I believe I can feel good about my body and my diet

Whether it's a layoff from work, an airplane ride, or an unexpected illness, you largely can't control the external forces that influence your life, but you can choose the beliefs, words, and mindset that you respond to these factors with. This is not fantasy or meaningless positive thinking. The reason …

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I vow to be prompt

They would have got bored with me anyway so I'm not surprised. You may think I am exaggerating, yet clients come sit in my chair and I ask them, ''How was your weekend? I know it's because they found someone better so I ate like a pig non stop all …

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On Abundance

The following week she was to say, I have extraordinary coping skills, then I have exemplary coping skills, and then, I have outstanding coping skills. Not only did she report that she felt much better, she also reported other patients asking if they could share her message and then the …

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On Keep Going When Things are Bad

The cultivation of mindfulness has its roots in Buddhism. Still, most religions include prayer or a meditation technique that helps shift your thoughts away from your common prejudices toward an immediate and appreciative perspective. Professor Emeritus John Kabat-Zinn, founder and former director of the stress reduction clinic at the University …

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When someone is willing to help

Realistically, during these events, we will not feel especially good or especially bad. Our performance will be average, and our audience will be okay at best. The Laziness Lie has a far-reaching history, one that's deeply embedded in the legacies of industrialization, imperialism, and slavery. It has permeated almost every …

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Develop Honest Bias

The puzzle becomes grander and larger, showing more and more of its meaning. By the time you place the last piece, you have gathered the information to complete a full memory. Given this analogy, you can see that in order for memory to work properly, the right pieces of the …

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Exaggerated emotional response

When you say no to someone, you feel compelled to say yes to something else to make up for it. Throughout this article, I've outlined the various ways in which overexertion is damaging to a person's health, their well-being, and even the quality of their work. While all of this …

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Be open-minded

Thankfully, a growing body of research is shedding light on the steps a person can take to fight these pressures. In short, if social media leaves you feeling as if you're not enough, you can counteract it by avoiding comparisons with other people and seeking out the successful people who …

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Growing Up with Your Children

While DP might be the strangest symptom, the feeling of going crazy is the one that gives people the most trouble. Even in the middle of crippling nausea, vomiting, or insomnia, many of us still find the thought of losing our mind to be the most important. In my first …

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On Meditation

Ectopic beats feel like our system is getting a jolt or like a heart hiccup. Lastly, the chest tightness we experience is an effect of adrenaline getting sent to the chest muscles, causing them to flex. This may cause our breathing to become more labored, but it will not cause …

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This isn't a debate!

It's a toxic mindset that can erode their mental and physical health, as well as their sense of boundaries. There are, however, steps a person can take to slowly reduce the amount of invisible, undervalued work they reflexively take. Kathy Labriola recommends that her clients take stock of how much …

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What helps you reduce your anxiety?

For weeks, Riley didn't say a thing about the boxes--and Tom didn't touch them. When more mail came in, Tom threw it on top of the pile. Dust accumulated on the boxes, but he didn't seem the least bit bothered by it. The counter had gotten so dirty that it …

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Has the scale been a friend or foe in our culture?

I n this article, we will cover three different therapies, each for a different mechanism in the brain: one for treating amygdala-cortex panic, one for treating excessive worrying in the conscious cortex, and one for desensitizing our amygdala's built-in fight or flight response. In each section, I will give a …

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I eat when I am stressed out or worried

This might seem obvious to some, especially those of us who have practiced doing so in therapy or meditation. But if we have been worrying for most of our lives, it almost feels like we are worrying about nothing. The simplest way we can practice recognition is by answering the …

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It Ain't Over Till It's Over

But through avoidance, these symptoms become specific to the situation. This kind of conditioning is what we know as a phobia. We are most likely to have panic attacks, and thus most likely to develop phobias, in situations that most of us worry about and want to avoid--vulnerable social situations …

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The courage to be generous and patient

This new adrenaline causes our heartbeat to get faster and stronger (causing a more pronounced step 1). If we worry about it again (step 3), that leads the amygdala to produce even more adrenaline. It's sustaining and self-protective to know our limits. When we focus on the things that we …

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Collaborative Exploration

Many of their findings match what we find with significant philanthropists such as Andrew Carnegie, The Gates Foundation and Chobani, aligning to themes of personal inspiration or interest. Even some of their findings into reasons for non-contribution found some people prefer their philanthropic donation to be one of time, volunteering …

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On How Life Responds to You

Macroscopically, we have a good idea of how we make decisions in our conscious cortex. When a thought is produced in our emotional brain and brought to our attention in the conscious cortex, we analyze it--we determine whether we should act on it or ignore it. There are many theories …

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The Universal Laws Are Neutral

Any deliberate avoidance of difficult conversations, like those streams of bad blood, may still build up. It's your own dam that overflows in torrents or breaks one day: But our muscles and organs are not static, they can adapt; When we go for a long time without stress, our body …

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What am I working toward?

Even if we are not aware of it, we cycle through these analyses every time a thought comes into our conscious cortex, and the way we behave is a result of this. With such a difficult job, our conscious cortex cannot be a simple input-output system like the amygdala or …

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It turns out I was learning about it from the day I was born courtesy of two grandfathers. He'd hustled as a young man to make a few extra dollars as a side living. He then passed this skill in reading and playing your hand most appropriately on to me …

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Remorse and Change

When we receive a shot of adrenaline in a business meeting or a class presentation, we have to let these sensations arise without being able to do anything with them. Thus we have come to see them as something negative--unwanted sensations produced by leftover adrenaline--which we named anxious symptoms. We …

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Managing Generation Y

That's not to say Holmes's story started out as a deliberate dupe. No doubt the doe-eyed schoolgirl believed such a scientific breakthrough was possible. To challenge established models is how we propel society forward. The problem is choosing to continue when it becomes clear your aspirations are in reality more …

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The Power Of The Mind

Encouraged by the project's success he replicated the experiment with a different product. Purchasing several pairs of street-brand jeans, 'Georgio Peviani', he adopted the persona of Georgio, the designer. He successfully bullshitted his way through security checks and networks to be given passes during Paris Fashion Week. Again, influencers and …

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To solve the mystery

Comedians mastering their craft achieve this result, leveraging the layers of personal value authentically: Ricky Gervais, taking no prisoners, willingly, ruthlessly pisses off or embarrasses industry peers at occasions such as hosting the Golden Globes. Sir Billy Connolly CBE has carved out a career as a meandering storyteller. He'll begin …

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Be still and stay relaxed in genuine ease

He taught us to love nature and fishing, Town Talk pancakes, Lincoln Del corned beef hash, and Mom's soups. If whatever came to the table was met with a To be honest, honey, it don't do nothing for me, a dark, cold cloud descended upon Decatur Lane. Mostly Dad taught …

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Judge the quality of an argument

I thought of my dad, of the smell of Pine-Sol mixed with hot water in a metal bucket; Reflecting on happy memories or reminding people of a pleasant shared past; You can see how each of these mental habits is the mirror image of the dampening habits. The first one …

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My way or the highway

He's spent more than forty years studying what a meaningful life looks like, a topic he understands on a very intuitive and personal level. He deduced that, based on the size of the human brain, the number is 150. People generally find this number either not high enough or well …

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On the View of Multiple Dimensions and Parallel Realities

I wanted to know if there was any way to reconcile this conflict. He responded that Yiddish was an extremely elevated language, that Shakespeare has been translated into Yiddish. And then he suggested that my negative associations with the values transmitted in Yiddish were the product of whoever taught me …

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New Perspectives on Halting a Vicious Cycle

She overcomes government bureaucracy, partisan infighting, and her coworkers' bigotry and sexism through sheer determination and optimism. At the start of the series, Knope has a lowly position as the deputy director of her small city's Parks and Recreation Department, but as the series progresses she ascends through the state …

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Trick the Brain

By convincing us that we're lazy and not earning our keep, it pushes us into a constant state of feeling apologetic and paranoid. It's nearly impossible to negotiate for better treatment when we're trapped in a scarcity mindset. Often we need a big wake-up call to realize that we do …

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What are you grateful for?

If Rachel hadn't been the best little girl in the world at her job, she would have wound up getting canned just for being herself. I've heard many people of color express a similar outlook on overwork. You'd also be out for blood if they hurt anyone or killed your …

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