How to oversome laziness

If you cannot do that, people will grow bored and walk away. Remember, they're going to ask "what's in this for me" and it's your job to show them as quickly as possible. So, when you meet, you should treat them like old friends - buddies that can rely on each …

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Verbal cues in a conversation

Our propensity to overvalue the things we have is exploited every day by the business community. Marketers understand that when we buy a product and take it home, the endowment effect will take over and we won't want to return it. And so, we see furniture retailers enticing us to …

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Where to find the science

I'm talking about knowing the essentials that will make you an expert on the opposite sex. There are universal rules to becoming likeable to the opposite sex, and once you know what they are you can decode a person's desire right off the bat. To some, it's known as their …

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Move a muscle, change a thought

It's done. Don't feel one way or the other about the future. See it as, "I'm busy dealing with today and I'll deal with the future when it gets here. I won't waste my time worrying about it." Try to avoid fast food' as it usually contains more fat and …

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When aha moments become defining moments

That you're only working for yourself because you think you're too good to have a normal job like everyone else. You will hear it all. There will always be an opinion lurking around the corner and it will come from a person who's inexperienced, unmotivated, and all talk and no …

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Rejoicing in your life

Spirituality, sometimes voiced as faith, is protective against alcoholism and drug abuse. Those who hold to a spiritual existence, who sense a more universal "power" than that possessed by humans, are less likely to develop an addiction. Holding to spiritual beliefs, to faith in its secular meaning, is instrumental to …

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Negative feelings assertion

People with this condition fear being with others and may avoid being around people or being seen eating in public or being in any situation where the person feels he or she is going to be evaluated in any way. Panic disorder is another way of describing a condition where …

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Can i really learn to control my anxiety?

As one former employee said of Slack, "They really did try to be a psychologically safe company. It's just that not everyone was equally skilled at maneuvering some of those nuances." Creating the kind of company where people feel comfortable raising concerns without the fear of getting fired takes work …

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Visualizing the shoe switch

Realistically, though, that's a very conservative estimate, since those three hours and twenty minutes don't include the wasted time needed to get back on task between checking emails. In fact, a study published in the International Journal of Information Management found office workers took an average of sixty-four seconds after …

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Warm up your walls

Buying stuff in excess is not practical because I don't have enough space. Plus, I like to train myself to resist things to improve my self-discipline. Remember: Money is a replaceable resource. When you're out of it, you can earn it back. You can't say the same for time. Don't …

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How to overcome anxiety and panic?

Go out one day this week and only pay attention to the cues people use in conversation. Try to determine if someone is an audible, visual, or kinaesthetic thinker. Practice mirroring the posture and actions of a friend and ask them afterwards if it was obvious. Work toward a comfortable …

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Nervous habits such as drumming fingers

But trying to control everything is impossible; the difficult is preferable to the impossible. Wait a minute, though. Peace and happiness! Isn't that what civilization is all about? We build skyscrapers and freeways. We have paid vacations, TV sets; we provide free hospitals and sick leaves, Social Security and welfare …

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The burden of avoidance

Are you living in a chaotic household where it's always crazy? Separate yourself from that situation and find somewhere peaceful to live. Are you in a crazy and chaotic relationship? Get it under control, seek counseling, or get away from it. Is your job too crazy and chaotic? Find a …

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Edit your thoughts

It can also be a crutch so I warn you to approach online gaming with the requisite care to ensure you don't get addicted and that you maintain a decent distance from the barrage of stimuli. In short, don't get lost in this world. It's not good for you. Forums …

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Most people don't succeed, so neither will i

It can be helpful to have a Plan B; an option that you can implement if the original one proves impractical or unsuccessful. Whether it's a journey, a change of career or getting fitter or improving a relationship with a friend or family member, things happen. The weather changes, someone …

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Clearing out the white noise

And even if the initial data is relevant, we often pay too much attention to that data, and thereby fail to make sufficient adjustments when new information becomes available. Anchoring can affect judgments in many aspects of our personal and professional lives. The prices that we negotiate in our financial …

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How to overcome a fear of failure

You'll have more fun and "play money" than most and the comfortable life you want will take care of itself. Those who are successful through putting work first live by the motto, "Life is easy when you live it the hard way and hard when you live it the easy …

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Picturing a relaxing scene

What will be the benefits of achieving what it is you want? Maybe it's a financial or material gain. Perhaps it's personal gain; you'll be happier or wiser, or you will learn something new, be healthier or improve yourself or your situation in some way. Whatever it is, keep it …

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Reclaiming your health

They're, naturally, reserving their energy by remaining calm. Plus, when you're always relaxed, you're a more likable and approachable person. You're more trustworthy. You're the one people seek out when they need something important done because they know you're not going to freak out and mess it up. Regularly practice …

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Why likability impacts your life so much

You want to get rid of all psychological annoyances to make your life truly peaceful and happy. The mind cannot be purified without seeing things as they really are. "Seeing things as they really are" is such a heavily loaded and ambiguous phrase. Many beginning meditators wonder what we mean …

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Work towards a win-win outcome

That understanding must be our starting point for changing individual drug use and abuse, prescribing practices, family and social attitudes, and governmental policies. Let's embark on that trip together. Let's recognize and follow the policy and practice innovations that will take addiction far away from our towns and families. How …

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Thought patterns and alternatives

Once you have left them you can put your energy into finding a new job or somewhere to live instead of spending your energy trying to please, pacify or avoid the bully or abuser. You do have a choice about how to respond. Think positively; think about keeping yourself safe …

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Becoming anxiety free

In fact, switching to black can actually increase the penalties given to a team. The Pittsburgh Penguins switched to black uniforms during the 1979 to 1980 season. During the first forty-four games, when they were wearing blue, the team averaged eight penalty minutes per game. For the final thirty-five games …

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Thoughts and values

For example: "In a sense, my habitual lateness, just like my habitual procrastination, was my way of refusing to be tied down by a demanding world." Avoid being a perfectionist. "Still, in spite of whatever losses I had incurred, as far as I was concerned, having an appointment diary was …

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Mental toughness and emotional resilience

It's important to note that research on St John's wort for treating major depression, cyclothymia, or any of the bipolar disorders is limited. St John's wort impacts the neurotransmitter systems of serotonin, dopamine, and gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA). Side effects are generally well tolerated and include gastrointestinal distress, allergy to the …

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Sequester lethal means

Of these, belief in a higher power is the most important. Faith can come in many forms. For me, it has always been trust in God. For someone else, it might be faith in a parent, a teacher, a friend, or something beyond himself. Honestly, I think that if you …

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Willingly admit your mistakes

Even if you hear a story from someone you trust, that person may have heard it from someone who isn't trustworthy. Also, a story's immediacy is usually enhanced to make it more entertaining and believable--an event that happened to someone in your friend's office is often relayed as happening to …

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