Flip the Switch and just do it

What role does music play in your life? Are you a not-so-secret singer in the shower, an air guitar player extraordinaire or someone who likes to sing along to all your favourite songs safe in the soundproof vault of your car? Which feel-good tracks do you choose to sand blast …

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I don't tell this story very often

Being in a relationship with an isolated Finder versus a more communal one is often a night and day difference. In many ways, just like other Finders, the person will be far more flexible, understanding, and supportive than most other partners. Fundamental Wellbeing does bring a significant amount of openness …

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Looked down on

HIIT is ideal for time-poor executives. You may be used to concentric exercise such as biceps curls and abdominal crunches, or you might want to consider getting a little eccentric in your routine. Eccentric exercise isn't about dressing up in fancy dress or doing weird moves. It's about movement that …

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Tapping into your known and unknown reserves

They are examples of the practice acting as a nice, clean mirror in which we can see the result of our deep conditioning. Seeing more clearly, we can pause, unblend, and get curious about the drama unfolding before our closed eyes. If we can put some daylight between us and …

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The more emotions and mindsets you circle

You're also building muscle. There are three main groups of muscles involved in the act of breathing, and due to our pervasive tendency to forget to breathe, these muscles wither. As you build them back up, you'll naturally begin breathing more deeply throughout the day. You'll also remember to take …

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Your capacity to access resilience.

Natural tendencies also seem to play a role for Finders. Those who were very strong extroverts prior to their transition often have that tendency remain. As discussed, it's common for Finders to want to be around people less as they deepen, and to prefer to be around other Finders when …

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Desiring to prove them wrong

We can begin taking ownership of our lives and actions regardless of what's coming at us. There is one noticeable memory issue that seems to be a reliable and genuine deficit. While most common with Location 4 and later Finders, this issue can manifest at earlier locations, especially if someone …

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Unaccepting of others' reality

You now have the tools you need for self-care, the resources that will serve to help you overcome future challenges and obstacles. This model tells us our two choices are either to be consumed by our emotions or to push them away, to indulge them or repress them. It's a …

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Action, Action, Action!

I had to scrape together tips from old paperbacks or counselors at sleepaway camp. Magazines became my mentors. Later, when I dreamed of being a writer, I learned more from Pat Conroy, who wrote about the off-the-beaten-path part of the world I was from, than anybody I knew. Today, anyone …

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Cultivate a Worthy Mindset

Remember, later on it won't just be kids from Kalamazoo you're competing against, his dad said. The closer you get to the ultimate goal, the tougher the competition's going to get. It'll be downright ferocious. He looked Derek square in the eyes. Are you up for that kind of battle …

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Fight Resignation with Spontaneity

Derek didn't know what to say at first. He thought he could live up to all the rules, but it was the reward at the end that really caught his attention. Maybe he would get to see the New York Yankees in person, and in the sunshine, instead of watching …

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Tap into the Power of People

They are only anomalies if we assume matter is primary (materialism). And recall from this article's preface that the current paradigm of materialism (Figure A) is an unprovable belief system. Einstein even called it a religion. Philosopher Rupert Spira summarizes the conundrum: No one has ever found, or ever could …

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Wrestle Complacency to the Ground

But can we fully grasp what infinity is? If consciousness simply is, and is all that is, then each of us would be part of that consciousness. Therefore, we would all be connected. Are we, in fact, all connected? The idea that we are all connected seems plausible based on …

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Channel Pain into a Cause

I did exactly what she told me to . It is my forty-eigth birthday today, my mother Lucy's seventy-second: I'm exactly two-thirds of the way to her and closing. The fatal neurological calendar that Lewis and I cooked up should extend its scope beyond the diagnostic moment: indicate the age at …

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Focus on What You Did Right Today

The value of this type of therapy was testified to by a study led by Dr Marian Tanofsky Kraff at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences and the National Institutes of Health. The researchers worked with overweight girls, who reported that they binged and lost control over their …

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Put Down That Device!

I walked over London Bridge in rush hour, faces thronging around me, and diagnosed each one in an instant: Psychosis . Depression . Lewy Bodies . Enjoy the burn. Today's activity will actually have to wait till this evening, when it starts getting dark. Quality time in low light is how our ancestors …

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I started out in normal operation

How do my appearance and my behaviors play a role in me paying down my debt and building wealth? Honestly, everything you have told me up to this point except for the exercise in saving a minimum of ten percent has little to do with money. It has everything to …

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I was seein' through rose coloured glasses

I had very strongly held views about when it was OK to eat and when it wasn't, I was convinced that breakfast was the most important meal of the day, and if someone had gone to the trouble of cooking me a lovely meal it would have been the height …

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Not seein' the wood for the trees

But as Whitman said, we're not just one thing: We're multitudes. Recent research confirms this observation. Scholars of core constructs originally thought that each of us has an innate slate of traits--we're introverted or extroverted, passive or assertive, open or closed. But thinking on this topic has evolved over time …

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A lie is more deadly than sin

Whatever the cause of the lifequake, the first aftershock is that the devastation can feel deadly in its impact, which appears to be a backhanded way to help us find a new way to live. An Autobiographical Occasion I believe it was Helena Rubinstein that said, There are no ugly …

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Don't make a man very bitter and angry

You know, there are true teachers in every profession; Did you buy anything from her? The practice of physical yoga was perhaps a preparatory practice before one embarked on the yoga journey according to Patanjali. In fact, he begins the Yoga Sutras with, Now the instruction in yoga . The implication …

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They say the truth is stranger than fiction

I really believed that they knew best. I tried almost everything from slimming groups to holistic naturopaths. So I fucking said goodbye to that part of me that was chasing money and said I want to chase my passion. And perhaps most important of all, nearly everyone who said they'd …

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We let the goldfish go

After fifteen minutes or so, everything began to die down. What transpired (which was obviously just memory and visualisation and not anything esoteric) was now in the past. I could just see the emptiness of space as I slowly started to absorb myself into it. I then started to feel …

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You see me standing on the bridge

Or is one more real than the other? Would the individual himself know which he or she is? Certainly no one is more real than the other. A close friend of William James, this American physician and psychologist visited Charcot at the Salpetriere in Paris. A multiple self theory of …

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A glass of wine with some friends

Inappropriate placements were becoming a feature; He was suffering with another pulmonary infection, could barely draw breath. He had cognitive problems, evident in his anxious confusion. He weighed seven stone. His recently muscular frame had been obliterated in a few months, including those muscles around his mouth, making speech impossible …

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Sit back and relax your mind

While observing a player with the ball coming at us, our brain monitors the ball using the same combination of visual stimuli and internal prediction code as if we were dribbling. Experienced players use this finely tuned monitoring program to anticipate and guard oncoming attackers. In a fascinating example of …

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Talking into the wee hours of the dawn

Bathe this person with love and kindness as well. Shower her with light and put a warm smile on your face. If you have a practice based in some faith, move to whatever that practice is from here. If you don't, keep scanning for people in your world you can …

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Every second, every minute

For example, early in his popular science article, Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain (2011), neuroscientist David Eagleman asks, If the drunk Mel Gibson is an anti-Semite and the sober Mel Gibson is authentically apologetic, is there a real Mel Gibson? It is pretty horrifying. Many people prefer a …

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I'm in the here and now, and I'm meditating

Slow down and enjoy the process. Set goals for a season and plan on making sure it'll be an abundant harvest. Look ahead and plan ahead so you can offset the stress that comes from unreasonable expectations of yourself. But, like all of us, Mike learned even more about athlete …

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It keeps changing to something different

Only here, these things still mean something authentic. We were no longer in Bede's room but walking down the driveway, high above the coastal road. It was late in the day. Some fruit trees take years to mature before there's a payout. Good things come to those who wait, despite …

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Still I'm suffering but that's my problem

Meanwhile, in less-than-reputable training facilities around the world, athletes were taking up to twenty times these medically prescribed dosages and showing remarkable changes in strength and body shape. Similarly, I shared a story with my grad students on the early, misleading opinions on youth strength training. Growing up on a …

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Carry water

The last category of disruptors--the human body--shows equal flux. Randy Riley was born on Friday the thirteenth, which somewhat shapes my life, she said. I grew up blue collar. It certainly opened my eyes. I certainly hope so! You, like most, are much too complacent with debt. Just look at …

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Chop that wood

By using a plate, you officialise the fact that you are eating. You can't pretend that you are not. You give yourself the chance to decide how much food to take; He also thought, If I don't jump, I'll look back when I'm seventy and say, Fuck, I should have …

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Crying freedom in the night

I am an old peasant woman who thinks of cooking and of the house. I am a scholar who thinks about deciphering manuscripts. I am a psychotherapist who thinks about how to interpret people's dreams. In response he would reel off cartoonish pidgin curses at the assumed culprits - I will …

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