James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente called their wonderfully pragmatic model the stages of change. they wrote about six stages, the first four apply most aptly to Yield Theory. Imagine Rob, a man who's angry and doesn't realize how much his anger affects everyone around him. Maybe someone in his life …

We have only a partial picture of the field and so our powers are limited. In the second phase, through much practice and immersion, we see into the inside of the machinery, how things connect with one another, and thus gain a more comprehensive understanding of the subject. With this …

If your child's car broke down and she called to ask you to give her a ride, your first pragmatic question would be Where are you? Without knowing where she is, after all, how could you possibly go get her? You could, of course, spend time berating her about how …

I promise! And so the man moved the rock. The moment the snake was free, it instantly sunk its fangs into the man's leg, releasing its deadly poison. Furious, confused, and upset, the man asked in his last breath, Why would you do that? To which the snake replied, I'm …

Osteoporosis describes the low bone density that can be measured on a bone density scan, known as a DXA (or, formerly, DEXA). A DXA scan is Dual-energy X-ray Absorptiometry and is a means of measuring bone mineral density (BMD). Two X-ray beams with different energy levels are aimed at the …

A mother who is emotionally needed might look toward her child to care for her financially or in any other way which will meet the mother's emotional needs. There are several personality characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. During diagnosis, your therapist will use this criterion to find out if you …

The following metaphor of merging with others as the substance of Yield Theory came to me in 1998. Imagine you were driving and noticed a man in another car headed down a dangerous and destructive road. To stop him from going that way, you would have several options, but let's …

I continued, It is true that there's a pony on that one side, and the fact that there are other objects on the other sides of the box doesn't make it any less true that the pony is still on that one side. I told her that the people who …

Well, you and the eating disorders therapist would put your heads together and create a plan that addresses the reasons why you binge eat, the ways to stop it, and behaviors to put in the place of that bad eating. It's really not too different from the Stress Coping Cycle …

' She spoke quickly, her discomfort competing with her need to be honest in Group. I mean, I slept in my closet for years and can't even bring myself to bow-chicka-wow-wow with my boyfriend, so normal' for me is kind of an act as it is. <a href='http://hpsr2006.et …

So just because someone might want space, that doesn't mean the person doesn't want to be understood. There is an anthropological theory that supports why we want others to get what we're communicating. In evaluating differences between Neanderthal and Homo sapiens brains, researchers discovered that Neanderthal brains had a larger …

Continue breathing deeply. Decide to focus on just one task and clear your mind of everything else. Change from deep breaths to natural breathing. Whenever your mind tries to think about other things still to be done, gently bring it back to the task at hand. Help you return to …

Simple inhalation. Simple exhalation. Relax your pelvis. Feel your legs and feet melt into the earth. No effort. No restriction. Surrender completely. Whenever you catch yourself making us and them distinctions or criticisms, spend a moment being the other person. Cool Hand Luke? Darrell frowned slightly. Yes, my man, but …

This is basically what happens: When your hands are apart or you step forward in tai chi, that is an opening movement. When your hands come closer or down or you step back in tai chi, that is a closing movement. When you are inhaling, you are taking in life …

Sit and breathe in a continuous flow, without interruption or pause. You need to be careful with this exercise and do it only for a short period of time. The inhale leads directly to the exhale, without stopping or holding the breath in, and vice versa. Puff the cheeks and …

Yes! And the Holy Spirit character is an Asian female. The whole thing is very nontraditional. But like I said, it makes God more real for me. Mainly, though, I like how my dad seems open to it. In fact, the other day, he even said, Our little human brains …

In order to connect more deeply with all the healing elements within and around you, you may want to stop walking from time to time and simply breathe. The more you make yourself available to these elements, the more you are refreshed and healed. Sometimes it feels like we are …

As the father of Taoism, Lao Tzu, once said, If you want to lead others, you have to learn how to follow. Since individuals alone hold the key to the door to their vast, inner, subjective selves, the only way through the minds of others is to follow their lead …

Hunter agreed. Oh, yeah: my counselor, Tim, says that 50% or more at the unit have had trauma. It's higher in girls. Dr Matt went on, Yes. It's all part of the avoidance stuff we talk about so much. Experiencing the after-effects of trauma hurts so much that anything that …

Moderate amounts of whole-wheat pasta or brown rice might be healthy choices but only if they're accompanied by protein and healthy fats. Your breath will slow. Do this for several minutes. Back off from striving for goals and instead start focusing carefully on seeing and accepting things as they are …

Breathing naturally will help you feel refreshed, balanced, and content. Shifting Standards. gaslighting tactic (see below), this is another way for the narcissist to maintain control over the victim. By moving the goalposts in this way, the narcissist seeks to confuse and humiliate their victim, often to the point of …

In abusive relationships, especially those with a malignant narcissist, it is common for the abuser to completely envelop every aspect of the life of the abused, leading them to neglect their own basic needs and desires to win the favor and affection of their abuser. So, if your principles allow …

Then flatten your chest, pushing the air back to the belly while arching your back. This situation deteriorated until Ellen felt compelled to find a place of her own. When that didn't work out due to the expense, the resulting argument ended with Janet striking Ellen. Naturally, she blamed everything …

Serotonin combats depression, builds self-esteem and a positive outlook, and creates feelings of calm. Relish this feeling. This is your whole body breathing. As you exhale, you may sense the inner energy of the breath spreading downward toward your feet. Feel the energy travel from the top of your head …

Know you are breathing out. This isn't accidental, the abuse is intentional, and the goal is domination. Remember, they will do what they need to do to feel superior to others, especially those with whom they have some relationship, in order to further shield their own feelings of inferiority. On …

The co-dependent feeds on the narcissist's need to be served and adored. First, she continued to put a lot of effort into being good, not bothering others, and fending for herself: efforts that were frequently stressful. Then, whenever she saw anyone in a rage--a customer yelling at a waitress or …

When you consume them, you assimilate some of their ability to withstand stress. No matter what your emotional condition is, following the lighthouse will help you arrive safely in the present moment. Welcome this moment when you can apply the brakes, take a deep breath, and gather yourself at this …

In any abusive relationship, it's not unusual for the victim to suffer fear and anxiety over the relationship, what the narcissist is doing, and what they could have done differently. If she did fall asleep, she often woke up in the middle of the night, her mind racing, her heart …

As we saw in article 2, our sympathetic nervous system rules during the day, gearing us up for challenging and perhaps stressful activities. Say, May I accept things as they are. May I remain undisturbed by changing events. Rhythmic breathing will give you energy, help you relax, and enhance concentration …

A grandiose sense of self-importance. The only exercise I get is running after my kids, she told me. When do I have time to do anything else? Michelle told me that she had gained 40 pounds since she started having children. Feeling horrible about the way she looked, she skipped …

Another factor that could be throwing your hormones out of whack is excess body fat. Then begin to lengthen your inhalations gradually, too. This may work better than a cup of coffee to get you going again. Sit comfortably, eyes closed. Three-part breathing is breathing all air out, then filling …

First, she skipped breakfast and ate only a couple of times during the day. Sit and close your eyes. Breathe slowly in and out through the nose. As you breathe in, feel you are drawing air in through your left hand and up your arm to your neck. Breathing out …

Dwell in the present moment. This kind of story is meant to stir up your pity but pay attention to the way they speak about their exes. It's likely that one day they will speak that way about you. You may be wondering by now if the narcissist is even …

Luckily, progesterone can protect you. Accept yourself totally. Let go and relish the freedom of desirelessness. Each moment is the only moment you truly have. This important exercise should be practiced for 15 minutes. Stand with arms at your sides, eyes closed. Take a deep breath into your nose and …

For the first half, move the hands, palms up, in an outward circular motion. After reading some of the stories above, one might think so, but in truth, the short answer is no. Narcissists run the gamut from those who don't understand why they do, say, and feel the things …

Look deeply at it and its elements. That's how it feels to work for, and live with, an extreme narcissist like David. People like that are completely self-absorbed, seeing the world as revolving around them because they see something in themselves that is absolutely fantastic. As a result of this …

Like love bombing, this can be quite pleasant for the victim until the narcissist turns on them, which will happen once the reality of a relationship sets in and they begin to see things about their partner that they want to change or eliminate. It is trying to tell you …

Getting the right kind of exercise can also make a world of difference, as can seven to nine hours of restful, refreshing sleep per day. Let your eyes relax into their sockets and feel your facial muscles and scalp becoming soft and relaxed. Mentally scan your body for tension and …

Our hormones can help alert us to these issues and open us up to new insights. Ask yourself, what am I doing? This will help you overcome the habit of rushing through tasks and help you focus on the present. Smile to yourself and say, washing this dish is the …

Some of the most fun in writing this article is giving you the tools to develop your empathic skills. As you eat fewer sweets and high-glycemic carbs, your body will use up some of that stored sugar in your fat cells, shrinking them. Eventually, you will have more muscle, less …