Being fearful of disagreeing with a partner

Refusing to be the villain, she backtracked clarifying that his behavior was what she disliked. He frequently turned things around this way, effectively inhibiting her expressions of anger. Years later, she desperately wanted him out of her home where he had been living free without contributing to expenses. But her …

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Changing personality for a partner

With that kind of approach, you'll find you're able to bypass others' defensiveness and help them feel safe enough to be open to what you have to say. Yield Theory offers a practical and efficacious methodology for handling conflict. It's not complex to learn, but it takes effort to master …

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Having no fair resolution of issues

instead, he desired that the children should have behaved differently than they did. He felt disrespected and acted out of anger; yet his angry action did nothing to show the children a better path. You might view the turtle as foolish, but you are no different from him when you …

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No topic is off-limits

Scores of articles and neurological studies have touted the physiological changes that occur in the brains of regular meditators. Meditation makes observable changes that are extremely beneficial, such as quieting the default-mode network (those interconnected neurons that contribute to our constantly running internal dialogue), decreasing unnecessary impulsive reactions, and increasing …

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Your partner lets you 'in' to their inner world

I ask and search and come up with few answers, eventually arriving at the conclusion that we might as well just cash it all in--not that there's a king's ransom--and divide the money before we go. The whole prospect of having your family blueprints curl up in flames is so …

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You greet each other positively when you get home

Oswalt responded to these (mostly) anonymous critics by echoing the sentiments of a blogger who basically said that no one gets to sit in judgment of what a widow or widower does when their own partner is perched right next to them. No one who hasn't had the routine of …

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Being alone and off a device is difficult.

Of course, that didn't stop some from jumping to the wrong conclusions, but at least we tried, through the journal, the newspaper interview and, of course, the airwaves, where my colleagues at CHFI told listeners of Lauren's sudden and inexplicable passing. As we drove up to the house, we saw …

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Do you spend a lot of time on social media?

Anyway, it made sense to us. I haven't seen a lot of open caskets in my life, but I remember that when our friend Kathy Morrison died of brain cancer in her forties, she appeared in her casket very much as she did in life: beautiful. Our Lauren was not …

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Our moods are affected after being on social media

I am so grateful to have felt secure enough to be openly vulnerable and human. I don't remember much, other than that kindness from the flight attendant who offered Rob and me privacy. She probably offered us a drink too, and I'm sure it was only the support of Rob …

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We try to recreate 'looks' we've seen online

If there is a paucity of facts, people are going to start to make up details and post sheer conjecture, especially when a healthy young woman dies so suddenly, so senselessly. I set aside my worries about how it might appear--a grieving mother agreeing to an interview--and decided to try …

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I'm happy for my partner to see me naked

Like zombies, we waited in our room until the bellman arrived to take our bags, and then we quietly shuffled back to that cursed lobby--where we discovered that the drama in that particular part of the hotel wasn't yet over. As we were getting set to climb into the van …

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While my body may not be perfect, I'm okay with it

As our group sat near our gate in the Sangster International Airport departure lounge, we tried not to attract any attention as our tears flowed. We were still unaware that people in Ottawa and Toronto were beginning to feel the shock waves that accompanied the news of Lauren's death. In …

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Do you have healthy body image?

I just wanted to make sure that, in my shock, I didn't say the wrong thing, or words that would be brought up in heated moments in the years to come. Goodness knows I have a long memory when it comes to things that have been said in the heat …

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