The journey of recovery

But to be honest, at some stage in my life I lost touch a little with the real value of these rituals. Although I could always appreciate the beauty of lighting candles on a Friday night, standing next to my mum as she marked the beginning of the Sabbath with …

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Make one nonverbal change

Awareness of this pattern is the path to liberation from it. We all desire to minimize our stress and suffering; we desire peace. We try to find the solution to the problem we see as the cause of stress. We try to avoid situations that are stressful. We attempt to …

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Staying healthy keeps you out of the hospital

The next time you find yourself struggling with uncertainty, revisit these questions to help you think productively about the future, and see if your new perspective has an impact on your emotional state, your assessment of threat, and your beliefs about your ability to cope. Most people find that responding …

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Pick your battles

Situations don't care at all. Breathing in and out through the nose, do a minute or so of kapalabhati pranayama. This means breathing sharp, rapid breaths using your abdominal muscles, focusing on the exhales, and allowing the inhales to be passive or reflexive. Follow this exercise with one or two …

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It is usually best to take a direct approach

Are you prepared to approach the information, suggestions, and exercises in this article with an open mind? Is it possible you'll benefit from trying the strategies to help you manage anxiety? In your notearticle, write down your answers to these questions: What would you like to tell yourself about paying …

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You have the right to ask for help

Thus, if we had an innate mental body image, I would expect that, in a limited number of cases, subjects with standard bodies might have an utterly bizarre body image and not just a modulation of the standard body image (Figure 21). This is not the case. Travelling mindfully on …

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You don't know everything, and you don't have to

Many of our greatest minds understood this. Renowned painter Salvador Dali advised, "Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it." Philosopher Immanuel Kant noted, "Out of the crooked timber of humanity, no straight thing was ever made." If these great icons understood that perfection is not possible, why do …

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You have a right to be alone sometimes

"All of my problems are the fault of my family and my confining culture. They have made me believe that I have no place in this world other than to be a wife and mother," she said. Hanna's negative reactions to her family only served to fuel the anger and …

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You are still free to make their own choices

Its opinion is strong and difficult to ignore. To get to the top, to complete the journey, we must silence that voice, pluck it out of our minds, and let it fall to the depths of oblivion at the bottom of the cold, dark well where it belongs. Only then …

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Everyone makes mistakes

If you can't manage three minutes, just feel three breaths before diving in. Between activities. Resting between your daily activities, even for just a few moments, is very nourishing. Feeling your breath and renewing yourself is very pleasant. Research has found that just three mindful breaths can change your body's …

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You do not have to justify yourself to others

You spend ninety minutes in what should have been a forty-five-minute meeting and leave with your energy flagging and frustrated. The next time you attend a staff or committee meeting, request the opportunity to lead an exercise aimed at making meetings more productive and less draining. Tell the group you …

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You are in charge of your own behaviour

How many of us go pop! in response to the jagged threats of narcissism, bullying, or passive-aggressive behavior? How many of us try and set appropriate boundaries in life? Reflecting back on this year, I am horrified at what I permitted inside the confines of my personal bubble: negative nonsense …

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Keep your mind sharp

In some cases, for example, the core has a whole separate house of her own, not just a study in the main house. If a patient already has a safe place, I often suggest that she lift it into the new Safe Place. One patient created a whole amusement park …

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Take a stand when you fall

Cognitive learning is about how we think and assess a situation. It may include labeling certain situations as "dangerous" instead of "anxietyprovoking" or "uncomfortable." It also can prime our development of beliefs that not only is our world dangerous, but that our capacity to respond to that danger is inadequate …

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Compare less - appreciate more

Simply plunk down and unwind with some tea or coffee. In the struggle for survival, nearly every form of life has its mimics--right down to some of the most primitive pathogens. By adopting certain critical features of useful hormones or nutrients, these clever bacteria and viruses can gain entry into …

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Go for good enough

First, if you eat infrequently, as shown in the top diagram above, your body slows down fat burning while ramping up fat storage. Similar problems occur when you eat foods that turn off the metabolic thermostat. Essentially, your body begins to sense that you are starving (for lack of nutrients …

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Point out common ground

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. We sometimes walk in unusual environments that are unstable underfoot, such as while on a boat at sea, or inside an aeroplane in turbulence. Walking while the ground moves - something deeply unnatural and unsettling - can demonstrate how the vestibular system …

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Agree where you can

But, these are not your life. Just parts of it. You are an expert on one thing in the Universe. YOU. Who else, after all, could you ask if you want to find out what makes you happy? So what does make you happy? The things that you have come …

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Don't counterattack or respond to provocation

As a bonus, the fibers are very beneficial to prevent constipation, which can round your belly. There is a scientific explanation for the popularity of low-carbohydrate diets: large amounts of carbohydrate from white flour and added sugar can wreak havoc on your blood sugar level (the amount of sugar in …

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Letting go of unhelpful perfectionism

A tennis match, a guided tour of a natural park or city, a bike ride or bowling. On average, the most sedentary people make between 2000 and 3000 steps per day. By adding 2000 steps daily, you could manage to maintain your current weight and stop weight gain. Add more …

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Have a contingency plan

Looking in the mirror and facing our standards and goals by looking in the eye would help weight loss. In this way, it is easier to stop eating and remember why you want to lose weight. The Disease Control Center in the United States has revealed that simply climbing up …

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Outside the family

If you have a particular urge for a food, you are probably not hungry, but you are simply greedy. If, on the contrary, you eat the first food on your way, then you are probably really hungry. Find another way to fulfill your emotional needs and eat only when you …

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