Stop comparing, start appreciating

As I've suggested, the latest research shows us that what's going on in your gut influences what goes on in your brain--not the other way around. So, if the evidence shows us that the brain is responding to messages sent by the gut, primarily through the vagus nerve, then it …

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Developing rapport

It will help you to think of solutions and better yet understand what other people's actions are caused by. Visualize Negative Thoughts Turning into Positive - Here's an activity that works wonders for negative thoughts. When you have a negative though, visualize it in your head and then slowly transition it …

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Never ever and always

The truth is that all humans are "hardwired" to feel unhappy when there is pain. Pain signals literally travel to the parts of the brain that handle emotions: the limbic system and the frontal lobe. This is part of the survival system, because pain is there to alert you to …

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Putting it all to good use

It taps you into a whole new dimension of sensation, and you feel like a blind man whose sight has been restored. Every action you perform is made up of separate components. The simple action of tying your shoelaces is made up of a complex series of subtle motions. Most …

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You're either selling or you're being sold

There are many ways to fake psychic powers. Since the readings were done by phone, and members of a reputable radio station chose the calls, let's assume that the psychic did not have prior information on the callers. What else could account for her accuracy? The callers definitely felt she …

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Drop the "not enough time" excuse

Good for you! So take a look at your social connections with friends, family, coworkers, neighbors, and groups. Some of these relationships may not qualify as healthy and therefore will not be consistent sources of happiness and fulfillment--in fact, they can significantly detract from your happiness and fulfillment. Healthy relationships …

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Now, let's read other people

After we picked a career, we would have to investigate all the companies in the field that we could work for. As you can gather, if we did a thorough search to maximize our decision accuracy, we'd spend more time deciding where to work than actually working. We can't live …

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Avoiding manipulation

Every baseball player practices batting. It's the first thing you learn in Little League, and you never stop practicing. Every World Series game begins with batting practice. Basic skills must always remain sharp. Seated meditation is the arena in which meditators practice their own fundamental skills. The game the meditator …

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Gentle and open-minded

Take the case of Luke, who is a successful TV actor. Luke describes a sharp lesson that he learnt early on in his career, in managing criticism: I remember when, in my late teens, before I went on to drama school, I was in a local theatre group. This one …

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Not everyone is out to get you

Unite the mind with this sign that is available in the present moment and let the mind flow with every succeeding moment. As you pay bare attention to it, you will see that the sign itself is changing every moment. Keep your mind with the changing moments. Also, notice that …

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What am i able to do?

Those who were stigmatized were assigned the most undesirable category in the community.2 Though modern use of the word stigma no longer involves physical markings, a person with mental illness carries an indelible mark of shame nonetheless. This happens because society views mental illness as menacing, deviant, and unpredictable …

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Handling criticism

If you find your mind extremely active, then simply observe the nature and degree of that activity. It is just a part of the passing show within. Maintain muscle mass. Cells that don't sustain the proper balance of fluids and electrolytes cause muscle fatigue. That's why drinking ample fluids during …

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Natural rapport

This little bit of advice seemed to help a student in my critical thinking course. He went to a casino and won $800, a considerable sum for an undergraduate student. On his way to blowing his windfall, he stopped and thought about how his mental accounts were affecting his decision …

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Pursuing happiness can hurt your relationships

Here are some ideas. If you like to speak more than you like to write, you can record the TRAP with your phone. If you're walking and talking in public, to the people around you, you're simply having a phone conversation. If you record your monitoring, I encourage you to …

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Reduce, reuse, and smile

Life is full of many ups and downs. Each lifetime has moments of inconceivable joy, tremendous suffering, and utter boredom, yet in the end, it is all part of a beautiful ride. It is a wonderful blessing to have a conscious mind, but being self-aware entails many burdens and drawbacks …

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Visualize the movement

It is testimony to how much people want to help if we give them the tools to do so, if we make it personal and if we connect them with people in need. Successful people start their road to success with a moment of truth and a decision. A decision …

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Dealing with demands or requests

Ask yourself, for example, what you would do if there was nothing to stop you - you didn't have to think about money or other people. Think, too, about what has and hasn't worked in the past in relation to what it is you want to achieve. If, for example, your …

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Is this really dangerous?

You might be aware of the movement of the ribs as you breathe in and out or the movement of the belly, rising with each in-breath and releasing with each out-breath. Taking these next few moments to bring your attention to where you best sense the physical sensations and rhythm …

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Be bold and aware of your thoughts

You're worried about it. Worry forces you to think about little else over the weekend other than getting to see a doctor on Monday. It's annoying that you can think of little else, but the fact that you are so preoccupied makes it likely you'll go and see the doctor …

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There's a science to likability

We may feel fear, worry, restlessness, or boredom. These reactions are also universal. We should simply note them and then generalize. We should realize that these reactions are normal human responses, and can arise in anybody. The practice of this style of comparison may feel forced and artificial at first …

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Are you critical of other people?

I won't quarrel with that. But the secondary gain of educating the public is far more valuable. One of the greatest ways we make sense of the world is by hearing the stories of others. Through their narratives, we measure and reframe our internal thoughts and feelings, learn that we're …

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Habitual procrastinators tend to float through life

There is an amusing passage by the British novelist Kingsley Amis on this subject. Amis was writing at the time about his strategies for recovering from a hangover, after a binge of nighttime drinking, but if you replace the word "hangover" in this passage with "panic attack," it reveals a …

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Overloaded and overwhelmed

Keeps your bones strong and joints healthy. Helps you maintain a healthy weight. Helps you maintain your independence well into your later years.1 Constantly fighting your emotions can be like playing an exhausting game of tug-of-war with a monster. What might happen if you just put down the rope …

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Strategies for working with emotional over-control

It is also possible, and in fact not at all uncommon, that a successful person may attribute a great deal of positive characteristics to someone whose influence at the time was entirely negative or destructive, yet the person accommodated or adapted that negative experience in a healthful and positive way …

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Tips to help you get going

"The results suggested that suppressing the thought for the first five minutes caused it to `rebound' even more prominently into the participants' minds later," according to an article in Monitor on Psychology. Wegner later dubbed this tendency "ironic process theory" to explain why it's so difficult to tame intruding thoughts …

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What not to do

Why is that? There is often considerable evidence that both supports and contradicts the hypothesis tested. If we focus primarily on the supporting data, we're more likely to accept that hypothesis, even though the contradictory information may be more compelling. In essence, when we use a confirming strategy, we rely …

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Willingly admit your mistakes

However, true experiments are difficult to perform on this issue because you can't force a random sample of people to smoke or stop smoking. As a consequence, researchers had to analyze the incidence of illness in smokers and nonsmokers. But any observed differences in one study could have been the …

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Experience influences thinking

Thomas Edison's productivity was boosted by napping. Napoleon Bonaparte would nap anywhere he could because he was so busy he didn't know when the next opportunity to rest would present itself. Leonardo Da Vinci took a 15-minute naps every 4 hours and slept less at night. On top of 10 …

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Learn to accept yourself

So, keep in mind that evaluating risk for suicide is not like setting up a list of pros and cons. There is no specific formula for detecting and preventing suicide. What I recommend is to look at a person's biology, biography, risk, and protective factors--as well as her or his …

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Looking for patterns

It directly influences the content and quality of every moment that you live. We needn't consider ourselves to be religious in order to invite prayer into our lives. In my eyes, prayers of love, gratitude and care are powerful, healing energetic frequencies that do count, and do make a real …

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Striving to make the other happy while together in company

While early contradictory evidence may blur our understanding, later work often brings the picture into sharper focus. When programs to help disadvantaged children, such as Head Start, were first studied, we saw headlines like "Early Intervention Raises IQs by Thirty Points," along with "Head Start a Failure." What are we …

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