Bring on more face to face

As we have already seen, if someone tries to persuade you that you are a thief, they can't get to you, because factually, you know you're not a thief. By contrast, if they challenge something more abstract and subjective--your intelligence, your likeability, your sensitivity, worth, talent, or character--your ears perk …

more ...

The power of friendship

Let it go - be someone interesting, new and exciting. Only then can you build the rapport that will generate likability. We'll work on this a LOT in the coming chapters, so don't feel like it's something you should just know off the bat. Finally, the third thing that natural likability …

more ...


Edit your thoughts

It can also be a crutch so I warn you to approach online gaming with the requisite care to ensure you don't get addicted and that you maintain a decent distance from the barrage of stimuli. In short, don't get lost in this world. It's not good for you. Forums …

more ...

Posture mirroring

I said I was going to do this, and I am going to do it. Or am I just being stubborn? I don't know. I just don't know." Don't get stuck in this trap. It is just another hindrance. Another of the mind's little smoke screens to keep you from …

more ...

Understand everything is a process and takes time

This often occurs when the tasks that you are doing are very simple in nature, like getting rid of things that you know have little value, such as expired coupons and unsolicited junk mail. This is because after you've used the method numerous times, you won't need to think to …

more ...

What happens when you feel pain?

As procrastinators, while we often feel victimized by the world and all of its demands, we're actually victims of the ill-conceived coping measures that we've learned to rely on, which have turned into bad habits. There are times when a habitual procrastinator will do almost anything in order to evade …

more ...

What made you feel loved as a child?

You find out your commute is longer than you thought, or the supervisor who hired you left the company. The baby may be colicky, or your two-year-old may be sulking that she now has to share the attention. Things can go from high to hard pretty quickly. As we discussed …

more ...

Aim to reach flow state when having fun

Exciting new directions cannot help but emerge when we come together in creative spirit. Immersed in creative endeavours, we dip into flow states that, like meditation, expand our awareness and awaken our spirits. Inviting more delightful moments of creative bliss and flow into all our days is a sure way …

more ...

Appreciate your body

It just pops out of the deep mind, and you say, "Ah ha!" and the whole thing is solved. This sort of intuition can only occur when you disengage the logic circuits from the problem and give the deep mind the opportunity to cook up the solution. The conscious mind …

more ...


Looking out for future you

Then, according to which box we stick it in, we perceive with a set of fixed habitual mental responses. If a particular perception has been labeled "good," then we try to freeze time right there. We grab onto that particular thought, fondle it, hold it, and we try to keep …

more ...

Most people don't succeed, so neither will i

It can be helpful to have a Plan B; an option that you can implement if the original one proves impractical or unsuccessful. Whether it's a journey, a change of career or getting fitter or improving a relationship with a friend or family member, things happen. The weather changes, someone …

more ...


Will i regret this later?

(The teacher pauses to allow participants time to set up and settle.) Once you have found a position that is comfortable, allowing the eyes to close, or equally softening the gaze, looking down toward the floor in front of you. Have you thought about how to discipline your tongue? The …

more ...

Clearing out the white noise

And even if the initial data is relevant, we often pay too much attention to that data, and thereby fail to make sufficient adjustments when new information becomes available. Anchoring can affect judgments in many aspects of our personal and professional lives. The prices that we negotiate in our financial …

more ...

Dealing with setbacks

A value rule is part of the moral code by which you live your life, whereas an outcome is more about what you have done. There are some people who believe they are guilty simply because they are alive. Someone who feels guilty but cannot tell you why may be …

more ...


How to overcome a fear of failure

You'll have more fun and "play money" than most and the comfortable life you want will take care of itself. Those who are successful through putting work first live by the motto, "Life is easy when you live it the hard way and hard when you live it the easy …

more ...

Picturing a relaxing scene

What will be the benefits of achieving what it is you want? Maybe it's a financial or material gain. Perhaps it's personal gain; you'll be happier or wiser, or you will learn something new, be healthier or improve yourself or your situation in some way. Whatever it is, keep it …

more ...

Reclaiming your health

They're, naturally, reserving their energy by remaining calm. Plus, when you're always relaxed, you're a more likable and approachable person. You're more trustworthy. You're the one people seek out when they need something important done because they know you're not going to freak out and mess it up. Regularly practice …

more ...

Unrealistic expectations

Experienced clinicians know not to give up hope even though it can be hard to predict when recovery will really kick in; people with addiction, and their families, need to know this as well to stay the course, to persist and be there when a person wants to try again …

more ...

Why likability impacts your life so much

You want to get rid of all psychological annoyances to make your life truly peaceful and happy. The mind cannot be purified without seeing things as they really are. "Seeing things as they really are" is such a heavily loaded and ambiguous phrase. Many beginning meditators wonder what we mean …

more ...


Developing the willingness to change

We need more time to sort through the data from an increasing number of countries and states to know which substances can be relatively safely and effectively legalized, and for what ages and with what regulatory controls. But this is not to say that we should continue the romance with …

more ...

Don't expect balance every day

That is a double bad deal. Left is taking you where you don't need to go, but just as importantly, it is also keeping you from going in the right direction. If you travel ten miles left when you should have gone ten miles right, you've made a thirty-mile mistake …

more ...

Is there a depression epidemic?

It is perfectly reasonable to provide an explanation but don't excuse or justify yourself. If you over-explain it usually means you feel bad about saying no and are trying to justify your position. If you want to say yes', say so clearly. <a href='http://ww2.tanmono.com/So-lets-talk-about-authority-sites-and-its-importance-to-digital-marketing-1563806403.html' …

more ...



Eat more foods rich in protein

In a queue, let people merge in. Hold the door open for someone and smile at them as you do. Buy someone a coffee and cake or some fresh fruit - summer strawberries or raspberries. It could be your colleagues, neighbours, family or friends; whoever you choose, surprise them. Don't leave …

more ...


Tips for when you have difficulty enjoying

New studies show that drinking lemonade can improve performance, but not for the reason Baumeister believed. The bump in performance had nothing to do with the sugar in the drink and everything to do with the thoughts in our heads. In a study conducted by the Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck …

more ...

Volunteering to help in time of need

Other addictions play a role in depression as well--some of which are hidden from view, like dependency on prescription painkillers or illicit drugs. Still others fall into the category of "soft addictions," such as overeating, shopping, gambling, television viewing, video game playing, oversleeping, and online connectivity. Depression frequently goes hand …

more ...


Reconsider what a reasonable goal is to you

This is why counseling can be so important for health care professionals and even family members trying to take care of loved ones in need. For reasons that are still unclear, young people seem to be particularly vulnerable to depression. According to statistics released by the National Institute of Mental …

more ...

Stay in our comfort zone

Rebalancing thoughts likes this creates a shift of emotion and starts you thinking differently long-term and so has a deep-rooted effect on your approach to life. Why it is that we revere our tangible accumulations more than our spiritual growth and development? Why do we judge a person by his …

more ...

Go and have a little fun

They aim to improve sleep by changing your body clock and/or your sleep drive. Do regular daytime activitiesStay active during the day and include some activities that increase your heart rate (aerobic exercise). Eat meals at the same time each day. Leave the house, socialize and engage in hobbies …

more ...

My outer self is matched by my inner well-being

If you're going to attempt something you failed at before, think about what you learnt from that. A driving test is an obvious example here. Whether it was a mock test or your actual test, if you failed a part of it, then naturally, you'd work on that part before …

more ...

Putting it all to good use

Yet, as our research suggests, they are quite powerful." She continues, "Even when they are not embedded in years of tradition, simple rituals can help us build personal discipline and self-control."7 Skepticism, a cornerstone of science, is suppressed in pseudoscience. Scientists open themselves up for criticism, while pseudoscientists are …

more ...