Have more targets than you think you can hit. Be a little more ambitious than you usually are. Seek to accomplish more than you think you can. Les Brown says, Most people fail in life not because they aim too high and miss, but because they aim too low and …

But, if we don't realize there is a problem to be solved or if we grow close minded against potential solutions, things can get a little messy. It's a pretty cool phenomenon if you think about it, but most people don't think about it and few of us ever take …

People with this condition fear being with others and may avoid being around people or being seen eating in public or being in any situation where the person feels he or she is going to be evaluated in any way. Panic disorder is another way of describing a condition where …

You hit the button to switch to full screen. And you sit back for "just one more." This is the moment when you choose to keep watching TV instead of going to sleep at your bedtime, procrastinating on a goal behavior because it seems optional. What are the consequences? Right …

They grow up fast. Before long they won't be wanting you to do things with them; they will be out on their own. I work a lot at home: record keeping, book writing, repair projects, etc. But I made a rule: if Michael asks me to play with him, I …

As one former employee said of Slack, "They really did try to be a psychologically safe company. It's just that not everyone was equally skilled at maneuvering some of those nuances." Creating the kind of company where people feel comfortable raising concerns without the fear of getting fired takes work …

It's normal. But, what's not normal is making assumptions about what someone expects of you. It's an unhealthy way to approach any interaction and can have a negative impact on how other people view you. Stop Interpreting Intentions - The urge to interpret what you see in someone else's actions is …

A phrase I often use to point out the five main mischief-makers in our culture's diet is "devitalized food." By this, I am talking about food that has had virtually every good or "vital" thing stripped or removed from it. You'll notice that most of the elements I mention above …

They also reported decreases in perceived stress, depression, and anxiety levels. One of the most attractive traits anyone can have is a sense of humor, but some types of funny are less healthy than others. Researchers asked forty-three males and sixty-six females to complete questionnaires about their humor styles, subjective …

Is she busy working with disaster victims? No. But let us examine her motivation. Why is she doing this? The meditator's intention is to purge her own mind of anger, prejudice, and ill will, and she is actively engaged in the process of getting rid of greed, tension, and insensitivity …

Or what if they've been a strong part of enabling you now? How are they going to respond to your new insights and real emotions? Changes in these relationships can run up against a lot of resistance or simply be impossible. On the other hand, it may not happen; you …

The right to choose is both a burden and privilege and it all started at a very young age. At first it's nothing more than, "Do I eat my peas and carrots?" All too soon, it becomes so very much more. As you get older, bigger, stronger, and "smarter," the …

It's not the only factor, but it is the most important factor. Lots of skills and abilities have to be in congruence to make this happen. Some folks in the stands may have been praying, and some may have been meditating. The one thing in common is that the focus …

If each one of us were to awaken to our own magical, self-healing potential and come to know simple, true comfort and happiness from within, we would be able to step aside from the constant seeking of bliss and into the lived experience of it. What if we weren't anxious …

There are a wide range of different treatment options available for helping children, adolescents, and adults dealing with depression. Still, there is no one-size-fits-all approach, and the treatment that people with depression may receive will often depend on what symptoms they happen to be showing, their life history, the treatment …

Each month the bill is due, create a new line and fill in the information. Every time you get paid, after paying yourself 20%, develop the habit of opening Mint.com, your spreadsheet, or your other method of tracking bills and pay what you owe. This habit reinforces the bills …

So much action the whole day goes by and you don't even notice. Squeeze everything you can out of your days and life. Become aggressive about getting everything done. If you normally get up at 7 AM, get up at 4, 5, 6 AM and start earlier. If you take …

As a result of his procrastinating, he not only feels inadequate to others, but worse, he may worry that he's becoming incapable of living any other way of life. Most of the time, he feels stuck, especially when faced with a complicated task, or one that he perceives of as …

Nevertheless, Rio de Janeiro in Brazil turned out to be the place with the kindest people on earth - more helpful than those in Copenhagen, for example - even though Rio has about twelve times more citizens than the Danish capital. (One curious thing: Copenhagen is a city where people are more …

For instance, yours might be to eat healthfully and to feel good about your body. At the end of each day, write down the behaviors or things you did to help bring you closer to that goal. Also note where you fell short of this goal, and think of ways …

Weak distractions are disarmed by a single glance. Shine the light of awareness on them and they evaporate instantly, never to return. Deep-seated, habitual thought patterns require constant mindfulness repeatedly applied over whatever time period it takes to break their hold. Distractions are really paper tigers. They have no power …

Looking back, I had many "what if" moments in Vietnam. For example, while on patrol, one of my fellow marines walked ten yards back over the same piece of terrain on which I had just traveled. He stepped on a land mine. It was only natural to ask, "What if …

In reality, they had no control over the light since the researchers were dictating whether or not to turn the light on. When asked to rate the level of control they felt they had over the light, the nondepressed subjects overestimated how much control they had, while the depressed students …

And sinking mind contains neither. At its worst, it will put you to sleep. Even at its best it will simply waste your time. Imagine you've planned a long sailing voyage. You've spent months preparing yourself and your boat. You've learned all you can about navigating through whatever the ocean …

A manager who wants to get the most out of her team will learn to recognize the strengths of her workers. Research from Gallup backs up the value of doing work or filling roles based on personal strengths and natural talents. In a survey of just over 1,000 US …

Realistically, though, that's a very conservative estimate, since those three hours and twenty minutes don't include the wasted time needed to get back on task between checking emails. In fact, a study published in the International Journal of Information Management found office workers took an average of sixty-four seconds after …

Buying stuff in excess is not practical because I don't have enough space. Plus, I like to train myself to resist things to improve my self-discipline. Remember: Money is a replaceable resource. When you're out of it, you can earn it back. You can't say the same for time. Don't …

For example, your keystone habit of going to sleep at the same time every night increases the chance you'll be able to roll out of bed when your alarm goes off. This can foster additional healthy habits, because you will have enough time to exercise (since you didn't hit snooze …

Go out one day this week and only pay attention to the cues people use in conversation. Try to determine if someone is an audible, visual, or kinaesthetic thinker. Practice mirroring the posture and actions of a friend and ask them afterwards if it was obvious. Work toward a comfortable …

The best way to clarify the mental fluid is to just let it settle all by itself. Don't add any energy to the situation. Just mindfully watch the mud swirl, without any involvement in the process. Then, when it settles at last, it will stay settled. We exert energy in …

SMART goals mean that: (S) you should know exactly what it is you want to achieve; (M) you should be able to measure your progress; (A) it should be possible for you to achieve it, though not too easy; (R) it should relate to your wider goals; and (T) you …

It's focusing on what you're giving to that person (which instantly brings you happiness as well as bringing the other person happiness) and allows the relationship to prosper. However, most people don't do this. They focus on what they're getting instead. Take my good friend Sarah and her husband Tom …

Practicing this approach to clarity enables me to have full access to my mind, body, and spirit. It allows me to have many special and insightful moments. Recently he and another researcher, Josh Davis, articulated four steps to having more aha moments. Their conclusions, which closely align with my own …

But trying to control everything is impossible; the difficult is preferable to the impossible. Wait a minute, though. Peace and happiness! Isn't that what civilization is all about? We build skyscrapers and freeways. We have paid vacations, TV sets; we provide free hospitals and sick leaves, Social Security and welfare …

Duh! But it was a triumphant moment when the light dawned and I figured out the solution to the problem, after finally realizing that it was a problem. I don't think people without ADD realize what life is like for us. This next example is a little complicated. I have …

Are you living in a chaotic household where it's always crazy? Separate yourself from that situation and find somewhere peaceful to live. Are you in a crazy and chaotic relationship? Get it under control, seek counseling, or get away from it. Is your job too crazy and chaotic? Find a …

What's more, martial arts teach self-control, and progressing within the discipline makes you more able to defend yourself, which can provide a confidence boost. There are many types of martial art to choose from, whether it's a 'softer' style, such as aikido, or something 'harder' like taekwondo. Each has its …

Today, more than 150 billionaires from more than fifteen countries have signed the pledge. The development organization BRAC helps people out of poverty by bringing them together and having them pool their resources to start their own businesses and to resolve problems in the community. Established by the charity Mensajeros …

Help your friends strengthen their own marriages. Plan couples' activities together and speak positively about friends' partners. If you want life to go your way, you need to over-plan, over-prepare, and forget what anyone says about it. Have more goals and hit more targets than everyone else. Have goals in …

In a separate study, subjects read a fake news article that either described the benefits of happiness or did not mention it. Participants then watched a happy or sad film clip. Those who were prompted to value happiness reported feeling worse after watching the happy film than those who did …