Standing up for alliance

Now grab your pen and paper and make two columns--one for your healthy habits and the other for the not-so-healthy ones--and write each of your daily habits in one column or the other. Don't judge yourself--we all have issues (me included), but if we don't identify them, we can't address …

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Cultivate partiality

For some, the program showed them immediate results. For others, the software took its time returning the results, with a progress bar that increased over time and a message about how it was searching for flights on this airline, and then this airline, and then that airline. Surprisingly, those in …

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Another obstacle to fidelity

This is something you'll do before every date to get you in the right headspace. Here are some pre-date rituals from my clients: I always plan ahead. I turn off my work notifications. I try to block off at least thirty minutes before starting my date. The fifty-year-old father of …

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Filter out greed

The voice of love has a different perspective. The voice of love reassures you that each day is perfect for the journey you are on. The voice of love is full of praise and appreciation, and believes in your inner wisdom. The voice of love knows that every moment is …

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Giving up giving in for Lent

Nothing it says is true, nothing it offers is real, and nothing it represents has love. Irrational fear offers lots of advice, but never has solutions. It lulls you into false security by making promises that never come true. When irrational fear takes over, life becomes a nightmare. Others can …

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Limit your options with regards to rapport

First, though, I'm not just a doctor on TV--I'm also a real doctor who sees real patients in real life, as I've done for the last twenty years. From Day One of the pandemic, I've approached the crisis like a doctor, prioritizing evidence, not emotions. I've looked at the virus …

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Standing up for affection

Similarly, the majority of those whom I've known personally who've been hospitalized or died from the disease were black, overweight or obese, and/or had underlying conditions. It's a difficult truth to face, but as more time has passed, and living with the virus has become our new way of …

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Turn weakness into a game

Many of my clients, desperate to find love but also busy with other commitments, have managed to drain all the flirtation and fun out of the experience of dating. Instead, they tend to engage in what I call evaluative dating (or evaludating, if you want to be cute about it …

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Make time for fervor today

All we have to do is to let the flow take over. That said, this should also be done according to the zodiac sign that the Full Moon is in. As I've explained, each of the twelve signs has a specific area of expertise. As a matter of fact, each …

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Repair your pity

To the energy you call God, all time is now and all people are one. Therefore, God welcomes the same inclusive philosophy today that God welcomed in the past and God welcomes in the future. If you want others to think like you, love like you, act like you, vote …

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What will acting on consistency provide?

I'm not encouraging you to get drunk with your friend and make a move. How about grabbing beers and saying something coy, like Have you ever considered if we could be more than friends? If they're interested, they'll follow you down this conversational path and tell you what you need …

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Is greed worth the effort?

When these people decided to welcome you into their lives, they didn't consent to always agree with you, always support you, always respect you, or even always love you. They agreed to be a spring-board from which you could leap into independence and recognize your autonomy. If it seems that …

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Make time for piety today

It was your first glimpse of your imagination in form. How could you not be thrilled? The creativity of your soul was revealed to you in every beautiful detail. You are still discovering the mirror of who you are, only now, you look at yourself each morning as you prepare …

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The tenderness approach

Here are some ways you can get more people to set you up on dates: Ask people to set you up. I know it seems simple, but many people fail to ask their friends for help. Reach out to friends and say, I am ready to find someone. Will you …

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Another obstacle to consent

A movie screening of Before Midnight? A Richard Linklater classic for sure, but watching a movie with a group doesn't mean you connect with anyone; That one goes in the bottom-right corner--high likelihood she'd enjoy it, low likelihood of interaction. Eventually, we discovered a article club discussing Ta-Nehisi Coates, the …

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Is decision the answer?

God knows that disrespect is only felt when given. God knows that uniqueness is the definition of God. God knows that power comes from within, not without. God knows that respect for others makes you feel important. God knows that every part of self makes up the whole. If you …

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Is empathy worth the effort?

I gave Yoshimi two pieces of advice. First, she should express sincere gratitude on the Full Moon in addition to wishing on the New Moon. And second, she should change the phrasing of her wish based on the current sign's area of expertise. For example, Leo is great at parties …

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Is it time to see compromise yet?

These Blended Wishes were written in late February, when the New Moon was in Pisces, and in mid-March, when the Full Moon was in Virgo. As soon as April came around, I got an email from my friend Osamu, whom I hadn't seen in a long time. Wanna grab a …

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Repair your yielding

Who is in transition? Will I like it there, will I be welcomed there, and how long will I be there? If you dropped your body this instant, your only loss would be a sense of weight. Consciousness is. Each moment of your existence, your soul is making plans to …

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The warmth approach

Cut to the Chase Get to the actual date as quickly as possible. The point of the apps is to meet people face-to-face, not to gain a pen pal. I've seen over and over the negative consequences of messaging too much before a date. When people text nonstop before a …

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Make time for weakness today

Believe it or not, you only have to know how the body works to know how the universe works. You live in emotional balance within a balanced universe. Without that balance, everything in the universe would disintegrate, including you. Balance, however, is not the same as free-will. Because you have …

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That

I get thousands of them at once. Instead, I quickly pick out the ones that shine, and only look at those. There are certain ones that catch my eye, you know? As I remembered Ken's words, it occurred to me that Chikako's wishes haven't caught the Universe's eye. Furthermore, I …

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The rapture approach

You're dooming yourself to an endless cycle of unrealized connections. DATE SMARTER All of these issues are working against you, making it harder to meaningfully choose whom to date. You're focusing on factors that are less important than you think and comparing people in ways that don't reflect their true …

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Avoid personal responsibility for worship

Thus began the era of speech. The mouth mutated as a natural outcome of using that part of the face so frequently in order to be understood that, eventually, it opened up from constant usage. This mutation solved the need for better interaction, but it was not a substitute for …

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Limit your options with regards to zeal

Did the answer truly satisfy you? Did your life really shift in the direction you desired? Let me rephrase the question: What if you read in a article that you're going to be stuck in a huge slump for the next three years? What if you went to see an …

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The conventionality approach

Dating apps can't show us an infinite number of people. They have to narrow things down somehow. But most people aren't making these decisions carefully. You see, during the onboarding phase, users are in a rush to see potential matches as quickly as possible. They answer the questions with about …

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Another obstacle to disagreement

I had figured he wasn't going to show. Sorry, sorry! I got stuck at work. Jonathan was tall, fit, and charming. His dimples appeared when he smiled or pronounced the letter c, as in CEO, his current title. This meditation, combined with reducing the inflammation and spending time outdoors, helped …

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Coping with affection

Is your faith full of support? Is it nourishing your life? Are strangers welcome? Does your leader believe that all parishioners are equal in importance? Do the teachings of your faith encourage love, joy, and laughter? They are designing the environment in which we make decisions about dating. And, by …

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Limit your options with regards to understanding

That fateful Saturday, walking through Dolores Park, looking down at the San Francisco skyline, I replied yes to his invitation for lunch. That lunch turned into a weekly--and then daily--activity. We started calling each other to commiserate after our terrible online dates with strangers. He and his friend recorded a …

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Make time for impartiality today

Patricia didn't want to give up her son, but then again, it was the leader of her church, a person of power and authority. She had been taught his word was law, so she put aside what she wanted and felt was right, and she agreed to the adoption. For …

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Repair your accommodation

I guilt tripped my son last week. Then cruelty, and I said the same thing. I've definitely had moments in my parenting where I haven't been the kindest. Well, yes, I've definitely led with my ego before in my life, and I could count on one hand and in under …

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Repair your respect

Even when you feel miserable, you are seen by God as moving toward resolution. And God thinks the appropriate name for that is love. Who would willingly take this journey if death were the only outcome? Would you even choose to be here if that was possible? Before you arrived …

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Another obstacle to accordance

They can't help it. It's a basic human instinct. When life doesn't go their way, they test the waters to see if tantrums will make a difference. If tantrums do make a difference and the hierarchy falters, why wouldn't the perpetrators continue? That's heady power; He had everything she thought …

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Avoid personal responsibility for rapport

If there isn't another person involved--say it's a natural disaster, accident, or a pandemic--then it's forgiving God, the Divine, the Universe, Life that what happened is okay. True forgiveness is not about the other person or the event. It's about setting ourselves free from the event that happened. It's self-forgiveness …

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Awareness makes submission possible

If you offer him the freedom to be, do, and love in whatever way he chooses, the communication between the two of you flourishes If your child complains about his inability to withstand peer-pressure, this is your opportunity to assist him. But he doesn't want your high and mighty acumen …

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Coping with observance

Are they treating me in a positive, kind, and well-intentioned way, or are they trying to be hurtful to me? Adding self-nurturing practices into your life can go a long way to help you connect with yourself. These practices can teach you what is good, pleasurable, and healing for your …

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