I've found that one of the biggest struggles arising from meditation practice is when it asks us to examine our belief systems. A lot of meditation practice is about beginning to find those moments when you get stubborn and cannot let go. You meet those moments when you get righteously …

It's an amazingly effective strategy, one that can work at home as well. It saves the child from embarrassment, and can be a way to communicate without nagging or shouting. Give the child a set of two or three pencils and teach him to switch pencils when he feels his …

It was fairly easy for Norman to recognize how his life is run by the words dull and stupid. He always feels that whatever he achieves is not enough. The irony, of course, is that dull and stupid have given him his enormous drive and determination. Your mind, which is …

Inevitably, there may be some difficulties encountered. For one, it's likely you are not the only grandpa. Kin keeping favors maternal grandfathers--you will likely have more opportunities to be a grandpa to your daughter's children. The assessment was scary for Sandra. To help her get through it, she asked her …

Value-destructive, that which decrease life expectancy. WHY INNOVATIONS MATTER? Man's dearest possession is life. Now add up your nine ratings to calculate the sum. Researchers have found that, on average, people score a 26. This means that if most of your responses were inclined to neutral and one or two …

There are lots of YouTube videos to show you the technique. For relief from skin irritation due to PUPPP (see Feelings and Sensations, article 133), try an oatmeal and lavender compress. Combine 2 cups [200 g] of rolled oats with 1 cup [28 g] of dried lavender in a small …

Sometimes we're sitting with a lot of energy. From the outsider's perspective, you are just sitting there. Nothing is happening. Maintain a strong, upright posture and keep your feet wide enough to help you balance. Simply sitting like this should provide some instant relief. Begin to sway side to side …

The problem, then, isn't in the money but in how we use it. Perhaps the most direct and most reliable way to maximize the happiness and fulfillment that we can extract from money is through need-satisfying pursuits--for example, by spending our capital on developing ourselves as people, on growing, and …

If you need to have a support person present during the first few trials, that's fine; Here are the steps for practicing induced interoceptive exposure to desensitize yourself to these physical sensations: Begin the exercise and note the point where you first experience uncomfortable sensations. Norman is a perfect example …

We resist this aspect of ourselves and pass judgments on the kind of person that is worthless. We are told affirmations will make us okay. But as I tell people in my lectures if we put ice cream on top of poop after a few spoonfuls we will taste the …

Our conversations may be about sports or how to go about repairing a wall or rebuilding a articlecase; Even widowers involved in a grief support group prefer just being among men going through the same life-rattling experience rather than coming together to talk about their feelings. Marjorie enjoying being a …

When you're anxious and on guard against the possibility of a panic attack, you tend to make two crucial errors of thinking. The first is overestimation: exaggerating the odds that a negative event is likely to occur. The second is catastrophizing: assuming that outcomes will be far more painful and …

I was also aided by the new insight into how I had allowed other energy flows to suppress and deflect me. Other people are always there, and many of them are negative. But neither you nor I have to get caught up in their game. You see, we fear that …

Today, she is ultrasensitive to any kind of conflict; Josie has been in therapy and has managed to have healthy and successful adult relationships, but at a price. When we compare how well children do in homes with a great deal of parental conflict to how well they do after …

When Rick came around to play he saw Andy's trike and immediately jumped on it and rode off. Andy yelled indignantly, `Mummy, that's mine. Rick can't have it! Janet: You mustn't be selfish, darling. So, it's the conflict that matters, not the divorce. Of course, this evidence also means that …

They're in the position to make what has not existed before in the entire world. Developing countries rarely can do that, and are forced into using existing solutions from developed countries to fix their problems. This is one reason why, as adjunct professor Brad Keywell said, We all have a …

We have and need just small amounts of the other minerals--iron, manganese, copper, iodine, zinc, cobalt, fluoride, and selenium. Though they're called trace, they are not insignificant. Iron, for example, is important in the formation of hemoglobin, the oxygen-carrying factor in red blood cells; Both the Western and prudent diets …

Self-love must sink in and nourish each level of our being. There are those who love their inner selves but are unable to look into a mirror for more than a minute at their outer appearance. Other people spend all their time and money on their outer selves and end …

Steeped in traditional healing methods, principles, and practices, naturopathic medicine focuses on holistic, proactive prevention and comprehensive diagnosis and treatment. Natural Remedy Basics It's best to tell them if you're taking or considering herbs, supplements, or physical treatments. Some herbs can interact with medications, so make sure to get consent …

Autonomy-supportive parenting is not the same thing as permissive parenting, because discipline, respect, and rules all have an important place in this approach. Children need rules and behavioral guidelines. Most of all, children need structure. Young children test the boundaries of their capabilities but find it reassuring and safe when …

To tip the scales toward success, we can take a lesson from Crazy Horse. Whether we think of ourselves as leaders or not, and regardless of whether we hold a leadership role in any organization, most of us must work with other people in the normal course of a job …

If, however, you had difficulty identifying your patterns of limited thinking, this article presents an alternative approach based on evidence gathering and analysis, which provides a powerful weapon against automatic thoughts. This article is to be used in conjunction with article 2, Uncovering Automatic Thoughts. It will give you skills …

You are not wrong for not making decisions or not taking responsibility. You just don't make decisions or take responsibility. That's all. You may find you believe self-reliant people are selfish or show-offs or whatever. But here's the catch. It turns out that the easier it is to retrieve information …

Now and then he would approach one and invite him to share a smoke or a pint of bitter and engage in a bit of conversation. To any other observer, it would seem that Fox was simply being friendly. But after such encounters, Captain Fox would settle down on a …

A sleep in the afternoon did not seem sufficient to carry her through the next morning. I would explain to her that if she went to bed earlier she would feel better the next day, but she seemed unable to grasp the connection. After considerable discussion, reading and thought I …

The water was cloudy from the dirt inside it and its owner didn't know what to do to make it clear again. Should he boil it? Does some chemical exist that will absorb or neutralize the dirt? He tried those methods but they didn't really work. The information commonly presented …

But there were still a few areas where I was having difficulty. I could never imagine myself being a murderer or a rapist. How could I kill someone in cold blood? It was easy to imagine killing someone if he tried to hurt me or my family but how about …

Time is short to live in fantasy because A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life, wrote Charles Darwin. Which of these two has left a greater impact on the world? Bill Gates OR Joe (Jen and Kates office manager) Who'd …

MIND READING Pattern summary Assuming you know what others are thinking and feeling Key balancing statements I realized I had no desire to kill now, but if I had been locked in a closet for fourteen years and beaten every day would I be able to kill in cold blood …

How much is recommended, and what counts as a serving? Most people really never read the Nutrition Facts label on most food products. We might occasionally skim one. Take a look at the Nutrition Facts for a medium-sized bag of plain, salted potato chips (figure 3. Check it out. Generate …

It takes time and commitment to counteract this very well-ingrained pattern of not being here. The average life is characterized by a few moments of presence, maybe one in every hundred moments. these small going-offs is really important, because they certainly add up! As you spend more days and weeks …

When we have marital woes, turning to a friend, relative, spiritual adviser, or even a pet114 can instantly bolster our spirits and diffuse our worries. Our companions can make us feel loved and valued, can help us understand our situation better and give us specific advice about how to address …

But hold on. Aren't there other major influences in our world, which act as the meaning of life for billions? PURSUIT: There are thousands of religions, each with their own set of rules. Many religions also have punishments. If she has money to spend and wants to buy sweets and …

Although these qualities will not be expressed all the time, we each have the ability to act out any quality we see. Being part of the holographic world we are all that we see, all that we judge, all that we admire. Regardless of skin color, weight, or religious preference …

Getting ready for the prom, a high school student thinks, I've got the worst hips in my homeroom, and the second-worst hair. If this French twist comes undone, I'll just die. I'll never get it back together, and the evening will be ruined. I hope Ron gets his dad's car …

But I would also say that the key meditation instruction that you should give yourself, as your own teacher of meditation, is to simply relax into what is. We don't need to do anything. We rest in the space between our thoughts and emotions, between our aches and pains and …

Mindless eating is a habit more than being hungry, and it is a symptom of unhealthy eating. If at home, it's likely that your munching habit is a way to wind down from a stressful day. Whatever the reason, the habit adds calories. Do yourself a favor: if you like …

This is very simplistic but it helps small children understand the connection between good food and healthy bodies. With a very small child you can simply tell her that junk food will spoil her teeth and make her ill. Don't go on about it too much as it may then …

Of course, the most frequent victims are the poor and disaffected, the underserved, the voiceless and powerless--those who depend on the character of leaders to bring comfort from their afflictions and give them a voice. Perhaps the ways in which we choose our leaders today are too complicated and ponderous …

This is why rote memorization and regurgitation are ineffective teaching tools; A popular buzzword in education today is mastery, and mastery demands retrieval. Students need to be able to recall information and apply it, connect it to other disciplines, demonstrate it for someone else, or otherwise render that information useful …