This included no fewer than two sets of twins--of which, of course, my sister Sandy and I were one. I have two younger sisters, who are also twins. And an older brother. So: our mother was only intermittently responsive. Of course your mother was intermittently available, you might respond quite …

They also suggested flagging' that she was going to say something important by starting assertively with a phrase such asI have a very good idea-would you like to hear it? ' This case illustrates that you can't change other people's behaviour - you can only change your own, but by changing …

But at least we haven't given up. We've had a taste of rowing in Eden. I have heard stories of people (E. M. Forster is himself a great example) who have waited into their forties, fifties, or sixties to find a container, to find the reparative attachment experience. Why am …

How did you react? Did you avoid, accommodate, compete, compromise or collaborate? Was this effective? What might have been a more effective strategy for managing the conflict? Many situations in life are stressful for most of us, irrespective of our style. But you take something away from the last stage …

He describes three prominent forms: Ambivalent. Avoidant. And disorganized. And he goes on to describe them in vivid clinical detail. 4 Acknowledge three things: life is short, time is valuable, and your sense of self consistently needs a fix of modesty. Each thought has a real existence and development. Change …

Without awareness, this underlying experience is hard to identify. But if you can pause and explore what underpins your thinking, you can better address the root of the problem rather than its symptoms. Because we are good at lists. Before you laugh, tell me you haven't had at least one …

Once I realized that listening to my inner voice had the ability to propel me just as much as it had the power to restrict me, I started taking notes. Literally, I started writing down my negative thoughts. Putting them on paper made me recognize how much I was listening …

Who says that compassion is a sign of weakness? Who says that I cannot find the courage to be who I really am? Make your personal list. Remember, these are investigations not opinions. The purpose is not to create new judgments of any person or thing. We are observing and …

we are not in touch with what we really desire, what is deeply satisfying. If we sit down and really think about this, we often discover that what we really want it is not what we usually think we want, or that which we have simply accepted. If we ask …

Making decisions is, for many people, a cause of serious stress. If you want to make quick, clear and effective decisions, decisions you can stand fully behind, you must first determine where a decision will lead you and at which goal you want to direct your energy. You remove a …

'19 They also recommend several key staples of good fitness, including moderate-to-vigorous cardiovascular/aerobic exercise, stretching and flexibility exercises, and even the development and maintenance of total body strength across a life span (though the overall emphasis still seems to be on cardiovascular health). According to Todd Miller, an associate …

In a series of studies, they found that cardiorespiratory endurance--how fit our heart, lungs, blood, and muscles are--has a positive effect on our brain function, and that better cardiorespiratory fitness is related to better outcomes in people with neurodegenerative disorders. They have also shown that 6 months of exercise training …

She kept her eyes opened, watching above the sea of heads, to see what the master was doing. Suddenly the Master looked directly at her and pointed to the location of the third eye between his eyebrows, a very clear instruction for her to close her eyes and focus there …

Observe how you are doing the act itself. Now, slow it down. Breathe in that air a bit deeper, and use your full lung capacity like it's meant to be used. Become aware of the correlation between your breath and your mind. Notice how when your breaths are slow and …

' When I put myself in the shoes of the person on the other side of my arguing and thought about how they might receive my unrelenting debate, it gave me pause. Let your frazzled brainwaves settle, and just be. Give yourself some love. And then some more. There is no …

Then she said, 'I've got something to tell you. Such exertion limits the resulting payload of amino acids, fatty acids, and sugars entering our bloodstream, with the process taking enough time so that our hunger can naturally subside as we experience 'satiation' (the desire to no longer eat). These diets …

Objectively reviewing accusations made about us during an encounter is another path for self-discovery. The older adults used both left and right hippocampi in the tasks, whereas the younger adults used primarily their left. These findings are consistent with those from studies of other brain regions showing greater use of …

As I will explain more fully later, taking part in any kind of art program, including the nonvisual arts of music, dance, and theater, can improve your health, your outlook, and your resilience. Important implications flow from these two studies, both for private citizens and for those responsible for supporting …

When was the last time you had a really good night's sleep? And how did you feel in the morning? A super-simple tip to get you started with evening rituals is to use a smudging tool when you've decided to bring your working day to an end. As soon as …

But to be honest, at some stage in my life I lost touch a little with the real value of these rituals. Although I could always appreciate the beauty of lighting candles on a Friday night, standing next to my mum as she marked the beginning of the Sabbath with …

Awareness of this pattern is the path to liberation from it. We all desire to minimize our stress and suffering; we desire peace. We try to find the solution to the problem we see as the cause of stress. We try to avoid situations that are stressful. We attempt to …

The next time you find yourself struggling with uncertainty, revisit these questions to help you think productively about the future, and see if your new perspective has an impact on your emotional state, your assessment of threat, and your beliefs about your ability to cope. Most people find that responding …

Situations don't care at all. Breathing in and out through the nose, do a minute or so of kapalabhati pranayama. This means breathing sharp, rapid breaths using your abdominal muscles, focusing on the exhales, and allowing the inhales to be passive or reflexive. Follow this exercise with one or two …

Are you prepared to approach the information, suggestions, and exercises in this article with an open mind? Is it possible you'll benefit from trying the strategies to help you manage anxiety? In your notearticle, write down your answers to these questions: What would you like to tell yourself about paying …

"Walk! I can't walk home from school! That would take forever!" the Lamberts' son, Will, practically shouted into his cell phone the first time the issue came up. Thinking, even when thinking about something may be difficult. Making every effort to see things clearly, whether or not this comes easily …

But it left me deeply uncomfortable that perhaps she was enjoying a musical world while I sat in frustrated silence. I had little to worry about, however, as Sam soon made clear to me that she wasn't just happily listening to music. How did she make this clear? She started …

If you have just got rid of some novels to the thrift (charity) store, think about buying an e-reader or join your local library. If working in your living room is a necessity, consider a slimline desk with narrow drawers and a pull-out shelf for your laptop. Losing a storage …

Thus, if we had an innate mental body image, I would expect that, in a limited number of cases, subjects with standard bodies might have an utterly bizarre body image and not just a modulation of the standard body image (Figure 21). This is not the case. Travelling mindfully on …

Consequently, conscious experience is populated with unfamiliar properties or emptied of familiar ones. Sometimes, the subtraction of a property may result in the perception of a different combination of existing ones. It is pitiful that such circumstances have often been interpreted in terms of mental entities rather than in terms …

Just research the ingredients carefully and be sure to always wear sunscreen, because serums do not contain it. Otherwise, enjoy! If you're cleaning your face and spot a blemish, you might be tempted to pop it. It's just as hard not to scrape off the almost-healed scab that's the result …

Many of our greatest minds understood this. Renowned painter Salvador Dali advised, "Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it." Philosopher Immanuel Kant noted, "Out of the crooked timber of humanity, no straight thing was ever made." If these great icons understood that perfection is not possible, why do …

"All of my problems are the fault of my family and my confining culture. They have made me believe that I have no place in this world other than to be a wife and mother," she said. Hanna's negative reactions to her family only served to fuel the anger and …

You can find zinc in red meat, legumes, asparagus, spinach, and almonds. mentality . But the fact is, meditation is the most transformational tool in the ~ing box. If you are new to this whole meditation thing, 40 . They are so uncomfortable that it's difficult to breathe. I guess I can …

Its opinion is strong and difficult to ignore. To get to the top, to complete the journey, we must silence that voice, pluck it out of our minds, and let it fall to the depths of oblivion at the bottom of the cold, dark well where it belongs. Only then …

If you can't manage three minutes, just feel three breaths before diving in. Between activities. Resting between your daily activities, even for just a few moments, is very nourishing. Feeling your breath and renewing yourself is very pleasant. Research has found that just three mindful breaths can change your body's …

Historically, it is informative to note how often, due to practical factors, a property has been confused with another one. By and large, all illusions could be cast in terms of metamerism. A pool of water and a heated layer of sand are visually metameric. You'll find it more comfortable …

When you're mindful of your thoughts and feelings that are arising, you've created a choice. You don't have to react to your thoughts or do what they tell you to do. This generates a sense of control as you become aware of the choices you have. If, while you're driving …

They are all things that never existed before someone invented them. There's a popular old quote that says, "If you can dream it or think it, you can do it." I want us to take that to the next level. I want us to figure out how you can create …

"No one will build our lives for us. We must be the ones to do it." Gallstones, small hard 'rocks' of cholesterol and calcium, can block the tubes that drain the gall bladder. Once this happens, you experience terrible pain. Here's what you can do to prevent or lessen their …

You spend ninety minutes in what should have been a forty-five-minute meeting and leave with your energy flagging and frustrated. The next time you attend a staff or committee meeting, request the opportunity to lead an exercise aimed at making meetings more productive and less draining. Tell the group you …