Finally, care about what people have to say. I don't mean "appear to care" about what they have to say, I mean literally care. This is the hardest step in the process because sometimes we just don't care. It sounds callous, but it's true. Someone else's problems are just that …

When we think about somebody in particular and suddenly, they call. When we sense we will bump into a particular person and, lo and behold, there they are. The way we can feel a profound sense of familiarity or kinship with a perfect stranger. The way we can walk into …

Do you absolutely have to share crude and tasteless humor and jokes on your newsfeed? Do you absolutely have to rant, rave, complain, and vent to your social media "friends"? Do you absolutely have put others down because of their political affiliations? Do you absolutely have to share your negative …

When it gains traction, so shall we--and that will save many lives and countless dollars. It is certainly possible that you could have learnt to become anxious. If one of your parents was so timid that every time you went to try something new as a child he or she …

People are sick, they get the treatment, they get better. And, this happens in thousands of cases. But these are all anecdotal cases, and we must remember that personal experiences can be misleading. What is needed are controlled experiments. So we continue digging through the evidence in search of some …

Some people call it meditation and others might call it mindfulness. No matter what you call "finding inner calm," please don't overcomplicate it. You don't need a ten-thousand-dollar course to learn how to find some peace inside your head. Just sit down, be one with your thoughts, observe them, and …

Not only are depressed people plagued with self-doubts but their self-esteem plummets as well. Hold onto hope and accept that what you're going through will pass eventually. And finally, and most importantly, seek help immediately if you are feeling suicidal or have difficulty controlling thoughts of self-harm. Continue taking care …

So, for psychotherapy to be a successful, you have to crave change, possess a curiosity of your inner world and an interest in understanding what motivates you, and tolerate a moderate degree of frustration. This is where the myth that only crazy people--or weak-minded individuals--go to therapy gets the boot …

They are after all working at the extreme. (Is it any wonder the military on long tours find it difficult?) Like being an astronaut on the International Space Station, there is always a way. A small plant is nature after all. Be creative. Look how creative your mind has been …

There is a definite goal. But there is no timetable. What you are doing is digging your way deeper and deeper through layers of illusion toward realization of the supreme truth of existence. The process itself is fascinating and fulfilling. It can be enjoyed for its own sake. There is …

You have no need to look down at others and feel "better" than them. You have no need to think certain people don't deserve to be treated the way you'd like to be treated. You have no need to EVER disrespect anyone - even if they're disrespecting you. It's the same …

And if it's not interesting, don't put yourself down - tell a story that illustrates the diversity of your job. Every position can be described this way if you know how to go about it. Ask Educated Questions - Get in there and ask questions about the people you meet, but make …

Your truth. I personally think you should keep an eye fixed on the future, too. A planned future. The direction you are going in. Because when you do that, it provides a reward for doing something now. A reason to carry out even mundane tasks with vigour. A reason to …

Of course, there are exceptions, but as Burton Malkiel notes, there is no scientific evidence to indicate that the performance of professionally managed portfolios, as a group, is any better than a randomly selected group of stocks.27 What about those few individuals who have attained considerable fame for predicting …

They all turned out to be too high, no surprise given what I saw clinically. But his pulse was strong and regular. In a quiet single room surrounded by his family, he took several high doses of Librium and some fluids and began to settle down. I concluded that Tom …

At that moment, I understood the reason behind the trials and tribulations I had endured in my past. I began to understand the divine reason for my life's journey: Its purpose was to make a difference in the world. Just knowing this valuable information closed those mental prison doors behind …

Traffic jams are not "problems" but you allow them to make you angry and unhappy because you create the "problem" using your thoughts, emotions, and perceptions. People aren't actually THAT stupid, you aren't actually that much of a smarter driver, and your day isn't as bad as you think it …

Instead, think about what you can do to overcome or prevent the things that are holding you back. Thinking about details is nothing more than doing your job. If you're a writer, your job is to write the best book you possibly can. If you're a designer, your job is …

If location tracking is a priority, a GPS-enabled wristwatch like the GizmoWatch keeps track of kids through an app on parents' phones but only allows incoming and outgoing calls to and from select numbers. To investigate these expectations further, Chapman and Chapman gave undergraduate students thirty cards.8 Each card …

I believe that you have a special place in the order of life, a particular role to fill. And yes, it is one filled with vision, passion, and power. So hang on and get ready to get way more consciously into your own life. Don't feel selfish or egotistical because …

What are the skills tied to self-compassion? One is the skill of tuning in to yourself, checking how you're feeling physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And then allowing that information to matter--because you matter. You worked on this in a fun way when we talked about challenging your shaming voice …

If a manuscript is rejected for publication, researchers think it's due to the arbitrary selection of a particularly critical reviewer, as opposed to the quality of what they wrote. You can use a watch to time your session, but don't peek at it every two minutes to see how you …

The study looked at 311 unmarried participants who were separated from their partners by distances ranging from ninety miles to more than 10,000 miles, for periods ranging from about two weeks to more than ten years. Those who used webcams and phone calls--methods most similar to face-to-face communication--were more …

Sitting through restlessness is a little breakthrough in your meditation career. It will teach you a lot. You will find that agitation is actually rather a superficial mental state. It is inherently ephemeral. It comes and it goes. It has no real grip on you at all. By looking closely …

The more data points you have, the more reliable your observations will be. Engage and code your emotional state. Rinse and repeat. Take note of any observations. If a behavior repeatedly leads to HP or LP states, even for a few seconds or minutes, then you may intuitively decide that …

Hyman gives one kind of deficiency--a deficiency in folic acid--as an example, explaining, "If you have folate deficiency, it is unlikely that antidepressants will even work. People with a low folate level have only a 7 percent response to treatment with antidepressants. Those with a high folate have a response …

And I also know that hardening my heart and approaching all relationships with skepticism and distrust is not in my nature, nor do I ever want to live that closed-off kind of life. Additionally, if I hadn't worked on tapping into my deep beauty and inner worth and, most importantly …

Do you fear growing old? If so, why? At what age were you when you first noticed signs of aging? What were the signs? And what were your reactions? What are your thoughts about maintaining a youthful appearance? For many of us who teach Yoga, it is not our only …

Request their direct telephone number as well. Now, sometimes you might not get the rep's last name or direct line, but it sets the stage with whomever you're speaking that you are a skilled consumer. To determine what other researchers are saying on this matter, a systematic review identified twelve …

We can truly understand the meaning of the famous metaphor of the blind man who has a healthy body and the disabled person who has good eyes. Both of them, alone, are limited. But when the disabled person climbs on the shoulders of the blind man, together they can travel …

Do not get hung up in the estimate. When your mind is wild and agitated, you can often reestablish mindfulness with a few quick deep breaths. Pull the air in strongly and let it out the same way. This increases the sensation inside the nostrils and makes it easier to …

Increasing your activity level for one day is a great start, but the most powerful benefits will come from consistency. Once you get moving, how do you keep moving, day after day, week after week? Here are five ways to reap the long-term benefits of a more active lifestyle: Keep …

In fact, one procrastinator said he felt as if he were wearing a large "kick me" sign on his back. Let's imagine for a moment that you were a visitor from another planet who came down to Earth with orders to observe the behavior of Earthlings who habitually refuse to …

It can be a touch, a sound, a sight, a taste, and a smell, in particular, is very powerful. What follows will illustrate some powerful examples through word and experience. Experience of my own. I sometimes relate this event on the speaking circuit, while reading it ensure your tongue is …

It's either one or the other, but not both. Since you already know where the stories, lying, and excuses have landed you, the only choice left is to move on from them and let them be part of your past. You've told the exaggerated stories so many times that you …

You may spend kind money: think about where and for whom an additional ten pounds may bring most happiness. You may show healthy kindness: do a run for a good cause. Offer someone a night of freedom by helping them out with babysitting or by cooking meals they can put …

Of course life sometimes gets that busy that it gets missed. I like to pay attention to how I do things in life. One such busy time resulted in me writing one sentence only in my journal: Honesty creates the space for the release to happen all by itself.' Given …

Great work so far! I hope you congratulate yourself for already beginning. In fact, doing something nice for yourself as a thank-you is healthy self-compassion and self-care. You may be asking yourself, If that's the case, then why have I not done this reformulation of self before? I always say …

Life not only feels better but actually goes better, and I function better, when I'm achieving my goals than when I'm not. Knowing our goals helps us be organized, and we need to ask ourselves if the things we're doing are leading us towards our goals. One way to help …

If you are using your coping strategies your anxiety is likely to abate and once it has reduced to, say, a three, you can choose something a little more difficult from the list you have drawn up. Michelle practised this exercise for two days, three times a day until her …