I have no axe to grind

Should you try to get her to understand? What's a child to do, especially if that child is over three? Janet called me very upset. She had just talked to her mother, and was coming apart at the seams. Janet was in a crisis and experiencing some difficult feelings, but …

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Have you felt increased heart rate?

So I have a great mentor I work with to enhance my knowledge of how to become better at my craft and of what works and what doesn't. As I have mentioned more than once, tenacity wins every race. Your willpower, your willingness to start and to back yourself, is …

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The experience of having a thought is always OK

I take the complex and make it simple and take the simple and make it personally compelling. The great benefit of setting goals based on emotional drivers first is that it opens you to the potential of so many other opportunities to experience that emotion You are most likely aware …

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Transforming our perspective leading to living life

The environment itself is enough to breed a tenuous, self-protective hostility in the people who must work there. And Division 10 is in a place that is working hard to address the injustices in our criminal justice system, to acknowledge the presence and the needs of the severely mentally ill …

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Living life with meaning and purpose

The amount of air one can inhale, depends not only on how one breathes, but also on the size and health of the lungs. The lungs are made up of tiny air sacs called alvioli. It is here that the actual exchange of gases takes place-the more the number, the …

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Claiming no special knowledge

The word confront means to face. It is a relational term, and its purpose is to bring reality to a relationship to foster intimacy. The goal is not alienation but closeness; The stockpile belongs to your new mothering relationships. For example, confrontation may mean bringing up mom's detachment and how …

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Continue to invest a great deal into researching

No matter what you say or reveal about yourself, this person is on your side and wants to help, even if she disagrees with or disapproves of what she hears. Warmth and empathy provide the basic groundwork of safety and trust that are missing in the adult who had an …

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Gave me very clear instructions

And, best of all, the critical voices are hushed. Bring out the confetti and the party hats. In the zone, you feel as if you are cocooned in that complete concentration (which only lasts a limited time before you start to think about the urgency of watering that plant). All …

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Why do some people say less is better?

By rewiring our thoughts, we could achieve the goals we had set ourselves. NLP was invented in California during the 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. Since then, hundreds of thousands of people had attended NLP training. In the UK alone, there were over 30,000 licensed NLP practitioners …

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Showed me different shapes and colours

You are going to need to step up and step out, to reach out and diversify your network to include those with skills, talent and qualities that feed your growth, to transform your current into your future, to connect with those who will fast-track your success. Edmund Lee gets it …

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The Road to Extraordinary

She does now, Emily says. I glance back toward the counter. Luis pays for his drink and leaves. I guess he knows he's not welcome at a place like Jilly's. You know he's weird, right? Blair asks. She's watching me closely. I try to keep my expression neutral. AVOID EXTREME …

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Where Do We Go from Here?

I sat there for a while, studying the black rubber head as it was moving around in circles, like a dancing worm. I took my clothes off, opened my laptop, put on a random porn clip, set a timer for twenty minutes, applied a generous amount of lubricant, and started …

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It's easy to lose track of what makes us happy

If you can, establish a kind of written conversation with these parts of self. It doesn't matter if it's all imaginary -- you'll still be learning about your inner life. Mental imagery: If you are good at seeing mental images, you may find mental imagery a useful approach. What's this project …

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Eat ethical and healthy food, and do charity work

Dr Richard Schwartz is a leading light in the field known as internal family systems therapy (IFS). This approach combines principles of family therapy with the concept that the self is made up of many different parts. We all, according to Schwartz, contain many different beings. So all he does …

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Social media puts us under a lot of pressure

You can engage in centering rhythmic breathing, place your hand on your heart, or make another self-compassionate gesture. Recall the felt sense and qualities of your compassionate self. Once you're in touch with the part of you that is kind, strong, and committed to the well-being of yourself and those …

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Your best life will reflect your true values

Last month Carl accused me of not being committed enough. So, what did you think about that? It was unfair, I said. For example, when someone with social anxiety goes to a party, they should identify strategies for temporary escape and avoidance in advance, such as going into the bathroom …

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Cognitions are specific to time and situations

Cut down on your hours at work to a level that puts your work and personal lives in better balance. Don't bring your work home--stop answering work-related phone calls and e-mails when you are with your spouse or partner. Spend quality time with the person you care about--focus on that …

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