Understand that this is not an all-or-nothing proposition. As I did, you may have parts of your life that you absolutely love and parts that you absolutely hate. There may be parts that you wish could be added to an otherwise great life. Living for your fictional self, whether it …

Your mind automatically absorbs all incoming information and as it finds a home, it primes and programs your mind. Your thinking, emotions, words, actions, and habits automatically and directly reflect what you're allowing to enter your mind. Yes, I said allowing. You have a choice. No one is forcing you …

Growing up, my sisters and I were constantly clamoring for who was speaking and being listened to--we even had hand signals that indicated, "Spotlight is on me! Don't steal my turn yet!" We all have those acquaintances, friends, or coworkers who don't know how to listen and instead start talking …

The Zeigarnik effect is a social psychology phenomenon that you can use in your favor, as it relies on the observation that we feel a lot more tension when we don't complete things we start. So if you can talk yourself into starting an exercise session because reaching your minimum …

Only lack of effort and self-doubt can stand in your way. Be fearless, and you will accomplish your aims. Expectations begin with the individual. Although it's important to have expectations for others, the most important expectations you have are for yourself. They determine the outcome of a situation before it …

Many supplement types have no real effect (besides as a placebo), because the strains don't ever make it past your stomach acid. This is why it's critical to rely on good research and, ideally, to work with professionals. They will help you determine precisely which strains you might need and …

Can you tell if your need to be perfect comes only from within you--that it's a striving for excellence on steroids? If so, when did it become important? Are you perfectionistic with others? If you are, is there someone from whom you expect their best at all times? Are there …

Take cocaine as an example. Even doubling the sale price of the coca leaf in the mountains, were that to happen absent a monopsony, would increase the cost to a street purchaser by less than 1 percent. Why? Because of the economics of the supply chain, the sequence by which …

Here are healthy ways to go about relaxing. Relaxation is the experience of LP, low arousal with a positive valence. It's when you feel peaceful, safe, and content. Your heart rate, breathing, and thinking all slow down. Allowing yourself time to relax might feel like a guilty pleasure and is …

Early on in our practice of meditation, we need to rethink our underlying assumptions regarding conceptualization. For most of us, we have earned high marks in school and in life for our ability to manipulate mental phenomena, or concepts, logically. Our careers, much of our success in everyday life, our …

In a habitual procrastinator's way of thinking, if the dentist were to make such a detrimental comment, it won't matter as much because chances are, he'll never see that dentist again. Even when depression is properly diagnosed, there are still different diagnoses that can be given depending on how long …

A day filled with values-guided behaviors will create more moments of LP and HP, and a full day will lead to much more productivity than an unplanned day. To demonstrate how you can notice your own patterns, I'd like to introduce Sheila. Like many people, Sheila struggles with persistently poor …

Instead of will power, "won't power" becomes the rule. Sometimes a procrastinator will engage in a pursuit that has no real value just for the sake of having a substitute activity (such as aimless channel surfing or oversleeping) in order to calm down from the anxiety he feels. He can …

There will be times when we feel stress. When we struggle and struggle with a prob - that solves it for us, the next thing we do is to stop using that approach. This happens to me. I come up with a good strategy for something and the next thing I …

How does it work then? I'm sure you've heard the age old adage, "Walk a mile in someone else's shoes". Part of a successful interaction with a new friend is to do this on a repeated basis. It can be mentally exhausting at first as you consciously look inside yourself …

Not only does being part of a larger movement provide young people with a sense of belonging but the friends they make in these communities can also provide them with emotional support. As we can see, simply being a part of the goth or emo scenes don't necessarily mean that …

So if something is planned for next month, or the month after, I can really see where it is, and how many days are between now and then. Telling me that something is two months away does not convey useful information to me. I have to see it. I can …

The anecdote may be unique, but the problems it highlights are not. Employees doing their duty and trying to please their managers often feel unable to change the way things function. As a consultant Perlow interviewed said, "Partners like hearing yes,' more than they like hearingno,' and I'm trying …

So many worshipers made the pilgrimage that the stain was eventually moved above ground to a permanent shrine in order to accommodate the crowds. In 1978 a New Mexico housewife thought that she saw the face of Jesus Christ in a burned tortilla. Thousands came to see her tortilla. Other …

Do the time-consuming prep work on the weekend. While not everyone has time to prep their meals on any given Saturday, what with kids' swim meets, Mommy and Me classes, or orchestra performances, this can also be a great way to teach your little ones their way around the kitchen …

Life sucks, they're embarrassed, and they're unsure of themselves - but they accept it. They deal with it. They live with it. They welcome it. They adapt to it. They expect it. They know it's part of the process. Your path will never be perfect. It will never be perfectly flat …

It's as though you and your thoughts have melded together and become one. For example: think to yourself I am an orange.' When you did this you may have then thoughtI'm an orange ... er ... right ... OK then ...' It's a thought you had, but you didn't automatically believe it. (Did …

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By forgiving, you are accepting what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it. It may happen quite quickly or it may be a gradual process. You might find it helpful to write an honest, emotional letter telling the other person how hurt and …

As a result, everyone reacts differently to the events and opportunities they encounter. Being open-minded can help you so much, giving you the chance to learn at every turn in life. You can see what others choose to shut out. Many people fail to discover new things because they think …

Additionally, food preservatives can cause people serious problems, especially when fast food is a mainstay of your diet. For example, a college student ate only McDonald's for ten days to determine its effects on gut health. The fast food diet left his gut microbes devastated. About 40 percent of his …

Anytime I'm on an airliner, I want my pilot looking at the current situation and making a real-time, informed decision, not picking his course of action on what happened one, two, or five years ago. Bottom line: Whatever the situation in which you find yourself, the appropriate questions are, "Can …

Going to bed and getting up late, not flossing your teeth, not picking up after yourself, playing on your phone, not staying focused, choosing fun over work, spending money on little things you don't need, and choosing to get upset and worried instead of remaining calm are little things adding …

The reason is that over time more dentin--the hard inner tissue--is built up between the outer enamel of a tooth and its central nerve. The added insulation diminishes sensitivity. The bad news, though, is that our gums recede over time, exposing roots a different way. Your brain is smaller. As …

In one study, it took a cash gift of up to 16,000 to generate the same level of brain stimulation as one smile!On this basis, if you smiled 62.5 times a day (about once every 15 minutes over 16 hours), you would feel like a millionaire every …

Probably something along the lines of recalculating. In a soft voice that is supportive. Calm yet direct and to the point. Imagine if it swore at you. Told you how pathetic you are. Scorned you. Shouted in a deep bellowing voice or indeed a shrill screaming high pitch one. Either …

So they decided to cut the tail of Mike's horse short. That worked for a while, but then they saw that the poor horse couldn''t brush the flies away and the tail grew back in pretty soon anyway. So they decided to measure the heights of the horses. And sure …

Another time in college I had only one more final to go, and I was totally worn out. I needed some help. So I got an amphetamine pill to help me stay up all night and study. I didn't know then that I had ADD or that amphetamines are supposed …

To choose and change my thoughts. To let them grow and let them go. Seeing my thoughts like clouds in the sky I breathe on, open, light and free. Overall, fear is extremely destructive to the human mind and therefore to positive thinking itself. Why? I believe that positive expectations …

It veers and bucks. It chases itself around in constant circles. It chatters. It thinks. It fantasizes and daydreams. Don't be upset about that. It's natural. When your mind wanders from the subject of meditation, just observe the distraction mindfully. When we speak of a distraction in insight meditation, we …

When deciding whether to believe something, we need to state the belief as clearly and specifically as possible. We can't be ambiguous--ambiguous claims have too many loopholes that can make them essentially untestable. For example, many people hold the superstition that things come in threes--such as deaths of celebrities--but they …

Also, by imitating the examples provided by the therapist and other group members, they can learn to understand themselves better and develop real alternatives that can make coping easier. Over the past ten years, I have been working tirelessly to reclaim authority over my mental, emotional, and physical health. The …

When you have your act together, you decide, "This has to happen" and it becomes everything that's important. It automatically shoots to the very top of your priority list. There are a number of factors associated with anxiety-related conditions. These are family history, stressful life events, thinking style, poor coping …

Prices are constant, so a cup of coffee will cost the same in either world. What about you? In which of these worlds would you choose to live? Usually, over 50 per cent of the audience would prefer to live in the first world. This is consistent with academic studies …

Too hard can induce pain. The clothes you wear for meditation should be loose and soft. If they restrict blood flow or put pressure on nerves, the result will be pain and/or that tingling numbness that we normally refer to as our "legs going to sleep." If you are …