Who is having trouble saying no?

SHARING THE LOAD How parenting and household work is shared in two-parent households has been in a state of flux in Western culture for many years now, and how family systems are organized and how work is distributed impacts every member of the family, outlining expectations and determining how much …

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Acquire Before you Desire

Often, the first person we turn to when we want to get more sleep is our partner (if we have one). Unfortunately, as the next article will discuss, negotiating high-stakes parent work, like deciding who's going to do night duty, is hard for a lot of couples. Marriage is mostly …

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Asking for Forgiveness

Accepted norms and external pressures may compete with desires that are deeply biologically ingrained. While it is currently impossible to tease apart the impact of these factors precisely, what can be said for sure is that some of the most precious aspects of our unique personal lives derive from our …

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Bad day? How it can seem even worse for some

If your spill was a minor embarrassment, you will be able to move past it and not think about it after it is over. If you think of it as this awful mistake you made that everyone will remember forever, you will think about it every day and it will …

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Done Its Dash

The following activities require equipment but are very worthwhile in effecting change, due to the positive proprioceptive feedback that stimulates the joints for greater self-awareness and awakening consciousness. And, because they feel good and are just plain fun, they motivate the unmotivated by vitalizing the reticular activating system (RAS) of …

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I had my share of good times

I find most parents want something in between the behaviourist approach (Watson, Weissbluth, and Ferber) that assumes all infant sleep behaviour can be conditioned, and the just accept it approach that assumes parent sleep isn't important -- and both are overly simplistic and ignore the cost of each strategy on both …

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The Anxiety Mystery

It is a completely unproductive investment of time. It creates clutter in your mind that does have to be there. However, we all do it. When you go through the things you are worried, you will likely find that most of these things are either beyond or control, impossible to …

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Why is love born?

She also confessed to getting annoyed quickly and said with determination, I really want to deal with this. Her mother reported all of the above and more, including difficulties completing tasks, writing, eating, and falling asleep. Shakira was unable to ride a bike, suffered with motion sickness, and did not …

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Your Price of Admission

And before we go any further, I know it might seem bonkers to suggest that we can learn anything about human behaviour from fruit-fly sexuality, but studies on model organisms such as fruit flies and mice have been yielding breakthroughs for years in this area, as in the study of …

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Did It Work?

There's a big difference between getting up for two twenty-minute intervals to feed a baby each night for the first six months, and having your sleep interrupted every hour or two for eighteen months with an average of four hours of sleep a night. While the impossible-parenting value of the …

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I choose to accept myself

Pretend that the air in your chest and belly is your fuel tank. Make sure you fill it up before soaring beyond the clouds and into space! Widen stance by positioning feet approximately shoulder-width apart. Bring arms out to your sides (while exhaling) and in one flowing motion, bring hands …

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Learn How To Succeed From The Movies

It's also possible that babies aren't sleeping well because their parents rely on a lot of sleep associations (sometimes called sleep crutches) to get them to sleep, such as rocking them, holding them, or feeding them. Sleep associations, such as brushing your teeth, putting your pyjamas on, and reading in …

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What will you no longer tolerate?

There's no doubt that sexual attraction serves in part to boost immune-system diversity in any future offspring, and that this neatly illustrates how important life decisions are shaped by forces outside our conscious control. That said, it's probably safe to ignore any newspaper headlines about the `divorce pill' for now …

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Adopting Adaptive Schemas

In fact, you are passing their request off to someone who does have the time and means to do it. People who cannot say no will often find themselves having to explain why they could not get done what you promised that you would. This is an embarrassing and uncomfortable …

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Connect with Others

You also don't need to be the birther in order to use it. Start by drawing a picture of a house. Add as much detail as you like, but I'd like you to sketch in a few rooms in particular. You can see an example on article 73. First, draw …

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Here's How To Succeed Like A Professional

The fact is, though, that meaningful improvement for society as a whole will come by tweaking the public environment - we will return to this when we look at how the insights of neuroscience can be applied to bring about changes in diet and food choice at population level. This might …

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Is your help keeping you from growing?

This joint compression gave him both containment and a sense of triumph as he made the reflexive pushing movements that he didn't get to complete during his birth due to fetal distress. After this session, his mother and teacher reported that his temper outbursts had been completely eradicated after that …

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Listening and Asking: The Hidden Arts

This can happen if an epidural doesn't work, or if a birther becomes violently ill for the duration of the birth. Physical trauma can also stem from an emergency, such as low fluid, (postpartum) pre-eclampsia, placenta or heart rate issues, a micro-preemie baby, or a baby that's born lifeless. Trauma …

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Think Realistically

What a great way to start the day and help kids center themselves in the present, leaving their worries behind. This could sharpen their focus for optimum learning. It would be especially effective if a specific time and space are set aside for all students and staff to participate. My …

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Boundaries and Your Friends

In times where you are too busy to have much register in your mind, it is likely that your living spaces will have that chaotic look- dishes not put away, clothes in places other than the laundry bin, the surfaces dusty, and overall an unpolished look. This will be unpleasant …

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How To Really Succeed

Because the center of gravity is the point at which the body's mass is equally balanced, this point changes depending on one's position. The class can repeat the exercise with a variation: This time, shift the body weight forward and backward instead of side to side. Young children can pretend …

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Never Let Me Go

To find out more about epigenetics and its potential applications, I visited Cambridge University's Pathology Department to see Professor Nabeel Affara, who has been studying how our environment triggers alterations not in the DNA code itself but in how it is read and used in the body - gene expression. The …

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Recognize Manipulation in Relationship

This single technique has revealed how complex behaviours, from love to social anxiety or addiction, are directed in our brains. The way it has opened up our understanding of psychiatric conditions is unprecedented and we'll be coming back to its implications for sufferers in later articles. In the meantime, I …

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The safety of self-hatred

You need to let them know that is the type of sandwich you are thinking of as opposed to just making one at home and that you have an active interest in going out to get it. Otherwise, they might think you are just having a passing thought about it …

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You, Me And Anxiety: The Truth

Feeling torn in this way can be terrifying and can cause vicarious trauma for midwives, nurses, and doctors. There's also legal confusion about whose life takes priority: the birther or the baby? And who gets to make that choice? The medical staff? The birther? The partner? This becomes even more …

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How To Succeed From Scratch

You will feel contained. Even though you are physically free to leave this room, you will start to feel like you are trapped in it because the space outside of it is so unfamiliar. Much of the clutter in our minds comes from concerning yourself with what is going with …

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Manipulation Techniques

Instead of this, try thinking of what could go right. Get dressed up nicely and imagine them complimenting your outfit. Maybe they will like your sense of humor. One of the secrets to decluttering your thoughts is to not have so many of them. You might be thinking right now …

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Pain, Pain, Go Away

What's it like to be strong like a big old oak tree? With roots in your feet and your leaves waving free? Or you can be like a river that flows clean and free From high in the mountains right down to the sea. Your breath can flow through you …

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Secrets Your Parents Never Told You About Anxiety

During the forty weeks of gestation, the foundations for a baby's brain, including the reward system and all the other regions involved in control of appetite, are laid down in a highly dynamic process driven by the mother's and father's genetic direction. But in addition to genes, the in-utero environment …

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The Ancient Art

While I have some deep critiques of the documentary The Business of Being Born, it did highlight stories of significant mistreatment of birthers in America, common among them the overreliance on C-sections and an overall attempt to streamline the process, which should be deeply personal and unique to each situation …

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Use Food as Medicine

Why are some of us more vulnerable than others to the predicament in which we find ourselves? The answer, essentially, is that on a species level we're all in the same boat but at an individual level there's still room for a heck of a lot of variation. There are …

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Want An Easy Fix For Your Anxiety?

On the flip side, Sanci explains, pronatalism also seems to deem some people more socially acceptable for parenting than others. Financially independent, partnered, straight, cisgender, married, and able-bodied people are expected and pressured to become parents, while low-income, young, old, queer, or people with (dis)abilities4 are often questioned about …

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Am I too much?

This includes meaningful relationships and being kind to family members, strangers, animals and even plants. Meditation and chanting. Any positive action that doesn't generate a palpable reward feeds the soul. Theosophists believe that the soul is connected to the body by an invisible chord attached at the umbilicus. This chord …

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Assume quantity is better than quality

Most of them are exceptional listeners with the ability to solve almost any problem or issue for others who may be having a hard time figuring things out. They always have people turning to them for advice, comfort, love, understanding, and most of all, answers. They have a spiritual gift …

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Dealing with Dangerous Situations

How to use facilitative modeling. Let's recall our little organization from the last article, Equalitilia, which adopted a mindful governance type. They recently discovered some problems related to new funding policy implementations. They were supposed to aid the health of those in need by giving funds to some nonprofit healthcare …

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