On Challenging Times

We've had to trade our health for our financial or professional well-being, choosing between getting adequate time for rest, exercise, and socializing and logging enough hours to get by. Tragically, many of us do this not out of paranoia but because we know just how economically vulnerable we really are …

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The courage to honor a commitment

That solitary silence has followed me like a shadow in the five decades since, a theme relevant both here and later when we drill into the perception of relationship value. My father, a naval veteran for 20-plus years, was frequently transferred base-to-base or away at sea for months at a …

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Emotional eating

Anyway, besides luminaries like Gore and Blair, at the Boston-based Founders Live event I also found myself sitting next to average-looking people who were doing extraordinary things. I met a college student who was working on her second start-up, aimed at transforming the way food is packaged. To counteract this …

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Hobby Sharing

But it will be worth it. So many people have said they can already see a huge difference in me. The most common questions from beginners As a rule, newcomers to meditation have a lot of questions. It is natural and also desirable that one is curious when dealing with …

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Boost the feel good center in our brain

Think about the following aspects of forgiveness. When you forgive, you no longer build an identity around something that happened to you. You realize that there is more to you than your history with your partner. The past is put into its proper perspective as one part of who you …

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Ask yourself: What am I doing?

If it's to the point where you just HAVE to do it, you're probably ready. On top of that, I didn't fall for the mistake I made with tennis. With tennis, I always had these giant visions of myself playing at Wimbledon and creating a money-making career out of the …

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Did you find wasted or unused time?

Let's also think about what kind of person Mark is. Mark is like most people. He doesn't have a lot of genuine trust or faith in the goodness of humanity, as discussed in article 3. Mark would like to trust people more, but he's had bad experiences, and can't even …

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What do my kids need most from me?

The goal is to become wise, correct? Right now, we're acknowledging some stereotypical definitions of foolish activity. But, let's think a little more real world by examining some circumstances that don't seem foolish, but also don't inspire wisdom. How about the couple that never goes out on date nights, because …

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How could you find out more about these?

The combination of coaching and technology can help you in (1) identifying the error and physiological changes, (2) knowing what to do about it, and (3) recognizing if your adjustment actually fixes the dysfunction. It could be as easy as just slowing down! You can also use a heart rate …

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Do you feel drawn closer or pushed away?

He didn't need to rely on other parties to provide his survival. That's why most of us find trust to be a challenging aspect of life. It requires other people, and other people have burned us plenty of times. Other people flake out on social events, which makes the evening …

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Gladness and success

He doesn't train for it but just jumps right in, literally. Doug makes sure he keeps a sustainable pace and keeps his form perfect, and it takes him about four hours. The experience isn't fun, per se, but he gets a great sense of satisfaction once he's done. If you …

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Defending My Ideas

As I listened it was like he was brainwashing me. Then he told me he had had sex with a coworker and how it was okay because she really wanted to do it for him; He continued to drone on like a hypnotist, continuing to try to convince me that …

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To escape the threat

Odds are you are accustomed to being seen for your gender identity and aren't concerned that someone will wrongly project their ideas about gender onto you. It's common for people with privilege to believe that their experiences are universal and not be aware that others have very different experiences. Not …

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Why do you think battling the old ways matters?

Remember to keep coming back to exploring systemic roots rather than making assumptions about individuals based on group status. LIFESTYLE APPROACHES TO HEALTH IMPROVEMENT ARE INADEQUATE If we pin everything on personal behavior change, whatever our concern--sickness, addiction, exhaustion--it's reasonable to think we're the problem. We imagine that what's at …

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The Ones Who Leave the Jungle

Furthermore, this policy simply evades the difficult and controversial question as to whether students should be given training in therapy as part of a master's degree program. Without taking sides on this issue, it appears to the faculty involved in this program that it is more crucial at the present …

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Embrace change

And with people about whom I know little -- clerks, streetcar conductors, casual acquaintances -- I feel myself better able to try to see things as they appear to them, though it can hardly be termed adopting their frame of reference as there is little communication in these instances. It does help …

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Liberty is slow fruit

So what's a busy person to do? The answer to that question is to connect to something deeper than what you see on the surface. Hang on--we'll explain. There are lots of things we all need to do that can feel like a drain. You gotta have something to whittle …

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Be more productive

It is seen as a function carried out by a person. It is something invested in one particular group member. Whether or not that member is perceived as being differentiated from the others as regards responsibility, authority, skill, knowledge, status, or power -- the fact is that the differentiation is made …

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We'll get through this together

And, thirdly, that therapeutic interaction at this emotional level, rather than interaction at an intellectual cognitive level, regardless of the content concerned, is the effective ingredient in therapeutic growth. These, I recognize, are bald assertions. It seems to me at the present that they are statements which can be proved …

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Who feels cold?

Make expectations realistic. Be prepared to say no. Talk about your emotions and worries. Create the right balance between work and leisure. We are complex beings and cannot be neatly categorized into one of two categories. Likewise, the process of building willpower need not be an all or nothing proposition …

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I am healthy

She waited for the end to come. But the end did not come. After three days, still she lay, hidden under the floorboards. They had been cold days, and the chill had sunk into her bones. Her body trembled and ached--from the cold, from the close quarters. Sensation receded from …

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Letting Go- You Are Not Responsible for Others

He described the period to one of his friends as a time of restlessness and faintheartedness. And yet he called this experience school. As horrifying as his psychological state was, as much as he would have preferred death to the doubts and fears attacking his mind, Luther found that the …

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Attraction to dangerous situations

Distribution of fat around the waist (leading to an apple shape) is more concerning because it is composed of both visceral and subcutaneous fat (See figure 8. Other proteins secreted by these fat cells directly result in insulin resistance, elevated blood pressure, altered clotting, and alterations in fatty acid metabolism …

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I eat whatever I want

Gaslighting The tactic used by manipulators aimed at making their victim doubt their own thoughts and feelings is called Gaslighting. This term is often used by mental health professionals to describe the manipulative behavior to convince the victim into thinking their thoughts and feelings are off base and not in …

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Social obligations

Your arrival is quite an inconvenience, the man said. So, what's new? Michael mumbled. For starters, make sure that you have learned more about the individual that you are going to manipulate. Make sure that you have understood them fully. By understanding your target, you can formulate an approach that …

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The Caring Brain

For starters, carry out an evaluation and learn more about how you may invoke some guilt in the victim. Ensure that the person feels bad for a variety of reasons. If you are targeting your parents, make sure that you have showcased that their parenting skills were wanting and that …

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Wanting it to go away

I don't love it when I feel sad or lonely or scared. But now I also understand that I am having these feelings for a reason. They are telling me something that I need to hear. Sadly, our always-on culture in the twenty-first century often gets in the way of …

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We all choose to be mad

The introvert is also known as the convert. This individual will often use statements such as they cry since other people are stupid. That often makes them sad. When we have unresolved trauma, it becomes locked in our body and impacts our present experience. I'm sure you've been in a …

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I love mountains

Avoid working with your phone on silent mode and within reach, something I see many clients do in the belief that this is the nearest they can possibly get to turning their devices off. Turn your phone off and put it out of sight, ideally in a drawer in another …

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