Being carried along by the tides of circumstance

We knew we couldn't make it illegal to be either against the [Vietnam] war or black, but by getting the public to associate the hippies with marijuana and blacks with heroin, and then criminalizing both heavily, we could disrupt those communities . We could arrest their leaders, raid their homes, break …

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Behaviours that interfere with sleep

Remember that procrastinators are great at finding excuses. Learn to face your overwhelming emotions. Avoid being a perfectionist. Take the pressure off yourself by developing patience from within. Now, let's move forward by learning how to deal with just one task at a time. In the early stages of treatment …

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Keep your daily actions simple

I'll tell you about the whole system later, but right now let's focus on the red card. It has the major things to do that I'm working on right now. Like the appointment book, it is always with me. These to-do's are the major, non-routine things that really need to …

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Start low and build up slowly

The physical energy to move objects around, and get in close to the dusty surfaces with a cleaning cloth. Even if a doctor recommends starting on an antidepressant medication, the final decision about whether or not this is a good idea belongs to the person who is going to take …

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Synchronizing with other people

You are a rock in a stream bed and your thoughts are the current. As they pass over you, they become part of you, but only for a moment. The next moment, they are out of sight, beyond your concern as another one works its way toward you. So what …

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Treatment should be recovery oriented

Instead of being imprisoned by all of the rules and boundaries - you're becoming free. You're no longer being imprisoned by your immaturity, bad decisions, and bad habits. You're breaking the shackles and chains you put on yourself. You're opening the door and walking out of the prison you've chosen to …

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Imagining feeling warm and heavy

However, I want to stress that regardless of your age, it's never too late to start. Numerous studies have shown that changing lifestyle habits in terms of diet and exercise, along with quitting smoking, have significant benefits as you grow older, even if you are already getting your AARP card …

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Are you able to show your emotions?

Are you beginning to see yourself as someone who has the grit to persevere and the hope to keep trying? Brainstorm three ways you can give your time to the people you care about and how that time can be used productively to create closer relationships. Anyone who has experienced …

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Develop common responses to criticism

Well, you have to want change too, and you have to put in effort to make that happen. If you do that, then you can change anything about yourself, and you can effect positive change in other people. When they see how you change, it changes how people perceive you …

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How do you feel pain?

Why are you not asking what you need to do to get a raise and then doing it better than what they expect!? Why are you not proving you're better at your job than everyone else?! Why are you not on hiring websites and in the newspaper classifieds every single …

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Getting to know their interests

A folded blanket will do nicely. Don't sit all the way back on the cushion. This position causes its front edge to press into the underside of your thigh, causing nerves to pinch. The result will be leg pain. There are a number of ways you can fold your legs …

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#VALUE!

Your mind automatically absorbs all incoming information and as it finds a home, it primes and programs your mind. Your thinking, emotions, words, actions, and habits automatically and directly reflect what you're allowing to enter your mind. Yes, I said allowing. You have a choice. No one is forcing you …

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Do you find it hard to say `no'

Growing up, my sisters and I were constantly clamoring for who was speaking and being listened to--we even had hand signals that indicated, "Spotlight is on me! Don't steal my turn yet!" We all have those acquaintances, friends, or coworkers who don't know how to listen and instead start talking …

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The main types of personality disorder

Many supplement types have no real effect (besides as a placebo), because the strains don't ever make it past your stomach acid. This is why it's critical to rely on good research and, ideally, to work with professionals. They will help you determine precisely which strains you might need and …

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Discounting the positive

Here are healthy ways to go about relaxing. Relaxation is the experience of LP, low arousal with a positive valence. It's when you feel peaceful, safe, and content. Your heart rate, breathing, and thinking all slow down. Allowing yourself time to relax might feel like a guilty pleasure and is …

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How will i ensure i actually practise these skills?

A day filled with values-guided behaviors will create more moments of LP and HP, and a full day will lead to much more productivity than an unplanned day. To demonstrate how you can notice your own patterns, I'd like to introduce Sheila. Like many people, Sheila struggles with persistently poor …

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The primacy of kindness and compassion

There will be times when we feel stress. When we struggle and struggle with a prob - that solves it for us, the next thing we do is to stop using that approach. This happens to me. I come up with a good strategy for something and the next thing I …

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Filter out the negative

The anecdote may be unique, but the problems it highlights are not. Employees doing their duty and trying to please their managers often feel unable to change the way things function. As a consultant Perlow interviewed said, "Partners like hearing yes,' more than they like hearingno,' and I'm trying …

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Help yourself to manage stress

So many worshipers made the pilgrimage that the stain was eventually moved above ground to a permanent shrine in order to accommodate the crowds. In 1978 a New Mexico housewife thought that she saw the face of Jesus Christ in a burned tortilla. Thousands came to see her tortilla. Other …

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Overcome challenges

It's as though you and your thoughts have melded together and become one. For example: think to yourself I am an orange.' When you did this you may have then thoughtI'm an orange ... er ... right ... OK then ...' It's a thought you had, but you didn't automatically believe it. (Did …

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Is this really my problem?

The reason is that over time more dentin--the hard inner tissue--is built up between the outer enamel of a tooth and its central nerve. The added insulation diminishes sensitivity. The bad news, though, is that our gums recede over time, exposing roots a different way. Your brain is smaller. As …

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Put on those rose-colored glasses

To choose and change my thoughts. To let them grow and let them go. Seeing my thoughts like clouds in the sky I breathe on, open, light and free. Overall, fear is extremely destructive to the human mind and therefore to positive thinking itself. Why? I believe that positive expectations …

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Those who see why it can be done and those who see why it can't

When deciding whether to believe something, we need to state the belief as clearly and specifically as possible. We can't be ambiguous--ambiguous claims have too many loopholes that can make them essentially untestable. For example, many people hold the superstition that things come in threes--such as deaths of celebrities--but they …

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You're either selling or you're being sold

There are many ways to fake psychic powers. Since the readings were done by phone, and members of a reputable radio station chose the calls, let's assume that the psychic did not have prior information on the callers. What else could account for her accuracy? The callers definitely felt she …

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Drop the "not enough time" excuse

Good for you! So take a look at your social connections with friends, family, coworkers, neighbors, and groups. Some of these relationships may not qualify as healthy and therefore will not be consistent sources of happiness and fulfillment--in fact, they can significantly detract from your happiness and fulfillment. Healthy relationships …

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Avoiding manipulation

Every baseball player practices batting. It's the first thing you learn in Little League, and you never stop practicing. Every World Series game begins with batting practice. Basic skills must always remain sharp. Seated meditation is the arena in which meditators practice their own fundamental skills. The game the meditator …

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Natural rapport

This little bit of advice seemed to help a student in my critical thinking course. He went to a casino and won $800, a considerable sum for an undergraduate student. On his way to blowing his windfall, he stopped and thought about how his mental accounts were affecting his decision …

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Visualize the movement

It is testimony to how much people want to help if we give them the tools to do so, if we make it personal and if we connect them with people in need. Successful people start their road to success with a moment of truth and a decision. A decision …

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Be bold and aware of your thoughts

You're worried about it. Worry forces you to think about little else over the weekend other than getting to see a doctor on Monday. It's annoying that you can think of little else, but the fact that you are so preoccupied makes it likely you'll go and see the doctor …

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Habitual procrastinators tend to float through life

There is an amusing passage by the British novelist Kingsley Amis on this subject. Amis was writing at the time about his strategies for recovering from a hangover, after a binge of nighttime drinking, but if you replace the word "hangover" in this passage with "panic attack," it reveals a …

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Strategies for working with emotional over-control

It is also possible, and in fact not at all uncommon, that a successful person may attribute a great deal of positive characteristics to someone whose influence at the time was entirely negative or destructive, yet the person accommodated or adapted that negative experience in a healthful and positive way …

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Experience influences thinking

Thomas Edison's productivity was boosted by napping. Napoleon Bonaparte would nap anywhere he could because he was so busy he didn't know when the next opportunity to rest would present itself. Leonardo Da Vinci took a 15-minute naps every 4 hours and slept less at night. On top of 10 …

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Looking for patterns

It directly influences the content and quality of every moment that you live. We needn't consider ourselves to be religious in order to invite prayer into our lives. In my eyes, prayers of love, gratitude and care are powerful, healing energetic frequencies that do count, and do make a real …

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