That's the Way Love Is

As soon as we target cancer cells from one direction, they change course and become resistant to whatever therapy worked last week or last month. To successfully treat cancer, we must first understand the individual nature of each person's cancer. Then we must approach that cancer from a wide variety …

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Walls Come Tumbling Down

And I realise that the badness that I most fear being capable of is the badness of looking to be loved. While I shame myself, and insist that I am immutably unloveable, I am trying to keep myself safe. I am trying to avoid ever being abused again. Because somewhere …

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With a Little Help From My Friends

A primary school teacher who allowed me extra time in class is another example. And then there was my very special nurse, who gave up her own personal time to talk or sing to me. INSPIRATION FROM GOOD DEEDS DONE BY OTHERS I have been inspired by different people and …

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A Stream With Bright Fish

Body scan practices typically involve having people lie on their back with legs spread out and arms to the side, palms up. A thorough body scan can take anywhere between 30 and 45 minutes of uninterrupted focus and can produce great benefits for participants. For instance, in her mindfulness research …

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Gratitude and Thanks

How is self-hatred helping me? As I realise that it's a genuine question, unmarred by cynicism, it surprises me. How could self-hatred be helping me? She's serious. She's not telling me off for hating myself. She's not even asking me to stop it, to change. She's asking me to notice …

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In the Middle of the Night

Real smiles are produced by the subconscious brain, which means they are automatic. When you feel happy, the signal passes through your brain's emotional processing part, causing your mouth muscles to move, your cheeks are raised, your eyes are wrinkled, and your eyebrows are slightly drooping. There may also be …

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In the Nursery

It helps you. My mind is reeling. As usual, I had only ever seen my shame in terms of me: this is truth, the badness of me, the defectiveness of me. I am self-evidently bad, therefore the shame is just a reflection of reality. But this idea flips that. So …

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Love is an Arrow

Over time this characteristic was selected and the nipples became more prominent. The kind of fluid that gets squeezed out between fascia is called lymph, and breast milk is very similar to this as it contains no cells and is high in fat. Over time, evolution made breasts, but at …

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Meet Me in the Bathroom

Animals have such unconditional love and are so accepting. I reckon they know when they are safe and respond in kind. Of course, I would never disrespect an animal or invade its space in an uninvited way. Later, after cadet school, I attempted to train as a nurse and loved …

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People Have the Power

Instead of being a round swirl of energy, it is laid out along the neck in channels like the pipes of a pipe organ. Each chakra has a correlating pathway through the throat chakra, and each chakra transmits and translates its information and energy through this chakra of communication. The …

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You Must Learn

Concentrating those life-giving and even life-extending benefits into grape seed extract makes French grape seed extract (FGSE) a potent tool that should be part of every household's medicine cabinet. That's true whether you are suffering from one of the many diseases of aging or if, like all of us, you …

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Deep in the Woods

It is probably worse to lose your large intestine and have chronic diarrhoea, or your small intestine and suffer bodily wasting, than to lose your stomach. When the Chinese described the Stomach as the origin of fluids they cannot mean the stomach of Western medicine - either that or they are …

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It'll Take a Long Time

In meetings, when many ego and power struggles can take place, she holds her right palm under the table, facing the speaker, with her left palm on her thigh. She absorbs the blocks of the participants and increases her own energy as a result. The interesting thing about this practice …

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Rainy Days Never Stay

Bend the knees and put the feet flat on the floor. Lift the hips and remove the block. Let the hips come back to the floor and let the knees soften toward each other to release the back. You can also bring the knees into the armpits, gently folding the …

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Smoke Gets In Your Eyes

Along the other road, there's work toward racial justice, which involves looking at how larger structures pertain to one another and locating ourselves in that bigger picture. Walking this path offers greater recognition of our own and other people's dignity and worth. It also calls all of us into claiming …

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The First Cut is the Deepest

People search for answers to why bad things happen to them -- they try to discover who or what is to blame. In the same way, many people who have BPD want to know why they have the disorder and whom they can blame for it. Unfortunately, this search for a …

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The Head That Controls Both Right and Left

This was the troubling bind Gina was in. Her dissociation was helping her endure the tumult she felt inside, but it was also keeping her stuck. She didn't want to dissociate, but didn't yet know how to stay. This was also the reason mindfulness meditation was so perplexing for her …

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You Get What You Give

That craving, the longing, the aching recognition that there is more, and I could have more, and I could be more, and that the sterility of safety is not as soul-satisfying as the danger of connectedness. How much can shift in just one session. The courage to connect. The courage …

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As If It Always Happens

I am easily startled by things. I find that when I'm not in control, things really bother me. I hardly ever feel a sense of calm, relaxation, or peace. I believe that losing is not an option and winning is correlated to effort; I walk around a lot, and taking …

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Edge of a Cliff

Category II has female nouns, water, fire, and combat object names; Category III contains only edible plant nouns; Category IV is like A remaining class in which all remaining words are put together. This grammatical classification of nouns involves a coherent view of the world, including primitive myths. For example …

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Education or Indoctrination

In total, she'd sat motionless in meditation for three hours, which she'd never done before. At the end of the day, the teacher praised her for her concentration, suggesting she come back the next month. Gina left feeling proud, accomplished, and hopeful that she was taking some practical steps toward …

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Everything's Tuesday

INCREASING ENERGY I had a friend with a stutter and he always needed a long time to express himself. One day, while we were in a group together, he had to explain something in detail, and I knew that it would take some time. I went into G4 and said …

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Say It Ain't So, Joe

I frown and try to peer into the question, but I feel blind. She tilts her head, as if she can't decide if I'm being resistant or obtuse. I want to reassure her that for once I am only being obtuse. The benefits of vulnerability? Is this woman for real …

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Sing Me a Love Song

Therapy can help you manage your feelings and guide you to make changes -- and it does so in an atmosphere of acceptance. You can start by saying, I feel very afraid to reveal the real me to you. Your therapist will likely say something reassuring or accepting in response. Dreading …

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Something I Learned Today

The Three Yang Channels The three internal pathways that wrap the six Yin organs are thus formed. The Yang channels are much simpler. This is because the Yang organs are hollow. Hollow organs are also channels and so the Yang organ and channel are the same thing. Again, these three …

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A Heart Disease Called Love

There's no way I'm going to show her what's really going on, inside my mind, in my guts. I imagine her ten feet away, grappling to reach me, and I savour the safety of that space between us. It feels comforting. It feels a relief. The thought of her coming …

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A Plague of Lighthouse Keepers

But in humans, at least some underlying mechanisms tend to push people toward discovering these weird and exciting psychological phenomena in themselves, and I think it's natural for AI to do the same. There is also a research project for AI researchers to generate a system with a specific model …

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Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea

What is your history with relationships? Family: Because genetics play a role in the development of BPD, your provider will ask you about your family -- Does anyone in your family have emotional problems of any kind? Have any of your relatives received medication or psychotherapy for emotional disorders? Finances: Some …

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Power of the People

Also, in some ways it has served to explain the specific skills and abilities I have (eg, poetry and writing). However, my success and achievements, amongst years of distress, abuse, and emotional and physical pain, are not just the result of interventions by others or professional support. They are born …

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Stop! In the Name of Love

In the systems of oppression described in this article, domination plays out in many ways: from wide-scale violence to subtler acts of discrimination. Another manifestation of oppression is cultural appropriation--exploiting aspects of a culture that's not one's own. While mutual acts of cultural sharing take place all the time, cultural …

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Talk of the Town

Cara article, a Black, queer activist and healer who is currently director of the Audre Lorde Project,* defined collective resilience as: Being able to transform inside of perhaps the worst conditions, but still on a cellular level being able to respond to intervene or transform what has been done to …

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Too Late to Cry

Whilst Western medicine sees the liver primarily as an organ of poison detoxification, protein and clotting formation and assisting in digestion, Chinese medicine sees it as an organ of detoxification of Wind, smooth flow of Blood and Qi, and assisting in digestion. The difference is in the details and how …

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Don't Let Go

This is a universal, submissive greeting. Gestures usually represent the state of the person, making the gesture. Relaxed hands indicate self-confidence and self-confidence, while clasped indicators may be interpreted as signs of stress or anger. If a person is twisting their hands, it means you are feeling nervous and anxious …

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Road to Nowhere

As usual, mom was right! Life is full of surprises. On December 24, 2014, Abraham proposed to me on a cold night under the stars by a blue spruce tree. We got married on September 26, 2015 at the Love and Autism Conference in San Diego, California! I had been …

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This is How It Feels

But this person's race shouldn't matter, the person across from me said, looking flustered. We were in a trauma supervision group, and I was talking about my work with Nari. After our conversation over the phone, Nari had decided to article a session with me, and I was consulting about …

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Until I Believe in My Soul

In particular, I loved his advice about dealing with unfinished business, so that death does not take us unawares. Like this article, he suggests you do this work before you're diagnosed with something, so that you can take the time to do it right. Knocking on Heaven's Door: The Path …

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When I Paint My Masterpiece

This principle applies in other types of martial arts, such as Aikido and Wing Chun, as well as for Qigong masters who redirect the attacking energy of the opponent and are able to use it against the attacker themselves. The same principle underpins the Yogan Method. In using it, all …

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