Low energy and easily fatigued/unmotivated

You may think of acts of war or terrorism or shootings in your community. You may think of a natural disaster such as floods, hurricanes, fires, and tornadoes that occur throughout the year. Yet the majority of people who experience a trauma are more apt to experience something more chronic …

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Neuroplasticity

What shocked him was the gulf between this and their cardiopulmonary health, which he found languishing in the fortieth percentile. He then dug deeper and evaluated their heart and lung health separately, something few people even consider doing. Frank discovered that many players' lungs were lagging far behind their hearts …

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Parent-Teacher-Student Teamwork

Because the monkeys refuse to let go of the fruit, the tribesman can easily capture the monkeys. The monkeys have, in essence, trapped themselves by holding on too tight. You won't let go of control, and so you become imprisoned mistaking control for security. Image Management Projecting to the world …

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Returning to the Jungle

What if I wanted to be a New York Times best-selling author? You get onto this list by selling 9,000 copies in the 1st week of the release. Based on 9,000 people buying this article, how many of those 1st week buyers would actually stick to anything in …

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Common Questions About Anger

I remember telling myself he was there for the kids, at their events. But looking back now, that wasn't true. I often had this strange feeling. It was like this little voice in my head, and then I would tell myself more loudly, He is a good guy. I am …

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Defending My Ideas

As I listened it was like he was brainwashing me. Then he told me he had had sex with a coworker and how it was okay because she really wanted to do it for him; He continued to drone on like a hypnotist, continuing to try to convince me that …

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Imagine you are talking to your best friend

It doesn't seem like enough people are really buying into it. The Good Stories Don't Seem To Matter I mean, people buy these stories all the time with their money. Those stadiums are packed with people who need to seize their destiny. Those articles are sold all day long because …

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Keep our memories clear

Well, he basically told me it was about me. He had been telling me I was undersexed. That I just didn't know what a man needed. And I don't seem to enjoy having sex because when we have sex I always end up feeling used or even more alone than …

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The courage to get through the day

Rather than making me become semiconscious, as listening to music does, it actually heightens my awareness and engagement with the task at hand. Anytime you can use technology to improve your connection to yourself and your surroundings, do it. The Equipment Compromise The equipment we rely on every time we …

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Do you badly want to be free?

Wait for your smart water bottle to tell you when to drink. Can't decide if you're just a bit sore or too fatigued to train? Let your heart rate monitor make the call. Let's look at just how far the senses versus sensors seesaw has tipped toward technology, and what …

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Introduction

I was quickly told by both my husband and the therapist that I was projecting the behaviors I had experienced with my two previous husbands onto my fiance, a very successful and upstanding man. Having a history of being willing to trust others rather than myself, I unquestioningly went on …

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The Parent Pet Trap

But really, we can recognize so-called good people in our lives, right? These are the folks that volunteer for unpaid projects and charities. They post online about doing benefit relief trips. They are probably firefighters or policemen or veterans or something else seemingly noble. They share experiences that end up …

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What's wrong with me?

My marriage would not be blessed as I had willed it to be. Over the years I would find out about things that were going on. Women would call my house and tell me things about my husband. Or someone at his work would pull me aside and tell me …

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From sharing your feelings?

I agreed to, participated in, and endured this to keep him from getting angry. I convinced myself that our sexual life was normal and healthy. Buried in the tornado of thoughts, an occasional thought that something was wrong would rise to the surface and just as quickly, like a leaf …

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Stay sharp and focused

Here's the deal: most people are apathetic. It's more than just not caring about some kid in Africa. It's an apathy that's deep within our society and accepted by everyone. There's a cognitive dissonance, a conflict within ourselves, that we all suffer from. We keep coming up with great ideas …

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To escape the threat

Odds are you are accustomed to being seen for your gender identity and aren't concerned that someone will wrongly project their ideas about gender onto you. It's common for people with privilege to believe that their experiences are universal and not be aware that others have very different experiences. Not …

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What old ways do you find yourself battling?

We do this with extreme sports, too, liking or retweeting a video of Jeremy Jones carving his way down an impossibly steep mountainside, Paige Alms escaping from the curl of a giant wave just before it swallows her, or Danny MacAskill doing flips over centuries-old stone walls in the Scottish …

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Be patient

Yet when the behavior is addictive, women whose husbands are engaged in non-physical sex addiction such as pornography, voyeurism, and exhibitionism say they feel the betrayal, the humiliation, and the shame as do those whose partners are engaged in sexual behavior that has become physically intimate with others. Use of …

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Be well informed

Yet confusion exists about intimacy and commitment, and sexual betrayal abounds in our culture. Most couples, whether married or not, have both spoken and unspoken commitments that sex stays within their relationship; Their expectation is for unconditional love, but they know that relationships have conditions that need to be negotiated …

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Close the loop

I also stopped using an alarm and started getting up when I awoke, usually between 3:30 and 5:00 a. My wife, Erin, has the opposite chronotype and picks up speed as the day goes. So she goes to bed and wakes up later than I do. That's what …

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Facilitative Modeling

When I'm working with my athletes, I call this gearing. If your bike had eleven gears but only two of them worked properly, you'd only use those two, right? A lot of people have this issue, sticking to the gear they're most comfortable with instead of switching it up. They …

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On the Power of Concentrated Thoughts

You have been deceived, time and time again, and that is traumatic to your very being. And while you are addressing the lies and secrecy that come with deception, the impact of the trauma needs to be validated and articulated. The words trauma and betrayal afford that, therefore, in this …

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Sleepless Sleepovers

Jot down any and all words, images, and ideas that come to mind. For some people, your thoughts may immediately go to an experience of trauma. That's not unusual. Make a choice about how to take care of yourself. If you can, use this as an opportunity to explore it …

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How much do you appreciate your strengths?

Take a deep, slow breath in from your diaphragm, which means your belly should expand more than your chest. Then take even more time on the exhale, letting yourself deflate like a balloon, as my friend, colleague, and breathing guru Wim Hof says. Take at least fifteen breaths like this …

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I do not stop eating when I am full

In fact, you could even make this a golden rule for yourself, and, if you're feeling empowered, you can ask those you're with to do the same. You can back up your request with the knowledge you've gained by reading this article. For instance, we now know the importance of …

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Open-Ended versus Closed-Ended Questions

But then on day three I noticed a real change in him. He started becoming more confident and peaceful. I bumped into him a few months after the trip and asked him how he was doing. He told me, There's not a day that goes by when I don't think …

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Understanding How You Think

Back in our little kayak together, talking about our lives, he asks about who Anne and Isaac and I are to one another. He hasn't understood that we're a family. I can feel him trying to figure us out--especially me. He asks questions and I don't mind. We're engaging with …

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I am generous with handicapped people

Self-love alone cannot fix that. The body positivity movement's narrow focus means its tools can't work as predicted--or at all. Yes, we all need self-love to cope with body shaming and to resist internalizing it, yet self-love is not the cure but the response. All the self-love in the world …

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I do not drink enough water

Our culture has elevated celebrities to godlike status and obsesses over their relationships, style choices, and just about every other aspect of their lives. But it's not just the everyday happenings of the rich and famous that fascinate us. We're also fixated on what's happening with everyone we know. There …

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Is it growing?

Talking with a professional offers a better understanding of your unique reasons for developing codependent behaviors. Once your codependent behaviors are fully understood, your chances of developing future codependent relationships are lowered, and your chances of having mutually satisfying and healthy relationships rise. Where to Go from Here The need …

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Self-Discipline Handarticle

Mindful eating is not a diet, and it's not about helping you control or restrict what you eat. It's about experiencing food more intensely. You can eat ice cream mindfully, if you wish. You might enjoy it a lot more if you slow down and allow yourself to fully experience …

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The Developing Brain

They're often the ones who have the most engaged fans, too, because we want our athletes to be real people we can relate to. So even if you're an accomplished competitor, you might want to assess how many of your posts relate to your sport, what you're projecting to the …

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