What are my top five fears?

They are able to feel a myriad of textures and qualities in the foods they eat and in the people around them. They are able to tune into their emotions and how they feel about things with ease. They are adept at reading the ambience of their environment and can …

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Am I afraid to speak up or go for what I want?

SUBTLE BODIES Subtle energy and subtle energy bodies are terms used to speak about the aura, aura layers, and energies that we cannot physically feel or see but can sense. You are continuously perceiving subtle energy around you on a daily basis and are reacting to it before your conscious …

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Do I tend to catastrophize about the future?

Sue reminds them that just as what they see from the mountaintop differs, the reality one of them is living in is not at all the reality that the other is living in. For people to get along intimately they must understand this jarring fact of life: we are separate …

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Do other people's fears feel contagious?

The energy channels called acupuncture meridians, nadis, and major and minor chakras are located within the structure of the etheric layer. They are part of the structure that allows the flow of life force energy, called chi in Traditional Chinese Medicine, to be distributed throughout the entire aura and physical …

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Is it hard to center myself when I'm afraid?

You don't even remember that just two days ago we had a conversation about how much work around the house I am left with having to do, and you don't even remember that in that conversation you said to me from now on, every night, before you got up from …

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Do I typically expect the worst in situations?

I went on to open my private healing practice in New York City in 2009. This article begins with a brief background on auras and moves into specifics, including how the colors and chakras in the aura are related and useful for personal healing and fulfillment. We will move on …

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Don't expect a splitter to be reasonable

But recent outbreaks of pandemic shaming also expose the limitations. There is a tension between appropriate enforcement of acceptable behaviours to the trashing of individual dignity with no paths to forgiveness. This has been especially pronounced in the past decade through online shaming, where a host of figures both prominent …

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Remove yourself and your kids from the situation

He is a walking cauldron of rage at all those people who have not given him what he wants: love, admiration, power, prestige. He can usually keep a lid on his rage because he knows it will cost him the admiration he so desperately seeks, but now and then, when …

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Splitters respond best to structure and goal setting

A key to helping us to form better bonds and relationships is to harness and tame one of our earliest emotions, positioned at the heart of our origin story - that of shame. It is reassuring that even in unusual times, some things never change, such as the likelihood of a …

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Always consider the source

One of the most satisfying aspects of group therapy is in helping such shy avoiders re-orient themselves towards affiliation. The challenge is usually getting them to attend. I have had patients who hid in their vehicles in the car park for the length of the session but, with further encouragement …

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Criticism is rampant in our world

The mess drives you nuts. It's interesting how different we are. What you're asking isn't unreasonable. If I put it at the top of my list, will you help me not get sidetracked and remind me? I promise not to call you a nag if you do. This way, instead …

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Establish boundaries and be solution-oriented

In the context of being married to distraction, O may be tempted to call D selfish or a narcissist because D seems so wrapped up in his/her own world. D seems unaware or uncaring of the needs of others. D seems to care only about his/her own desires …

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Use these methods to deter criticizers

In addition, sometimes the person who is usually the D can feel as if she is married to distraction, while the person who is usually the O can look to her mate to do the organizing. The roles can switch back and forth, each person stepping in to help, or …

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Stay confident and refuse to play the victim

Jacinda Ardern has been vocal in saying that New Zealand will incorporate a wellbeing budget with greater spending on mental health, poverty and homelessness in parallel with GDP measurements. Happiness studies and the hedonic treadmill was taken up with gusto within branches of economics, most notably by the economist Richard …

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Use these methods to deter controllers

They might be talking about the most horrific things, but there is barely any change in their facial expression. In my trade, we label this as a lack of reactivity in affect. Its wider significance is a roadblock between what is being experienced at an emotional level and what is …

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Does this person keep claiming to know what's best for you?

Colleague and author of the blockbuster article Listening to Prozac, Peter Kramer coined the term cosmetic psychopharmacology. He argued for a kind of pharmaco-utopia, where the new suite of psychotropic treatment could change people in ways they want to be changed - not just away from illness but toward some desirable …

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Is he so domineering you feel suffocated?

The bland, secular overtones of the term contribute to a limited capacity for personal improvement and help to stigmatise any negative emotion. While it is social anxiety that is most closely related to shame, I want to examine how a culture allergic to negative emotions overlaps with other aspects of …

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Is this relationship no fun because it lacks spontaneity?

This was one of the new implications of the internet, its ability to normalise otherwise pathological behaviours. Even paedophiles, terrorists and Satan worshippers had forums to help them organise and feel validated. Sarah also posted regularly on social media, primarily Instagram and Facearticle, although the latter was becoming a no-go …

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The Right Place

As you do so, a beautiful design appears, and I imagine the vibrating spheres harmoniously intertwining, regulating biorhythms and expanding your horizon to embrace the conscious and unconscious realms. These studies were conducted by Dr Ron Terjung, one of the top muscle physiologists in the United States. In their research …

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Loving-Kindness

Pause, react, and respond to the universe around you. It will support your ground up and steer your nervous mind to something that is not too frustrating. Practice Regularly Mindfulness could happen at any moment, so getting a daily routine can make this good exercise more likely to transform into …

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Unconditional Happiness

They act as a driving force in the positive direction and move you forward. They provide an internal and mindful view of how you are useful, beneficial, and desirable as a healer. They lay the foundation for you to root, rebound, and rise as the healer you now know you …

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Appreciating Our World

Mindfulness is just having the scene as it would be. That is where you allow emotions and opinions to come, and then you have to let them go, to find out what they assume. Caution will take time to become used to. You will typically notice that your mind wanders …

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Communicating and Sharing

We begin with your earthly journey, plagued with a sense of purpose that needs clarity so that you know you are to be a healer. Goals help you with focusing your energy in forming a plan toward living a purpose-centered life, as you obtain the feelings of true healer. Goals …

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Imagine Freely

Self-doubt appears to be too deep-embedded to react to ground platitudes you do not believe in. Telling yourself that you are amazing cannot block the negative away. The most straightforward approach to cope with self-doubt is by actively questioning the pessimistic thoughts. Your subconscious will continue to look at you …

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Overcoming Obstacles

Mindfulness helps you consider the fundamental factors of tension and anxiety in a healthy way. You provide the ability to obtain insight into what causes your problems by sticking through what is occurring rather than expending time battling or moving away from it. Meditation allows you to create storage inside …

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Self-Acceptance

The blueprint takes you through the progressive journey of self-discovery so that you know your beginning, where you are today, and where you will be tomorrow as you Root, Rebound and Rise from your pseudo-self to your Ideal Self. This blueprint is a prelude to being a healer where you …

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Think Creatively

I was amazed, and ashamed at how I had previously gotten away with scraping the bottom of my bucket, slaving away as a healer. Now I could not get away with it, as this client's needs for healing required me to model what I taught - and knew - to be her …

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