How would someone else describe me?

Going to bed and getting up late, not flossing your teeth, not picking up after yourself, playing on your phone, not staying focused, choosing fun over work, spending money on little things you don't need, and choosing to get upset and worried instead of remaining calm are little things adding …

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Is this really my problem?

The reason is that over time more dentin--the hard inner tissue--is built up between the outer enamel of a tooth and its central nerve. The added insulation diminishes sensitivity. The bad news, though, is that our gums recede over time, exposing roots a different way. Your brain is smaller. As …

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Dealing with support services

So they decided to cut the tail of Mike's horse short. That worked for a while, but then they saw that the poor horse couldn''t brush the flies away and the tail grew back in pretty soon anyway. So they decided to measure the heights of the horses. And sure …

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People will laugh at me

Another time in college I had only one more final to go, and I was totally worn out. I needed some help. So I got an amphetamine pill to help me stay up all night and study. I didn't know then that I had ADD or that amphetamines are supposed …

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Put on those rose-colored glasses

To choose and change my thoughts. To let them grow and let them go. Seeing my thoughts like clouds in the sky I breathe on, open, light and free. Overall, fear is extremely destructive to the human mind and therefore to positive thinking itself. Why? I believe that positive expectations …

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Those who see why it can be done and those who see why it can't

When deciding whether to believe something, we need to state the belief as clearly and specifically as possible. We can't be ambiguous--ambiguous claims have too many loopholes that can make them essentially untestable. For example, many people hold the superstition that things come in threes--such as deaths of celebrities--but they …

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Thoughts, emotions and behaviours

Also, by imitating the examples provided by the therapist and other group members, they can learn to understand themselves better and develop real alternatives that can make coping easier. Over the past ten years, I have been working tirelessly to reclaim authority over my mental, emotional, and physical health. The …

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Are you able to ask people for help?

When you have your act together, you decide, "This has to happen" and it becomes everything that's important. It automatically shoots to the very top of your priority list. There are a number of factors associated with anxiety-related conditions. These are family history, stressful life events, thinking style, poor coping …

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Keep an open mind

Too hard can induce pain. The clothes you wear for meditation should be loose and soft. If they restrict blood flow or put pressure on nerves, the result will be pain and/or that tingling numbness that we normally refer to as our "legs going to sleep." If you are …

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Stop comparing, start appreciating

As I've suggested, the latest research shows us that what's going on in your gut influences what goes on in your brain--not the other way around. So, if the evidence shows us that the brain is responding to messages sent by the gut, primarily through the vagus nerve, then it …

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Developing rapport

It will help you to think of solutions and better yet understand what other people's actions are caused by. Visualize Negative Thoughts Turning into Positive - Here's an activity that works wonders for negative thoughts. When you have a negative though, visualize it in your head and then slowly transition it …

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Never ever and always

The truth is that all humans are "hardwired" to feel unhappy when there is pain. Pain signals literally travel to the parts of the brain that handle emotions: the limbic system and the frontal lobe. This is part of the survival system, because pain is there to alert you to …

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Putting it all to good use

It taps you into a whole new dimension of sensation, and you feel like a blind man whose sight has been restored. Every action you perform is made up of separate components. The simple action of tying your shoelaces is made up of a complex series of subtle motions. Most …

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You're either selling or you're being sold

There are many ways to fake psychic powers. Since the readings were done by phone, and members of a reputable radio station chose the calls, let's assume that the psychic did not have prior information on the callers. What else could account for her accuracy? The callers definitely felt she …

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Drop the "not enough time" excuse

Good for you! So take a look at your social connections with friends, family, coworkers, neighbors, and groups. Some of these relationships may not qualify as healthy and therefore will not be consistent sources of happiness and fulfillment--in fact, they can significantly detract from your happiness and fulfillment. Healthy relationships …

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Now, let's read other people

After we picked a career, we would have to investigate all the companies in the field that we could work for. As you can gather, if we did a thorough search to maximize our decision accuracy, we'd spend more time deciding where to work than actually working. We can't live …

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Avoiding manipulation

Every baseball player practices batting. It's the first thing you learn in Little League, and you never stop practicing. Every World Series game begins with batting practice. Basic skills must always remain sharp. Seated meditation is the arena in which meditators practice their own fundamental skills. The game the meditator …

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Gentle and open-minded

Take the case of Luke, who is a successful TV actor. Luke describes a sharp lesson that he learnt early on in his career, in managing criticism: I remember when, in my late teens, before I went on to drama school, I was in a local theatre group. This one …

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Not everyone is out to get you

Unite the mind with this sign that is available in the present moment and let the mind flow with every succeeding moment. As you pay bare attention to it, you will see that the sign itself is changing every moment. Keep your mind with the changing moments. Also, notice that …

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What am i able to do?

Those who were stigmatized were assigned the most undesirable category in the community.2 Though modern use of the word stigma no longer involves physical markings, a person with mental illness carries an indelible mark of shame nonetheless. This happens because society views mental illness as menacing, deviant, and unpredictable …

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Handling criticism

If you find your mind extremely active, then simply observe the nature and degree of that activity. It is just a part of the passing show within. Maintain muscle mass. Cells that don't sustain the proper balance of fluids and electrolytes cause muscle fatigue. That's why drinking ample fluids during …

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Natural rapport

This little bit of advice seemed to help a student in my critical thinking course. He went to a casino and won $800, a considerable sum for an undergraduate student. On his way to blowing his windfall, he stopped and thought about how his mental accounts were affecting his decision …

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Pursuing happiness can hurt your relationships

Here are some ideas. If you like to speak more than you like to write, you can record the TRAP with your phone. If you're walking and talking in public, to the people around you, you're simply having a phone conversation. If you record your monitoring, I encourage you to …

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Reduce, reuse, and smile

Life is full of many ups and downs. Each lifetime has moments of inconceivable joy, tremendous suffering, and utter boredom, yet in the end, it is all part of a beautiful ride. It is a wonderful blessing to have a conscious mind, but being self-aware entails many burdens and drawbacks …

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Visualize the movement

It is testimony to how much people want to help if we give them the tools to do so, if we make it personal and if we connect them with people in need. Successful people start their road to success with a moment of truth and a decision. A decision …

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Dealing with demands or requests

Ask yourself, for example, what you would do if there was nothing to stop you - you didn't have to think about money or other people. Think, too, about what has and hasn't worked in the past in relation to what it is you want to achieve. If, for example, your …

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Is this really dangerous?

You might be aware of the movement of the ribs as you breathe in and out or the movement of the belly, rising with each in-breath and releasing with each out-breath. Taking these next few moments to bring your attention to where you best sense the physical sensations and rhythm …

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