Your body is surprisingly gullible

No doubt that the idea of a little extra cash is motivating! Then you start brainstorming. "How can I best reach that goal?" That's when the creative juices start flowing. You outline a schedule that allows you to maximize your time and begin your day by establishing the right tone …

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Do a daily debrief

Picture yourself going up stairs and chasing after a child without getting winded. These are some of the rewards of becoming a fit person. Allow these mental images to creep into your consciousness so that you can feel what it's like to be a regular exerciser. It's a little like …

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How other people see you

Thus, the way the hypothesis is framed can have a major impact on our final judgment. Our bias to confirm can also affect how we search for information. For example, what if you didn't know Barry, but you had to decide if he's an extrovert by asking him two of …

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Jumping to conclusions

Worried that someone will call you on your bravado? If you're honest and confident in your own presence, the worst that can happen is someone else will develop a problem with you - it's not your issue. They have a problem and you cannot solve it. They need to do that …

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Strategies to have a positive mind

Let's just say that if you are able to squeeze in exercise followed by dinner plans, there is a chance you might not be able to squeeze in a shower as well. Just hope you're with someone who has a weak sense of smell! When establishing an exercise habit--especially if …

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Building your self-esteem and confidence

The good news is that as a result, mindfulness is reaching a broad constituency. The bad news? These applications of mindfulness may well be missing something vital, a connection to its historical roots with the risk of being diluted, open to misinterpretation, or stripped of its ethical foundations. The contemporizing …

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Concerned for the well-being of others

As a study published in the Review of General Psychology notes, "If satisfaction and pleasure were permanent, there might be little incentive to continue seeking further benefits or advances." In other words, feeling contented wasn't good for the species. Our ancestors worked harder and strove further because they evolved to …

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Where there's a will there's a way!

Please keep in mind that it's important to just get some movement into your routine, no matter what type it is. Don't worry if you are not doing the recommended level of activity yet--this can be a long-term goal to work towards slowly. A word here about the risks inherent …

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Divorce can be contagious

Every two hours or so, sit down and write about what you're thinking at that very moment. Just don't get scared of yourself. Most of our thoughts make no sense at all. We're conflicted as a species. Descartes also reviewed his own thoughts and found many contradictions. His most important …

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Mental toughness and emotional resilience

It's important to note that research on St John's wort for treating major depression, cyclothymia, or any of the bipolar disorders is limited. St John's wort impacts the neurotransmitter systems of serotonin, dopamine, and gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA). Side effects are generally well tolerated and include gastrointestinal distress, allergy to the …

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Sequester lethal means

Of these, belief in a higher power is the most important. Faith can come in many forms. For me, it has always been trust in God. For someone else, it might be faith in a parent, a teacher, a friend, or something beyond himself. Honestly, I think that if you …

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Willingly admit your mistakes

Even if you hear a story from someone you trust, that person may have heard it from someone who isn't trustworthy. Also, a story's immediacy is usually enhanced to make it more entertaining and believable--an event that happened to someone in your friend's office is often relayed as happening to …

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You feel unhappy but have no idea why

The accuracy of groups depends on many factors, such as task difficulty, competence of group members, and group member interaction. Given all the variables that can affect a group's judgment, it's difficult to make sweeping conclusions about the benefits of group decision making. In general, it's often good to pool …

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Get out your social tool belt

Once upon a time, we would be fearful of that strong negative - so much so that we'd avoid contact altogether. It's an actual phobia - that fear of instant rejection. Scientists call it Social Phobia and if you let it grow, it can cripple your ability to meet new people, talk …

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Living your purpose

In my stairway in Copenhagen, I've just put books on top of the rack of letterboxes. It makes the stairway more homely, it is fun to watch which books get picked up and it encourages interaction between the neighbours. The current collection in my stairway includes titles like A Concise …

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Take a step-by-step approach

They had blocks of harder wood that you had to patiently sand to the precise shape of the hull. Then you had to patiently sand the smaller parts, precisely glue them together according to the directions and then paint the ship. But it was easier than the airplanes. Since I …

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Which method is best for monitoring?

There is one part that is generally forgotten in the sat nav' analogy. <a href='http://barbara.hariko.com/starting_out/index6.html'>It</a> is unquestionable that this world of ours is a magnificent place full of sublime mysteries, profound pleasures and delightful secrets, just waiting for our wits and …

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Discouraged and demoralized

In addition, I now know that part of the reason behind my not wanting to deal with steps that were complicated or tedious was because my own impatience often got the better of me. In the last few sections of this chapter, we've looked at some of the negative thinking …

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Exploring behaviors with better consequences

Doing, behaving, thinking or feeling in a way that is not serving you or others. As I already stated, in ancient and recent esoteric schools a method was employed that was more brutal than the method I will offer you here. To train the brain and take control, pain was …

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Limit your options

Please go check out one of these and begin practicing. You'll gain confidence in your ability to work with your mind in this way. Practice will help you get better--but perfection isn't achievable. We'll use this practice of mindfulness throughout the following chapters. In the next chapter, we'll talk about …

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Take responsibility for your actions

You will see that long-term care facilities are for all ages. So do you really want to end up in a nursing facility in your fifties or sixties? Do you want to be able to play with your kids in your forties? Do you want to travel the world in …

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