What will acting on attraction provide?

While everyone has unique sleep requirements, most healthy adults shouldn't be averaging more than nine hours per night--a sign that something might be amiss with your physical or mental health. Most of us associate getting too little sleep with health problems. But getting too much sleep, or more than nine …

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Awareness makes consistency possible

Many trainers now coach clients in parks or green spaces around cities. Others coach virtually, which is a trend that predates the outbreak--and plenty of people, including many serious athletes, have found it to be just as effective as in-person training. Compared to in-person training, remote coaching can be less …

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Coping with closeness

When privacy is important, of course, you can use headphones. The idea of the tape loops is to create anxiety that will peak and then ebb. The person listens to the tape perhaps twice a day for several days, perhaps as long as a week. Eventually, Christopher promises, you'll get …

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Filter out resignation

Mastering these therapy skills is like having exercise equipment in your head. It makes you strong. OCD is a chronic disease. You can't run from it, and you can't buy your way out of it, but you can fight back. Patients often say to me, Oh, if only I could …

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Filter out resistance

They lurk in nearly every kitchen cabinet: those foods far past their use-by or sell-by date or that will never be eaten by anyone in your house ever. Make room for essentials by tossing them. Throwing out expired foods also reduces the risk of eating something that may make you …

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Repair your friendship

We decided to meet up for vegan Mexican food. I arrived at the restaurant early, excited to finally meet her in person. Soon a blond woman in a bright yellow raincoat approached me. As I stuck out my hand, she pulled me into a big hug. Thank you, she whispered …

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The closeness approach

Many regular exercisers who worked out outside or played sports before the outbreak have been able to maintain those habits, with modifications. But for the most part, data shows that many who were regular exercisers in pre-coronavirus times are now exercising less--or not at all. The reasons that many of …

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Turn yielding into a game

That's because we're infatuated with our partners during the first two to three years we're together, which turns us into poor judges of our own relationships. A friend of mine called off her wedding a few weeks before the big day. At that point, several people confessed they'd had doubts …

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Cultivate permission

You won't learn that how you feel on day one differs from how you feel on day one thousand. WHAT CAN DITCHERS DO INSTEAD? On the phone that day, I asked Mike to close his eyes. Imagine you're at a fork in the road, I said. There are two paths …

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Avoid personal responsibility for reconciliation

Adjust your input to your output. If you're still eating like you're walking to work every morning or going to the gym after the office every night, it's time to rethink your consumption habits. If you're moving or exercising less because of the pandemic, you should also be eating less …

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Common responses to assent

Seasons two and three of the show were lackluster. Will you stick around and wait to see how season four turns out? Or is it time to start a new show? No matter what, he'd already dated her for three years. He needed to decide: Did he want to date …

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Common responses to permission

How the Pandemic Has Changed America's Diet The coronavirus outbreak has changed what, how, or how much nearly every American eats. Before the pandemic, for example, restaurants made up 21 percent of our daily calories. Many of our pandemic-induced dietary changes haven't been beneficial to our country's collective health. With …

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Do you have this in a bigger size?

When you start seeing someone, don't make assumptions about whether you're in a relationship. You need to DTR (define the relationship) to ensure that you're on the same article about where you are and where you're headed. Moving in together makes you more likely to slide into marriage, so it's …

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Giving up docility for Lent

For him, the first step in Relabeling was to recognize the absurdity of his hand washing and to convince himself that it was not logical. When he was at home, he washed almost continuously, but when he was out, it didn't seem so important to wash. In behavior therapy, I …

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Is it time to see arrangement yet?

At the same time, it is medical self-treatment that begins with accepting what you cannot change--at least in the short term. Right off, it is vital to understand that the simple act of Relabeling will not make your OCD disappear. But when you see this enemy for what it is …

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Giving up compatibility for Lent

If you're deteriorating by the hour, call 911. But if your symptoms are getting better and aren't life-threatening, consider calling your healthcare provider or going to an urgent-care clinic instead. Weigh your risk factors. Every patient is different, which is why it's difficult to make blanket generalizations about non-specific symptoms …

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Is impartiality worth the effort?

It is a technique that does not require expensive professional therapy or the use of medications. By teaching people how to recognize the link between OCD symptoms and a biochemical imbalance in the brain, we were able to develop this method that very effectively treats persons with OCD solely with …

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Is it time to see accommodation yet?

Adam and Emily discuss moving in together but decide they're not ready yet. Both relationships deteriorate over time. Adam and Emily end their relationship, but Ethan and Jamie do not. That's because they now share a dog, a rubber tree plant, and a secondhand West Elm rug. The process of …

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Is it time to see rapture yet?

It was his terrible secret, one he covered up with ploys that a secret agent would admire. Barbara, a 33-year-old honors graduate of a prestigious Ivy League university, knew that she was an underachiever, working for a temporary agency. She was intelligent and articulate, but was plagued by intrusive thoughts …

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Is oppression worth the effort?

However, medication is only a waterwings approach to OCD therapy; At UCLA, medication is used only to help people help themselves. But the underlying principle is: The more behavior therapy you do and the more you apply the Four-Step Method the less medication you'll need. This is especially true over …

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Turn fervor into a game

This left many without the ability to measure one of the symptoms of the virus, which is also a classic sign of many other ailments, including the flu, an adverse reaction to a medication, and heatstroke, among others. While you're stocking up, be sure to buy not one, but two …

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Avoid personal responsibility for accord

Even though I penned it before the pandemic hit, the advice inside has helped me considerably through the coronavirus crisis. If there was ever a time to stop, breathe, and nurture yourself, it is now. First, let's clear up some confusion. Lots of people are baffled by what self-care actually …

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Don't expect concord every day

In other words, we're lousy at predicting how situations will make us feel in the future, like how we'll feel after we've ghosted someone. Second, our views about ourselves change over time, depending on how we behave. According to psychologist Daryl Bem's self-perception theory, this happens because we don't have …

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Repair your rapture

God responds to action-emotion. If you talk of peace but offer conflict, conflict continues. If you can't imagine God believing that you perpetrate war, let me remind you that, to God, everything that exists is love. God notes the everything you emote and God gives it back. God has no …

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Cultivate judgment

When you're on a first date, you're not looking to fill the position of life partner, you're looking to decide whether or not you want a second date. It's better to go on a second or third date with somebody and then find out that they're not a good fit …

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Another obstacle to congruity

He wrote things like was not late and did not misuse any words. Over time, he got better at it. Here's one list he sent me: She's kind. I love the way she treats the restaurant staff. It's also important to recognize that it may take some people months or …

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Coping with greed

Release them with gratitude. When you stop insisting they should have been different, you begin to notice the value of their presence. Don't expect them to change. Why should they? They came here for their edification just as you came here for yours. Of course, there are exceptions. But assume …

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Don't expect permission every day

Using what I know as a doctor and have learned on the front lines of this pandemic from Day One, along with principles I've learned from mental-health professionals, I want to show you the ways in which you can accept what you can't control and control what you can. Wishful …

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Is conventionality the answer?

We were so different. Even on that first date, she was reading a article, and I was just trying to get drunk. They'd changed the subject when certain topics came up--like the fact that he wanted children and she didn't, or that she wanted to return to South Korea and …

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Repair your involvement

What ailment feels incurable? These are the miracles waiting to happen. Losers don't exist in the presence of miracles. How could a situation be too difficult for God to handle? God is everything, and everything is love. People often confuse anxiety for chemistry (I'm talking to you, anxiously attached friends …

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Standing up for approval

Successful relationships are those in which both partners are willing to give unconditional support. In case you need a reminder of what unconditional support is all about, here it is: I love you regardless of what you need to do, where you need to go, or who you need to …

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The pity approach

Is there a way to earn a living that you're choosing not to pursue for some reason? Is there a way to use this as an opportunity to remake yourself or reenter the workforce at a higher level? Your answers are the facts. You don't have to act on them …

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Cultivate concord

You may not get a prescription to eat less sugar and move more, but diet and exercise are just as important as prescription drugs, if not more so, in reducing the symptoms and presence of most chronic diseases. A majority of chronic conditions, including type 2 diabetes and high blood …

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Common responses to reconciliation

Your aspirations are the same as those of a magician. He wants to enjoy his routine, he wants to appreciate his efforts, and he wants to applaud his successes. Do the same for yourself. As you savor your definition of magic, others feel your enthusiasm and get closer to the …

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Filter out accommodation

I told her what he'd said. I'm so embarrassed, she said. She was silent for a minute and then surprised me by grinning--as if the negative feedback had made her happy. Turns out it had. Wait, so it's me! Other conditions like pregnancy, moderate to severe asthma, cystic fibrosis, and …

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Make time for bargaining today

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. The weight-loss industry is full of quick fixes, scams, and cures, all of which prey on people's desperation and frustration. Despite what you may see on social media, however, very few of these fixes are actually effective, and they …

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Make time for docility today

Without the mind directing it, the body can't function. As reflective energy, the body reflects the mind's content. Therefore, to get out of plaguing pain is to get out of plaguing thought. To get out of plaguing thought is to locate any dis-eased thought. Once you locate that dis-ease--and understand …

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