damning the world as a whole just because it has some negative aspects. Instead, you appreciate that an imperfect world, where there are bad or undesirable things, can still be a good place. So, for example, despite the existence of poverty, sickness, and death, you do not …

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Practice coping thoughts every day

How is meditation benefiting you? Make a list of benefits. If you have never practiced meditation before, when do you plan to get started? Are you ready to go to the next level of meditation? If so, what do you plan to practice? Wilton would have a stressful day at …

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Rushed and pressured

Still, when I'm getting ready to file something, or to put it on the pile on my desk, and I hear myself saying, "Oh, I'll need to get to this later," I stop and ask myself, "Could I possibly take care of this now?" Adjust this to your audience. For …

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Maybe i'm not meant to do it

And master it. Your bottomless discipline will transform into greater elements in all areas of your life. To maintain bottomless discipline in every level in your life, be aware that discipline is not easy. It takes practice, practice, and practice--every day. Then your discipline will start becoming easier because it …

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Understand that there will be consequences for your inaction

There is a great deal of false information circulating out there about natural supplements, and this is not a well-regulated area of the health marketplace.) However, the psychotropic medications used to treat anxiety often have side effects. Some of them can also be habit-forming (another way of saying they can …

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Challenge yourself with an adventurous outing

People don't evaluate how they got there; they're just there. That passive approach is what I call the Popeye theory of life management: "I am what I am." It's an approach that asks no questions, seeks no answers, and leaves you stuck right where you are. It's an attitude that …

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