There's also the aforementioned issue of silence. Now Harry, that's my doc, he has a problem with me. He says that I am too serious about this heart condition. That I should relax, not worry so much, step away from it and it would go away. Wolfy (he's known me …

It really is absurd. Similarly, patience can help your clients move beyond their own immediate desires, and instead, carefully consider and wait for a desired outcome. Virtues can also provide meaning by serving a motivational function. They can orient your clients' lives around an intention or purpose. A prime example …

Every day after work she hops on the train to head home. So you know now that you are dealing with a person with real disease. You must write this to my doctors. You can help me convince them that I am a heart and lung patient! In that same …

He worked hard to gain access to hospital charts stored in the record room. One day he located his mother's old chart, and he proceeded to find ways to read it. But again he could not be sure whether it confirmed his mother's accusation or exonerated him from the deeply …

CAREER AND PERSONAL BLOCKS: If you feel blocked in your life or career, ask for this imbalance to show up in your body. What would this block look like? What is preventing you from being in a career you feel called to or would enjoy? Move to the resistance and …

The former label for such behavior was Munchausen's syndrome, named for Baron Munchausen (1720-97), an adventurer known for his fantastic tales of exploits; Unlike malingering, it does not yield a practical financial or other social gain. Rather it complicates an already deeply disturbed life. Gus Echeverra has such a problem …

The conflict arises because they are talking about two distinctive modes of experiencing reality. Patients' behavior superficially replicates what they share with others who harbor the same pathology. However, patients' behavior also expresses the distinctive meanings in their lives that come to shape the experience of illness as most decidedly …

She reached her counselor and said, I hired a painter, and he tells me that he has Branden's kidney. How can we be sure? He said, Wow, the odds of that occurring would be almost impossible, but give me his name. Gail asked Ken his full name and gave it …

I felt a desperate desire to save him--a danger sign in therapy. I could affirm his suffering but not his fierce self-punishment, which I insisted had to cease. Near the end of the year, I realized he was having difficulty telling me that he had begun again to exact his …

And never believe in your own resistance--it is either telling you that you suck or that you are now perfected and no longer need to do any inner work. Both are illusions. What happens through this process, through any in-depth spiritual and meditative process, is that what is within us …

It gets easier. You form habits intentionally or unintentionally over the span of your life. In other words, you're either in control of forming them or not. It's preferable to be in control of forming your habits, but either way it takes from 60 to 100 days for a habit …

Before I left I managed to ask Dr Song about his treatment. He seemed embarrassed by my question. I repeated it in English, believing that he failed to comprehend my Chinese. Don't ask me about such things. I don't know anything about it. My family is in charge of this …

However, for those who do not have people in their life to which they can turn, you can facilitate these experiences in your office by communicating empathy via affirmations, nonverbal mirroring, and appropriate therapist disclosure (without shifting the focus to yourself). Although relationships can be a source of great joy …

His intuition could then help guide him that much more closely to a match for his desires. What if you are trying to follow your intuition, but you can't figure out what it is? What gets in the way of clearly feeling the resonance of your inner guidance system? A …

Other examples include, Can you imagine what you would do when _ happens? As we've discovered, What if? Paying attention to this kind of language can clue you in on when your response to wonder is overtaking your curiosity and crushing your ability to think in innovative ways. Once you …

After about a month, you will have the space and perspective to see how much that belief may still be affecting you, or how your body map has changed. If this work gets to be too much, remember that we do not need to do the heavy lifting on our …

Heather: I've been feeling a bit lonelier lately. Therapist: Tell me about that. Heather: Well, I've stopped going to church, and I'm missing my connection with other people. But I'm really loving my garden. Therapist: I'm so glad that you've found gardening. It sounds really fulfilling. Tell me about this …

Meditation is like Kundalani because meditation through Kundalini can help to clean your spirit today. Take time to tap into Kundalani and feel your energies flow! Here are some thoughts about the K of Meditation from Frank Kafka: By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create …

If I could will it, I would die now--in midsentence, ironically, with the best part left unsaid. You can go now, Hadley. You done good today. Gordon Stuart died ten days after this interview, at home, with Hadley Eliot in attendance. Hadley Eliot told me: Gordon died a good death …

What do I believe is true (what is the contract) concerning this archetype? How do they act? What do they accomplish? What is their role in society? What are the societal rules and restrictions for this archetype? What are the strengths of this archetype? What is the beauty of this …

You feel a boost of energy when you set your intention, and then another boost when those intention waves connect with similar-frequency waves. You are likely already familiar with energy waves that have meaning for you. You have probably felt your emotions stir when listening to your favorite music. Music …

In healthy families, the parents are like the supportive therapist who encourages the client to step out into the unknown, yet welcomes her back at any time. The foray into the group process is most certainly a step into the unknown, but this strange land will soon begin to feel …

As Penny was getting older, she was competing with younger women for roles and felt that larger breasts might give her an edge, so she started saving money to get a breast enlargement. She saw a recommended doctor, and the first thing he did was give her a breast exam …

That's not how it used to go. When humans were farmers and hunters and little else, what we had to do during the day was typically singular, it was routine. We had to harvest or milk the cattle or butcher the animal or feed the animals. We had to fix …

For example, if you like someone whose name is Anna, you could take the first poem called Meditation is Like A and give it to that person to express your gratitude. You can do the same thing with all the letters and gift the poem to someone you like to …

There are different types of groups that a person might attend. Support groups are usually just that: for support. They are rarely led by therapists, although some are. Formats may differ, but the basic goal of a group is for people with similar issues to come together to share and …

It made him realize that he was still engaged in negative thinking--this discovery was one of the many gifts the relationship gave him. He got to see things differently and shine a light on some of his issues. His partner's response was a reflection not of the wound, but of …

We decided to approach the body deva and ask about the rage because I felt that it was related to the adoption. The body deva highlighted the solar plexus and said that it was related to cultural energies. The energy felt dense, like a rope wrapped around his midsection, squeezing …

Who says you work your way eventually to acceptance--I don't accept it! Today I can't accept it. Yesterday I did partly. Saturday, I was there: kind of in a trance, waiting, ready to die. But not now. Today it's the fear all over again. I don't want to die. I'm …

But you'd better believe I'd also be on the street corner by day, with a deck of cards in my hand, ready to stir the imaginations of passersby and pass my hat in an effort to get back on my feet. The reality is, as a wow person, I tend …

Alecandra is my sister and she has inspired me to get started with yoga myself and to discover the wonderful world of Yoga! She has also encouraged me to create this article and do it in an easy to digest lesson way that makes learning about Yoga an interesting process …

When a baby is born, it communicates through various nonverbal signals in the initial few weeks. If you touch a baby's cheeks, he or she will move its head, extend the limbs, and begin to cry because he or she is startled. When the baby touches a smooth flat surface …

For your thoughts, single in on one thought and look at it more deeply now. Make it the central thought in your mind now. Like a video or camera, make that object or thought clearer and other things around it blurred. On the other hand, observe that single thought in …

Whenever you have a feeling, chemical messengers go to work to give instructions to the cells of your body. If you feel compassion for your co-worker and want to help, your body creates the oxytocin molecules of care and attachment. Those molecules have a specific shape, vibration, and spin that …

Ads that said, You could be enough, if only you could be seen driving this kind of car, wearing these kinds of clothes, living in this kind of house, hanging out with these kinds of people. If only you belonged. It took me a long time to realize that I …

It's all bullshit. You have to realize that it's bullshit or you doom yourself to a life clouded by a cynicism that isn't actually true. People who make tons of money or simply achieve great successes do so because, in some form or another, they deserve it, and they usually …

These are all ways to notice that you are experiencing resistance. Resistance is natural. It is by compassionately and directly inquiring why it is there that we can begin to work with it, instead of battling it and setting up unhelpful polarities that create more resistance. Working with Resistance There …

Life does not hand us a purpose, though it often falls into our laps in the form of an interest or a job that intrigues us, that challenges us to learn it, become better at it, and succeed at it. Where You Should Already Be A disciplined mind leads to …

Both people think that the other has a problem and is handling it wrong. But in a very real sense, each one is perfect for the other in that moment, in that relationship. Aloof and Needy Another example of a dance we do with each other is known as Aloof …

List as many ways as you can think of that DID has helped your loved one to survive. What does your friend or loved one do to function in daily life? If you are not sure, do you want to ask her if she is willing to share more with …