I was living my life in dead man's shoes

This is very simplistic but it helps small children understand the connection between good food and healthy bodies. With a very small child you can simply tell her that junk food will spoil her teeth and make her ill. Don't go on about it too much as it may then …

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Spit shine my soul

Of course, the most frequent victims are the poor and disaffected, the underserved, the voiceless and powerless--those who depend on the character of leaders to bring comfort from their afflictions and give them a voice. Perhaps the ways in which we choose our leaders today are too complicated and ponderous …

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You took my heart then you took my pride away

This is why rote memorization and regurgitation are ineffective teaching tools; A popular buzzword in education today is mastery, and mastery demands retrieval. Students need to be able to recall information and apply it, connect it to other disciplines, demonstrate it for someone else, or otherwise render that information useful …

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I love myself today

The new couple has children and perpetuates the cycle. The dependence of the parents is visited upon the children. The final twist in this vicious circle is the dependency of old age. It's sort of a game called I'm old now, so I'll lose my mind and you'll take care …

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I'm gonna get up and get out

In the middle of an argument with my teenager, or when I'd grabbed the reins on some household task that had spiraled out of control, I could feel my heels digging in, even when I knew I'd screwed up. I had to push my pride aside and admit to my …

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Take another look at me now

An antimicrobial preservative present in up to 20 percent of consumer products, which releases formaldehyde. Look for diazolidinyl urea or imidazolidinyl urea. Sodium Lauryl Sulfate and Sodium Laureth Sulfate Known skin irritants, so companies will add 1,4-dioxane, a by-product of petrochemicals (and known carcinogen) to help reduce allergic reactions …

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Burning up in the atmosphere of life

My children are quite limited in their ability to cook, simply because I want and need that time in my kitchen to myself. It is my refuge from a day spent in the classroom or in doing things for my own children. I'll teach them how to cook someday, just …

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I'll make you feel unpretty too

Automatic thoughts have the same believable quality as direct sense impressions. You attach the same truth value to automatic thoughts as you do to sights and sounds in the real world. If you see a man getting into a Porsche and have the thought He's rich. He doesn't care about …

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Never insecure until I met him

Two types of walking contribute to long-term improvements in cardiorespiratory fitness. The other is high intensity, low frequency--walking at a faster pace three to four times a week for 30 minutes, where you are able to speak only in short sentences and are huffing and puffing a bit. The elliptical …

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Now I'm being stupid

In one experiment, when thirsty participants were informed that they would finally be able to drink, those who didn't know what they were going to get (ie, water versus a more attractive beverage) showed more activity in the parts of their brains linked to positive emotions. This may be easier …

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Why do I look to all these things to keep happy?

In Babyhood Penelope Leach points out that many mothers, and the people who advise them, believe that it is acceptable for babies to cry only if there is something physically wrong with them. If a baby's nappy is chafing or she is hungry, for instance, then she is justified in …

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You left me like a broken doll

How often do you take problems or concepts to their dead end to gain complete understanding of them? If we witness a car crash or the failure of a business, we rarely ask, Why? He was a young psychiatrist from Vienna before he was forced to endure the horrors of …

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Let me wonder why

Know yourself. Know your friends. Know the enemy. Lead the way. This change and this duality can be overwhelming to reconcile at first. You might be thinking, I know I'm pregnant, but I don't feel like I know what I'm doing yet. Feeling directionless and adrift is normal. In fact …

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Look into the mirror who's inside there

Research from my lab and that of several colleagues suggests several secrets to overcoming, forestalling, or at least slowing down hedonic adaptation to committed relationships. The first recommendation is one you have already begun to follow simply by reading this, and that is to learn about the ordinariness of this …

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Make you feel unpretty too

They tell us how to act, when to eat, when to sleep, and we begin to make distinctions. We learn which behaviors bring us acceptance and which bring us rejection. We learn if we get a prompt response or if our cries go unanswered. We learn to trust the people …

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My insides are blue

We can't discover the meaning of life, because the concept itself is meaningless! Instead of seeking the truth, many have looked for a way out. They hide behind word definitions and even question what meaning is. Yet most people have a general idea of what the words refer to. Anyone …

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My outsides look cool

One only has to observe the untiring efforts of a baby in her first year to control her body to become aware of her urge for independence. She never tires of trying first to sit, then crawl and later walk, run and jump. She wants to brush her own hair …

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What does beautiful mean to you

Research shows that nearly three-fourths of men age 50 and older are carrying excess body weight. We have been told for years that inactivity and carrying extra weight can lead to unwanted and troubling health problems. But most adult men live with these risks. We have not yet reclaimed enough …

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Who will understand?

Until you become pregnant for the first time, your body has always been only your own. Every decision you have made for your body has been motivated by your own needs and desires (possibly as influenced by societal expectations, media images, and peer pressure--still, the only person directly affected by …

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For the love of man

She told me that her life wasn't working, that nothing was going right. What are you doing? How are you participating in life? She said, What can I do? I back up, let those anxious parents slow their breathing, and help them see that they have a fantastic, kind, generous …

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Homegrown is a good thing

They are simply overamplified. The volume has been turned up a bit too much, that's all. Just turn down the volume a little. Soon, you--and everyone else--will see your weaknesses as your strengths, your negatives' as yourpositives. After a certain age these people are considered obsolete at best or …

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Plant that bell and let it ring

The basic treatment protocol for all phobias is the same, with the exception of agoraphobia. Agoraphobia usually starts with untreated panic disorder. The panic disorder must be resolved first by working through article 7, Coping with Panic. Then you can continue with the regular phobia protocol. All you have to …

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Shine that light around

The gradual loss is intrinsic aging and called sarcopenia; Fortunately, there are precautionary measures one can take to prevent, or significantly delay and barely notice, the natural erosion of muscle mass. Participating in regular exercise is crucial. Someone once said, Regular physical activity is the closest thing there is to …

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Things start jumping up from the ground.

But the truth is that our initial reactions (or first thoughts) to crisis points (eg, My life is going downhill or I'll never find love again) are tainted by our biases and governed by fallacies we buy into about what should and shouldn't bring us happiness. My goal is to …

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What goes on?

YOU HAVE 5 YEARS OF TIME LEFT BEFORE YOU DIE To fully live, you need control of your time, you need free time Let's not forget though, if she was to add a life partner to the mix and later raise a family, the 27% of her time that was …

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What is right?

Meditation loosens up our conditioning; The fourth quality we develop in meditation is something I've been touching on all along, and that is the ability to become awake to our lives, to each and every moment, just as it is. This is the absolute essence of meditation. We develop attention …

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What is wrong?

In a 2011 interview with CNN, Clark related an exchange with a principal who had been named the administrator of the year in her state but had chosen to leave education. I screamed, You can't leave us,' and she quite bluntly replied,Look, if I get an offer to lead …

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Who could understand?

On the contrary, you understand that she did not intend to break the glass - you allay her feelings of guilt and help her clean up the mess. If she broke the glass because she had never seen one before and presumed that it would behave in the same way as …

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Homegrown is the way it should be

In pre-reservation days, the Lakota culture had a method that allowed young would-be warriors to gain firsthand experience. By accompanying military excursions and patrols not as full-fledged combatants, but as helpers and observers, they served an apprenticeship that afforded them the opportunity to learn from experienced warriors in the field …

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Homegrown's all right with me

Yes, you've got this, but you might not hear this very often--or often enough. On the contrary, you're probably hearing a lot of questions or opinions from well-intentioned friends and family: Are you nervous? Where are you going to give birth? You have to try hypnobirthing! You do have a …

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It's so hard to wait

What I'm getting at is that the same power that traps you also frees you. You have the power, and you've always used it. You have no choice over that. The power flows continually and will be used, no matter what. In 2012, 36 percent of adults age 18-31 still …

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