We all choose to be fearful

Kundalini yoga uses more meditation, chanting, and breathing along with poses. A challenging type of yoga now commonly practiced in the United States is ashtanga yoga, which features constant movement and breathing techniques. Through movement, heat is generated, which is felt to be vital to yogic practice. Bikram yoga is …

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Love is actually freeing

While this is an extreme example, many of us have been watching our children play and felt those instincts arise as the ref made calls with his or her two eyes that we could see with perfect vision in our one-eyed view were wrong. On the flipside, when our children …

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I don't want you alone in this

It's a perfectly natural human reaction to everyday situations, and helps us determine how we approach events in our lives. It is - to put it simply - an act of self-preservation. Worry is an evolutionary default: we panic because we sense a threat and our senses become heightened in case we …

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What help do you need from others?

Oh yeah, OCD isn't just flicking on and off a light switch seventeen times before leaving a room, or needing to be tidy. You don't always get PTSD from staring at a ceiling fan that for some reason then starts playing helicopter sound effects. And anxiety isn't the adorable Hugh …

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Who feels tired?

The mere presence of certain people or things paralyzes me. I don't know how to respond when a stranger unexpectedly speaks to me. I feel frozen with fear when someone confronts me. Michael had been listening to the exchange between the officers, fascinated by the horror of their situation, but …

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I know the truth about who I am

I understand that God did not give me the ability to always make right decisions. He did give me the ability to make a decision and then make it right. When I make a decision, I will stand behind it. Before the experiment commenced, the prisoners thought that the prison …

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Identify conclusions, reasons, and assumptions

In most cases, make sure that you have made your request after lightening up the mood. You will always get that favor after reminding your partner about how good they are. The impression you use determines whether your manipulation techniques will subdue the target. Many traumatized people find that the …

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Social obligations

Your arrival is quite an inconvenience, the man said. So, what's new? Michael mumbled. For starters, make sure that you have learned more about the individual that you are going to manipulate. Make sure that you have understood them fully. By understanding your target, you can formulate an approach that …

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Wanting it to go away

I don't love it when I feel sad or lonely or scared. But now I also understand that I am having these feelings for a reason. They are telling me something that I need to hear. Sadly, our always-on culture in the twenty-first century often gets in the way of …

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Mixed Emotions

Exercise: Words to Pictures The next time you read a newspaper, pick five short articles or news summaries and turn the words into pictures using your substitute word, visualization, and imagination memory tools. Exercise: Summarize Time For everything in your diary, ask yourself how it contributed to your process goals …

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What's in a Name?

Expectedly, one will offer a firm handshake and accompany it with a smile. Making a good first impression can improve and open opportunities for you in the case of negotiation, interviews, making sales, and seeking a marriage partner. Furthermore, taking advantage of the body language can help one to correctly …

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Shut it down

Relatedly, in romantic relationships, touches that communicate love to play a critical role. For instance, the simplest of touches can convey a critical meaning such as holding hands or placing your arm around your partner, which communicates that you are together. Adults pay more attention to nonverbal cues compared to …

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Leave Me Alone: Mild Depression

That really depends upon your needs. Most people use this memory tool to remember a list of a hundred words. While that may seem long, once you remember the consonant sounds for each number, it's easy. Pushing back against the negativity bias As we've seen, there is an evolutionary advantage …

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What if they think I'm a total idiot?

Defining your process goals is really important, which is why we need to look at them separately. To get you thinking about it, let's continue with the examples from earlier. For a novelist, a process goal might be to get up an hour early each morning and write 500 words …

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Love is supposed to be for everyone

I'm embarrassed to admit that I had no idea how to just enjoy myself while I was being treated to a night out. I couldn't stand not calling the shots. Being in control made me feel secure. And, being surprised--even pleasantly--made me anxious. I Had the Kookiest Problem AT HOME …

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Does your breathing quicken or slow down?

You are beholding a demonstration that such an event is possible, available, and that you, too, can and will manifest the same experience for yourself. The recipient is a harbinger of similar good on its way to you. Don't shoot the messenger who bears good tidings. Envy is wasted energy …

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How to Increase Your EQ

Of course, preparation and hard work are incredibly important. However, there is no substitute for nunchi--for observing quietly and adapting your behavior in real time. If you have quick nunchi, you can create a harmonious environment, which makes people want to be around you. But that's only half the point …

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Strengths and Weaknesses: They're Both Okay!

The author Washington Irving likely received a lot of praise but that didn't stop Charles Dickens from telling him, What pleasure I have had in seeing and talking with you, I will not attempt to say. I shall never forget it as long as I live. Put it in writing …

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Eliminate What Makes You Miserable

I admit to having violated this rule before (again, I was not born with quick nunchi; I thought I was making an important feminist statement with my uncovered head; Nunchi Abroad Rule #2: No one is obligated to translate everything for you unless they have specifically been hired to do …

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Every single student in this class is important

Do I have poppy seeds in my teeth? She continued, The recent round of redundancies we had were not due to financial problems. The magazine was rebranding, redoing our image, and some of our old-guard employees were not supportive of that. It's not as if we push our senior staff …

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Fear of Our Own Reactions

An Overview Tell me and I'll forget; CHINESE PROVERB As parents with a diagnosis, we eagerly pursue answers. But where we wind up is at the very same point where my writing partner, Becky, and I became more than partners: We became mothers determined to find the most effective treatment …

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The Hungry Brain

For example, your friend Tom comes to a party alone because he's recently separated from his wife. You're the only one who knows this. Karen goes up to Tom and asks obliviously, Hey, where's your better half? A real nunchi ninja realizes that several other people will probably ask about …

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The Villagers

This parable demonstrates that the light is always more powerful than the darkness. Light has substance and presence; What is not, cannot be more powerful than what is. We must devour the ghosts and demons that have haunted us. I refer not to the spooks that stalk our physical houses …

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Satisfaction with career

You fly through the air with the greatest of ease (or a reasonable facsimile thereof). You may not fly very gracefully, but you just keep on going. Eventually you will find your next resting place; Many of us are being drawn to a new life that is attractive, but unfamiliar …

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On Complaining About Your Problems

After only two months of dating, they married. Debra's oldest daughter, Jacquelyn, who was clearly a nunchi ninja, knew straight away that something was wrong with John. One big clue? John wore operating-room scrubs in public, everywhere he went. Jacquelyn wondered why was there never any blood or bodily fluids …

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Suddenly I'm bright and breezy

This is very typical of nunchi-lacking errors. I was so preoccupied with my own situation that I was sure it was going to be number one in everyone's minds. I wanted to reassure them I wasn't inconsiderate. In fact, I achieved the opposite. Rule #3: If you just arrived in …

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Where Awareness Comes from, and the Case for?

There are similar videos from China and Germany. It's pretty amazing to watch, and it can only happen in a culture that values collectivism and not just individualism. In some cultures--those that place individualism at a premium--the path of life would not be possible. A significant proportion of the drivers …

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On Finding Your Passion

He didn't appear to understand. That is to say, the practitioner could be ready and skilled to deliver psychosocially competent care, but the delivery system would not be ready to provide the incentives to support such care--indeed, the system may even offer active disincentives. Increasingly, as Helen McNaughton reports in …

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The Predictable Brain

In article 4, for example, Rudolph Kristiva's current life problems keep shifting, but his biography discloses continuities that shape the long-term form of his illness experience. For much of the western world, meditation calls to mind images of hippies in tie-dye or Buddhist monks chanting in strange languages for the …

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