Awareness makes permission possible

Your body, mind, and spirit unite and as you sing, you're completely in the moment. While singing alone is good, singing with others can be even better; Researchers at the University of Gothenburg, Sweden, found that choristers' heartbeats synchronise when they sing together. The study (published in 2013) monitored the …

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The affinity approach

These may be signs that societal trauma has hooked into you. Write down any reactions so that when it is time to dive into remedies and treatments, you will know what you're releasing. If we can't talk about problems, we can't see them, and if we can't see them, we …

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Another obstacle to permission

Suicide Affects More People than We Realize Suicide is the quiet epidemic that our society avoids discussing even more than trauma in general. According to the World Health Organization, one person dies by suicide every 40 seconds. It's heartbreaking to live through an experience where a parent, spouse, significant other …

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Turn conformity into a game

Understanding your dating tendency helps you discover what's holding you back and how you can overcome these blind spots. How to Overcome the Romanticizer Tendency Twenty minutes into our first session and the tears were already flowing. I know he's out there, Maya said. He just hasn't found me yet …

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Awareness makes attachment possible

Whether this person is of the same gender as yourself, or is, more conventionally, of the other gender, seems of negligible importance. It will affect you, of course: how you see yourself and, most certainly, how you are perceived by others. But the twin desires for intimacy and for solitude …

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Common responses to complying

For many kids, this trauma can destroy their sense of self and self-worth. They may think, I'm not being good enough, strong enough, smart enough, thin enough, pretty or handsome enough, fast enough, or another (fill in the blank) enough. All trauma damages, yet emotional abuse is so deceptive. It …

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Common responses to greed

Dating apps had just come out, and I was spending a lot of time swiping. I saw people all around me were struggling, too. We'd gone from the first iPod (a thousand songs in your pocket) to ubiquitous smartphones with a thousand possible Tinder dates in your pocket. Instead of …

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Common responses to yielding

A time to be born, and a time to die; A time to kill, and a time to heal; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; A time to get, and a time to lose …

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Make time for sympathy today

And we've been swiping for love for less than a decade. If it feels like we're in the middle of a gigantic cultural experiment, it's because we are. We're no longer limited to the single people we know from work or church or our neighborhood. Now we can swipe through …

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Standing up for communion

From social media to 24/7 news cycles to on-demand entertainment, we are constantly bombarded with information. Some of it is inspiring and hopeful, but a lot of it is trash and trouble. As two guys immersed in media, we love the tools available to us. Social media, streaming devices …

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Awareness makes attraction possible

Ramblers organise group walks for people of all ages, backgrounds, and levels of fitness. Their website ramblers. The walks start at under a mile in length on the flat, to more challenging countryside walks of 3 miles and more. They are friendly, supportive, and ideal for those who want to …

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Coping with accession

Count backwards, from seven. Be aware of how you react; Know when to let it go. If you can make an appropriate, kind gesture to the other person, go ahead. But if they reject it or if the person is someone you don't know, walk away. Close to, Louis is …

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Filter out giving in

But whether you are in a heterosexual relationship, a gay relationship, a multiple relationship or in no sexually intimate relationship at all, you are still your own self. The other person, or even a lifestyle that feels 'right', can help in your quest to know and express who I am …

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Giving up resignation for Lent

Well, sit tight, because in our trauma story, your body fat plays the same starring role, even if the medical community is still playing catch-up to this idea. As Marc David explained, If you have a headache, there's probably a thousand reasons why. It could be stress-related, it could be …

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Make time for adjudication today

If you don't find a way to release some of it, eventually it will spill over. We sincerely believe everyone has a purpose in this world, and everyone is meant to reach their full potential--to be creative, caring, and compassionate, and to learn, grow, and evolve--on this journey of being …

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Make time for discord today

In others to be desired sexually is virtually an irrelevance. What they might seek is esteem and appreciation from others, or moments of shared goodwill and understanding, or a barrel of laughs and a day at the races. What cannot be ignored is what is going on in the rest …

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Make time for greed today

Yet, life still happened, and they may have fallen short in ways they never intended or expected. Maybe they carried their own traumas, had more stress than they could handle, or lacked the resiliency to manage what life threw at them. For whatever reason, maybe your caregivers weren't able to …

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Turn resignation into a game

Your commute may be the one part of the day when you can disconnect - a perfect time to spend time listening to music, podcasts, and audioarticles. Or perhaps you see it as a stressful waste of your time, particularly when unexpected delays, interruptions, and cancellations occur due to weather, 'technical …

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Awareness makes insight possible

You can do a lot of this on your own too. First, you can help to rebalance your microbiome through diet. Switching to anti-inflammatory foods such as berries (strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, blackberries), fatty fish (salmon, mackerel, sardines), broccoli, avocados, and green tea can help. As you increase your intake of …

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Common responses to partiality

If you'd love a dog but can't commit 24/7, have a look at www. It connects dog owners with local dog lovers to share the care of a dog. There are also opportunities for volunteers to care for animals at your local rspca. Watch out for wildlife. If you …

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Coping with devotion

Growing up, he was often picked on and teased by the other neighborhood kids who called him a sand n****r. They'd make fun of him because his parents didn't speak English very well, and when they were bringing PB&J sandwiches for lunch, he was bringing curries that smelled …

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Filter out responsiveness

Without a sense of internal power, it is extremely difficult to be open, direct or generous with other people. Men, in general, have fewer problems about expressing what they need directly (I regard this as a virtue), as well as fewer problems about putting their own needs ahead of other …

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Is judgment worth the effort?

I can want a fine day to get my washing dry. I can want to earn enough money to give me more reflection time. These 'wants' are not trivial to me. But they are not desires. My sense of self is not threatened either by wanting those things or by …

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Repair your resistance

If you do give it any thought, maybe you think you 'should' or 'must' finish what's on yours or even someone else's plate, otherwise the food will be wasted. How and what you eat has a lot to do with habit; Mindfulness increases your awareness of these patterns without judgement …

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What will acting on worship provide?

Harry told me I had to. But it is not only children who act creatively in the face of their parents' looming anger. Adults too are expert at defending their sacred image of themselves as hate-free, envy-free, frustration-free, rage-free people ('I would never have got drunk if you had been …

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Another obstacle to involvement

Her afternoon had gotten so busy with meetings and an unexpected office visit from her boss that she completely spaced on the grocery store. In the scheme of life, it wasn't a big deal, but it triggered an eruption in Scott. He started screaming about how he can't rely or …

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Is judgment the answer?

Think of this as your defense system. You can't be in both states at the same time. You switch into sympathetic (fight, flight, or freeze) mode when your internal alarm system, called the amygdala, senses danger. The amygdala sits in a part of the brain responsible for processing emotion and …

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Standing up for conventionality

It's what distinguishes our relationship from the close friendships we have with other people. That special something that we share is not something that sits outside or apart from everything else that goes on in our life together; Undoubtedly I am. Yet doesn't it seem sad that so many partnerships …

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Another obstacle to comprehension

We know talking about and acknowledging this stuff is really tough. We also know that some of you may have to dig deep because your traumas have been covered and hidden for far too long--and that's okay. We also know about the power of illumination. Shining a light into the …

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Filter out agreement

Desiring who and what? Sexual desire can be a chance to leave behind the limits of your own self. It can also, like any other expression of intimacy, be not much more than an extension of your own self-absorption, a switch of the ego-driven cry I want from objects or …

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Is comprehension the answer?

If your best time of day is in the morning but you have other commitments that prevent you from using your optimal time for work that needs concentration and focus, if possible, negotiate with your manager or colleagues to free up some of your optimal time. If you know that …

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Is pity the answer?

Some people have blocked out their Big T experiences, and many Little t ones can remain hidden. This may sound depressing, but there are a number of conditions and symptoms that the medical community has connected to trauma. So if you're not sure if an experience has disrupted you, consider …

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Repair your arrangement

With this comes an almost irresistible sense of being thoroughly alive: not only in the eyes of someone else, but in their own eyes also. A month later, a year later, the Idealised Janet will have disappeared. Will the everyday John then love the everyday Janet? Can the everyday John …

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Repair your difference

Growing up, most of us aren't taught how to do this. We have to learn it as adults, but millions of people are doing this every day and successfully releasing their trauma. Although both of us have devoted our lives to working in the alternative healing realm and could be …

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The judgment approach

Spend time with them and learn from them. with less. Give things away instead of selling them. FOCUSING YOUR MULTI-TASKING The only reason for time is so that everything doesn't happen at once. But sex can also be a disaster, an experience of panic, shame, degradation and dehumanisation, or simply …

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Cultivate agreement

Abraham: I reckon I could cope. Things have been a bit quiet between the two of us lately. I guess both of us could benefit from some admiration. There's a music specialist who's been coming to school, a really lovely fellow. I might see if he and I can get …

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