Love is supposed to be confusing

It really is absurd. Similarly, patience can help your clients move beyond their own immediate desires, and instead, carefully consider and wait for a desired outcome. Virtues can also provide meaning by serving a motivational function. They can orient your clients' lives around an intention or purpose. A prime example …

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Shifting the Burden

Every day after work she hops on the train to head home. So you know now that you are dealing with a person with real disease. You must write this to my doctors. You can help me convince them that I am a heart and lung patient! In that same …

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Believing Is Seeing

He worked hard to gain access to hospital charts stored in the record room. One day he located his mother's old chart, and he proceeded to find ways to read it. But again he could not be sure whether it confirmed his mother's accusation or exonerated him from the deeply …

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I overeat on a regular basis

The former label for such behavior was Munchausen's syndrome, named for Baron Munchausen (1720-97), an adventurer known for his fantastic tales of exploits; Unlike malingering, it does not yield a practical financial or other social gain. Rather it complicates an already deeply disturbed life. Gus Echeverra has such a problem …

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On Visualization

The conflict arises because they are talking about two distinctive modes of experiencing reality. Patients' behavior superficially replicates what they share with others who harbor the same pathology. However, patients' behavior also expresses the distinctive meanings in their lives that come to shape the experience of illness as most decidedly …

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Photographic Memory

She reached her counselor and said, I hired a painter, and he tells me that he has Branden's kidney. How can we be sure? He said, Wow, the odds of that occurring would be almost impossible, but give me his name. Gail asked Ken his full name and gave it …

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The Alchemy of Gender

I felt a desperate desire to save him--a danger sign in therapy. I could affirm his suffering but not his fierce self-punishment, which I insisted had to cease. Near the end of the year, I realized he was having difficulty telling me that he had begun again to exact his …

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Brain-Changing Strategies

It gets easier. You form habits intentionally or unintentionally over the span of your life. In other words, you're either in control of forming them or not. It's preferable to be in control of forming your habits, but either way it takes from 60 to 100 days for a habit …

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Don't stop searching

However, for those who do not have people in their life to which they can turn, you can facilitate these experiences in your office by communicating empathy via affirmations, nonverbal mirroring, and appropriate therapist disclosure (without shifting the focus to yourself). Although relationships can be a source of great joy …

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Find God's purpose and plan for us

His intuition could then help guide him that much more closely to a match for his desires. What if you are trying to follow your intuition, but you can't figure out what it is? What gets in the way of clearly feeling the resonance of your inner guidance system? A …

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Why are they your friends?

After about a month, you will have the space and perspective to see how much that belief may still be affecting you, or how your body map has changed. If this work gets to be too much, remember that we do not need to do the heavy lifting on our …

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I love feeling cozy

Meditation is like Kundalani because meditation through Kundalini can help to clean your spirit today. Take time to tap into Kundalani and feel your energies flow! Here are some thoughts about the K of Meditation from Frank Kafka: By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create …

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I think lovingly about my boss

If I could will it, I would die now--in midsentence, ironically, with the best part left unsaid. You can go now, Hadley. You done good today. Gordon Stuart died ten days after this interview, at home, with Hadley Eliot in attendance. Hadley Eliot told me: Gordon died a good death …

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The drug and supplement trap

You feel a boost of energy when you set your intention, and then another boost when those intention waves connect with similar-frequency waves. You are likely already familiar with energy waves that have meaning for you. You have probably felt your emotions stir when listening to your favorite music. Music …

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Tips for When I Feel Angry

In healthy families, the parents are like the supportive therapist who encourages the client to step out into the unknown, yet welcomes her back at any time. The foray into the group process is most certainly a step into the unknown, but this strange land will soon begin to feel …

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While They Were Sleeping

As Penny was getting older, she was competing with younger women for roles and felt that larger breasts might give her an edge, so she started saving money to get a breast enlargement. She saw a recommended doctor, and the first thing he did was give her a breast exam …

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Gazing intently into the empty sky, vision ceases

For example, if you like someone whose name is Anna, you could take the first poem called Meditation is Like A and give it to that person to express your gratitude. You can do the same thing with all the letters and gift the poem to someone you like to …

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Stop whining

It made him realize that he was still engaged in negative thinking--this discovery was one of the many gifts the relationship gave him. He got to see things differently and shine a light on some of his issues. His partner's response was a reflection not of the wound, but of …

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The other side of strength is fragility

We decided to approach the body deva and ask about the rage because I felt that it was related to the adoption. The body deva highlighted the solar plexus and said that it was related to cultural energies. The energy felt dense, like a rope wrapped around his midsection, squeezing …

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You're allowed to have a voice

But you'd better believe I'd also be on the street corner by day, with a deck of cards in my hand, ready to stir the imaginations of passersby and pass my hat in an effort to get back on my feet. The reality is, as a wow person, I tend …

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I drink too much soda

Alecandra is my sister and she has inspired me to get started with yoga myself and to discover the wonderful world of Yoga! She has also encouraged me to create this article and do it in an easy to digest lesson way that makes learning about Yoga an interesting process …

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Afraid of losing my house

When a baby is born, it communicates through various nonverbal signals in the initial few weeks. If you touch a baby's cheeks, he or she will move its head, extend the limbs, and begin to cry because he or she is startled. When the baby touches a smooth flat surface …

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Expressing Anger Healthily and Appropriately

For your thoughts, single in on one thought and look at it more deeply now. Make it the central thought in your mind now. Like a video or camera, make that object or thought clearer and other things around it blurred. On the other hand, observe that single thought in …

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I am generous with myself

Whenever you have a feeling, chemical messengers go to work to give instructions to the cells of your body. If you feel compassion for your co-worker and want to help, your body creates the oxytocin molecules of care and attachment. Those molecules have a specific shape, vibration, and spin that …

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On Over-thinking

Ads that said, You could be enough, if only you could be seen driving this kind of car, wearing these kinds of clothes, living in this kind of house, hanging out with these kinds of people. If only you belonged. It took me a long time to realize that I …

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Declutter Your Life

These are all ways to notice that you are experiencing resistance. Resistance is natural. It is by compassionately and directly inquiring why it is there that we can begin to work with it, instead of battling it and setting up unhelpful polarities that create more resistance. Working with Resistance There …

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