Why likability impacts your life so much

You want to get rid of all psychological annoyances to make your life truly peaceful and happy. The mind cannot be purified without seeing things as they really are. "Seeing things as they really are" is such a heavily loaded and ambiguous phrase. Many beginning meditators wonder what we mean …

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Developing the willingness to change

We need more time to sort through the data from an increasing number of countries and states to know which substances can be relatively safely and effectively legalized, and for what ages and with what regulatory controls. But this is not to say that we should continue the romance with …

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Don't expect balance every day

That is a double bad deal. Left is taking you where you don't need to go, but just as importantly, it is also keeping you from going in the right direction. If you travel ten miles left when you should have gone ten miles right, you've made a thirty-mile mistake …

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Is there a depression epidemic?

It is perfectly reasonable to provide an explanation but don't excuse or justify yourself. If you over-explain it usually means you feel bad about saying no and are trying to justify your position. If you want to say yes', say so clearly. <a href='http://ww2.tanmono.com/So-lets-talk-about-authority-sites-and-its-importance-to-digital-marketing-1563806403.html' …

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Eat more foods rich in protein

In a queue, let people merge in. Hold the door open for someone and smile at them as you do. Buy someone a coffee and cake or some fresh fruit - summer strawberries or raspberries. It could be your colleagues, neighbours, family or friends; whoever you choose, surprise them. Don't leave …

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Tips for when you have difficulty enjoying

New studies show that drinking lemonade can improve performance, but not for the reason Baumeister believed. The bump in performance had nothing to do with the sugar in the drink and everything to do with the thoughts in our heads. In a study conducted by the Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck …

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Volunteering to help in time of need

Other addictions play a role in depression as well--some of which are hidden from view, like dependency on prescription painkillers or illicit drugs. Still others fall into the category of "soft addictions," such as overeating, shopping, gambling, television viewing, video game playing, oversleeping, and online connectivity. Depression frequently goes hand …

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Reconsider what a reasonable goal is to you

This is why counseling can be so important for health care professionals and even family members trying to take care of loved ones in need. For reasons that are still unclear, young people seem to be particularly vulnerable to depression. According to statistics released by the National Institute of Mental …

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Stay in our comfort zone

Rebalancing thoughts likes this creates a shift of emotion and starts you thinking differently long-term and so has a deep-rooted effect on your approach to life. Why it is that we revere our tangible accumulations more than our spiritual growth and development? Why do we judge a person by his …

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Go and have a little fun

They aim to improve sleep by changing your body clock and/or your sleep drive. Do regular daytime activitiesStay active during the day and include some activities that increase your heart rate (aerobic exercise). Eat meals at the same time each day. Leave the house, socialize and engage in hobbies …

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My outer self is matched by my inner well-being

If you're going to attempt something you failed at before, think about what you learnt from that. A driving test is an obvious example here. Whether it was a mock test or your actual test, if you failed a part of it, then naturally, you'd work on that part before …

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Putting it all to good use

Yet, as our research suggests, they are quite powerful." She continues, "Even when they are not embedded in years of tradition, simple rituals can help us build personal discipline and self-control."7 Skepticism, a cornerstone of science, is suppressed in pseudoscience. Scientists open themselves up for criticism, while pseudoscientists are …

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You are doing one thing at a time

When the brain receives pain signals, it will often try to protect the body by telling the area of the brain that controls movement to hold the muscles tight or stop the movement. Avoiding movements that hurt makes sense in the short term; it is good for injuries like a …

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Guilt and regret

In a second part of the experiment, subjects were then exposed to a loud noise in a room with a box that had a lever that could shut off the noise. Even though the lever worked, the subjects from the group who had previously been unable to control the noise …

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Learn from the super-agers

When you are able to act as if', and make yourself do even the smallest things you don't feel like doing, you will feel more in control and pleased with yourself. <a href='http://dermate.cocolog-nifty.com/blog/2019/10/post-8b4d10.html'>This</a> can lead to more positive thinking …

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Avoiding sarcasm and cynicism

It serves as that vital reference point from which the mind wanders and is drawn back. Distraction cannot be seen as distraction unless there is some central focus to be distracted from. That is the frame of reference against which we can view the incessant changes and interruptions that go …

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Brighten up

That automatically eliminates about 99% of your thoughts because there's very little you control in life. What's a useless thought? Anything out of your control and without a useful purpose. Do you ever think about the past? That's the perfect example of a random thought that lacks a purpose, unless …

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Dumping the unfriendly traits

Maintaining constant connection is like being hooked to an IV delivering a steady drip of mood-altering drugs. The more connected you are, the more attention you steal from other important things in your life, like performing well at work, driving safely, interacting with friends and family, or completing an important …

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The perfect is the enemy of the good

Habitual procrastination causes its sufferers to feel like they're less than other persons, and it makes them feel sad, aimless, and unfulfilled in their lives. They also feel impatient and frustrated much of the time, as though "there isn't enough time" and "they'll never be enough time" to do all …

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Work towards a win-win outcome

That understanding must be our starting point for changing individual drug use and abuse, prescribing practices, family and social attitudes, and governmental policies. Let's embark on that trip together. Let's recognize and follow the policy and practice innovations that will take addiction far away from our towns and families. How …

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Avoid being a perfectionist

Most of us with anxiety or panic find this idea so overwhelming that we will never get started, however. If we do get into a situation in which we need to "face the fear" directly - especially if the experience has been forced on us - we are traumatized by the experience …

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Back to listening

Practice empathy. As we've seen, it's important to think of those who have offended you as ordinary human beings, not monsters. Every human act--even a horrific one--springs from a person's own toxic mix of anger, guilt, fear, and woundedness. We all act as we do because on some level we …

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Change your body, change your mind

This sense of isolation makes depressed people feel as if an invisible wall is preventing them from experiencing any kind of relief. And this wall often seems impossible to overcome. Not only do people who are depressed have difficulty describing what they are feeling to others but it can also …

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Discernment is a third component of a present-moment orientation. It may be viewed as the capacity to hold all experience with kindness and compassion, supporting skillful choice around how we respond even though we may be experiencing reactivity. This is cultivated within mindfulness meditation practice, which is then generalized to …

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Letting go of unhelpful perfectionism

Upon closer examination, I usually found something that disqualified an ad from further consideration. In that case, it was simply on to the next one. One by one and posting after posting--I would go through a large assortment of ads from women who were seeking companionship. Every now and then …

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Pick your battles

Start small Do the smallest step that will get you started. For example: if you need to answer a difficult email, the first step would be to turn on the computer. Work it into your routine Tie a new, unpleasant task into your routine by adding it on to something …

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Take responsibility and make clear `i' statements

The problem with medication is that you end up having to take more and more and the effects wear off more quickly. My professional work then became principally in public health, first as the New York City mental health commissioner for five years, and now for over ten years as …

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The prosperity principle

Then, if some pain lingers, use it as an object of meditation. The first step is physical handling. Maybe the pain is an illness of one sort or another, a headache, fever, bruises, or whatever. In this case, employ standard medical treatments before you sit down to meditate: take your …

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What can i do about pain flare-ups?

Next think of bigger events - a job, a project at work, a holiday, a relationship or friendship where things didn't turn out well. What thoughts went through your mind or could have been going through your mind? How did you feel? Write it down. It's useful to remember these four …

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Draw on confidence to be sure of self

The belief was that if we don't take justice into our own hands, no one else will act on our behalf, leaving the door open for more trespasses of our boundaries. And yet, ask yourself, Which is a bigger sign of weakness: letting the offensive actions of someone else determine …

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Make friends feel competent

The attachment bond has been a big part of my arrival to these conclusions. I would not be who I am today had I not possessed those feelings of restlessness, wondering what would happen to me and how it would all turn out. View each event as a huge blessing …

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