Intense fear of failure

Who's Going to Pay for All of This? We had thought that designing the study would be the hardest part of the battle. Once again, we were wrong. Stufft added, You have done so much to help the school help the environment and help the planet. This stance of service …

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Necessary Conflict

Empowered by having real tools, the kids went to town. We next moved on to kale, the much-maligned hipster green. But we were going to do something a little different here. Do we eat flowers? When the kids looked confused, she said, We can eat these! Pick two yellow kale …

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E-Squared

Handing each kid an empty egg carton, the instructor said, Find up to twelve different colors of flowers. Roaming the space, the kids kept a look out for a variety of colors. Among the green leaves, picking out purple, red, yellow, and white flowers took a keen eye and close …

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Here Comes the Judge

Gardening is a holdover from my own childhood, when I spent hours upon hours messing around in the dirt. While my mom tended to her flowers, I gathered weeds to make magical potions. Entire worlds existed only in my head and backyard. As an adult I moved onto growing my …

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Personal Propaganda

They also talked about how they could use their skills to solve issues in their own neighborhoods. The researchers reported that the garden program seemed to help students feel more in control of their learning, particularly those who may have been told in the past that they weren't good at …

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Unnatural Acts

As parents actively listen and appreciate their children's point of view, children learn empathy. Having a stable, committed, and close relationship with an adult is key to developing personal resilience. Caring relationships can counterbalance stressful situations and help children learn how to manage stress. As children get older, authoritative parents …

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Your Inner Guide to Self-Esteem

Even if we could, it wouldn't be good for them. If we devoted everything to them, they would never gain independence or understand anyone outside of themselves. Similarly we can't be perfectly environmentally sustainable. It's not physically possible and would quickly lead to burnout. Collaborating with and relying on others …

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Life is a Meditation

This answer baffled me. No one else found themselves torn like I was? I wrestled with this for months. What were they doing right that I wasn't? One day as I read a parenting article, it hit me. I closed the article and blinked. Physically, their metabolic rates slowed over …

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A Lasting State of Feeling Great

And they both work in your office. And have matching coffee mugs with love hearts on them. And the urge to throw staplers is irrepressible. And your heart still gently aches for them, despite all of this. Doesn't matter. Finding the strength to be elegant and detached (and forgiving too …

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Burn Your Own BTUs

We should learn to harness the pressure we experience at work to motivate us, get organized, concentrate better, and work faster. By leaving the drudgery to digital technology, we can focus on the most creative and interesting aspects of our work--and of our lives. More than anything, productivity is a …

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The Trouble With Troublemakers

Like feelings, any belief can lead to joyous and productive emotions, but only if we are willing to reframe destructive beliefs so they support unity and oneness rather than separation and discord. There are six categories of misperceptions that lead us astray and damage our emotional borders. These involve issues …

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Wasting Time the Old-Fashioned Way

David Allen, author of the bestselling Getting Things Done came up with a simple yet powerful strategy he calls the Two-Minute Rule. Given the number of entrepreneurs that brought it up during our research, it's well worth looking into. It's simple: if a task on your to-do list will take …

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You Create Yourself

One triangle is right side up; These differing directions symbolize a choice: we can either rise to feelings of unconditional love and devotion or fall into despair and negativity. The twelve petals of the lotus represent the higher virtues, those that can lift us up: love, understanding, peace, harmony, empathy …

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Getting Paid to Meditate

Have a long hard think about what in that moment pushed you over the edge: were you craving excitement and attention? Are you on a path of self-discovery? Are you acting out because you want some drama, or to bring on a break-up? As for should you tell him, here …

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Law of Return

If that is literally/ geographically impossible, and you cannot wait, then it's Skype or FaceTime. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, you still have to do it. Yes, really. Writing an email or letter might be a much easier way for you to communicate your feelings, but this situation extends …

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Use What You Get

I've been there. We all have. Whether you've been with them for a few months and it's only semiserious, or you've been living together for two years and just bought a VW together, it sucks. It flat-out sucks. The weighing-up, ruminating, discussing with friends, and self-torment leading up to a …

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Why Ask Why?

Pale Orange: lack of joy or play, repressed feelings, inability to feel feelings, lost creativity, fear of feelings. Someone else is holding your feelings or creative urges hostage. Dark Orange: unfelt feelings, bitterness, shame, disgust, guilt. Others' feelings are present; Yellow: mental activity, personal power, work success, optimism, ability to …

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We've Been Duped

The big, bold bottom line here is that most people need to earn your attention, affection and investment. If you're making them artisanal cakes two weeks in, you're telling them in no uncertain terms that you're TOTALLY IN, and therefore robbing them of their primeval need to win you over' …

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Pay attention to details

In an ideal world, your friends and family will support you and want the best for you, but that's not always the way things work. Do the same thing with the chart you are holding in your hands. To improve near-sight move the charts further away. For far-sight and presbyopia …

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Does this depend on your worldview?

Let your entire body relax. According to another study, the less activated a certain part of the frontal cortex is, the more the brain is inclined to wear rose-coloured glasses, as though the rationality knob had been turned anti-clockwise. A positive' brain foresees happiness, good health and success for itself …

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Utilize Distraction

Near vision test The pursuit of happiness is the most powerful motivator in the world, irrespective of social, geographical and geopolitical differences. It is clearly printed in the 1776 United States Declaration of Independence, although it is not mentioned in the 1948 Universal Declaration of Human Rights. In 1972, after …

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Why Is It So Hard to Wait?

Suddenly everyone realized that the astigmatism had gone after just one exercise. It's also a well-known fact that physical exercise increases endocannabinoids and that sexual exercise - not indispensable to happiness and yet very useful - gives us dopamine, oxytocin and various endorphins. Finally, just to cover everything, there's also temperature to …

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Balancing Your Hormones

To do so, before beginning any new task, ask yourself what you can do to complete it as quickly and as effectively as possible. Could you re-use or modify an existing template? Could you ask an experienced friend for advice? I am sure that you will want to go right …

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Examples of High Self-Esteem

Imagine one of your assumptions is that money is evil. If so, what are the chances you end up wealthy? Why would you want to be associated with anything evil? The internal power structure found his views too radical a departure from the then accepted scientific norm. However, Bates went …

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When the Honeymoon Ends

Do you have big dreams but don't seem to make progress toward them? Do you wonder whether you should even try to chase these dreams? Perhaps you think you are deluding yourself? Vision is the most precious of our senses. You see the splendor of a sunset, you see the …

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Different Sensations - Different Thoughts

At times we would be surrounded by hundreds of deer. There is a real gentleness about the deer. All it's really doing is deepening the effect she's already had on you, which means that she's still getting away with stuff. Of course, there's also a really good chance that she …

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When All Goes Wrong

The lesson I took from this was we are given what we need wherever we find ourselves to be. Montana was certainly one of my options if I was sure I wanted to be there. How much better would it feel to throw off all of that extra weight you've …

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Breathe, Patience, Breathe

When your goal benefits you in only one way, it's much easier to quit, especially when the goal you set is something you want but do not need to do. When your goal benefits you in only one way, you get far fewer daily jolts of motivation from small successes …

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Think the Same Way

The same trick works for an EPD. Either way, those first few hours will fly by. Even his voice mail message was cranky. For our first three meetings, I was convinced he hated me. He wasn't mean, but he wasn't friendly. He was just gruff. It never would have worked …

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Do Not Think Too Much

They don't say a picture is worth a thousand words for no reason. Imagine then, how powerful a daily gratitude practice would be, where you take a few minutes every night to reflect on the things, small or big, you are grateful for, things that perhaps you often take for …

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